We all have our relationship doubts, but if you are experiencing any of the following issues, you could be investing time in the wrong person.
1. You’re NOT happy.
While it’s true that our girlfriends aren’t responsible for our happiness, they should certainly make our days better. If you find yourself unhappy most of the time— and especially when you are with them—then this may be a sign that this isn’t the best person for you.
2. You DON’T feel that you can be yourself.
Your friends tell you you’ve changed. You are always watching what you say or how you act, because your girlfriend tends to get on your case or has been critical of you in the past. You just never feel completely relaxed around her, even after dating for a good amount of months.
If you can’t be who you truly are with your significant other, it’s time to think hard about what you are doing in a situation like this… and why. No one is worth this much sacrifice.
3. They drain you.
Instead of feeling energised after hanging out with your partner, you feel emotionally drained most of the time. They seem to always have something to complain about, or just have a negative outlook on life. Either way, the person you choose to spend your life with should really lift you up rather than drag you down. And it shouldn’t feel like “work” most of the time.
4. You DON’t see a future together.
After a certain amount of time together, it is normal to start thinking about what the future might be like as a couple. If you have been with your partner for a while and just don’t see how it would ever work down the line, it might be a good idea to evaluate why you are with this person and what you are really looking for.
5. You are NOT excited to see or hear from her.
She calls you… and you send it to voicemail. Or sometimes you actually avoid her. You realise that you feel completely ambivalent when you are around her.
Many of us go through the motions and are so afraid to be alone that we stay in situations that aren’t fulfilling. Dating should be fun, exciting and heart warming, not another chore.
6. You DON’T feel good about yourself.
In addition to feeling happy, a person in a good relationship usually has a positive self esteem. Sure, they will have some doubts and insecurities (who doesn’t?), but the time they spend with their partner will make them feel better about themselves, not worse.
In contrast, if your partner exacerbates your self doubts and undermines your confidence, it’s time to stand up for yourself… and say see ya later!
7. The cons outweigh the pros.
A cost-benefit analysis can actually be helpful in situations other than at the office. Sit down for a few minutes and write down the advantages of staying with your girlfriend. Then list the disadvantages.
When you compare the lists, you will either find that the benefits outweigh any disadvantages, or that reasons to break up are more compelling than the ones to stay together.
8. Your instincts are whispering, “Get Out”.
Don’t ignore the subtle red lights your subconscious is warning you about. Ultimately, our hearts know what is right for us. Give your inner voice free reign, and let it direct you to the conclusions that are best for you.
Find a woman who treats you like you need to be treated and makes you happy. A woman who makes you feel good about yourself and the people you trust encourage you to be with.