Dating is one of the most emotionally challenging things a person can do. You meet a nice person, have loads of fun and you allow yourself to think that the long search might be over. And then, nothing happens. She is too busy, too far away, not available or worst of all you are not the one. How do you deal with such disappointment?
Don’t overthink it
Do not try to think why this person did not want to go out with you anymore. Did I do this or that? Maybe if I change this one thing I will be perfect. No, these kind of questions will get you nowhere. The point of dating is to find someone who will love you just the way you are.
Don’t take it personally
Take the dating game as a sales person takes a sale. Realize that every ‘no’ means that you are one step closer to a ‘yes’. Take what you learn from each date and use it to better your game ready for the next one.
At the end of the day you are trying to find someone to share your love with. This is not going to happen if you don’t take care of yourself. Sure, you are not perfect and there are some things maybe you could have done differently in the date but you’re only human. Learn to forgive yourself fast. Then indulge in the healthy activities you enjoy with the people who love you just the way you are.
A fisherman throws his pole into the water many times. Sometimes he has to wade through what he catches and throw some back but eventually with enough patience he gets his catch. Bring the same patience and mentality to your dating. Do not look at dates as failures but as a means to an end with your one and only being just another pole throw away.