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10 First Date Questions To Help Ease Things Along

First dates can be nerve-wracking event. Sometimes they lead to hot passion; sometimes they’re a damp squid. However, the key to having a great time is relaxed conversation, which can be helped along with some well-chosen first-date questions.

  1. What kinds of things really make you laugh?
  2. What is your favourite movie of all time and why?
  3. What should I know about you that I’d never think to ask about?
  4. What’s your favourite place in the entire world?
  5. Who has been the biggest influence in your life?
  6. What’s your biggest goal in life right now?
  7. What is your favourite way to spend a Saturday?
  8. What were you like as a kid?
  9. Do you or have you had a nickname?
  10. Have you figured out your calling in life?
  11. What do you hate most about first dates?

Always remember…

Listen as much or more than you talk. The best communication happens when even and equal exchanges occur between two people. Think of conversation as a tennis match in which the players lob the ball back and forth. Each person gets a turn—and no one hogs the ball.

Peel the onion, don’t stab it with a paring knife. Getting to know someone new is like peeling an onion one thin layer at the time. It’s a slow and safe process. Be overeager to get into deep and meaningful conversation, and you risk going too fast. Ask too many personal or sensitive questions can put people on the defensive.

Don’t dump. If feeling inhibited is a problem for some people, others go to the opposite extreme: they use a date as an opportunity to purge and vent. When a person reveals too much too soon, it can give a false sense of intimacy. In reality, premature or exaggerated revelations are due more to boundary issues, unresolved pain, or self-centredness than true intimacy.

Genuine interest goes a long way. Maybe your first date questions will lead you to discover that this person is your soul mate. But remember its exciting to be able to get to know another human being. Great communication starts with being genuinely interested in the individual you’re with and paying close attention to what they. The process begins by providing lots of space for the full expression of information and asking follow-up questions to further draw out the one talking.

5 Ways to Scare a Lesbian Away

5 Ways to Scare a Lesbian Away – Don’t mess up a good thing by making dating mistakes. Ladies, act this way and you’ll just scare the lesbians away…


Bad Manners

This is dating rule 101. Besides things like belching, swearing or texting/talking on the phone during your date, ladies are taking note of how you treat others as well.

The self-portrait you present to the world comes into vivid focus in the way you treat people, even those with whom you have only fleeting contact: cab drivers, restaurant servers, department store clerks. If you are disrespectful, you should rethink your approach.


Showing Off

A big ego can be a real lady-killer. The more you brag about how much you make or how many women find you attractive, the less she will be interested. It is pretty easy to see when someone is over-compensating, so don’t try so hard.

It sounds cliché, but just be you. If she likes you, great – if not, then there is someone out there who will.


Ms Serious

It is nerve wracking getting to know someone new, but the more you try to be light-hearted about the whole situation, the better – after all, it’s only a date. Keep in mind that sense of humour ranks as number one in what most women look for in a partner, so if you are too stiff, serious, or negative she will likely be turned off.


Over Texting

Many women seem to believe that they can prove their interest by chasing a woman down – calling, texting, emailing, and following up on each unanswered message with more. Of course, a lady could be flattered by all this attention, but that’s never how it works. Instead, you’ll seem desperate, socially inept, insecure or impatient. Not a flattering picture.


Bringing up Sex Too Soon

Yes, sex is an important part of a healthy relationship and sexual compatibility plays a vital role in building a long-term partnership. That’s all true, and it doesn’t matter. If you mention anything overtly sexual in your first few emails, phone calls, or dates, you’re going to be seen as a person who is fixated on sex.

The first thing she will do is filter out if you’re only interested in SEX. Most women believe that discussions of a sexual nature are best left for when you know each other better and certainly not during an email exchange.

My Top 21 Lesbian Dating MUST Haves

Now this is not a detailed list, but it’s a list that covers all bases. I’m not that choosy, but I do have certain standards, which make up my lesbian dating MUST Haves of 2014. Who knows, 2015 may offer a new list depending how this one goes…


  1. MUST respect themselves and others

  2. MUST prefer women

  3. MUST have a positive goal in life

  4. MUST dresses reasonably well

  5. MUST wash their clothes regularly

  6. And MUST wash themselves regularly

  7. MUST brush their teeth and floss regularly

  8. MUST have some common sense

  9. MUST be kind

  10. MUST have a brain

  11. MUST the means to pay their rent or mortgage

  12. MUST have a moral conscious

  13. MUST practice safe sex

  14. MUST be truthful about their life and their lifestyle

  15. MUST be able to relate to people

  16. MUST be a non-violent person

  17. MUST be culturally educated

  18. MUST be able to take no for an answer

  19. MUST have good taste in music

  20. MUST spontaneous

  21. MUST put up with PMS