As a queer woman, I can’t tell you the amount of times I have heard the “Lesbian falls for straight best friend” story. We have all heard it time and time again, and it seems to be a defining stepping stone; A sort of twisted angsty heart-break most queer women have lived through.
I am in no way complaining though! It just seems odd to me how could I have missed such a fundamental step?
And it wasn’t until college that I truly understood why I didn’t fall for the straight girl. A reason so far-fetched and ludicrous that I second-guessed it for months before realising it was indeed a valid reason.
I love queer girls.
I love our culture, the fact that we probably watch the same tv-shows or listen to the same bands, or even the fact that we are crushing on the same celesbian!
And I guess that’s why straight girls never really got my baby dyke heart rushing. But guess what, it’s never too late, right? In the last couple years with lesbian culture becoming more and more mainstream, I found myself frequently asking myself “Do you have a crush on a straight girl or are you just thrown off by her shirt?” (what can I say, I could never resist a good flannel).
I guess the whole point of this very short confession is that it made me realise something, even as a teenager trying to figure out who I am.
Queer girls are beautiful. We are a vibrant, interesting community and I am so glad we have had our input in today’s society and pop-culture. At the end of the day, it also says a lot about one thing in particular: unlike the common stereotype, queer women have a kick-ass fashion style!
I mean, flannels are in, beanies, sneakers, snapbacks! Snapbacks! As a teenager, could I have predicted straight girls would wear snapbacks?! No! I am not in any way saying straight girls should act and dress a certain way, I am however saying that we were right all along.
So, what’s going to happen in the future? I am excited to find out, with or without a heart-break.