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Online Dating – The Beginners Basics

So I joined a popular dating website about two years ago now. I actually met my latest ex-girlfriend through this site. However since recently using it a bit more often, there have been certain things that are starting to irritate me somewhat:

Firstly (and I have been a little guilty of this myself in the past), I do not want to be texting you for a month, talking about meeting up, but never actually doing so.

If you want to meet me, here is my number and let’s go for a drink. As nerve-racking as it sometimes is, it really is that simple.

Secondly, my profile states who I am and the types that I go for; I tend to like women a bit older than myself, but of course this is based on your maturity level not mine.

I have a mild obsession with married straight women. I like feminine women, girly girls, with all the curves in all the right places. If you have read my profile, thank you, but some of you clearly didn’t think it through before deciding to send me that message.

You look like me. I don’t want to date ‘me’.

Which then means you either didn’t read my profile, or you’re suffering from an extreme case of reverse body dysmorphia.

Thirdly, I am always really frustrated by the generic “hi” messages;

“Hi”.

Well “Hi” right back at yah.

This conversation is over. I mean it hasn’t even started and it’s already over. You like me, yet you’re expecting me to start the conversation? Nu-uh. Nope.

Another thing, if someone does not respond to your “Hi”, they’re not being rude, they’re just not interested.

There is no point in engaging in conversation with someone if you’re not interested. It’s called leading someone on or getting someone’s hopes up. So when they don’t respond, please girls have some self-respect because this –

“Hi” (12:34)

“Hiya hun” (15:37)

“Hello?” (15:55)

Let me tell you, it’s not cute. It’s desperate.

Lastly, but probably the most important one for me – do not start a conversation with me by telling me where I work, please. It’s a little bit weird and kind of slightly stalker-ish. Do I tell you where you work? Who your friends are? No, no I do not. “You work in that bar don’t you?” Yes. Yes I do…

Block.

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Dating Disappointment, Its Time to Deal With It – #DatingDisappointment

Dating is one of the most emotionally challenging things a person can do. You meet a nice person, have loads of fun and you allow yourself to think that the long search might be over. And then, nothing happens. She is too busy, too far away, not available or worst of all you are not the one. How do you deal with such disappointment?

Don’t overthink it

Do not try to think why this person did not want to go out with you anymore. Did I do this or that? Maybe if I change this one thing I will be perfect. No, these kind of questions will get you nowhere. The point of dating is to find someone who will love you just the way you are.

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Don’t take it personally

Take the dating game as a sales person takes a sale. Realize that every ‘no’ means that you are one step closer to a ‘yes’. Take what you learn from each date and use it to better your game ready for the next one.

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Love Yourself

At the end of the day you are trying to find someone to share your love with. This is not going to happen if you don’t take care of yourself. Sure, you are not perfect and there are some things maybe you could have done differently in the date but you’re only human. Learn to forgive yourself fast. Then indulge in the healthy activities you enjoy with the people who love you just the way you are.

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Be Patient

A fisherman throws his pole into the water many times. Sometimes he has to wade through what he catches and throw some back but eventually with enough patience he gets his catch. Bring the same patience and mentality to your dating. Do not look at dates as failures but as a means to an end with your one and only being just another pole throw away.

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Five Simple Steps – How to Avoid an Awkward Moment of Silence

You are in a conversation with a great person you just met. Everything is going splendidly until suddenly, you run out of something to say. You briefly smile and look away. She says nothing, you say nothing. Awkward! Just how do you avoid these awkward silences in the future?

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Five Simple Steps – How to Avoid an Awkward Moment of Silence

1. Be prepared

Before going out or meeting that special someone prepare. Research, ask around, and get lots of stories and topics to talk about. If you have an arsenal full of tasty rib cracking conversations you won’t stall. Whenever you hit a dead end there will be five more paths to choose from.

2. Safe statements

Learn your safe statements. When you hit an awkward silence talk about the food, weather or the stories around town. Practicing this will give you time to think of something more concrete to say next.

3. Attentive listening

People love to talk about themselves. You can keep your date talking about herself for quite a long time just by listening and asking the right questions. Avoid boring questions that make your date sound like a job interview.

4. Activity

If despite all your efforts the awkward silence is still there. Suggest an event. Go for a walk, dance or whatever activity your situation allows. Find something to diffuse the tension. Make sure it’s something you can do together.

5. Enjoy the silence

A philosopher once said ‘our ability to enjoy silence can say more than any words we can find to fill that silence’. Whether we open our mouths and talk or stay silent we are always communicating what we believe about ourselves. If the idea is of awkwardness in your mind then that is what your date is going to read in the conversation. It is our minds that transform what was simply a moment of silence into an awkward moment of silence. Step in and enjoy the moment. Do not look at your phone or gaze around, simply look at her and relax.

Question – Is There Such a Thing as Soul Mates?

A soul mate is supposed to be that one person you were destined to be with. A partner who is your perfect fit. Is there such a thing?

Just where did this notion come from? It originally originated from ancient mythology. Apparently the gods were mad at humans and split us into two parts. Whoever did not find the other half was doomed to a loveless life. That does not sound very healthy does it? It is easy to disregard this as a childish myth with no basis.

The skeptics point out that if you’re waiting for a person to magically complete you there is a good chance you’ll be waiting for a long time indeed.

Start making connections with the people around you who have the qualities you are looking for. Waiting for someone who feels right is playing with fire. Relationships should not be solely built on feelings. When the butterflies in the stomach are gone and the storms come the union won’t stand the test.

On the other hand there are numerous couples who swear they have found their soul mates. They bonded together so quickly and perfectly it just had to be fate. They didn’t believe in soul mates but now they do. It feels like they have known each other for hundreds of years. It was meant to be. Their relationship is a perfect evidence of this fact.

This is definitely confusing, isn’t it? So is there such a thing as soul mates? Well, it depends on you. If you meet a person and sparks fly and she’s just perfect, you’ve found your soul mate. But if the person you meet isn’t magical yet she has the traits and characteristics you’re looking for, don’t shy away. True love is a combination of feelings, facts, good choices and a splash of magic.

Food for thought…
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Feminist Writer Julie Bindel Says All women Should Try Being a Lesbian

In an interview with Talking Shop, Guardian columnist Julie Bindel said:

“Look at the conditions in which women live under patriarchy – women gain by leaving heterosexuality behind. I think lesbianism can be a great liberation for women… why would you not try it? … [Fellow columnist Julie Burchill said something very funny once – she said that she had had an affair with a woman, only one time, and I said ‘why did you not do it again?’, and she says ‘oh come on, it’s like visiting Iceland, you only want to do it once’. She’s quite unusual in that sense. Most women who try it once – there’s no going back.”

Julie Bindel

In the interview, the writer also admitted a previous article in which she had claimed there is no such thing as bisexuality was “shite”.

She said:

“If there’s one thing in my entire journalistic career that I can say I really, really wish I hadn’t writte – not because of the flack, but because it was so shite – that is it. It was an appalling piece, I actually can’t believe that I wrote it. It’s a shame that it’s up there forevermore. It was so shite, what can I say?”

Julie Bindel

Last year, Bindel claimed that gay marriage is “a waste of time and effort”, and claimed that the term “queer” was being used by “anyone who is into kinky sex”. She also stirred up trouble when she claimed a “trans cabal” were “running a witch hunt” against people who offended them, after becoming embroiled in a dispute with trans activists.

Watch the interview below:

Are you a Single Lesbian? Then Look Out For These 5 Sayings People Love to Say

We have all being single at one point in life either by choice or due to circumstances. Everyone can attest that during this period all sorts of remarks and statements are directed towards you by others already in relationships or by people in the same situation as yours.

All the good girls are taken – Don’t even bother looking for one, as you will never find a suitable partner is what this over used line is saying. Mostly heard from other singles that have given up on relationships. It’s a naked lie. The number of women in the world is growing, in fact according to INED females actually out numbering men in many countries. There is no way all these women are straight or rotten apples!

You should get out more – It is true that if you are not going out and meeting new people ‘out there’, finding a partner is next to impossible. The funny thing about this statement is that it is usually uttered by people who are in a relationship that doesn’t involve socializing!

Have you met anyone? – The opening question every single person dreads answering every time he meets up with a friend he has hasn’t seen in a while. It is a high pressure question with the answer being “no” after all meeting someone is big news.

You just need to – Put on a suit, dress younger, get a new haircut, grow your hair out, talk less, talk more, change your car, change your cologne, change your phone, smile more, be a bit serious, know what you want, be spontaneous, make your profile funnier, make your profile less creepy, know what you want and many more others. People are terribly verbal about what they think is wrong with you when it is about dating and relationship.

Mrs. Right is out there somewhere – She sure is but you have to be proactive and put in some effort. Getting a partner requires work and having a good relationship with someone also requires work.

 

 

Tips to Building a Lasting Lesbian Relationship

How many people know how to build a lasting lesbian relationship?  Where do we learn to do so? In school? At home? Here are some tips compiled on building a great relationship that you can apply to your own situation.

Safe environment for sharing and trust – No name-calling, unpleasant interruptions or threats. This will make it easier for both of you to trust and share your feelings honestly. It is hard to have a great relationship in an emotionally stressing environment.

Keep your word – Whether it is doing the shopping or mowing the lawn, always keep your agreements.  All of them. If your partner cannot trust with the small things how will they trust you with being there for them till death do you part?

Ask questions – If your partner gets home late, ask where she’s been. If she no longer wants to take that long walk with you, ask her what is up. Do not make assumptions. Asking questions removes the mystery and gives your soul mate the chance to tell her side of the story. It’s better to ask too many questions than none at all.

Make time for your relationship – A relationship is like a garden, the more time you spend tending and taking care of it the more beautiful and special it becomes. Left alone it withers and turns to an ugly space nobody wants to be in. Tend your relationship by making time for each other.

Appreciation – Express gratitude to your partner for the things she does for you. For the small things like making your toast just the way you like it, for the big things like her awesome parenting skills. Let her know you see and appreciate the things she does.

 

What makes the perfect girlfriend?

What makes the perfect girlfriend? No human being is perfect, so they say. Is there anything like the perfect girlfriend? If she is all of the following she just might be!

Independent – She has a healthy relationship with herself. She is happy and fulfilled in her own life. She does not need babysitting unless she is unwell once in a while. She does not suffocate you by coming after you all the time.

Calm and composed – She doesn’t easily get mad or jump to conclusions. Unless you have done something to deserve it she always gives you the benefit of the doubt. It is not easy to build a great relationship with someone who gets angry easily. Whatever life throws at her she takes it in her stride. Yelling and shouting is just not her thing.

Marathon finisher – She is not here for the short run. When things get ugly and tiresome she is there for you. Encouraging you to be better and realize your full potential. She does not run away when the going gets tough, she sticks it out.

She’s trusting – She does not get jealous easily. When you leave your phone behind you’re sure she won’t go through your messages. You trust her not to hurt you.

Goddess in bed – No way can she be ‘perfect’ if she is not good in bed, period. She looks beautiful always, carries herself confidently like a queen plus she smells and looks great.

Gets along with friends and family – She hangs out with your friends, likes going to your parents and enjoys it! A great girlfriend will be supportive to the people you care about and never tries to make you leave them out of your life.

She makes you better – You don’t exactly know how but she just does. Ever since you met her; your career is better, your relationships have improved and you just feel better and happier!

If your girlfriend is all of the above then you have her, the perfect one. You are the envy of everyone around you. Do not mess it up.

6 Signs You Are in a Serious Relationship

If this was a perfect world relationships would be easy. Two people would meet, date and if everything went according to plan they would commit to each other.

Unfortunately we don’t live in a perfect world and it can be quite confusing knowing exactly in which phase a relationship is in. How do you tell if your once casual relationship is now a serious relationship?

Personal items – If your partner is leaving her stuff in your house and you are okay with it. Then this is a sign that the relationship has taken a turn to the serious side. The more important the items the more serious the relationship is. A sure sign is if you have exchanged keys to each other’s apartments.

Family and friends – If you regularly hang out with her friends and family. They even seem to think that if they tell one of you something it’s like telling both of you. Do you go out with your partner’s friends or family without her being around? You are in a serious relationship.

The four letter word – If you often use “I love you” in your conversations then you’re definitely not in a casual relationship.

Honesty – You each other absolutely everything. You have this urge to describe your day’s events and you don’t leave anything out.

Facebook/twitter – Your relationship status is “in a relationship”. Half of the photos are of the two of you. You are comfortable with everyone knowing about her. You regularly receive friend requests from her friends. You are part of her life, the world knows it.

Likes and dislikes – You start listening to the songs she likes. Those slow love songs don’t sound so awful now. The same case applies to food, restaurants and television shows. You are now enjoying what they like and disliking what they hate. This is inevitable when two people stay together for a long time.

 

I Kissed a GIRL – a Documentary Short | #ikissedagirl

For lesbians, kissing a girl for the first time is a mind-blowing and a life-changing event. So a Tennessee team – Jennifer Sheridan and Daniel Weiss (the DoSomething Film Group) are looking for funding in order to make a movie about it.

‘I Kissed a GIRL [a documentary short]’ spotlights lesbians reminiscing about the first time they kissed a girl, recalling the exact moment many confirm — or finally understand — who they are and who they’re meant to be kissing.

You can’t help make a connection to the stories of these women. When you see their faces and hear them talking about these first kiss experiences, you watch as they remember how they connected the dots about their own sexuality. It doesn’t matter if you are gay or straight, you’ll be reminded of your own experiences and find yourself smiling along as they remember. That connection, that accessibility to LGBTQ culture, is vital to the community as we strive for acceptance and equal rights. Our stories are important; these are our histories. Please help us get these heard.

Jennifer Sheridan

There are some talented people involved in this project. From the singer-songwriter Jill Sobule whose 1995 song ‘I Kissed a Girl’ was the inspiration for the short film, to artists Rosie Piter and Mary Vertulfo.

We have an enthusiastic crew and we are so very grateful to all the beautiful women who share their stories with us on camera. Last but not least – YOU. We can’t do it without our investors and we are thankful and lucky to have your support.

Jennifer Sheridan

Help make it happen- for I Kissed a GIRL: Lesbians’ First Kiss Experiences and the team!

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How to trust again after being cheated on

So how do you to trust again after being cheated on? It can be very hurtful when someone you care and trust cheats on you. This is especially true if you never saw it coming. The shock and disappointment you get can be quite traumatizing. How do you learn to trust again after such an ordeal?

Learn from it – Everything has a good and bad side to it. It is how we choose to look at it that differs. Choose to look at your partner’s betrayal as a learning experience. Were you too trusting too fast? Did you open yourself too deep? Were you naïve? Ask constructive questions that will help you in the future.

Be emotional – Let it out. Be angry and even shed some tears.  Keeping it all bottled up in you will only make you feel bitter. Vomit it out by writing your feelings in a letter or a journal. Read the writings when you are ready.

Be patient – Give yourself time to heal. What you have been through has been a shock. You will need some time to heal, regain your focus and balance. Afterwards you can trust again. Do not jump into a new relationship too soon. You are not ready.

Don’t try to understand it – Do not try to rationalize or understand why your partner cheated. They did what they did and you can’t change that. Going over every little detail trying to look for the reason why they cheated is ill advised.

Do not blame yourself – If anyone is to blame, it’s the one who cheated on you. It was not your fault.

Talk to someone – Look for a close friend or family member and share your experience. Be angry, be heartbroken. Talk about how painful it all is and how betrayed you feel. Talking to someone else will ease the bitterness and make the whole episode seem surmountable.

Look forward – You are wiser and more experienced now. You will get over this and the future looks bright. Do not sit and moan for too long. Make plans for the future, look forward to something new, even someone new. It is a new day.

What Not to Say if You Want a Second Date

A first date is the beginning of the love fairy tale. There are topics that should not be brought up obviously, the fact that you were constipating last week is one example. There are other less obvious topics to avoid…

I hope you like this place – Be certain and confident. Even if you chose the worst place ever, don’t appear insecure or not sure of yourself. If the place you picked is all that bad, carefully say ‘you get to pick the venue next time’.

You remind me of my mother/ex – Never compare your date with your mother or worse your former girlfriend. She is her own individual self. Tell her how she looks like the beautiful celebrity in the movie you like instead.

I have this condition – Do not talk about serious diseases you might have. This also goes for addictions. Do not talk about your struggles with alcoholism. There will be enough time for that later.

Politics/religion – You believe what you believe and so does your date. Avoid discussing politics or religion during the first date.

You look really nice tonight – Give specific compliments. Don’t be vague. Compliment her on her shoes, dress or intellect. Avoid general clichés. They sound untrue and make you look artificial.

Your place or mine – Slow down! Maybe she’s not that type of a girl. Getting intimate after the first date is not advisable, unless you don’t want a second date.

I need to take this call – During the first date, no interruptions are allowed. That call from your mate will just have to wait. Give her your undivided attention. No calls, texts or mail.

Lock up the creep – Don’t talk about your fetishes, 20 GB porn collection or how you kissed your male cousin in high school. When she is safely lying in your pillow maybe you can reveal how much you like black lingerie.

The first date is a safe zone. Safe topics and fun playful statements. Don’t be too serious. Make her smile and feel good. You won’t go wrong.

Is She Cheating?

According to Scott Dikkers book ‘You Are Worthless: Depressing Nuggets of Wisdom Sure to Ruin Your Day, Statistically speaking, there is a 65 percent chance that the love of your life is having an affair.

Could it be? Could your one and only be cheating on you? Here are easy ways you can tell if you are no longer her only one.

Drastic changes to schedule – Her once predictable program is no more. There are now frequent night outs with the girls. All of sudden she has developed an interest in the gym. Working hours have recently become longer extending into the night. All she is really doing is trying to find some alone time with her new woman.

Angry and resentful –  Everything you do or say is never right, she is always lashing out at you even over the smallest things, like an angry lioness chasing the weaker lion away, this is her telling you to back off, she has a new lion king in her life.

Phone and internet – There are calls that she only answers in private, others she rejects if the situation doesn’t allow for privacy. Before she used to leave her phone on the couch while she went to open the door, now she religiously carries it everywhere, even to the bathroom. She does not want that message from her new guy thanking her for the wonderful time yesterday to end up in your hands.

Family and friends – She wants no part in the wonderful times you used to enjoy with your friends. That visit to your folks is now a big no. ’Cheaters remorse’ is eating her and there is no way she is going to take a bite of your mom’s famous chocolate cake!

Intimacy – Since she is getting action from her new love your bed is becoming cold. If your partner is no longer interested in getting intimate with you, be very worried. The few times you get lucky, she has new tricks that she wants to try. Yes, she has been practicing.

Dressing up – Her taste in clothes changes. Just like when the two of you were dating she is now trying to impress someone else. There is a noticeable increase in her wardrobe, check out her lingerie collection. What is that new provocative underwear for, if she is not putting it on for you?

While this is by no means an exhaustive list, it’s a good pointer to some things you should look for. Remember the most important thing is to trust your instincts.

Reasons You Should Date an Older Woman

Every lesbian should date an older woman, at least once in her life. Why you ask? Let me fill you in on the secret advantages of dating an older lesbian.

They are independent – Older women are often less clingy and needy. They don’t need a woman by their side all the time to be happy. This makes them easier to get along and much more fun.

Less drama – Maybe it is because younger women experience so many first’s in their relationships, their life is full of drama. It’s kind of hard not to get sucked in sometimes. Older women don’t amplify the small things. They can handle their problems real well and often all alone.

No pressure – An older woman is not at that age where all her friends are setting down. Getting married and raising cats is not at the forefront of her mind. She does not have the need to find Ms. Right now.

They know their way around the bedroom – She has more experience in the bedroom affairs than your average twenty year old. Can any lady say no to a woman who knows exactly how to please her?

Confidence – Older women ooze confidence. Whether it is approaching you or the way they present themselves. The confidence is there. This is a welcome trait considering the many shy girls who have a problem replying to a simple hello.

They teach you a lot – Every lady wants to be with a woman who is not only mysterious but one she can learn something from. Older women will keep you coming back for more as they have lots to share with you. An older woman will impress and surprise you for quite a long time.

 

 

Coming Out – We Discuss with KitschMix Columnist Sam Marshall

Sam Marshall, the beauty Guru and columnist with KitschMix, talked openly with us about her life and the trials of coming out in small North Western town in the UK, as well as the challenges people face in Britain today regarding their sexual preference.

KitschMix: Where were you born and raised? 

Sam Marshall:I was born and raised in Bakewell in Derbyshire.  We lived in a beautiful house up a hill, away from anything except cows and sheep! I suppose I was fortunate – my parents had a successful clothes shop and I went to private school and had a pony! We always had loads of pets, and mum used to grow fruit and veg. It was fab.

KM: When did you first realise you were a lesbian? Did you tell anyone else about your feelings? 

SM: I “realised” I liked girls at 17. A boyfriend pointed out that I kept staring at a waitress I worked with.  I then remember going to Sheffield with a friend and kissing the only lesbian in the only gar bar there!

Looking back my bedroom wall was full of female pop stars and models with short hair – I think I only had one picture up of the man holding the baby!

I went to Sydney in 1999 and had my first “experience”. Very drunk, and she had a huge bush. Not very memorable!  Then came my first girlfriend – she was beautiful, quite boyish and, of course, still in love with her ex!

When I returned to the UK and told all my friends in Bakewell I was now “Gay”. The lads loved it; the girls said I was doing it for attention. At that time Bakewell didn’t even have anyone who wouldn’t have ticked “white British” if you know what I mean.

Needless to say I went back to boys due to the non-existence of lesbians (and much to the relief of my “it’s a phase” mother).

I moved to Manchester in 2001 and in 2004 started seeing a boy who worked on the doors in the Gay Village. We went out there a lot and I felt like a kid in a sweet shop! I didn’t know there were so many gay girls!  I never looked back.

I got civil partnered in 2010, now separated and we still remain friends. Mum totally accepts it and welcomed my ex like part of the family. My sister now says, “if you went back to boys I’d be sick”. Nice.

And the answer is no, I wouldn’t. I’m totally 100% gay.

KM: Have you experienced any discrimination or bad feeling from people because of your sexual persuasion?

SM: Only years ago in Bakewell saying it was for attention. I also had a rather “challenging” employee at Urban – a gay man who decided to try to make my life a living hell. He would tell my waxing clients I was gay, and shout “Dirty Dyke” across the shop floor. He didn’t work there for long after that!

Other than that even clients (after a while its inevitable they will ask about home stuff) that I was waxing were cool about it. I think if you make it an issue then it becomes one. This is normal for me now.

KM: What sorts of challenges do you think LGBT people face in Britain today?

SM: I think times are changing. My late granddad was quite homophobic, but when I told my Nan (his wife) she was like “Whatever makes you happy”. I think generations are dying off that had that negative mind-set. Also it helps that it is illegal to be homophobic -in the workplace it is seen as bullying. I do fear for my son (he has two mums and a dad), but I have friends with a 16yr old daughter who has never been teased or bullied over having two mums. After all most kids have single parent families, with mum’s new partner etc.

Most straight people like having a “gay best friend” – Madonna made that popular with Rupert Everett.  Every time a get speaking to a straight man they say “can we perve at girls together?”!

I think the Trans still get a hard time  – cross dressers especially.  People just stare and feel it ok to say out loud “is that a guy?” I treat a few trans clients and it really is such a brave thing to do. It easier for transsexuals as they don’t look “out of place” – I have witnessed one girl in Manchester (who is stunning by the way) being ogled by guys who have no idea the object of their attention probably has bigger tackle than them!  I suppose it’s about looking different that people don’t like.

It might help that I’m apparently “a lesbian disguised as a straight girl”. One of my exes was constantly called “Sir” in Indian Restaurants, and once asked if she was a girl or a boy!  My current partner looks (apparently) like a “good looking gay boy” and always gets hit on in the village by men until they spot her ample cleavage!  We have stereotypes in our head and things will naturally stand out.

Years ago men looked a certain way, and women did too. Now the lines are blurred.  Men wear make-up and women wear boxers!

Difficult Decisions: When is it Right to Get Back with Your Ex

When is it Right to Get Back with Your Ex – Try as you might, you can’t keep the idea out of your head: you know it’s crazy and all your friends tell you so, but you really want to – have to – get back together with your ex.

Rationally, this is not a good move. They hurt you badly and made it hard for you to trust anyone after that car-crash of a relationship. Or maybe you did all that to them. So, again, it’s a terrible thought. But you can’t help meditating on it. You miss them, of course you do. So why might it be worth getting back with her, after all this?

Lack of closure

You seem to be lacking that definitive feeling that the relationship is over. Certain things have been left undone and unsaid, and that’s not really good enough. You’ll drive yourself mad if you spend the rest of your days wondering what could have been, so maybe it’s worth giving your ex a call and trying to straighten some of this stuff out.

You miss the sex

OK you’ve been with other people since and had a good time, but none of them have been able to satisfy you quite like she has. She just knew which buttons to press. Sex is important to any successful relationship and it was pretty good with her so why couldn’t it be again?

You miss your best friend

She was your lover, but she was also your best mate and you understandably miss her conversation, the way she could make you burst into laughter with a single little comment. You miss going out and enjoying yourself with her.

The break-up was likely your fault

If you’re honest with yourself it was you who ended the relationship. You regret the decisions you made and why shouldn’t people get a second chance to make amends? Give her a call and see whether you can resuscitate something that was soooo good.