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Great Lesbian Dating Tips From Dating Expert Mary Malia

An informative video by Mary Malia for YourTango.com – 3 Great Dating Tips Every Single Lesbian Should Follow

“Ladies, we’re going to give it to you straight. After coming out, one of the reasons why it’s sometimes hard for us to find love — or jump back into the dating field, for that matter — is because we end up getting in our own way. It makes sense that we’re so caught up in figuring out the protocol for asking a woman that we miss out on a lot of opportunities. It’s okay to be nervous about how to approach that girl that we ran into at the bookstore or on line at the coffee shop; we just have to remember that the only way that anything can happen is if we put ourselves out there. That being said, are there any dating rules that we can follow to make playing the field easier?”

Mary Malia

Dating expert Malia talks about ways to get out of our comfort zone and find love.

“We don’t need “gaydar” to crack the code of whether or not a woman is interested; we just have to get up and ask her! And if she ends up saying that she doesn’t feel the same, we shouldn’t take it so hard. Just brush it off and smile because the more you ask, there’ll come a day when you get to that “Yes”

Mary Malia

This content originally appeared on YourTango.com as: “3 Foolproof Dating Tips Lesbians Should Follow”

 

Big Question – How do You Tell if She is Falling for You?

There are many reasons why a woman chooses to spend time with you. But, how can you be sure she is interested in you?

Here are sure signs that tell you she is falling you.

Body language – First and foremost be very attentive to her body language. A woman who is interested in you will glow and joy will ooze from her when you are around. She will smile and do that thing with her hair. No sensitive man can miss that, because it is so strong. Watch out for giggles, blushes and that trance like expression that tell she is falling for you.

Communication – She communicates with you more. She wants to talk to you about her past relationships, vision, activities and even her fears. She talks about personal stuff that she would otherwise not share with others. Communication to her is her time to connect with you.

Initiating conversation – If she is always initiating a conversation with you. Women rarely do this unlike they really like a guy who is not getting the hint!

Flaunting her assets – She sways her hips when she is walking away or towards you, she makes sure to draw really close to you so you can see her pretty cleavage. If a woman is falling or you she will want to show you that she is truly beautiful and physically appealing.

Friends and family – If she is into you she will introduce you to her friends and family. This shows that she is serious about you and wants you to be part of her life.

Questions – She wants to know everything about you. What do you do? Where you were born? What is your favorite TV show? She is definitely falling for you

Jealous – She acts funny when you are around other females she thinks you might be interested in. she is not green with envy but she doesn’t want another woman stealing what she already has eyes on.

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Lesbian 101 – The Worst Dating Advice Ever

Lesbian 101 – If you are single and looking for that special person you have probably heard it all. The good and the bad. Here’s a list of the worst dating advice ever. Beware it’s also pretty common advice too.

Play hard to get – Even for ladies this rarely works nowadays. Pretending to be uninterested in a lady will not make her want you more, you will appear snobbish and a total jerk if you are always full of yourself and wait for the ladies to line up for you. You will also be alone.

Just get out there – This is a popular one. Mostly used by your friends and colleagues who are already in a relationship and assume you are just not going out there enough. The problem is, just where is there? The street corner or the bus stop? Please tell them to clarify where “there” is. At least then someone can know what to wear!

Women love bad butches – The advice mostly involves people telling others that they should not be a ‘goody two shoes’. They should toughen up. Sure some women don’t go for the suit and blouse type, but most women love a honest, hardworking women.

Don’t show her you care – This macho advice seeks to protect the idea that as a women showing emotion is wrong. Feelings should be bottled up inside and never let out. Not true my friend. Some feelings are to be shared with your special one, it will make you much closer,

She is out of your league – If she is too beautiful, wealthy or successful then she is out of your league. You don’t have to equal her in everything before you ask her out. This misconceived line explains why so many successful women find it hard to get partners,

Jut be yourself – The people who say this think that if you are just yourself then everything will go well with you. News flash: in the world we are living in you have to keep improving yourself and not stay stagnant. Don’t be just content to stay yourself. Improve yourself every day and you will definitely get the woman of your dreams.

Keeping it Casual, Then Avoid These First Month Dating Faux Pas

Dating Faux Pas – The first stage in any relationship is the meeting stage where you establish if you have enough chemistry to go on. This may mean a couple of dates to determine whether you are a good fit. Generally this takes about a month. While spending time with your new date is exciting and you should bring out your fun side, there are things you should avoid during the first month.

  1. Spending too much – No matter how much you want to see her. Don’t see her too much. The general rule here is two dates in a week at the most. This shows your new date that your time is precious.
  2. No family members please – Never ask her to meet your family or close friends. Sure she is just so adorable and you want your brother to see just what a beauty you have. One month is too early for family. This also goes for children you might have from a previous relationship. The first month is for showing her how fun and interesting you are. Spend this time alone with her as much as you can. There will be time for your family to meet her later .Use this time to learn more about each other.
  3. Being late – Always be on time for a date. Being late can be taken as a lack of interest in her or worse as irresponsibility. Be prompt in returning her calls and messages.
  4. Stay off the sex – Some people might have different views on this but one month is too early for sex. Waiting till you get to know each other makes everything much more special. It makes you look mature and self-disciplined. Use the first four weeks for creating a basic foundation.
  5. Online stalking – Social media is a useful tool for bringing people together. Avoid the temptation to check out her friends, sizing up supposed competition and commenting on her every post. Don’t flaunt your relationship with ‘I miss you’ posts and expect her to do the same. Do not make a fool of yourself!
  6. Comparison – Avoid comparing your date with your ex. No two humans are the same so don’t expect her to dress and talk like your former partner. After all if your ex was so perfect why are you not still together?

Growing a young relationship calls for patience and control. Never forget to enjoy yourself and give each other lots of space.