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7 Ways To Make The First Move Without Her Figuring It Out!

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You like her and you want to get to know her better. You want to ask her out, but you definitely do NOT want to seem like you’re the one making the first move.

It’s tricky – we get it! The quickest way to ask a woman out may be to just ask her out, but in a situation where you don’t want to play Captain Obvious and risk embarrassment, here are some sneaky ways for you to drop the hints.

1. Turn Group Plans Into Dates

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Text her to ask if she’d be interested in meeting a drink after you’ve finished work. It’s a really smooth way to get some alone time WITHOUT sounding like you’re desperately crushing on her (which you totally are!).

2. Moves And Movies

The best non-date date? Movies! Bring up the latest film that’s running at the cinema the next time you’re talking, and ask her if she’d like to watch it. Even if she says she has already watched it, tell her that the next time a similar movie comes up that she has to watch it with you. Done!

3. Be Impromptu

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In the middle of conversation (and if you know she’s free), make a sudden plan to get coffee, and ask her if she’d join.

4. Don’t Forget To Smile

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Sometimes, you have to keep it simple. While we don’t want you smiling like a crazy lady, flashing that pretty smile every now and then will definitely make a lasting impression, and we’re pretty sure she’s going to want to see more of that happy face.

5. The More The Merrier

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If you and your crush don’t have any mutual friends, create them. The next time your gang gets together, invite her to join in as well. Apart from the fact that your friends will get to know your crush better, she’ll totally take to heart your sweet gesture.

6. Get Flirty

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Some flirting never really hurt anyone! Whether it’s eye contact, smiles or put in a kissy face emoji in that text – flirting is guaranteed to let her know what’s on your mind, and it will only be a matter of time before she asks you out.

7. Be Yourself

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It’s always fun to be all coy and flirty every once in a while, but never stop being yourself! If she doesn’t like you for you, then she’s not worth your time!


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