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About Suzie Carter

Suzie Carter is the Senior Women's Writer at KitschMix. Listed among her achievements are performing stand-up, graduating from London Met and writing for her favourite publications. She enjoys covering women’s topics, watching celebrities self-destruct and rising to any occasion.

Woman Chronicles Each Stage Of Her Mastectomy In Inspiring Photo Series

Aniela McGuinness, a 32-year-old actress, decided to deal with her breast cancer with a photoshoot – titled “My Breast Choice”.

She learned she had cancer just three days before a planned appointment to schedule a preventative mastectomy; McGuinness had lost her mother to ovarian cancer on July 5th, 2013.

Before removing my breasts I wanted photographic evidence of what they looked like, but I didn’t want mug shots of attempted murders. I wanted a photo that captured how I felt. So I decided to do a photo series that would express the emotion in each stage of the process.

I wanted to change the images that women saw of mastectomies. No more Before and After photos. I wanted them to see the Evolution, the Life, and the HUMOR in this dark situation.”

Explains McGuinness.

… the impact Breast Cancer, a double mastectomy, and chemo can have on a woman’s body & soul and uses humor & honesty to go beyond just surviving. Mainly, I needed something to focus on while I went through this, a place to release my creativity and feel useful. My Breast Choice gave me that.”

Top 10 Halloween Costume Ideas For Lesbian Couples

Are you looking for recognizable lesbian costumes for you and your girlfriend?

Here’s a list of unmistakable costumes to try out this year.

10. Abbi and Ilana

Comedy Central’s hit television show, Broad City, portrays an eccentric bisexual character and her equally engaging best friend. Though these two aren’t actually together, you can find scenes on them kissing on their youtube channel prior to the show’s release. This costume is a fun and easy way to act like a couple of broke, jewish party girls this Halloween. Also try out their fur-coat look from episode 1, or their dream-sequence music video get-up from episode 9 for a challenge.

9. Santana and Brittany

Though Glee’s prominent success has dwindled over the years, the matching cheerleader outfits worn by these leading ladies are both easy to make and easy to spot. If you want to relive those glory days in high school and find a nice couples costume, this is your match.

8. Sailor Uranus and Neptune

For the couple who sports a lipstick and androgynous pair, this pair is perfect. After the Sailor Moon revamp in 2014 (Sailor Moon Crystal), the internationally known sailor scouts and their short skirts are easily identifiable. While Sailor Neptune sports long, flowing turquoise hair, her partner adorns short blonde hair and both the scout uniform and a more masculine suit similar to Tuxedo Mask’s.

7. Korra and Asami

Who would have thought that Nickelodeon would reveal the protagonist of their Avatar sequel, The Legend of Korra, to be a lesbian? Well, they did. And that gives us a dynamic costume idea for you and your girlfriend.

6. Harley Quinn and Poison Ivy

Superheroes are making a comeback! With the 2016 releases of several new comic-related movies (Suicide Squad, Captain America: Civil War, etc.), superheroes and associated icons regularly walk the streets.

These two characters can be seen sleeping in the same bed in the New 52’s release of the Harley Quinn comics, and are always fun costumes to make or coordinate. Also try Harley and Power Girl, as the two recently got their own comic series with the popularity of the crossover in issue #13.

5. Batwoman and Maggie Sawyer

That’s right, an openly gay superhero sporting qualities similar to one of DC’s biggest icons. Since Batman is already a major star on the Hollywood stage, how about bringing his lesbian ex-military ally into the spotlight? And don’t forget her love interest, Detective Maggie Sawyer at her side.

4. Cameron and Mitchel

A good gender-bender is always fun around Halloween, and if you’re looking for a simple yet recognizable costume, try out this married gay couple from Modern Family. If you can find a Vietnamese doll or willing young relative to walk around rolling her eyes at your ridiculous behavior, bring their adoptive daughter Lilly along too.

3. Amy and Karma

Though this costume may be harder to recognize by those who are unfamiliar with MTV’s new series, Faking It, it’s very easy to pull off. All you need is a doughnut shirt and an acoustic guitar and you’ve got this one in the bag. Or, fulfill your prom fantasies by wearing the king and queen’s crowns and sashes like this pair did in episode 2. But if you’re more of a Reagan fan, dressing up like an alternative DJ or cater-waiter can be fun too.

2. Xena and Gabrielle

Forever a classic, no one can forget the sensation that was this Greek warrior princess, and her trusty sidekick. Especially when their sexualities were finally questioned in the finale of the 6 season series.

1. Piper and Alex

Or pretty much any other couple in Orange is the New Black. After the major popularity of the show’s third season this year, anyone who’s anyone will recognize this couple’s costume. Besides, it’s also really easy to make, putting it at the top of our list for popular Halloween costumes this year.

The Joys Of Modern Romance And Online Lesbian Dating

Despite trying my luck at gay bars, strumming up some false charm to flirt with everyone at work, and being set up by what few friends I had, I was luckless in the love game.

That is, until I decided that I was no longer too proud to pimp myself out on a dating site.

I have always been the type to fall in love far too easily. Yet, as many of you might sympathize, the rest of the world has never been too quick to fall for me.

I realized promptly when I came out that the sheer quantity of my potential dates had dwindled to a sliver of what it once was—and I wasn’t very good with meeting people to begin with.

Unless you regularly go out to queer-abundant areas of your city or town, there’s absolutely no guarantee you’ll even cross paths with someone of your orientation.

To start, when you’re exclusively looking for those who identify as LGBTQ, there is less than 5% of the population who do (as calculated by Gallup polls in 2012). You can go ahead and nearly cut that number in half if you’re only looking for women.

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The fraction gets smaller when you factor in how many of those few live in your general vicinity, and who might go to in the same place at the same time.

Then there are so many other variables when looking for your same-sex other-half beyond simply meeting them: Will they like you? Will either of you know that the other is looking for the same thing? How to make a move and risk rejection? Are they already dating someone?

If you want to increase your chances of meeting the right person by any amount, I do suggest getting over the negative stigma and trying a dating website or phone application.

There are plenty of others out there looking for the same thing that you are, who might be too afraid to put themselves out there.

You might just find the perfect person, who otherwise you never would have come across.

Straight Girl Debate: Should You Be Flirting Back When You Know Its A No-Go?

Have you ever been interested in a flirty, straight girl who just feeds off your attention? Yeah, me too.

Sometimes you just have to accept when an emotionally deprived friend just wants you to give her the validation and devotion that some men can’t—and stop staring at her bust.

It may be difficult to accept that some people won’t ever be interested in you, no matter how close to the two of you become.

It’s because you can’t change other people’s sexual preference any more than you can change your own, even if they lead you on to think you can.

Many women, especially in unhappy relationships, will find your flirtations flattering, and may even flirt back.

But I caution you, many straight women don’t realize that your feelings are valid.

If you have a friend who you’re trying to display your feelings for, and you know for a fact that she likes men, be wary.

Sure, sometimes you can get lucky and she can turn out to be bisexual, or a closeted lesbian herself, but that’s not always the case.

Think about these three questions when you’re trying to define your relationship:

Does she play your flirtations off as a joke? Even if she thinks your advances are complimentary, be careful to identify if she takes them seriously at all.
Does she talk to you about men in her life regularly? This could be a nice way of trying to let you know that she’s not interested in women. She could be unsure about how to spare your feelings and let you know that your relationship is platonic.
How is her body language? Teasing you with words is easy enough, but does she regularly touch you in any intimate way? This question can be difficult, because you often also have to evaluate if she’s physical with anyone else in her life to identify how open she is with her body. Further, some contact could be just a means to keep you hooked, and maybe she is just far too infatuated by your affection to pay your feelings any heed.

Ultimately, if you’re good enough friends, discussing these issues is ideal. But it’s not always easy, and the answers might be difficult to take.

Just remember that you can’t force anyone to feel the same way about you that you do about them.

Being a lesbian has always challenged me to be a more enchanting and interesting person, but sometimes, that’s just not enough.

It’s not like you meet a wonderful girl who has a boyfriend, and although you like her, you just have to wait it out.

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Because most of the time, no matter how long and diligently you wait, how many times you’re there for her and tell her how special she is, she will never, ever, in a million years, feel the same about you.

No matter how charming you are.

Lesbians Really Do Earn More Than Straight Women (But That’s Not Really A Good Thing)

In the world of work there lays a clear biased – women earn less than men. Caucasian folk earn more than ethnic groups. And gay men, and transgender people make less than their heteronormative friends.

Yet there’s one minority group that flies in the face of conventional wisdom with a positive wage gap: lesbians.

Lesbians in Western countries suffer many types of discrimination, but being underpaid is not one of them.

Why? Well a new study by the University of Melbourne and San Diego State University found gay women earn more because they are better at “leaning in.”

Nick Drydakis, co-author of the study and senior lecturer in economics at the University of Anglia, also suggests this is because lesbians often know early in life that they will not marry into a traditional household where a male could provide for them. So they invest more in themselves, study longer than heterosexual women and make more career-oriented decisions.

Good for them, right? Not necessarily. While the lesbian pay premium is certainly good news for us hardworking women, it may also be due to the systematic discrimination against other groups.

Mothers, for example, earn less than childless women. And lesbians have fewer children than heterosexual married women.

Drydakis says

This might make employers more interested in promoting lesbians, who are less likely to move in and out of the labour market.”

He also suggests that employers, colleagues and consumers often favour personality traits traditionally associated with men — like ambition, authority and pragmatism.

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Lesbians might also benefit if they exhibit more of those attributes than their heterosexual counterparts or gay male co-workers.

Research however did find that the wage premium was lower for those lesbians who had previously been in heterosexual marriages.

Jeffrey Waddoups, who conducted this particular study and is the graduate coordinator for economics at the University of Nevada, Las Vegas, explained

This is because the typical household division of labour for married couples focuses on career advancement of men.”

To be sure, we still face other types of discrimination in and out of the workplace.

And research indicates the marketplace continues to benefit primarily men or women who are perceived as being more “manly.”

So the key is to be assertive, stay longer in school and select a lifelong partner who understands career advancement is not a male privilege.

Question: Can Lesbians Just Be Friends?

I went out last night to visit a friend in town from London. There were a few new faces out, but mostly the usual suspects.

At one point in the evening one of our group became uncomfortable when a woman she recently hooked up with took a seat across from her.

To try to console her I pointed out that I too, had hooked up with someone at the table, and it was no big deal.

Upon further investigation, I realised we were all a bunch of ho-bags and pretty much everyone at the table had hooked up with someone else.

We started to talk about lesbians friendship group, and after some careful reviewing and some questionable years in university, we both realised we have hooked up with a decent amount of our lesbian and bi friends.

When I say “hooked up” I am including something as simple as a drunk make out session, and not just naked sex.

There is also no time frame on this epiphany either, meaning I may have kissed my buddy Claire once at Uni, and we are still friends.

I used to think as women we are all able have platonic relationships, but like the time I thought I would look good with pink hair, I was wrong. So very wrong.

Either you two have already hooked up, or one of you secretly (or not so secretly) wants to, or at least wanted to when you first met.

So, before you start befriending me on Facebook, know that I have not hooked up with every female friend of mine because there are a few loopholes to my theory – like if she slept with you girlfriend, while you were together.

And even if they aren’t actively trying to pull at the moment, you can still be presented with the opportunities in your friendship circle. It’s like when someone asks if you want to grab some dinner after you had a late lunch… you may not be hungry, but you will always say, “Sure, I can eat.”

14 Reasons Why Morning Sex Is the Best Sex

You can get it on almost any time of day, but we’re pretty sure the morning is the absolute best. Why?

In the morning haze, when you’re at your most vulnerable and still easing into the day, nothing beats the feeling of having someone next to you wrap her arms around you and make you feel wanted.

Morning sex is like eating chocolate cake for breakfast – it’s decadent, indulgent and comforting. Plus, who doesn’t want to linger in bed just a little longer?

The benefits extend to more than just being uncharacteristically nice to everyone for the rest of the day. Multiple studies have shown that individuals who engage in morning sex are healthier and happier people.

Your post-coital glow that others are noticing isn’t totally bogus.

And waking up to an eager partner sure as hell beats waking up to an alarm clock.

About Suzie Carter

10. Abbi and Ilana

9. Santana and Brittany

8. Sailor Uranus and Neptune

7. Korra and Asami

6. Harley Quinn and Poison Ivy

5. Batwoman and Maggie Sawyer

4. Cameron and Mitchel

3. Amy and Karma

2. Xena and Gabrielle

1. Piper and Alex

1. You’re guaranteed to wake up on the right side of the bed.

2. You should be well rested.

3. The bedroom workout means you can skip the gym.

4. Who doesn’t want to begin the day with an orgasm?

5. Because your clothes are already off.

6. You can travel to work together after.

7. It’s more intimate.

8. It affirms that you two are still interested in each other sober.

9. Because you love an excuse to gloat at work.

10. It’s a better replacement for coffee.

11. It puts you in a good mood all day

12. You and your partner will fight less

13. If gives you a reason to shower together

14. Because you’ll actually remember it.

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