The problem with first dates is they can be awkward.
They usually involve some kind of drink or meal, and there’s always that hesitant question at the forefront of both your minds: Are we going to have sex later?
First-date sex has become a topic of controversy, with many of us still believing in the shameful stigma attached to it.
Despite our generally enlightened attitudes in this new-age hook-up culture, we’re still viewing sex on the first date as a make-or-break moment, leaving most of us to agonise over what the right move is.
But, having sex on the first date shouldn’t negatively impact your chances of a long-term relationship.
If you’re feeling hot and you want it, then you should have absolutely no qualms about going for it.
Here are 5 reasons why you totally have sex on the first date.
1. It cuts the sexual tension
If you don’t have sex early on, the pressure to have it builds up. Each subsequent date becomes a constant mind-game of “Should I keep waiting? We’ve been on three dates, should I just do it?
And because we become wary about when to move the relationship into the bedroom it makes us more prudish when we finally get down to it. We become more awkward and over-analytical about why it’s not happening.
2. You’ll hopeful want her coming back for more
Having sex on the first date actually benefits you and increases your chances of a second meeting.
3. Chemistry is chemistry
If there’s chemistry, there’s chemistry. And it doesn’t really matter if we hook up on date one or date seven. You don’t need to turn sex on the first date into this momentous decision. If you both are into each other, then there’s no good reason not to enjoy each other more.
4. Its not just, they may want it too
So don’t be hesitant on her behalf. Chances are she wants it just as badly as you do, and she isn’t condemning the act either.
5. You find out if you’re really connected
Sexual compatibility is important part of a relationship. By having sex on the first date, you get to establish that special connection early on. And if it’s enjoyable, it’ll only increase your attraction to one another.
What we all have to remember is what matters is how much you like each other and are attracted to each other. This will determine how many dates they have, and whether she calls you back.
It appears that the first-date-sex couples usually don’t last because people don’t know each other very well on first dates and they have a high rate of failure regardless of sex.