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Study Shows Your Biggest Regret in Life Will Be a Failed Relationship

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That’s right, I’m talking about the one that got away. That missed connection. The almost-love match… If you’ve ever experienced romantic regret, you have a whole lot of company.

According to the New York Times, researchers at the Northwestern University and the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign recently surveyed 370 American adults, ages 19 to 103, about their biggest regrets in life. What did the participants most wish for? A love do-over.


Relationship regrets scored the highest marks, especially among women. Nearly half of all ladies polled, 44 percent, had romantic regrets, with only 19 percent of men claiming the same.

Also, single women tended to dwell on their past heartaches more than those who had moved on to new, committed relationships.

Those who discussed their lost loves focused on that age-old topic: The one that got away.

Interestingly, those surveyed were equally split between regret for situations where they took action, versus regret for scenarios where they failed to act.

Those who felt remorse for not having worked harder to save their lost love tended to harbour the regret for significantly longer than those who regretted actions taken.

The longer-ago regrets tend to focus on lost opportunities, things you could have done or should have done different.

More recent regrets tend to focus on things you did do that you wish you could take back.”

Psychologist and professor at the Kellogg School of Management at Northwestern Neal J. Roese, said

Regret feels bad, but on average, regret is a helpful emotion. The most helpful way to experience regret is to feel it deeply, get over it quickly and move on and use it to push you to new behaviours that are going to be helpful.”

Use each romantic entanglement as a learning experience. Then, move on.

“The one that got away” really means “The one that wasn’t meant to be.”

And hey—that just means there’s someone better out there.

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