It might seem like asking your girlfriend to do things differently in bed is a dig at her sexual prowess, but it isn’t.

Any woman who is really good in bed will appreciate the input. So, here are some sexy ways to help her improve.

1. Have her watch you masturbate — and make yourself come.

It’ll show her just what you’re like right when you’re on the edge and also hopefully clue her into all your “tells” when you’re enjoying something. If she knows what you’re like when you really orgasm, she’ll try and replicate that on her own.

2. Bring a vibrator into it.

Try to find something relatively inconspicuous (bullet vibrators are nice and small) and show her how to work it on your clit during sex. Or just place it there and sandwich it between your bodies so it works for both of you.

3. Propose a little BDSM where you’re in control.

If she’s into it, tie her up and tell her exactly what you want her to do to you. She won’t think twice about your instructions if it’s part of a sexy game.

4. Take her hand and guide her.

Show, don’t tell. It’s true of storytelling and also sex. Actively helping her feels sexy, as opposed to awkwardly trying to tell her what to do with bad dirty talk.

5. Watch a sexy lesbian film together (and make sure to queue up a few clips of things you want to try).

Say something like “I’d love you to touch me like that” while the two of you watch a scene together is always a hot way to request trying something different.

6. Bring her into a different room for sex.

She has her go-to bedroom sex moves down, but if you’re in a new environment, you’re going to have to get creative. Use it as an opportunity to try new positions (doggy-style bent over the kitchen counter?) or angles that work better for you.