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11 Signs Your Best Friend Wants To Have Sex With You

1. She’s always eager to remind you that you can crash at her place.

Being drunk at her place at the end of your Saturday night is nothing to be suspicious of, but when she asks you to stay over on a Monday night after you made her watch Lost Girl finale, she might not mean on her couch.

2. You catch her looking at your boobs (a lot).

Or your ass. When she looks at your body in places she can’t touch it’s because she’s imagining what it would be like to be able to do so.

3. If you pass a Victoria’s Secret, she half jokingly asks if you want to go in and buy something.

This means one thing, she is thinking about you in your underwear, and she has definitely thought about getting you out of them.

4. She takes every opportunity to touch you.

She loves to place her hand on the small of your back and lead you out the door. Any excuse she has to touch you she will certainly take advantage of.

5. Your other friends tell you she wants to have sex with you.

You modestly deny it, to avoid sounding like a conceited bitch, but part of you might agree with them when they explain their reasoning.

6. She way to interested in you sex life.

When she casually questions how your love life is, she probably doesn’t want to know who you’re going out to dinner with, she wants to know whether or not you’re having sex, and who you’re having sex with. This allows her to gauge how much of a chance she actually has. If you have no sex at all, she’ll take it as a challenge. If you have sex with only 10s she’ll still take it as a challenge.

7. And talks about hers all the time.

She wants to let you know she’s having sex so that you picture her doing it. She most likely thinks you’re going to imagine her as hot stallion making her woman orgasm like she never has before, but you probably don’t want to picture her having sex at all. And if you do, you try to remove that image from your head as quickly as possible.

8. She has casual slips in suggestive comments.

When she comes over before you go out and you rush to answer the door in your little more than pants and a bra, she accidentally says, “Damn.” And you secretly love it.

9. She tries to hangout with you at night more often than she does during the day.

When she asks you to dinner and you tell her you’d much rather do lunch, her brutal disappointment speaks for itself. She usually persuades you to hangout at night, and it’s because she has a better chance of sleeping with you after dark than during casual luncheon conversation.

10. She constantly tells you, “You have to see this movie.”

Just so she has an excuse to watch with you, and have as much hand touching as possible when you both reach for the popcorn at the same time.

11. She likes to get you drunk.

You never have to ask if she wants another round because she always ask you first. She’s never apprehensive to buy you your third beer, or fourth.

9 Reasons Why You Should Mix It Up And Make The First Move

Making the first move is not always easy. You know the scenario. You spot a cute woman across the bar. There is eye contact, and you want to say ‘hey’, but find yourself bottling it and watching some else make the move. Doh!

The problem is if you don’t make that elusive “first move”, the odds are that you will never speak to this woman again (let alone have her be your future wife).

So what to do? Here are our 9 best tips for making the first move.

1. Make eye contact and smile.

2. Buy her a drink.

3. Walk up and start a conversation.

This takes some balls, but its well worth it.

4. Give her your number.

Drop a napkin on her lap with you number and smiley face. Instant winner.

5. Keep it casual.

Try to make the conversation light. Talk about anything that’s going on within the bar so you guys can relate to something right off the bat.

6. Be funny

Working in some jokes but not forcing them is always a plus.

7. Compliment.

The most comfortable bar conversations start with a compliment or an observation about something the

8. Don’t be afraid to be assertive

A woman who go for it and are not be afraid to get turned down, can be strangely very attractive.

9. Be honest.

13 Wonderful Erogenous Zones Your Girlfriend Should Be Paying Attention To

As we unearth our sexuality; and we learn more and more about what give us pleasure.

We discover it’s not always the most obvious places – namely, our genitals – that just turn us on.

We have these wonderful erogenous zones. These secret places that remain hidden, until one day we notice them when someone actually starts touching us there – stimulating a previously uncovered zone that’s starts to burt with new, erotic energy.

Here are 13 of those mysterious, sexually enchanting erogenous zones.

1. Your lips

Yes, it’s true. If she knows how to manipulate your lips just right through kissing, licking, sucking and biting, it is very possible that a kiss will lead to a lot more than that.

2. You inner thighs

Oh yes. This spot will get anyone in the mood fast, mainly because it’s torturously close to our genitals.

3. The backs of your knees

The backs of the knees are very sensitive to touch. There are a bundle of nerve ending theres, which respond well to being lightly touched or massaged.

4. Your nose

Did you know your nose contains the most nerve endings out of all parts on your face (next to your lips, that is)? And it’s a surprising erogenous zone for both you and your partner. This is how the classic “Eskimo kiss” came to be.

5. Your nipples

For many women, nipples are key stimulation spots. And yes, nipple orgasms are a real thing.

6. Your belly button

If you put your finger in your own belly button, you can sometimes feel the sensation in your clit. It can feel like you have to pee or like you’re being tickled. That’s because the belly button and the clitoris grew from the same tissue at birth, so they’re neurologically connected.

7. Your toes

Ever wondered where the term “toe-curling orgasm” comes from? According to science, there are clear links between toes and your vagina, which cause your toes to reflexively curl when you reach climax. So when they’re touched, this will stimulate certain feelings.

8. Small of the your back

The sacral nerves, which are a cluster of nerves located in the small of your back, shoot right to your vagina, and are a great source of pleasure.

9. Ears

The ears and the ear lobs are massive erogenous zone, so have her nibble them.

10. Nape of neck

The back of your neck is a great spot. It’s a very sensual part of your body. To activate this area, your girlfriend can massage or rub your shoulders and seductively make a trail of soft kisses from your hairline to the base of your neck. This combination should really hit the spot.

11. Your lower abs

Some women have actually been able to achieve orgasm through core exercises (yes, “coregasms”), so activating this area during sex is a good call.

12. Your scalp

The scalp is a wonderful place for stimulation. Scalp massage releases the stress hormone oxytocin, which calms us while simultaneously increasing arousal.

13. You mind

Ah, yes — the mind is one of the greatest pleasure points out there. Try to connect with your partner on a deeper, more intellectual level. After all, if you can stimulate with your mind, stimulating with your hands will be that much better.

11 Reasons Why You Should Date The Woman Who Makes You Laugh

Fact. There’s nothing sexier than a woman who is funny.

Looks fade. Trends come and go. Who’s ‘cool’ today, probably won’t be ‘cool’ tomorrow.

But a good sense of humour never goes out of fashion.

And dating a woman who strives to keep you smiling all day long, is the only type of women you should go for.

You’ll appreciate her for her ability to spark a laugh – or even a smile – during those times when you wouldn’t be doing so.

Life doesn’t have to be that serious, folks, despite the fact that most people enjoy making it appear this way.

So, here are our 11 reasons why you should always date the women who can make you laugh.

She’s intelligent

When you meet a witty girl, it’s hard not to recognise how smart she is behind her big smile. When a woman has the ability to make you laugh consistently, it’s not by accident, trust me – it’s deliberate – and I’m sure she’s well aware of the power she has, at times, over you.

She forces you to think

Her ability to provoke thought (even with humour) proves that she’s aware of life. She knows how to critique things without being offensive; she understands the right and wrong times to make light of situations, and you could never confuse her sense of humour for impoliteness. It’s almost impossible to grow bored of a girl who forces you to think.

She comfortable in her own skin

There are some girls who live and die by their physical appearance. While you might throw them eyes from across the room, but when you enter into conversation you realise they were more desirable to look at than to speak to. However, a woman with senses of humour always will capture your attention – whenever they feel like it.

She’s real

Nowadays, so many women are obsessed with pushing this false impression of who they are. Funny women are often genuine and other genuine people will always recognise that. This is why witty girls will always have tons of friends, yes, real… human… friends.

She’s confident

There really aren’t too many shy comedians, are there? A good sense of humour shows courage in social situations – and confidence in oneself. Funny women typically know they’re funny, and their ability to use that as a tool of attraction has always been sexy, in my mind.

She will take control of the conversation

Sometimes, you’ll want your girlfriend to take the wheel and steer your conversational vehicles, so to speak. Women who are funny are usually able to dictate conversational directions, by adding sarcasm or touches of light-heartedness to given scenarios.

She makes laugh easy

Funny women will take a lot of pressure off you because things don’t always have to be so serious. Maybe she’s fine without that wakeup text every morning, at 7:45 on the dot, as long as you can share a laugh or two by lunchtime.

She’ll make you work

When a woman flexes her sense of humour, naturally, it will compel you to do the same. If she says something witty, you’re not going to want to be outdone, in the sincerest of fashions.

Wordplay leads to foreplay

I’ve always found wordplay to be sexy, which I suppose is fitting considering I work with words for eight hours each day. When a woman can two-step with me from a verbal standpoint, it just leads my mind to thoughts of other ways we would be compatible, as well.

You get to be yourself with them

Funny women will allow you to be yourself because, well, they’re probably just being themselves too. That’s the best part about funny people – they find humour in even the most mundane things, which never necessitates too much effort in return.

Grudges don’t ever end up lasting too long

You could literally be fuming with your girlfriend – but, if she’s funny – it will never last long. It’s the best when she knows how mad you are, too, and still finds a way to make you smile. The ability to do this will constantly keep you in check, from a bigger picture standpoint.

It’s hard to stay mad at her, when you know deep down that you’d rather be in bed laughing. When you find a woman like this, hold on to her, because not only will she make a great girlfriend – but she’ll also be your best friend, too.

The 8 Phases Lesbians Go Through After A Breakup

After a breakup of a great relationship, often tell the world you’re free, happy, and all that, but that’s usually far from the truth.

In this new hook-up era, its often cool to been seen as single rather than tied-up in a relationship. And while that may remain true to some, it’s not always the case – especially if the relationship was great.

After all, it’s human nature to want to love and be loved.

Phase 1: I’m not crying:

Well actually, it’s healthy to cry. Anyone who calls that “wallowing” has forgotten what breaking up with someone is like.

Phase 2: Her loss.

It is incredibly easy to lie to yourself repeatedly about being over them. We’d rather make ourselves believe that the breakup was less of a loss for us. We’ll go tell our friends that we’re “fine” just so we’ll feel happier for the mean time. On the contrary, however, we’re not, and only a few of our closest friends know that.

Phase 3: Socialising.

It’s only logical to think that if something you lost makes you unhappy, replace it so you can be happy again. This is why most lesbians would talk to other women straight after a break up. We don’t have those constant conversations on the phone every night or random text messaging when we’re bored. So we tend to look for it in other people. Other forms of socialising may be excessively tweeting, re-tweeting, or clicking favourite on cryptic tweets, if we have no one to talk to.

Phase 4: Depression.

Even if we converse with several people through our phones or social media most of the time, at the end of the day, we’ll always end up feeling lonely. There’s always that nagging feeling that something is missing, especially if the breakup is pretty recent. Of course, we try to put up our poker faces in front of our friends, but when we’re alone, it’s all we can think about.

Phase 5: Stalking The Ex.

Yes, we stalk our ex. Most lesbian wouldn’t admit to this, but with the presence of mutual friends and the availability of this sort of technology, it’s most likely been done by every lesbian out there. Even if your ex’s accounts are private and we’ve been blocked, we’ll always find a way to at least get a hint of what she’s up to. I mean, sometimes, we’re just get curious.

Phase 6: Exploring the ocean.

Yes, our friends would constantly tell us, “Don’t worry, there are other fish in the sea.” So, we go ahead and try fishing. Now this could either go one of two ways. One, we get to find a really decent woman whom we’re willing to date. Or two, we discover we’re just not over The Ex. It really depends on the time when this happens.

Phase 7: Begging for a second chance.

If there’s one thing we’ve learned from watching tearjerkers with The Ex, it’s that there can always be a second chance. This phase is more an internal debate phase, on whether or not we should go back and ask her for another shot. This is coupled with a few conversations with our closest friends too. How it plays out really can’t be predicted, but if we decide to go for a second chance and she accepts, we’re more likely to do better this time. If not, then there’s the next phase.

Phase 8: Getting over her.

Honestly, getting over a relationship isn’t easy. We make it seem like we’re so happy after a breakup just so we won’t appear vulnerable. As I said, it’s the ego. However, after a certain amount of time in reflection and the company of good friends, we’ll eventually get over it.

17 Subtle Things Femmes Do That Are Totally Sexy

We’re often prescribed a formula of what sexy is. But really, sex appeal comes in many different forms, and some are definitely subtler than others.

So we posed the question “What’s secretly sexy about women?” to a group of queer women and got a flurry of fascinating answers.

“An exposed back. Pow! The line down a woman’s back is one of the sexiest things in the world…”

“When they give you a single wink that no else sees.”

“When girls have the messy hair. It’s kinda like you just got out of bed, but you could still go clubbing looking like that.”

“You know what? I don’t like feet, but I really appreciate when a girl has pretty feet…”

“Going to or coming from yoga is always a plus.”

“When she butches it up by wear an oversized T-Shirt.”

“Collar bones. They make me dreamy.”

“I love when women put their hair up… I think it’s just super sexy.”

“She’s in a sundress and it’s beautiful! And she’s probably not wearing anything else underneath the sundress. It’s flirtation in a piece of cloth.”

“Love it, love it when women give me a hard time.”

“A genuine thoughtfulness about other people is really attractive.”

“Oh, if a girl can sing, that’s it for me.”

“Their hands, and when they gesturing a lot – I’m mean a lot.”

“Being comfortable and confident with their body. No matter what their size is.”

“I don’t think the earlobes get enough credit.”

“I need a girl who’s equally as driven as me. I love Ms. Independent ‘cause she got her own.”

“Baggy T-shirt, no bra. What? Don’t judge me”

15 Reason Why Your Low Maintenance Girlfriend is Actually a Keeper

While being lazy might be slightly frowned upon at the workplace, it doesn’t necessarily mean it’s frowned upon in relationships.

Hell no! Not only are lazy women both innovative and resourceful, but they’re just fun to have around.

If you’ve got yourself a lazy sloth-like lady, hold on to her – she’s a gem.

Don’t believe me? Then allow us to run down the reasons why lazy women absolutely make the best girlfriend for any gal.

1. She doesn’t take forever to get ready, as most of her outfits are just some combination of t-shirts and jeans.

2. She’s content with Netflix and takeout, over dinner and a movie.

3. She’s not looking to impress other people.

4. She’s can’t be bothered to cheat on you. It’s too much of a hassle to go on dates with other women, and let alone lie about it afterwards.

5. She won’t change the channel when you’re watching TV because finding the remote means moving from her comfy spot.

6. She won’t pressure you to go to the gym because she’s definitely not going to the gym.

7. She won’t make you go on endless shopping trips, because she hates the effort of going to the shopping centre. Online shopping is the way to go.

8. She doesn’t annoy you with long “Sunday fun-day” plans, because she knows that Sunday should be spent in bed.

9. You’ll never find stacks of dirty dishes in her kitchen, because she opts for paper take-out boxes instead.

10. She likes to hop in the shower with you to eliminate the pre-shower hassle of finding the right temperature.

11. She doesn’t like wearing pants, so your granted she’s always in.

12. She won’t wake you up early.

13. She won’t put that much effort into stalking your past because, frankly, it’s too much work.

14. She will not bug you about going grocery shopping, because she’s always ready to order in.

15. Her preferred choice of entertainment is snuggling on the sofa.

11 Things I’ve Learnt In My First Year Of Marriage

My wonderful, beautiful wife and I have just celebrated our first anniversary. In total we’ve been together almost five years together, but despite this we still haven’t really figured it out.

This past year has been the most challenging and rewarding of my life. So, here are the things I’ve learned over the last 365 days:

1. Marriage isn’t always easy; it takes work.

Marriage, a house, two cats, and thinking about having a baby. It’s rasied my anxiety levels to a whole new high. We have a serious responsibility and it’s tough.

2. I had no idea how selfish I was.

I’m sure I’m not alone here, but it was much easier for my wife to think of us as a team rather than individuals. It’s not Kate and Sammy anymore. It’s “us” and “we.”

3. However, you should still be a little selfish (sometimes).

That being said, you still need to be a little selfish and do things that make you happy.

4. People communicate differently.

My wife and I are working hard to learn how to communicate with each other. She likes to talk things out, and I avoid all confrontation.

5. You don’t have to agree on everything.

My wife and I have slightly different views on style and fashion, money – how many kids we want. And that’s okay, as long as we respect each other’s views.

6. Don’t stretch yourselves too thin.

Take some time to just chill. Take a nap, binge-watch “Orange Is The New Black,” or just do nothing.

7. Sometimes, you just need to listen.

As humans, we have the urge to solve problems and really just to talk. In marriage, or in any relationship, you should just learn to listen.

8. Actions speak louder than words.

Don’t tell her you are going to do it. Do it.

9. To trust and be trusted are amazing feelings.

Be present, and get excited about every moment you get to spend together

10. Never settle – Make your life together everything you want it to be.

11. Say “I love you.”

Things You Learn When Your Long-Term Relationship Collapses

Yes, relationships are great, but they also destroy the parts of you that are necessary to function in the single world.

The ending a long-term relationship is just like being born. It’s painful, loud, and once it’s over you’re left screaming at a world you don’t understand.

There’s a lot of stuff out there about how to get over your ex, but I’ve found zilch that speaks the truth of having half of your personality cleaved away from you.

So here are some arbitrary lessons I’ve learned since becoming newly single.

No one really cares at an utter mess you’ve become

Sure, your friends will pat your back, and your parents will start calling you more, but fundamentally, hearing about your romantic failings, is as compelling to the average happy person as opening a gas bill. Someone else’s gas bill.

There hasn’t been a good photo of you taken in half a decade

This is something you’ll realise pretty quickly while setting up a Tinder account one hung over one Sunday morning. All photos are couple shots. Loved up, embracing, couple photos.

No one wants to have sex with you

Relationships are great, but they also destroy the parts of you that are necessary to function in the single world. They make you lazy. In the past sex was always available. You may not have capitalised on this, but you knew it was there. Now you have to work for it. You have to make an effort. Groom, pluck, scent, and preen.

You don’t want to have sex with anyone anyway

It’s not that no one wants to have sex with you when you’re just out of a long-term relationship, but it’s also that you might not want to have sex with anyone anyway.

The dating scene has completely changed

You’re five years older, and the women around you are five years younger. They dress differently, they smell differently, and they communicate differently. You’re lost in this new world, and there is no one there to guide you through it.

You’ve forgotten how to flirt

Seriously. What the hell is flirting? As far as you can tell it’s like talking, but… sexier, somehow? Jesus Christ, you’re fucked!

You’ll go out but fail to make new friends

When you’re finally out of the house and in a club, you don’t talk to anyone. Instead, you end up the person standing in the corner of the club staring into the lights and then looking at my hone, hoping that somebody finds that irresistible.

You release you friends are forever, REALLY

Seriously. Get some buddies. They’re great. They’ll haul you out of the abyss just by farting into your voicemail.

You accept you’re fatter, greyer, and less exciting than you were before

You’re single. Showers are now optional. Your ideal date is binge watching Netflix shows alone on your sofa. Your sweaters are too tight. Your jeans are too wide. People say that’s getting older, but you getting older is something you do as couple, not when you’re single.

19 Awesome Benefits To Being In A Long-Distance Relationship

Long distance relationship – sigh…

There are lots of terrible things about long distance relationships – loneliness, over-attachment to technology, sexual organs crumbling off from disuse, and that’s just the beginning. But for every terrible thing, there always turns out to be an equivalent not-terrible thing.

Here are a few of the perks we’ve observed:

1. You know exactly which operator has the best distance calling schemes.

2. You know all about space in a relationship.

3. You’re a pro at Skype/Viber/Hangout sex. In fact you’ve often wondered why Viber was named Viber…

4. You have explored a lot of exotic destinations planning to meet midway.

5. You learn how important trust and communication are to a relationship.

6. You ace planning.

7. You constantly think of new ways and tricks to surprise your partner.

8. Misunderstandings take a whole lot of effort to clear out.

9. You live each other’s most special moments through pictures.

10. You’re an ace at reading the emotions behind messages and what each smiley of your partner means.

11. You truly cherish every moment spent together.

12. You always have time for friends.

13. You know all about sacrificing sleep.

14. Absence makes the heart grow fonder.

15. You sometimes don’t realise how your partner has changed with time.

16. Each meeting is like falling in love all over again.

17. You’re ready to deal with a whole range of emotional ups and downs.

18. You’re each other’s 3AM friend.

19. That moment when you see them after months…

23 Reasons Why Your Long-Term Girlfriend is Worth the Commitment

There is nothing in the world that feels quite like spending time with someone you feel an amazing connection to.

1. Because she puts up with your shit.

2. Because she loves you unconditionally, even when you feel you don’t deserve it.

3. Because she is the only one who will be brutally honest with you, and whom you’ll still love even when the truth hurts.

4. Because sitting in silence with her is not at all awkward, and you love that.

5. Because you never run out of things to talk about.

6. Because she calls you to gossip on her way home from work, which annoys you but also makes you laugh.

7. Because she encourages you every day to be your best self.

8. Because she supports your dreams and truly wants you to achieve them.

9. Because she calls your best friend when she’s worried about you.

10. Because you can (and do) tell her everything.

11. Because when you guys go a day without talking, it feels like you’re missing a limb.

12. Because you know she truly has your best interests at heart.

13. Because she knows that one inside joke that will always make you laugh, even when you’re in your worst mood.

14. Because as much as she inspires you to make healthy choices, she also binge eat a tube of ice cream with you, and show no regrets.

15. Because she doesn’t judge you when you choose not to shave your legs for a week.

16. Because she’s seen your ugliest ugly cry and still stuck around.

17. Because she’s the one girl you actually want to let borrow your clothes, which pretty much says everything.

18. Because she actually asks how you are, with emphasis on the “are.”

19. Because you’ve often wondered how much easier life would be if you and her could just fall in love and be together forever. But, instead, you keep crying over guys.

20. Because when you guys fight, it’s the worst.

21. Because she’s farted in front of you once and it was the funniest thing either of you have ever heard.

22. Because she’s the best worst influence in times when being bad is necessary.

23. Because you cannot understand how you got so lucky to have met her and you cannot imagine life without her.

25 Signs You’re Dating A Woman Who Truly Loves You

1. She considers it an accomplishment when she proves you wrong about something because in her mind you’re right 75% of the time or so, whether or not you actually are.

2. She pushes you, sometimes beyond your comfort zone, to pursue your dreams and ambitions, because she believes in you that much.

3. When she introduces you to friends and family, her brief description of who you are makes you blush because she tends to exaggerate your talents and/or greatest personality traits.

4. It turns her on to see you express a strong opinion, whether you’re chatting with people you’ve just met or with long-time friends at a group dinner.

You’ll probably catch her out of the corner of your eye, sitting back and smiling, as she watches you gesture like crazy to establish your point.

5. If she’s the expert in a given area, she’s not pompous about it. If anything, she takes great pride in sharing her knowledge and/or instructing you in some way.

6. She thinks it’s endearing – and not a sign of weakness – when you fuck up or struggle a little bit with something.

7. She defers to you on subjects you know more about and asks thoughtful questions about these topics because she genuinely enjoys learning from you.

8. On the rare occasion she doesn’t like something you’re wearing, she manages to tell you without being offensive. In fact, she’ll package an outfit critique as a compliment, such as: “That shirt doesn’t do your hot body justice.”

9. She’s not afraid of superlatives when complimenting you. You are “the most beautiful woman,” “the most perfect fit” for her, and “the smartest person” she’s ever been with.

10. Once in a while, she also says something grandiose like “you are everything to me,” or “you are my world.”

11. She’d rather study or do mundane chores with you rather than let you do these things alone, no matter how dull or unappealing the task.

12. She wants to know your opinion about everything: wardrobe, politics, current events, career moves, the merits of a stupid celebratory rumour, etc.

13. She’s not afraid to express her opinions, even when they differ from yours, because she knows you thrive during a healthy debate.

14. And while she wants to be heard, she never expects you to change your mind – unless that happens organically, in which case she’ll feel super satisfied because she truly values your mind.

15. She forwards you articles she knows you’ll find interesting – about things she never would have read before you started dating.

16. When you’re stressed out or upset, your down mood triggers a desire in her to be a better partner and to do her best to help you through the difficult stuff, although she recognises that your problems don’t hinge on her alone.

17. If you get nasty or say something extreme in the midst of a fight, she doesn’t let it impact her view of you because she knows she’s equally capable of saying something stupid in the heat of the moment.

18. When she hurts you, she takes your pain seriously and makes a heartfelt commitment to be more mindful of your feelings moving forward.

19. She leans on you when she’s sick, exhausted, sad, or in need of extra love and attention just because.

20. She is your number one fan and she considers you hers.

21. She’s committed to dividing your free time as a couple between your friend groups and she makes an effort to integrate the two whenever it makes sense.

22. She goes out of her way to invite you to social events and work related gatherings, even if she knows she’ll be the only women with a “plus one.”

23. If she does head somewhere without you, she’ll text saying that she wishes you were there – not just to flatter you, but because she really does have more fun when you’re around. Chances are, she’ll come home earlier than she would if you were with her.

24. She’s always as interested in making you orgasm as she is in getting herself off.

25. She has sexual goals focused on your pleasure, like getting you to climax multiple times, or trying out a new position she’s researched that supposedly feels great for women.

6 Scientific Reasons Why My Girlfriend Sleeping Naked is Really a Good Thing

For as long as my girlfriend can remember, she’s forgone traditional pyjamas for nakedness. I on the other hand am a complete prude.

Unlike me, she never found this weird or out of the ordinary. She says, it’s comfortable, easy and that she spends less money on stupid clothing. So why should she put on pyjamas when she can bask in the glory of nakedness?

Well according to science there are seven perfectly logical, totally scientific reasons why you should sleep naked, and its actually a good thing:

1. She gets to air out her lady parts

Jennifer Landa, MD, author of The Sex Drive Solution for Women says sleeping naked is healthy for your downstairs lady bits.

Because your vagina has a climate similar to a tropical rainforest, it can be a breeding ground for bacteria and yeast.

By ditching underwear and pyjamas, you allow your vagina the much needed aeration it requires to stay dry and healthy. And, as we all know, a healthy vagina is a happy one.

2. She feels sexier

Sleeping naked is sexy (epically for me lying next to her). When she’s naked it makes it so much easier to have morning sex.

And my girlfriend says, waking up without pyjamas puts her in a sexy state of mind – win-win situation – yes!

It also means she’s comfortable enough with herself to let it all hang out (figuratively speaking… I think). A more confidant you are the more beautiful you feel.

3. She gets way better sleep

According to The American Academy of Sleep Medicine, your body temperature naturally declines as a part of your Circadian Rhythm as you sleep deeply.

Wearing pyjamas could disrupt this natural drop in temperature and, as a result, disrupt your body’s sleep cycle.

Disruption in the natural decline of body temperature is also directly linked to insomnia. If you can’t cool down, you’re going to sleep like sh*t.

4. It’s a proven fat reduction technic

According to the Huffington Post, your body cools down at night, increasing your growth hormones while simultaneously decreasing your levels of cortisol, which will result in “healthy sleep patterns.”

The perfect night’s sleep would be comprised of two cycles: the first has your body recuperating with lower cortisol levels and the second sees your body working to increase these levels in preparation for the next day so that you might have energy when you wake up.

If your sleep is interrupted (e.g. because of your uncomfortable pyjamas), your body will naturally produce more cortisol than usual; the excess, in turn, is known to catalyse your appetite.

5. There is a lot more sex

If you sleep naked, you’re going to have more sex. It’s just logical. According to Dr. Landa:

Sleeping naked encourages sex and sexier relationships are happier relationships.

My girlfriend couldn’t agree more! I mean, think about it, and if you’re naked already, don’t you think your chances of getting in a hump session would drastically improve?
And, naturally, with more sex, you and your partner’s intimacy will only increase — especially when the hormone Oxytocin is introduced into the situation.

Oxytocin, as the Huffington Post notes, reduces stress levels, lowers your risk of depression and leads to a load of other health benefits that might seem completely unrelated to you and your partner naked spooning. Who knew being naked could “reduce intestinal inflammation”?

6. It’s just easier

Putting on panamas inherently means more work: You have to take off your clothes, pick out your jammies, and then put them on.

That might seem like a lazy thing to say, but sometimes the closet (or the kitchen, or the bathroom) is just too far away.

After a 9-to-5 workday, she’s not looking to do anything to make me wait for sleep.

8 Unmistakable Signs That She’s NOT ‘The One’

We all have our relationship doubts, but if you are experiencing any of the following issues, you could be investing time in the wrong person.

1. You’re NOT happy.

While it’s true that our girlfriends aren’t responsible for our happiness, they should certainly make our days better. If you find yourself unhappy most of the time— and especially when you are with them—then this may be a sign that this isn’t the best person for you.

2. You DON’T feel that you can be yourself.

Your friends tell you you’ve changed. You are always watching what you say or how you act, because your girlfriend tends to get on your case or has been critical of you in the past. You just never feel completely relaxed around her, even after dating for a good amount of months.

If you can’t be who you truly are with your significant other, it’s time to think hard about what you are doing in a situation like this… and why. No one is worth this much sacrifice.

3. They drain you.

Instead of feeling energised after hanging out with your partner, you feel emotionally drained most of the time. They seem to always have something to complain about, or just have a negative outlook on life. Either way, the person you choose to spend your life with should really lift you up rather than drag you down. And it shouldn’t feel like “work” most of the time.

4. You DON’t see a future together.

After a certain amount of time together, it is normal to start thinking about what the future might be like as a couple. If you have been with your partner for a while and just don’t see how it would ever work down the line, it might be a good idea to evaluate why you are with this person and what you are really looking for.

5. You are NOT excited to see or hear from her.

She calls you… and you send it to voicemail. Or sometimes you actually avoid her. You realise that you feel completely ambivalent when you are around her.

Many of us go through the motions and are so afraid to be alone that we stay in situations that aren’t fulfilling. Dating should be fun, exciting and heart warming, not another chore.

6. You DON’T feel good about yourself.

In addition to feeling happy, a person in a good relationship usually has a positive self esteem. Sure, they will have some doubts and insecurities (who doesn’t?), but the time they spend with their partner will make them feel better about themselves, not worse.

In contrast, if your partner exacerbates your self doubts and undermines your confidence, it’s time to stand up for yourself… and say see ya later!

7. The cons outweigh the pros.

A cost-benefit analysis can actually be helpful in situations other than at the office. Sit down for a few minutes and write down the advantages of staying with your girlfriend. Then list the disadvantages.

When you compare the lists, you will either find that the benefits outweigh any disadvantages, or that reasons to break up are more compelling than the ones to stay together.

8. Your instincts are whispering, “Get Out”.

Don’t ignore the subtle red lights your subconscious is warning you about. Ultimately, our hearts know what is right for us. Give your inner voice free reign, and let it direct you to the conclusions that are best for you.

Find a woman who treats you like you need to be treated and makes you happy. A woman who makes you feel good about yourself and the people you trust encourage you to be with.

12 Types Of Lesbian ‘Non-Relationships’ You’ll Have Before You Settle Down

We live in a hook-up culture. We’ve learnt to accept vague definitions of romance, casual affairs, non-committed committed relationships, that no matter what we think drive us crazy until we settle.

Our relationships are non-traditional, and not just because your dating a woman, but because the nature of your connection or lack of.

So here’s 10 non-relationships you’ll see yourself in

1. The relationship that we aren’t calling a relationship

You two lovebirds are perfect for each other. And it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to conclude that you’re in what anyone else would call “a relationship.” But you blissfully avoid the inevitable “What are we?” conversation.

2. The friends who hook up sometimes

You guys have been friends forever. You hang out at all the same places, and the two of you can talk about anything … except for the fact that, sometimes, you hook up. Despite your seemingly close friendship, you’re so afraid of making things “weird” that you will NEVER address what happens after those tequila shots.

3. The late-night booty call

You know this women is someone you shouldn’t be messing with. But you can’t stop yourself from texting her number when you’re six shots deep and feeling horny.

4. The strangers who hook up sometimes

To put it simply, you know nothing about this person. However, you lack of familiarity doesn’t stop you two from exchanging drunken texts in hopes of a late-night rendezvous, which is usually blooder and kinker sex.

5. The online dating soul mates who refuse to meet IRL

You guys seem to share the same quirky sense of humour. You find yourself getting (philosophically) deep with her; talking to her about your rough day at work; or your problems with an ex. However, despite this crazy deep connection, it’s unlikely that you’ll meet in a coffee shop for fear that she won’t live up to your now sky-high expectations.

6. The friends with benefits — without benefits

While you may sleeping with Ms A on Friday night, this is the person you’re brunching with on Saturday morning.

This relationship has the benefits of a real relationship – someone to take care of you when you’re sick, someone to tag to dinner with your folks. But there is just no sex involved.

You are essentially each other’s significant others without all the messy complications.

7. The one who has a girlfriend

You waste an entire night with this woman, only to have her tell you that she would totally date you if she were single. WTF?!

8. The one who has a girlfriend — but doesn’t care

You know she is blatantly committed. She’s been with for years, and her profile picture is of them at the park with the puppy they just adopted. But that doesn’t stop her from relentlessly asking you over every time she’s out of town, and sadly you go.

9. The one you’re hiding

Maybe your not out, you friends hate her, or maybe she’s just ridiculously weird-looking. Either way, you don’t want people to know about this relationship. Your relationship is reduced to text conversations you’ll immediately delete and late-night hang-outs when no one is around.

10. The one you’re “talking” to

You made out at the bars two months ago and have been “talking” ever since. Not dating. Not even hanging out. Just “talking.”

She’ll text you a funny gif every now and then, and you’ll check to see how she’s doing next time you’re feeling lonely. But, odds are, the two of you will never see each other again.

11. The one you placed on a pedestal

Sure she gave you the best orgasm of your life, and made you laugh until I cried was great. But she is completely flawed in every other way. However, this does n’t stop us from wishing and hoping things will be better.

12. The one you’re too comfortable with

Whether she’s a late-night booty call or a friend you hook up with sometimes, this situation has been going on for a while, and you two lovebirds have grown pretty comfortable.
Even though you know it’s not necessarily going anywhere, you’ve gotten so cosy with this weird setup that you can’t bring yourself to end the damn thing.

Lesbian Dating Etiquettes & The Rules That Govern Them

Are there lesbian dating rules? Well yes, I think there are.

Lesbian etiquette is baffling at the best of times. You can hardly tell where one relationship ends, and the other begins.

Also, the dating game and lesbian world has changed shape. We live in a digital era where single lesbians are more likely to friend their date on Facebook before they even chat, read their Tumblr blog, and like every picture on Instagram account.

We communicate by text, and become evasive if we’re not interested in a second date.

Some women are old school. And some think shots of tequila equal a romantic night out.

That said, here are dating rules — new and old — you need to know about if you’re going to start dating a lesbian.

1. Who asks who out?

There are no set rules on who should initiate a date. I guess it just takes courage. So pluck up your nerve – if you’re really interested in going out with a girl, just ask. It will never be considered inappropriate. Chances are, she’ll be relieved that you took the reins – especially if she’s been giving off the vibe that she’s as into you as you are into her.

2. Who pays?

It’s an age-old question, and one that causes all of us anxiety at some point. Do I pay? Does she? Or should we offer to split it?
In general, if you’ve initiated the date, offer to pay for it. After all, it was your idea. Sure, she might wave you off and insist on paying for her share. But offering is the right thing to do. And if it was you who were asked out, the least you should do is offer to pay for your half the bill.

3. All it takes is 15 minutes.

That’s right, according to science it takes you 15 minutes to decide if you and your date have chemistry. Worried your next date will bail if she’s not into you? Don’t, because Match.com found only 12% of singles would actually leave before the night was over.

4. Be yourself

Try to relax and be yourself during the date. Be confident in yourself and think about your positive qualities without coming across as conceited. On the other hand, don’t belittle yourself either. You can tell her details about yourself but don’t be overly personal.

5. The first kiss

Every situation is different so it is hard to gauge what proper etiquette may be for the first kiss. If you feel a mutual attraction and chemistry, then a kiss at the end of the first date may happen naturally. Approach it with a sense of humour as first kisses can be awkward and make sure she feels at ease and not disheartened. Do not pressure her to give you a kiss or to do anything physical. Make sure she is comfortable at all times.

6. Her place… Or Yours?

Again, there’s no hard and fast rule about where you might decide to crash for the night, although there are definitely some things to take into consideration. For instance, whose place is more convenient? Whose place is more private? Do you trust her enough to give her your address? Do you trust her enough to go into her home alone?

7. Honesty is (still) the best policy.

If you not interested, then tell her. If you don’t feel chemistry with her once the first date is over, do not leave her questioning. It is appropriate to call the next day and let her know whether or not you would like to go on a second date.

8. Ex Etiquette:

Short answer? No. Meaning, don’t talk about them. Don’t whine about them. Don’t mention how good they were in bed. Don’t mention how much they broke your heart (or worse, how badly you broke their heart). When it comes to ex-girlfriends it’s best to leave them in the past where they belong.

9. A first date is not an audition for marriage.

It’s just a try-out for a second date. No one ever fell in love while analysing every detail of their momentous first meeting.

Study Shows Your Biggest Regret in Life Will Be a Failed Relationship

That’s right, I’m talking about the one that got away. That missed connection. The almost-love match… If you’ve ever experienced romantic regret, you have a whole lot of company.

According to the New York Times, researchers at the Northwestern University and the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign recently surveyed 370 American adults, ages 19 to 103, about their biggest regrets in life. What did the participants most wish for? A love do-over.

Relationship regrets scored the highest marks, especially among women. Nearly half of all ladies polled, 44 percent, had romantic regrets, with only 19 percent of men claiming the same.

Also, single women tended to dwell on their past heartaches more than those who had moved on to new, committed relationships.

Those who discussed their lost loves focused on that age-old topic: The one that got away.

Interestingly, those surveyed were equally split between regret for situations where they took action, versus regret for scenarios where they failed to act.

Those who felt remorse for not having worked harder to save their lost love tended to harbour the regret for significantly longer than those who regretted actions taken.

The longer-ago regrets tend to focus on lost opportunities, things you could have done or should have done different.

More recent regrets tend to focus on things you did do that you wish you could take back.”

Psychologist and professor at the Kellogg School of Management at Northwestern Neal J. Roese, said

Regret feels bad, but on average, regret is a helpful emotion. The most helpful way to experience regret is to feel it deeply, get over it quickly and move on and use it to push you to new behaviours that are going to be helpful.”

Use each romantic entanglement as a learning experience. Then, move on.

“The one that got away” really means “The one that wasn’t meant to be.”

And hey—that just means there’s someone better out there.

5 ‘Perfectly Okay’ Reasons To Have Sex On The First Date

The problem with first dates is they can be awkward.

They usually involve some kind of drink or meal, and there’s always that hesitant question at the forefront of both your minds: Are we going to have sex later?

First-date sex has become a topic of controversy, with many of us still believing in the shameful stigma attached to it.

Despite our generally enlightened attitudes in this new-age hook-up culture, we’re still viewing sex on the first date as a make-or-break moment, leaving most of us to agonise over what the right move is.

But, having sex on the first date shouldn’t negatively impact your chances of a long-term relationship.

If you’re feeling hot and you want it, then you should have absolutely no qualms about going for it.

Here are 5 reasons why you totally have sex on the first date.

1. It cuts the sexual tension

If you don’t have sex early on, the pressure to have it builds up. Each subsequent date becomes a constant mind-game of “Should I keep waiting? We’ve been on three dates, should I just do it?

And because we become wary about when to move the relationship into the bedroom it makes us more prudish when we finally get down to it. We become more awkward and over-analytical about why it’s not happening.

2. You’ll hopeful want her coming back for more

Having sex on the first date actually benefits you and increases your chances of a second meeting.

3. Chemistry is chemistry

If there’s chemistry, there’s chemistry. And it doesn’t really matter if we hook up on date one or date seven. You don’t need to turn sex on the first date into this momentous decision. If you both are into each other, then there’s no good reason not to enjoy each other more.

4. Its not just, they may want it too

So don’t be hesitant on her behalf. Chances are she wants it just as badly as you do, and she isn’t condemning the act either.

5. You find out if you’re really connected

Sexual compatibility is important part of a relationship. By having sex on the first date, you get to establish that special connection early on. And if it’s enjoyable, it’ll only increase your attraction to one another.

What we all have to remember is what matters is how much you like each other and are attracted to each other. This will determine how many dates they have, and whether she calls you back.

It appears that the first-date-sex couples usually don’t last because people don’t know each other very well on first dates and they have a high rate of failure regardless of sex.

Top Secret | 12 Ways to Win Your Girlfriend Around

The small things you do for your girlfriend are the ones that mean the most. Why? Because those are the things that show her you’re willing to put effort in for her, just because.

A good girlfriend knows that any man who waits until Valentine’s Day to romance is missing the point 364 days out of the year.

So, here are 12 small things that will actually have a big impact on you love life.

1. Paying attention

This one is totally free of charge, but will let her know what she has to say is important, and you’ll remember next time around.

2. Actually tell her how you feel.

Despite what you may think, your girlfriend is a not mind reader. So being open and honest about your feelings is key. She will appreciate you respecting her enough to open up to her.

3. Clean up after yourself.

We’re not all Mary Poppins. Some of us have *cough* slothenly ways. So going that extra mile and tiding up just for her is a good thing (and not just in the honey moon period either).

So…

A: You have your own place, which she visits, in which case she will appreciate you keeping it clean.

B: You share a place, in which case she will really appreciate you keeping it clean.

C: She has her own place and you spend time there, in which case it is imperative that you help keep it clean. It’s not really that hard.

4. Don’t take forever to respond to her text.

You don’t have to be completely glued to your phone, but you probably are anyway. If she texts you, at least have the courtesy to text her back in a reasonable amount of time. It will show her that she is a priority to you even when you’re busy. It just takes a few seconds.

5. Watch what she wants to watch.

Maybe you couldn’t care less about the Orange is the New Black, but being in a relationship isn’t always about only taking part in your own interests, it’s also about taking part in things that your partner enjoys, even if it’s not your favourite.

6. Learn to cook.

If you don’t already know how, learn at least one or two dishes to make for her now and then. It doesn’t have to be anything extravagant.

7. Give her massages.

She’s had a long day. And even if she hasn’t, it’s an excuse to get physically close to her and make her feel relaxed. As if you needed an excuse for that, though.

8. Take her on a date.

It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been together; you should never stop dating. Whether it is out to dinner or a night on the town, it is important to not let things get stale.

9. Whatever you’re getting, get her one too.

Going out to grab a coffee? Getting up to get some water? Don’t come back empty-handed. Even though it’s something tiny, she will appreciate your thoughtfulness.

10. Give her space.

The only thing worse than a woman who doesn’t give her girlfriend enough attention is a woman who gives her too much attention. Sometimes she just wants to read a book or watch a trashy TV show by herself. Respect her alone time, it will allow her to rest and reset, and she will love you for it (especially if she doesn’t have to ask).

11. Listen. Just listen.

Often, when we hear about an issue we are compelled to attempt to come up with a suggestion or solution. When your girlfriend vents to you, that’s not what she’s looking for.

She wants you to simply listen and at least make an attempt to understand. She doesn’t want you to give her the answer.

12. Don’t talk badly about your ex(es).

Your girlfriend understands that how you speak about those from your past is usually more of a reflection of you than it is of them. Someday, if your relationship ends, you are basically predicting to her how you’re going to talk to your friends or your next girlfriend about her. Not very reassuring.

Why Its Not Just in Your Head – 11 Signs She’s Emotional Cheating on You

An intimate lesbian relationship consists of a framework of emotional connections that create a bond between two women.

Its not just a physical romance (sex, kissing, and hugging), but an emotionally one.

You share stories, offer emotional support, provide loving words, nurture and support. You are attentive to you girlfriend in more ways than one.

It’s a mix of both aspects — physical and emotional — is important to a healthy relationship.

But when one piece goes missing, the intimate bond begins to deteriorate.

Emotional cheating is often far more destructive to a lesbian relationship than physical infidelity. It can go much further before it is acknowledged, because the line between “friendship” and “emotionally intimate relationship” is often blurred.

There isn’t just one act that points to cheating.

Physical cheating is easy to define for most people — it’s a specific sexual act.

But what constitutes emotional cheating?

1. She starts to disconnect from you. When she gets attention and emotional reinforcement from someone else, she may start detaching from you. She’ll stop discussing problems or bad days with you, because this need is being met outside of your relationship.

2. She spends more time connecting – be it talking on the phone, texting or spending time together – than she does with you.

3. She doesn’t want to be intimate with you. When people become connected to the fantasy of another person. This can included an imagined sexual relationship, and therefore intimacy with you feels like an emotional betrayal to the other woman.

4. She seeks and gives a majority of her emotional support to this other woman.

5. She’s constantly checking out her Facebook profile. Once an emotional affair is in place, Facebook often becomes a primary way they communicate. They also make the relationship easier to hide.

6. She depends on someone other than you (her significant other) to meet her needs – to feel loved, connected and feel significant.

7. Someone else distracts her when she should be present in your relationship.

8. You catch her saying “we’re just friends” way too often. Those words are usually said to rationalise something we know is wrong.

9. She starts to keep secrets. If your girlfriend is trying to hide something from you, you’re probably going to notice, especially if you live together. She might start taking her phone into the bathroom or will stop texting the moment when you walk into the room.

10. She becomes more critical of you In addition to pulling away emotionally or physically, your partner might also put you down. Why, one reason is because she’s starting to compare you to the fantasy of the other person. The other is guilt.

11. She gets defensive if you happen to criticise the object of her affection, she gets extremely defensive if anything even slightly negative is say about the person she likes.

Emotional cheating is very real thing. In fact, over half of all emotional affairs start out innocently as online friendships. More than 70% of those friendships or flirtations will end up as real time affairs.

Does Your Cheating Girlfriend Deserve a Second Chance?

Is cheating worth breaking up over?

We all know someone who has been in a rotten relationship, where their pattern cheats or lies to them. Yet, no matter what they are willing to give that someone a second chance.

But, does anyone really deserve a second chance?

Should we simply move on the first time that we break up? When and how does someone deserve a second chance?

The biggest issues are always cheating and trust. (Usually in that order.)

If someone cheats on you (or has an affair, whatever terminology you prefer) does she deserve a second chance? Should you break it off?

Well, you know as well as I do that if you discover that your lover is a cheater – you will end up having trust issues and no matter how hard you try, what you do, or your individual situation: you’ll have a hard time trusting your partner again (if you ever trust them again).

You know that as soon you have the slightest suspicion that they’re up to no good; you’ll obsess. You’ll question, And you’ll suspect, and soon the question of whether or not your partner is being faithful will consume majority of your thoughts.

So, what if you discover your girlfriend is cheating or has cheated – What do?

In the past, I’ve gone both ways on this subject. I’ve handed out second chances like they were candy on Halloween, and I’ve also cut my losses and moved on.

The woman I continued to let come back (and yes, it happened more than once) eventually showed that she was never going to change, so I cut her loose. She and I had dated on and off for 2.5 years. She’s married now (surprisingly) and still calls from time to time wanting to know if we can “get together”, which I know means more than a simple coffee date

It also shows me that she hasn’t changed. Three years after our break up and she’s still the same.

So, what would you do in the event you uncovered an affair?

13 Facts About Kissing Women You Definitely Need To Know

The word “kiss” needs no introduction. An neither does it need any description. But I am pretty sure none of you know these crazy facts about kissing.

Read on to know some pretty awesome stuff:

1. One kiss requires the coordination of a total of 146 muscles

This includes 34 facial muscles and 112 postural muscles. That is quite a serious workout!

2. Kissing burns 2 to 6 calories per minute

3. It is possible for a woman to reach an orgasm through kissing

4. It can boost your mood instantly

The levels of dopamine- one of the most important neurotransmitters, spike during kissing, leading to a rush of elation and craving and can also result in the obsessive thoughts that many of us experience with a new romance – almost like an addiction.

5. Our love for kissing comes from… rats?

An ancient rat-like creature called Eomaia Scansoria, which lived sometime between 75 and 125 million years ago, is the common ancestor for both mice and humans. Kazushige Touhara and colleagues at the University of Tokyo believe that our affinity for kisses descends from this ancient rat. The science team theorizes that this creature would rub noses with a mate to sample his or her pheromones and signal desire.

6. Origin of the word “kiss”

The word “kiss” comes from the Old English word cyssan, which technically means “to kiss.” No one is completely positive where cyssan comes from, but it is thought that it represented the sound people make when they kiss.

7. You can have a career in kissing

The study of kissing is called Philematology, and someone who studies’ kissing is called an Osculologist.

8. 10% of the world doesn’t kiss

Would you believe me if I told you that there existed people who did not know about kissing? Mangaia Island, which is about 18 million years old, is the oldest island in the Pacific Ocean. The people here had never heard of kissing until the English introduced them to the practice in the 1700s.

Although as of today, 90% of the world enjoys the art of kissing, the rest 10% does not do so. For example, certain areas in Sudan believe that the mouth is the window to the soul, and they fear that it can be stolen by mouth-to-mouth contact.

9. On average, two-thirds of people tip their heads to the right when they pucker up.

A German researcher observed over 100 couples and noted that two-thirds of them tilted their heads to the right, too. Experts think this instinct originates from the womb when we naturally tilted our heads to the right.

10. In Nevada, it is illegal to kiss with a moustache

11. Kissing is good for your health

Kissing has long been thought to be a way to pass along bugs and thus strengthen the body’s defenses. Scientific research also says that kissing increases the levels of oxytocin, the body’s natural calming chemical and also increases endorphins, the body’s feel-good chemicals.

12. Lips are 100 times more sensitive than the tips of the fingers. Not even genitals have as much sensitivity as lips.

13. Kissing is all about exchanging information

The exchange of saliva allows us to figure out information about our partner on a subconscious level. A kiss can convey the genetic compatibility of a mate, the condition of their immune system and how willing they are to raise children. Even if you’ve paired off with a perfect match from a shared interest dating site, you have lots in common and their kissing technique is good, on a subconscious level you may reject them because of how your body has responded to this exchange of information.

The 20 Mistakes We all Make in Life

Do you have what it takes to become a monumental success? Or will you live out a life of mediocrity? The choice is up to you.

This is the time for you to hustle, scrap and fight for the life that you want for yourself. You manifest your own destiny during these crucial years.

So try to steer clear of these mistakes.

1. Making friends instead of earning trust

2. Working for money, not for building your dreams

3. Sticking with jobs that didn’t teach you anything

4. Thinking it the right time to fall in love – when it happens it happens

5. Following the crowd instead of forging against it

6. Holding on to friends that waste your time and add no value to your life

7. Being oblivious to someone else feelings

8. Trying to act like grown-up rather than learning how to become one

9. Forgetting that family matters

10. Not caring because you only live once — that’s for fools

11. Making all your wants, needs

12. Blaming anyone else but yourself for anything in life

13. Getting too comfortable

14. Failing to energise those around you

15. Thinking you need to stop learning and growing

16. Thinking that people will ever pay you back

17. Investing in relationships with the wrong values

18. Forgetting to save and spending every dollar you have

19. Dating unstable people

20. Forgetting that karma is a huge b*tch

According to Science the Longer You Wait, Statistically Determines the Longer You Date

Humans are not know for their patience. In fact, the entire evolution of modern technology has pretty much revolved around one main premise: eliminate waiting time.

We live in a era of instant gratification. However, patience is still, and will always be, a virtue. And just because certain things may come to you quicker, it doesn’t always translate positively to quality.

According to Jeanna Bryner of LiveScience, “delaying sex makes better relationships,” as studies show.

Couples who had sex the earliest – such as after the first date or within the first month of dating – had the worst relationship outcomes,”

Results of one study conducted by researcher Dean Busby and his colleagues at Brigham Young University’s School of Family Life, concluded the reasoning behind this belief is once sex is introduced in the early stages of a relationship.

… [this] rewarding area of the relationship overwhelms good decision-making and keeps couples in a relationship that might not be the best for them in the long run.”

Sex early in relationships, as Bryner writes, skews focus away from vital aspects such as communication and commitment, due to the instant pleasure that comes with sex.

Susanne Alexander, a relationship coach, told WebMD,

It becomes much more difficult to objectively see each other’s character traits [when sex is introduced early].”

The sex might be the driving force behind the first few months of your relationship, but when you actually start to discover the more nonsexual aspects of your significant other, you may realize this person is not who you thought she was.

According to Bryner research,

Relationships fared better and better the longer a person waited to have sex, up until marriage, with those hitting the sack before a month showing the worst outcomes.”

Statistics showed when compared to the “early” group, those who waited until marriage rated:

Relationship stability 22% higher.
Relationship satisfaction 20% higher.
Sexual quality 15% better.
Communication 12% better.

Busby reported while 40% of couples are “essentially sexual” within the first two dates, when individually asked if they could trust their significant others with their pets for the weekend, “many could not answer this in the affirmative.”

This shows the lack of true trust between a great deal of sexual partners, today.

Of course, waiting until marriage is a bit extreme, but still, these statistics do present a strong case for waiting — however long you choose to — instead of rushing right into sex. Ultimately, sex requires maturity, as do relationships.

Part of maturity is knowing what’s best for the big picture, regardless of impulsive desires.

8 Really Reasons Why You Should Break-Up With Your Girlfriend

There comes a point in every person’s life when we part ways with someone we once cared for.

Upon first meeting your girlfriend, there’s was a sweet beginning, but then things shift. You think you know each other, have even grown comfortable together, but deep down you know she is not treating you how you’d like.

She isn’t the type of person you want them to be, and she’s not going to change.

While it would be selfish of you to not accept a person for whom she is, it would be unfair for you to have to endure a relationship that isn’t cultivating a better you.

Its time let go…

1. Let go because things are not the same anymore.

People simply grow a part, which is perfectly normal. You realise you want different things, no longer share the same interests, no longer understand and no longer connect.

Sometimes, it’s a matter of accepting that it takes time to let go, rather than holding on to something that just can’t be brought back, was lost a long time ago or perhaps, was never really there at all.

It’s difficult to hold on to people in life, but remember that you’re destined to meet different people along your journey who will bring you happiness, sorrow, pain and joy.

2. Let go because the trust and loyalty isn’t there.

If you know in your heart that you can’t trust this person and she cannot be loyal, then you need to ask yourself why this person is in your life. Trust and loyalty are the foundation of any relationship.

If they’re not present, it may only lead to paranoia, frustration, tension and anger that you’re better off without feeling.

Find someone with whom you can share your deepest darkest secrets and you know that after walking away, her lips will remain tightly sealed. Find someone whose faithfulness to you will be unquestionable because his or her actions, rather than empty promises, bring you a peace of mind.

3. Let go because you are unclear of where things stand.

Engaging in an undefined relationship is confusing because you don’t know what you mean to her, if anything at all. If she can’t make you feel as though you’re significant, reflect on why you’re allowing her to treat you this way.

Be in the company of someone who is proud to have you in her life and will make that known to you and the rest of the world. Be in the company of someone who won’t gamble with your heart and mind simply because he or she knows you’re not going anywhere.

4. Let go if the relationship is damaging to you.

If the relationship is making you unhappy or miserable, it’s time to bid her farewell. We must not allow ourselves to feel trapped and used to being treated far less well than we deserve.

If someone is putting you down, competing with you, not paying attention to you, not caring about you, abusing you, embarrassing you in front of others, making you question yourself, belittling you or simply just not caring about you, remove the negativity from your life as soon as possible. Respect yourself enough to be able to walk away.

5. Let go if you simply don’t see eye to eye.

It is hard to make a relationship work if you can’t ever agree or see each other’s points of view. If the one thing you can agree on is that neither of you can agree, it might be time to walk away.

In many friendships and relationships, people come together through unlikely chances, through their differences and lack of similarities. Therefore, it can work, but if you find that it’s a significant source of many of your disputes and tensions, get out now.

6. Let go if you’re the one fighting to make it work.

If your relationship makes you feel as though you’re the only one putting in effort, time and love, reflect on whether or not it’s worth it. If someone truly loves you, cares for you or wants and needs you, the person will never allow you to invest disproportionate effort.

Find someone who makes you feel worthwhile and worthy. Find someone who fights to have you in his or her life. Find someone who knows how lucky he or she is to have you.

7. Let go if she doesn’t encourage you or believe in you.

If you find that your relationship isn’t providing you with support, reflect on what the person is providing. You deserve someone who will be there to encourage you throughout your journey and believe in you maybe even more than you believe in yourself.

8. Let go if the relationship isn’t bringing you what you want and need.

Ask yourself whether you can do without the relationship or whether it’s something you unquestionably want and deserve. Sometimes, there’s this belief that we can be “too fussy” with what we want from others in life, but then again, why should we settle for anything less than happiness?

5 Kinds Of Sex Lesbians Have When You’re In A Committed Relationship

Sex is such a diverse thing; there’s no right way to have it – you just have it.

Even when you’re in a relationship, the sex is not the same all the time; and even if you’re with someone forever, the sex doesn’t stay the same.

It grows and changes along with your relationship and you. It surprises you with something new around every corner.

1.The lazy kind of sex

Sometimes, there just isn’t any rush. You’re going to be together all night, all day and neither of you has any desire to be anywhere else.

Fingers linger a little longer. Movements become a little slower. There’s nothing frantic about this. You discover something new around every curve, in every shadow cast on skin, and nothing has ever been more fulfilling.

You know you can have it all for hours, and so you do, with breaks for food and naps and lazy, sleepy talking.

2. The “big date” sex, that doesn’t quite happen

You go to dinner, you go out, you talk forever, you throw all of your energy into the night and you couldn’t be happier about it. When you get home, you’re exhausted, and you lie next to each other, contemplating having sex.

In the end you simply fall asleep draped over each other, fully clothed and happier than you’ve ever been. You wake up the same way. Not having sex has never felt so good.

3. The passionate sex you forgot all about

The sex isn’t always the best thing you’ve ever had. Sometimes it’s just okay. You fall into a rut, having the same kind of sex in the same kind of way.

Then one day, completely by accident, you find the passion again. You’re doing something silly or something that brings you closer, and suddenly without warning, you start having sex. Then that suddenness, silliness and closeness jumpstarts the passion and reminds you, “Oh, hey. Here I am.”

4. The quickie sex

One person is completely dressed and ready, and then, all at once, she isn’t again.

It might make you late or it might mean you won’t have time for breakfast, but it’s worth it anyway — even if it’s quick. It just felt right.

5. The “just because you can” kind of sex

Sometimes you initiate sex just because you can, because you know there was a time when you didn’t have someone you could be close to like that whenever you wanted.

You want to cherish what you have now: amazing, mind blowing, sometimes underwhelming, not always satisfying, occasionally messy, incredible, how-did-I-ever-live-without-this-before sex.

Also read: 5 Kinds Of Sex Lesbians Have When They’re Not In A Relationship

10 Special Qualities Your Girlfriend Has That Mean You Should Never Let Her Go

Every once in a while – on very rare occasions – we meet the woman of our dreams. It’s always unexpected and almost never at a convenient point in our lives, but she appears nonetheless and changes your life forever.

Finding your other half is a journey of its own – usually a gruelling one at that, but worth it in the long run.

However, not all of us were so wise when we met the loves of our lives. So if you’re looking for a no regret out come, check and see if she has any combination of these 10 qualities.

1. She’s beautiful.

Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder, but to you this woman is the one and no one can compete with.

2. She’s kind and nurturing.

3. She’s vivacious.

Being are a person who is lively, energetic and hungry for adventure will add a dynamic to your life that will only make you happier.

4. She loves you with all her heart.

If you find a woman that truly loves you then you found the greatest gift in the universe.

5. She’s willing to make compromises.

People are stubborn. We like things the way that we like them and aren’t especially open to making changes we don’t deem necessary to make. However, relationships require making compromises.

6. She feels like home.

Being in love, deeply in love, is like finding your place in the world, your home, for the first time in your life. It’s knowing that you are exactly where you ought to be and that there is nowhere in the world you’d rather be.

7. She is more than happy to tell you when you’re wrong.

Finding a woman who will keep you on track and tell you when you’re wrong can very well make or break your life.

8. She’s passionate.

A life filled with passion is a life worth living.

9. She’s driven.

Without drive, there is no purpose.

10. She means the world to you.

Sometimes we love a person beyond imagination and we aren’t sure why. To be truthful, you don’t really need a reason. If you love her and can’t imagine your life without her, then don’t allow yourself to lose her.

If she means that much to you, then understand that she means that much to you. Too often people don’t realize what the other person means to them until they lose them. We always think that there will be another chance, that it’s possible that the two of you will one day reconnect.

Good people are kind people. If she isn’t kind then she isn’t worthy of taking up a part of your life.

5 Kinds Of Sex Lesbians Have When They’re Not In A Relationship

Just because you’re not in a relationship doesn’t necessarily mean you’re not having sex.

And just like with relationship sex, single sex comes in many different forms – it can be good, it can be bad (sigh). It can be quick and it can turn into something more.

1. The horny kind of drunk sex

You’re out, you’re getting drunk and the drunker you get, the more you really want sex. You know there’s a large possibility that it won’t be the best sex you’ve ever had, but you never know with drunken sex.

Maybe it’s with someone you know, and maybe it’s not. It might not be the best idea you’ve ever had, but as long as you’re safe about it, why not? It happens. When you’re drunk you get flirty, horny or lonely, and sometimes a little sex is all you need to curb that feeling.

2. The “its just sex” sex that leaves you wishing it would turn into more than just sex.

It’s just sex, and it’s been just sex, for a while. You tell yourself you can handle this whole “no strings attached” thing. You are chilled and mature. You can do it.

You’re with the person one night and when it’s over, you feel yourself wanting to hang on for a little longer, wanting to cuddle and talk about life, just wanting more.

You tell yourself you’re okay with just the sex, but you have a feeling you might be lying to yourself.

3. The “friends with benefits” sex

It’s possible you and this person have been due to have sex for a long time, as in you’re flirty friends who’ve had tension since you met years ago.

Or maybe, you guys are just friends who never really thought about things that way before, but there’s a first time for everything.

Either way, you know this person really well, and overall, that probably makes the sex so much better. There’s already closeness, and a level of trust that exists. It also has the possibility to start something that was maybe supposed to happen all along, and that just might be worth taking a chance on.

It also might just be fantastic sex with someone you care about, and nothing more.

4. The not prepared for sex

You weren’t planning to have sex. It wasn’t even a remote possibility for this evenings outing. Usually you plan for sex – throw on your best underwear and some extra perfume, just in case. This was not one of those nights. You were in no way prepared.

When you realises its happening, you just take a deep breath and hope for the best. You could turn it down, but I mean, come on. Hey, sometimes-happy accidents are a good thing, right?

5. The “we really shouldn’t” kind of sex

So often, there’s that one person who you know you shouldn’t be sleeping with. It’s a friend’s ex, your ex or someone who is already some form of taken.

You both know this isn’t a good idea. You both know this won’t end well. You both do it anyway, with a weird, intense passion that comes from it being so forbidden. Afterward, you’re not sure if you regret it or not. It wasn’t supposed to happen, but that still doesn’t mean you regret it.

11 Celebs Who’ve Opened Up About Their Lesbian Affairs

As we know, when you become a celebrity you basically sign up to have your life exposed to the public in anyway possible – right?! And that unfortunately includes their personal lives.

So why the fascination? Well because the details about their lives can make for quite a juicy read. And sometimes their personal lives are even more interesting than their on-screen performances!

Check out these 10 celebrities who openly admitted to lesbian affairs, well, after the paparazzi had caught them a few times!

1. Gillian Anderson

Gillian Anderson told Out Magazine that she had a relationship with a girl throughout high school! But she is more comfortable calling herself a bisexual, or perhaps using no label, because her subsequent relationships have been with dudes. She also says because she knew she was attracted to men, so she didn’t feel especially stigmatised.

If I had thought I was 100% gay, would it have been a different experience for me? Would it have been a bigger deal if shame had been attached to it and all those things that become huge life-altering issues for youngsters in that situation? It’s possible that my attitude around it came, on some level, from knowing that I still liked boys.”

She also added in Out

I don’t think I’ve ever followed convention by choice. By default, maybe, but not by choice.” Call yourself whatever you want, Gillian — we are girl crushing so hard.

2. Courtney Love

Leave it to Courtney Love to over share about everything, including her lesbian fling.

It was Kate Moss. She doesn’t care. It’s a great story for the grandchildren so … yeah. Kate wasn’t doing a lot of drugs. It was just a thing that happened in Milan in the ‘90s.

It happened and it was fun and whatever. And she talks about it and so I hope she doesn’t get mad that I outed her about it … I feel like such a kiss and tell … Kate’s great, though! Kate’s a good friend of mine.”

3. Megan Fox

Megan Fox is not a lesbian, according to Megan Fox. She’s just really, really attracted to women. She opened up about her love for the ladies in an infamous GQ interview.

I decided that I was in love with this girl that worked at the Body Shop. I decided that I was going to get her to love me back, and I went out of my way to create a relationship with this girl, a stripper named Nikita … Look, I’m not a lesbian. I just think that all humans are born with the ability to be attracted to both sexes … I mean, I could see myself in a relationship with a girl—Olivia Wilde is so sexy she makes me want to strangle a mountain ox with my bare hands. She’s mesmerising. And lately I’ve been obsessed with Jenna Jameson.”

4. Hayden Panettiere

Growing up, Hayden Panettiere admitted to practicing her make out moves on her girlfriends.

It’s great to be single. It’s great to have boyfriends. Or girlfriends. There are occasions when you kiss your best friend growing up, having fun and goofing about. Like perfecting your technique.”

5. Angelina Jolie

Angelina Jolie has ben open about her sexuality for quite some time, having had numerous encounters and relationships with women, including model and actress Jenny Shimizu.

I have loved women in the past and slept with them. I think if you love and want to pleasure a woman, particularly if you are a woman yourself, then certainly you know how to do things a certain way.”

On her relationship with Shimizu, she said

I probably would have married Jenny Shimizu if I hadn’t married [Jonny Lee Miller]. I fell in love with her the first second I saw her … she’s great. We had a lot of fun.”

6. Anna Paquin

Anna Paquin is adamantly open about her bisexuality. The actress told “Zooey” magazine in a 2009 interview…

For me, it’s not really an issue because I’m someone who believes being bisexual is actually a thing. It’s not made up. It’s not a lack of decision.”

7. Drew Barrymore

Drew Barrymore originally came out in an interview in Contact Magazine in 2003, saying…

Do I like women sexually? Yeah, I do. Totally. I have always considered myself bisexual… I love a woman’s body. I think a woman and a woman together are beautiful, just as a man and a woman together are beautiful. Being with a woman is like exploring your own body, but through someone else.”

8. Kesha

In a bold early 2013 interview, pop star Kesha opened up about her sexuality to reporters, saying that she is not only attracted to men.

I don’t love just men,” said the singer. “I love people. It’s not about a gender. It’s just about the spirit that exudes from that other person you’re with.”

She also made a similar claim two years earlier to “Out” magazine: “I wouldn’t say I’m gay or straight -– I don’t like labelling things anyway. I just like people.”

9. Amber Rose

Kanye West’s ex-girlfriend has long been perceived to be openly bisexual without actually addressing the way she identifies. In an interview with Complex magazine, the model sought to clarify the rumors:

They label me a bisexual freak stripper that fucks Kanye on a daily basis. To answer that: I’m extremely open with my sexuality. I can be in love with a woman; I can be in love with a man. I’m not into bestiality, but as far as humans go, I definitely find beauty in everybody, whether they’re heavy-set, super-skinny, if they’re white, black, Indian, Asian, Spanish. I can see beauty in anybody. I’m not into threesomes or orgies and shit like that. If I see a women and I think she’s beautiful and I like her, and she likes me back we can definitely try to be in a relationship together.”

10. Fergie

On her lesbian liaisons, Fergie said

I have had lesbian experiences in the past. But I started having sex quite late on—after I was 18. I was raised a good Catholic girl”

11. Geri Halliwell

I guess Geri Halliwell was looking to spice up her [love] life because she also fessed up to Howard Stern that she once had sex with a woman.

I had a little lesbian thing but I’m not saying anything about it. And I don’t think the girl was a real lesbian. I’m being honest. I’m not going to describe it. I realized pretty quickly that I was not a lesbian … I don’t mind boobs but the other bit is not my cup of tea. I could never ever say who it was. It was just one of those moments. I think it is just part of experimenting. It was just a drunken moment.”

Her mystery lesbian hookup probably felt like crap after reading this.

Survival Guide: 10 Things That Happen In A Lesbian Relationship

A very funny article written by Mila Jaronie; a writer living and working in New York.

If you are new to the lesbian scene and curious about the future, here is a list of things you can expect to find yourself experiencing once you trap the lady love of your life.

Also read: 5 Common Misconceptions About Lesbian Relationships

Invincibility. When you’re in love, you’re invincible. Nothing can touch you; you share a heartbeat and that’s all that matters. There’s nothing to worry about anymore – you’re safe, you’re warm, you’re protected. You’ve made a home in each other’s arms and hearts and you’re facing the future fearlessly, together, head-on. That is, of course, until she finds an unread message with one too many smiley faces in your inbox from some hot girl. Suddenly, you’ve got a lot of explaining to do.

Olympic drinking. Prepare to be constantly tipsy. In your new relationship, you will feel joyously carefree and adopt a devil-may-care attitude, which will make every day with your girlfriend seem like a mini celebration. Going on an autumn walk? Wine in a traveling cup. She just got out of her linguistics final? Shots! You got off work at midnight instead of 2:00 a.m.? A house call with cheap vodka and champagne is in order. You’re so excited to be together you make every day a party, even if it’s a Tuesday afternoon and you have papers to write.

Olympic crying. Get ready for an onslaught of feelings, girls! You will find new and interesting reasons to be emotional, and therefore take crying to new levels. Cry because she’s the one. Cry because you’re not sure she’s the one. Cry because you’re drunk and her smile is so beautiful. Cry because she’s the only person who understands you. Cry because even after four months, she still doesn’t fully understand you. Cry because she’s fucking you too hard but you don’t want to ruin the moment. Cry because she’s crying. Really, the possibilities are endless.

Severe REM loss. Face it – once you get into a serious lesbian relationship, you will never sleep again. The hours you used to spend sleeping will suddenly be filled with one or more of these: passionate sex, mechanical sex, drunk sex, half-assed sex, angry sex, or a screaming fight about not having sex, followed by pity sex and a faked orgasm (which you don’t normally do, but damn it, you’re really tired).

Expansion. Of the horizontal variety. In a relationship, it is almost guaranteed that you will get fat and happy. You will lie contentedly in her arms on your plush couch among your eclectic throw pillows and reflect on how lucky you are. You will order in and eat out. In a spirit of domestic goddess-osity, you will attempt to cook dinner from scratch, which will of course result in half the kitchen on fire and subsequent takeout from the Chinese bistro down the street. You won’t mind. You’re in love.

BBS (Broke Bitch Syndrome). Enjoy your savings now, because once you get a girlfriend, they will disappear. Bar tabs, vacations, birthday/Christmas/anniversary/Fourth of July presents, decadent seven-course dinners, her car payment, that $245 pair of jeans you impulsively bought because they looked cute on her and she needed cheering up, etc. will chew up and spit out your bank account. You will need to apply for a new credit card just to be able to afford Valentine’s Day.

DSAS (Different-Sized Arms Syndrome). Look, at some point you are going to have to finger-bang your girlfriend. And unless you’re perfectly ambidextrous (or at least ambi-competent), you’re going to be using your dominant hand. Hours of finger-banging will cause your tendons to become extremely flexible and your forearm to exhibit muscle tone you never thought possible. Plus, if she likes it rough, you’ll also develop quite an impressive bicep. Of course, after you break up you’ll start lifting regularly to even out your two different arms, but one will always be slightly larger. Damn it.

Mobile phone aerodynamics. It is also likely that, at some point, you will get out-of-proportion upset over a passive-aggressive text or short, stroppy phone call, and in a flash of rage you’ll decide you’re done with her shit and hurl the phone across the room, at the ceiling, or into moving traffic. You will later send her a Facebook message telling her that you lost your phone, you’re sorry for ignoring her calls, and you’ll be home for dinner.

Chronic worrying. Your laid-back nature will suddenly give way to irrational paranoia and gnawing self-doubt. You will begin to worry constantly, about everything: what she’s doing when she doesn’t answer your texts (even though youknow she’s in for the night), what she meant when she said “I really need to concentrate on my work right now,” and why it’s 2:30 a.m. and she isn’t back from that “talk” with her ex yet. You will question everything – yourself, your relationship, your life choices, whether you’re even gay – and freak out accordingly

Chronic apologizing. In addition to worrying about everything, you will start apologizing for everything. Or, alternately, you will never apologize, and be the one to stomp off in a huff in the middle of an argument even when you’re wrong.

Also read: The 10 Best Things About Being a Lesbian That No One Tells You

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