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5 Things You Should NEVER Do For Your Girlfriend

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When it comes to our romantic relationships, most of us fall into one of three categories: Either we give too much of ourselves, we take too much of others, or – the elusive third category – we somehow find a balance between the two.

I think the biggest problem here is that the balance ends up being built into the relationship somehow.

When two balanced givers-and-takers end up together, it’s pretty harmonious. Most of the time, though, a giver ends up with a taker, and the results can be catastrophic.

Thankfully, you can give into your caring nature without compromising your autonomy, and find your own center – simply by never doing these 5 things for anyone, ever. It might sound a bit dramatic, but trust me – these are the things that define who you are.


1. NEVER change the way you look for her.

It’s completely normal to want to look attractive to your partner – and I definitely encourage you to go with it. But if your partner is pressuring you to change your hairstyle, your weight, or your wardrobe simply to match up with her preferences, she’s not with you for the right reasons. Any changes to your appearance should be made because you wanted to make them, and your partner should be fully supportive of the changes you do want to make.


2. NEVER put your dreams on hold for her.

It might seem like waiting until after your partner has done what she wants in life makes you a good girlfriend, but realistically, it just means that you’re willing to sacrifice your happiness for someone else’s. That might be the stuff romance novels and sappy cinema are made of, but in the real world, your girlfriend should support the things you want to do. The partner who truly loves you wouldn’t even ask you to give up your dreams on her behalf.


3. NEVER wait around for her to make your decisions.

Are you a strong and confident woman who’s in control of her own life – or are you the type of person who needs someone else’s validation and approval before you move forward? You need to have your own drive and your own ambitions, rather than relying on someone else’s plan for you. Remember, this is your life, and you’re the only person who has to stick around.


4. NEVER bail on plans just for her.

Sometimes it gets a little too easy to take your family and friends for granted. It’s completely normal to move things around if something important comes up, but a partner who cares about you will fully understand if you’ve already got plans. She shouldn’t expect to be your top priority, and your family shouldn’t have to wait until she’s otherwise occupied before they get to spend time with you.


5. NEVER let her change who you are.

Throughout the course of a relationship, you’re most likely going to undergo certain changes – but you’ll need to make sure that they’re coming from you, and not from someone else. Not only are you compromising your innermost self by doing this, she’s not really going to love you more if you match her expectations. You can’t fully commit to a change you don’t want, and while your changes might catch her attention for a little while, the relationship just wouldn’t be long-term-sustainable. It’s better to save your heart, and stay true to yourself.


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