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Madonna: “Gay Rights Are Way More Advanced Than Women’s Rights”

It’s hard to think of any celebrity who has done more than Madonna to promote public awareness of queer culture.

However, in an interview to Out Magazine, the singer joined the Women Rights vs. Gay rights debate.

Gay rights are way more advanced than women’s rights. People are a lot more open-minded to the gay community than they are to women, period.

It’s moved along for the gay community, for the African-American community, but women are still just trading on their ass. To me, the last great frontier is women.”

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For women, she feels, the situation has hardly improved since 1983. She said:

Women are still the most marginalized group. They’re still the group that people won’t let change. You must fit into this box: You must behave this way, dress this way.”

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Her comments follow the same stance as Patricia Arquette comments at the Oscars. Where Arquette also called out the gay community and African-American community to support women’s rights.

But yet, again like with Arquette’s comments, Madonna have failed to acknowledge that lesbians, bisexuals, trans*, and African-Americans are women too.

Her stance is what we call White Feminism, and sadly in this interview she forgets lesbians and bisexual women exist.

As queer women, we aren’t the allies to women – we are women. And the people that are keeping us from equality is not the Gay Community or African-American Community, but it’s misogynist, most oftentimes white, males.

Thousands Attend Sydney’s Mardi Gras

Hundreds of thousands of people packed the streets of Sydney’s gay village this weekend to watch the annual Sydney Gay and Lesbian Mardi Gras. The now famous parade has been going for 37 years.

The theme for this year’s event was tackling homophobia in sport – with gay and lesbian sports teams in the parade and one float carrying prominent sports men and women.

“Mardi Gras is a time of year where everyone has a chance to express themselves without fear of persecution. It’s also a chance to be super creative and make amazing costumes. And it’s the only time of the year that you can walk through the city half naked and covered head to toe in paint and glitter.”

Nearly 150 marching groups and floats participated in this year’s parade, including members of Australia’s armed forces, who for the first time ever they were lead by the most senior enlisted military figures. Military personnel have only been able to participate openly in the parade since 2008, and it was only this year that they have been allowed to march in uniform.

The parade always begins with the traditional roar of the Dykes on Bikes, and this year was no different  – well one little inclusion – the cast of hit web series Starting From Now rod shotgun.

They were followed by 42 Boys on Bikes and by a visiting contingent from Victorian LGBTI biker group the Melbourne Motorcycle Tourers.

Highlights included, a large contingent of LGBTI sporting groups, followed by a float from the ANZ bank – this year’s Principle Partner with the festival. 

The ‘78ers – veterans of the first ever Sydney Gay and Lesbian Mardi Gras in 1978 (which descended into a police riot after officers attacked the marchers). A large group of indigenous Australians, with a bus carrying respected members of Australia’s Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander communities. 

People With Disability Australia (a crowd favorite) travelled on a float featuring a pair of giant lips – sending the message that people should be free to love without discrimination regardless of their ability.

Another highlight of the parade were marchers from Australian Marriage Equality, with 100 marchers wearing Passion t-shirts dancing to the tune of Bruno Mar’s song ‘Marry You.’  

One of the largest corporate entries in the parade was the Google entry – with over a thousand people, including Australia’s first ever Eurovision entry Guy Sebastian, Megan Washington and band The Jezabels, marching to raise awareness for LGBTI youth charity Twenty10.

Coming Out The Disney Way

So how do invison your favourite Disney Character coming out? Of course, in a totally fabulous way – Right?!

At KitschMix we love Disney, and we love Bria And Chrissy, especially when they taking it to the max in their videos. Watch this fantastic video – ‘How Disney Characters Would Come Out’.

More: 7 Disney Characters That Have the Potentially to be Lesbians

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Straight Girls Explain Sleeping With Lesbians

Last week we discussed lesbians sleeping with straight girls. But with every tale like this, there is a flip side.

So, this week we’re looking at the straight girls who sleep with lesbians.

Why do they embark on encounters with other women?

Well, there are a number of women who fantasies about sleeping with a lesbian or bi woman, and there are a number of straight girls who go out there and sleep with other women.

Maybe it’s a one off, maybe they do it multiple times, but a lot of straight women are curious about girl-on-girl action.

And trust me, if you have straight women as friends, you’ll probably have fended off a few questions about your sex life – from pickup lines to techniques, and toys.

However, what I think is true, is women often feel safe to explore with other women.

Straight guys often freak out at the thought of have sex with another man, where as woman is less discriminating towards what they enjoy.

If they fancy women, they may explore that option. Female sexuality is consider a mental attraction, not down to what is on your chest or between your legs. Fantasy plays a part, and as boundaries breakdown.

Season Four of ‘Last Tango in Halifax’ Confirmed

Sally Wainwright’s BBC1 drama Last Tango in Halifax has been renewed for a fourth series on BBC One. The channel confirmed that the Sarah Lancashire drama will return for another run next year at the end of last night’s (February 1) finale.

The popular romantic drama attracted over 6.5 million viewers for its third series finale on Sunday. While details are scarce, it is expected the fourth series will follow the previous model and air some time towards the end of 2015

Derek Jacobi, Anne Reid and Nicola Walker also star in the series, which is centred around a pair of childhood sweethearts who rediscover love in their later years.

It also features a fantastic yet controversial lesbian storyline, with Sarah Lancashire playing a women coming to terms with late-in-life lesbian relationship and her sexuality.

Lancashire plays Caroline, who she falls for a fellow school teacher named Kate. Throughout season 1, 2 and 3 we have followed their love affair until its tragic ending – booooo!

So here is hoping season 4 will bring the lesbian spark back to the show.

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Wainwright, last year confirmed the US rights to the series were purchased by actress Diane Keaton for a potential remake on HBO.

Lesbians Explain Sleeping With Straight Girls

So as we all know women are hot and irresistible, which is why there are a lot of ladies out there curious about sleeping with another women; and even though many people may identify as straight, that doesn’t stop them from thinking about the same gender-loving.

So, here is where the lesbian and bisexual women come in to play – hello. 

We often become the experimental plaything; be it for a drunken kiss, a high school crush, a college romance or two-year relationship before she decides to settle down.

There are quite a few straight women out the seeking first-time lesbian sexual experience and on flip there are a lot of queer women who can’t object.

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Lesbians Are Less Concerned About What Their Partners Wear Than Straight Women

According to a survey by British retailer Littlewoods, lesbians are less concerned about what their partners wear than straight women.

The survey showed 16% of women look to change their new girlfriend’s wardrobe – compared with almost 20% of women with a new boyfriend.

Around 28% straight women with a husband or long-term boyfriend confessed to making changes to his look.

However, only 16% of lesbians and bisexual women with a wife or long-term girlfriend made changes, and from this 25 to 34-year-olds were the biggest fashion gurus in a relationship and most likely to choose what their wife or girlfriend wore.

For those who do change their own style to please their partner, two thirds said they do it because they want their lover to find them as attractive as possible.

So the big questions are – would you change your style for your partner, new or old? Or would you expect them to make changes if you weren’t happy?

 

It’s a Myth That Lesbians Always Get Killed Off, Says ‘Last Tango in Halifax’ Writer

Ask a group of queer, pop culture conscious women and they will tell you that the biggest trope to affect lesbians (after the ‘lesbians sleeps with a man’ trope) is that TV lesbians always seem to get killed off. It’s so regularly witnessed in the media that TV Tropes has dedicated an entire page to it, having dubbed it ‘Dead Lesbian Syndrome’. TV Tropes also notes that LGBTQ people are at a higher risk of suicide. However, many of the cases of dead lesbians that we see on television aren’t because the characters took their own lives and instead are down to common killers such as [SPOILER] Naomi Campbell in Skins who died of cancer.

Dead Lesbian Syndrome is one of the reasons why queer women instruct each other not to get suckered into a show based on its lesbian characters because they will most likely be bumped off in the name of a ‘hard-hitting emotional storyline’ or just because the show’s creator wants to further someone else’s character progression. It’s incredibly unfortunate that that needs to be said but given how often it occurs (American Horror Story, Pretty Little Liars and The L Word have all taken part in the trope) it probably makes sense.

The latest show to join the Dead Lesbian Syndrome Squad is Last Tango in Halifax. In an episode that aired just a few weeks ago, the show dramatically killed off pregnant lesbian Kate not long after she’d married her partner Caroline. Unaware of the trope but now suffering the backlash is Last Tango in Halifax writer Sally Wainwright who has now said the following to DIVA Magazine:

“I think that’s a myth! People get killed off all the time. I got an email from Russell T Davis the day after saying, “I once killed off a gay character and everyone was really upset.” I got an email from another friend saying, “Oh Sally, what have you done? There are few enough lesbians as it is!” I don’t think it’s…I don’t think people think, “I’ve got a lesbian character, I better kill her off.”

It was a really big decision and it was a decision that…I’m still not entirely sure I made the right decision over but… [pauses]. I implore people to see what happens next and see why we did make that decision. When you see what happens next, I think we did make the right decision. It becomes increasingly emotional, the performances with the people left behind become increasingly magnetic and extraordinary, actually.”

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Wainwright also confirmed that it was for storyline purposes, “It was a narrative decision, it was a storyline decision”, which perhaps adds further insult to injury.

One problem that queer women have with the Dead Lesbian Trope is that it’s a case of ‘why us?’ Every TV viewer accepts that death is an inevitable storyline that’s going to crop up because that’s life, that’s what happens and that’s what TV shows are attempting to portray (albeit in an overly dramatized way) but it’s unfortunate that the victim of those deaths more often than not is a queer woman.

Many would also argue that using the Dead Lesbian Trope is ineffective because it’s just that – a trope. Tropes are eye-rolling, seen it all before things; they lose their emotional gravitas when you’ve used them over and over again. It’s like a fairy tale that always ends in ‘and then they lived happily ever after’ except we aren’t children anymore, there are no happily ever afters for TV lesbians and the fact that they keep getting killed off hurts LGBT representation.

Steph Ello Teaches Gay Men a Thing or Two About Lesbian Slang

What do they say – men are from mars and women from venus. Well the same can be said for LGBT community, where the gay boys and girls have a totally different lingo.

Watch as YouTube vlogger, Steph Ello, catches on camera a butch of gay guys reacting to lesbian slang.

‘Lesbians Who Tech’ Wants to Connect Queer Geeks, Get More Women in Tech

The statistics on women in the technology industry are astounding. As of 2013 women made up just 26% of the computing workforce with most of the women in the industry being white women (16%) and half of that (8%) being women of colour.

According to a study by MIT (Massachusetts Institute of Technology) making teams more diverse is vital to their success. Their results concluded that diverse teams not only have better performance but the morale of the team and the quality of the end product are both improved because of it.

Yet with such small figures of women being involved in the tech sector, something needs to be done. Consider Lesbians Who Tech one of the driving forces then as they want to make a more inclusive and more diverse space for queer women in the technology industry.

Lesbians Who Tech was founded in December 2012 by Leanne Pittsford. LWT wants to increase the following: the numbers of queer women in technology, the visibility of queer women in tech (including visibility outside of the queer female community) and to connect queer women in tech to platforms concerning social good and activism specifically.

While its goals should garner much support, Lesbians Who Tech are certainly up against it but their action plan to achieve these things could just work. In February/March 2014 Lesbians Who Tech hosted its very first summit in San Francisco where over 800 women (and queer allies) attended panels to not just learn about inequality in the tech industry but to look at how to tackle it.

For example, one point brought up was the humungous wage gap that women in technology face. In Silicon Valley (the tech hub of the United States), women make just 49 cents to every dollar a man makes which is literally paying men over twice the amount of money for doing the exact same work. This is even more egregious that the United States’ general wage page of women earning 81 cents for every dollar that a man makes.

That’s unacceptable and arguably by talking about this more, increasing the numbers of women in the field and calling for something to change, something will change and the tech industry will become a more diverse (and less sexist) place because of it.

You can find out more about Lesbians Who Tech and about upcoming summits at the source link below.

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9 Lesbian Web Series You Should Have Watched By Now

We often complain that there is not enough lesbian representation in the media. However, slowly but surely things are changing.

There are now great production teams, artists, and producers around the world creating amazing films, lesbian web shows, documentaries, and TV series that provide true lesbian content, and true entertainment.

There is now an abundance of lesbian web series to choose from, and we have listed out some of our favourite shows from this year below.

1. Kiss Her I’m Famous

From the award-winning filmmaker Rolla Selbak, this lesbian web series is based on two hilarious and clueless characters, played by The Real L-Word’s Tracy Ryerson and Ilea Matthews, who aim to create a celebrity sex tape to launch them into fame.

With 2 seasons now out, the series is fantastic and we can’t wait for a next season.

2. Rods and Cones

‘Rods & Cones’ is a comedy series about high-power, low-profit comics Carole and Mitzi, as they take on their rivals, The MILFies.

The comedy is the first original web series to premiere on Wifey.tv, a video network by and for women. Watch the first season of ‘Rods and Cones’ on KitschMix.TV

3. Red

The new Brazilian web show RED, is a lesbian-themed web series, independently produced and financed by its creators, Viv Schiller and Germana Belo. Based in Rio de Janeiro, the show tells the story of two actresses, Mel Béart and Liz Malmo, that meet on the set of a short film called RED. The two women soon take their developing romance from the set, to real life.

We highly recommend you all start watching this slick new series that already has our pulses racing – addictive viewing.

4. Be Here Nowish

‘Be Here Nowish’ is a new comedy by Natalia Leite and Alexandra Roxo about two sexually progressive New York gals who ditch their down-and-out lives for LA in search of a spiritual awakening. The creators say they made the show to reflect a world in which ‘people choose their personal pronouns, girls look like boys, boys look like girls, sexuality is fluid, sex is complicated, and laughter is abundant’.

If you’re a fan of Broad City, or any other show involving two best friend’s making complete and utter fools of themselves, you’re in for a treat.

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5. Brown Girl Problems

Fawzia Mirza, creator of the character Kam Kardashian, brings you a new comedic web series, ‘Brown Girl Problems’. It is a sketch-style series showcasing the comedic, awkward and even imaginary situations in the life of South Asian women. The show highlights Mirza’s own minority backgrounds: South Asian, Muslim, queer. Start watching

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6. Girl/Girl Scene

Now on season 3, the high drama, super sexy lesbian web series, ‘Girl/Girl Scene‘, is a must watch. It is a vibrant, vital and honest web series and a true reflection of today.

“Based on the lives and loves of four young friends, this series boldly goes where no other has gone before – between the sheets and into the minds and hearts of unapologetically queer women living in middle America.”

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The shows lead character is Evan, which is actually played by creator/writer of the series Tucky Williams, and what we love about the show is it is refreshingly non-judgmental, while telling funny, provocative and controversial story-lines. Start watching

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8. Starting From Now

Another web series in it 3rd season, but its a cracker. If you haven’t seen the lesbian web series from Australia, then you’re missing out. ‘Starting From Now‘ is a lesbian drama centred around a steamy love triangle. From Common Language Films, the hot internet show stars Sarah de Possesse, Rosie Lourde, Lauren Orrell, Bianca Bradey, and Linda Grasso. Watch all season here at KitschMix.TV

9. K&A

Again, if you like Broad City, then you will love this. Set in the city of Boston, this comedy centres around Karly (straight) and Alex (lesbian), best friends since college, whose dysfunctional, co-dependent, drinking, and drug taking relationship impedes them from ever finding someone special in their lives besides each other.

Created by Katie Shannon and Katie Thompson, and starring Audrey Johnson and Ashley Elmi – this ‘no-holds-bar’ web series is a delight to watch. The first episode premiered back in June, but you can catch the full series here.

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Cat-Obsessed Lesbians – Need We Say More, This Video Was the Best Way to Start Our Day

Amy Adams and Kate McKinnon played cat-obsessed girlfriends on the weekend’s Saturday Night Live.

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Playing Barbara and Ashley, the two, did a hilarious ketch about cat adoption. In the set, it appears Barb has broken up with Cat (once played by Charlize Theron), who was her companion last time she encouraged viewers to save a kitty. However, now she is with Ashley who just wants Barb to say she loves her.

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Meghan Trainor Brings ‘That Bass’ to The 25th Anniversary of Club Skirts Dinah Shore Weekend

Pop star Meghan Trainor is the confirmed headline act for the highly anticipated 25th Anniversary of the legendary Club Skirts Dinah Shore Weekend, April 1-5, 2015 in Palm Springs, CA.

The 20-year-old singer-songwriter from Nantucket will grace the main stage of the Palm Springs Convention Center during the Dinah’s “Black Party”.

Club Skirts Dinah Shore Weekend, popularly known as ‘The Dinah’, is the biggest & largest lesbian event of its kind in the world.

Founded and produced by Mariah Hanson, ‘The Dinah’ has, for the past 25 years, continuously been changing minds and changing lives, offering women from all over the world the opportunity to express their true selves and gain an extraordinary amount of self worth. With ‘The Dinah’, Hanson has created a haven where acceptance and tolerance rule.

“Meghan Trainor is the perfect artist to headline the 2015 Dinah, our milestone year. Her song is a record breaking number one billboard hit, and in addition it invokes a new social paradigm that places less emphasis on the exterior and more emphasis on the fact that we are all beautiful and that that beauty comes in many shapes, colors and sizes.

I’m especially proud to join with Meghan in sending out this wonderful life-affirming message to our guests. It’s time. And it’s our time!”

Mariah Hanson, founder and promoter of Club Skirts Dinah Shore Weekend.

Hanson’s natural knack for spotting the next best thing in music has transformed ‘The Dinah’ into the inescapable venue for newcomers to breakthrough. Lady Gaga, Katy Perry, Kesha and Iggy Azalea are a few examples of artists who, post-Dinah, systematically went on to hit international superstar status.

The music industry now looks at ‘The Dinah’ as a pivotal indicator in the success of emerging artists’ careers, and has put the festival on the A list of all festivals. The Dinah has undeniably made a name for itself as not only an important festival landmark welcoming the biggest names in the music industry; but also the MUST-DO Spring event of the Palm Springs festival season.

Meghan Trainor is the first confirmed headliner joining the 2015 Dinah Entertainment Line-Up.

Mariah Hanson will be announcing more top-notch performers by the end of the year and early 2015.

April 1-5, 2015 Club Skirts Dinah Shore Weekend is turning twenty-five and taking the landmark event to new heights … from EPIC to HISTORIC!

Lesbians Explain ‘Bicurious Girls’

An interesting topic to discuss – Lesbians Explaining ‘Bicurious Girls’ phenomena.  These are ladies not 100% bisexual, but curious to experience the lesbian thing, be a kiss, a date or sex.

Arielle Scarcella leads the debate in this new youtube video.

Also see, PillowTalks ‘Differences between straight girls and bisexual girls’

Cameron Esposito Answers 11 Questions Straight People Want To Ask A Lesbian

In the clip below, Cameron Esposito answers questions sent in from readers and no query is too personal — or too stupid — for her to offer a candid, considered response.

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The comedian, who recently released her album “Same Sex Symbol,” does some truth telling and we like it.

[tweet_dis]“What makes this lesbian feel pretty? False eyelashes and a vest.”[/tweet_dis]

You can pick up her album and follow her on Twitter. For upcoming tour dates, head here.

‘Why Do Lesbian Dress Like Men?’, the Wonders of the Butch Aesthetics Explained

In this week latest instalment of “Ask a Homo,” Slate’s LGBTQ section editor and culture critic June Thomas, answered the age old question straight people seem to have about why we lesbians sometimes dress and cut their hair in styles traditionally adopted by men.

Thomas reply is simple, explaining that the reason lesbians dress and cut their hair in a style seen as masculine, is simply because they can, and because our lesbian foremothers set a bad-ass precedent of dressing however the hell they wanted.

Cutting your hair short is not for all women though. It’s important to remember, that there are lesbians out there who don’t cut their hair short or ‘dress like men’. Their are lesbian who want to wear their hair long and dress in a conventionally feminine way. Some lesbian’s dress femme, but have there hair short, or ‘shock-horror’ have long hair but, dress masculine.  Dressing and cutting your hair however you want is about freedom of expression

What society needs to understand is we are starting to live in a world where we can express ourselves how we want – be it as feminine and masculine presentation.

Also, there is no inherent reason for men to wear their hair short and women to wear dresses, so even the question “why do lesbians dress and cut their hair like men” should be be taken with the grain of salt because there is no real way of “dressing like men.”


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Watch ‘Don’t Be Such A Lesbian’ from DBSA TV

A short film investigating the misconceptions and stereotypes surrounding lesbian life today and starring a variety of lesbian such as Missfits Effi Mai and DATTCH Founder Robyn Exton.

Don’t Be Such A… came about because I realised as a kid the words don’t be such a lesbian flew out of my mouth way too often and always as an insult. Being a lesbian was the worst thing you could be as far as I was concered. It was only ever spoken about in a negative way.  I feel incredibly lucky that I am proud and happy to be open about my sexuality today, but I know sadly that isn’t always the experience for others.

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Dont be such a… is here to highlight some of the old sterotypes still present, both good and bad and also to find out what YOU really think.

Start Watching of New Lesbian Web Series from Brazil ‘RED’

The new Brazilian web series RED is now out – in Portuguese but with english sub-titles (perfect). We highly recommend you all start watching this slick new series that already has our pulses racing – addictive viewing.

RED is based in Rio de Janeiro, Brazil, and tells the story of two actresses, Mel Béart and Liz Malmo, that meet on the set of a short film called RED. The two women soon take their developing romance from the set, as Scarlet and Simone (Mel and Liz, respectively), to real life.

RED will have a total of eight webisodes in its first season, premiering weekly on Vimeo. It’s a lesbian-themed webseries independently produced and financed by its creators, Viv Schiller and Germana Belo, who were inspired by other great content shared within the LGBT community. Coming from a country where sexual diversity is timidly discussed, both writers felt it was time to create awesome content for [the local] people who want to see more stories that focus on same-sex relationships.

Viv and Germana pitched their idea to actor and director Fernando Belo, who decided to embrace the project. The producers started a campaign to raise R$ 7.000 (Brazilian Reais) through crowd funding for season two.

Watch the Teaser for New Brazilian Lesbian Webs Series ‘RED’

RED is the a new web series from Brazil. An 8 episode show, that has been pitched as a cross between a noir film of the 50s, with a modern L Word twist.

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The web series tells the story of Mel Béart and Liz Malmo, two actresses who meet while shooting a short film and end up taking their on-screen relation off-scree.

However, the show is not just a visual experience. What is interesting about this web series, is the creators plan to use social media channels to also tell the stories.

“RED also comes up with the proposal to bring its audience a broader way of experiencing the story you want to tell, through a narrative that, in this case, is not restricted to audiovisual and generates content on different platforms, such as social networks like Twitter and Instagram. This means that the viewer knows the story not only through watching, but also information that has access through these different means. Far from being new, is the fact that, today, still offers little in that direction when we consider what is produced nationally… “

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The series will be launched on the Internet in late September.

The LGBT visibility has increasingly been the subject of discussions, and film to large networks of foreign television industry, we see a growing investment stories with this theme. However, when it comes to the national media, this movement is still shy. Gradually television is opening space for these characters and stories, but we’re still taking its first steps in this direction. Projects like ours are very important to show the mainstream media that there is rather a large LGBT audience that wants to see represented in a realistic way, with respect and without lapse into caricature or traditionalist censorship. Enabling the first and second seasons of RED, we hope to contribute to the advancement of this discussion and to open more space for the LGBT audience in novels, TV series, movies, and others.

We hope this is the first of several projects developed by RED team. The success of our first few seasons will be opening doors to develop new series and movies, always addressing issues that we consider important to the society we live in, counted in order to enhance the experience of our viewer.

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What Straight People Think Lesbians Look Like

An interesting video. An original documentary by Girl on Girl – “What Straight People Think Lesbians Look Like,” is based on interviews conducted with 15 random people inn New York’s City.

The filmmakers simply ask them, “What do you think a lesbian looks like?”, the results are.. well watch for yourself.

Ten Killer Signs You’re with The Wrong Lesbian

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She is suspicious of everything you say and do, and constantly accuse you of violating her trust. BUT guess who’s going through your phone and hacking into your email?

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She treats you less like a partner and more like a possession. As in, she doesn’t care too much about who you are per-se, but who you are for/with/in relation to her.

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You suspect she likes hearing the sound of her own voice more than she like hearing yours.

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She disrespectful to your family. To your face. And she doesn’t think there’s anything wrong with that.

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She doesn’t need any personal space, and get upset/suspicious/offended when you express the need for it.

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She can’t take responsibility for her own emotions, and will always find away to take it out on you even if you had absolutely nothing to do with her bad mood.

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She is constantly disapproving and discouraging of your goals and efforts, to the point where you don’t even bother telling her what you want anymore since she’ll cut it down anyway.

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She doesn’t respect your time. Right NOW is the opportune moment for that tedious task / modelling project/huge argument, damn it.

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She fights dirty. Sure, fighting is a normal part of any relationship, but it’s pretty easy to decipher how someone really feels about you during a fight by the type of insults they hurl.

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No matter what you do, there’s always something not good enough, half-assed, or less than about your efforts. You always feel like you have to “prove” yourself and you’re always failing at it.

Today’s Topic – Breaking Down the Stereotypes People Have About Lesbians

Breaking Down the Stereotypes People Have About Lesbians

One: We all know each other. We don’t – there are 7 billion people in the world, and (give or take) 2% identify themselves as lesbians (according to some stats), add another 3% who say they’re bisexual women. Thats means there’s around 350 million of us women-loving-women. Now, I seriously do not know 350 million lesbians. Facebook tells me I know around 400 – hey I’m popular, but many of these are people I once met out and not friends, just associates. So conclusion – we don’t know each other, and before you start – I’ve not met you friend from school who kissed a girl, or your aunty Sue who now lives with Jan in 2 bed maisonette.

Two: In a lesbian relationship, one woman is always ‘the man’. Arrrrrgh my pet hate. We are both women, hence why we identify as lesbians. Get a dictionary if you need further clarification.

Three: Butch lesbians want to be men. Fat No! See above and then repeat – lesbians are women who love women. Butch, masculine women do not want to be men. A woman who identifies as a man and takes steps to transition into one. Butch women want to be just what they are: butch WOMEN.

Four: Lesbians are vegetarians. So because we don’t put a penis in our mouth, that must mean that all meat is off-limits? No. Not true – some lesbians love meat. Steaks, fish, southern fried chicken… mmmm. Some don’t. My diet preference doesn’t not determine our sexuality.

Five: Lesbians hate men. The people who constantly complain about men tend to be straight women. Lesbians don’t really care. If we want to be friends with a man, we will. If we don’t, its a non-stresser. Straight women need men for sex, we don’t.

Six: It’s easier to be in a lesbian relationship than a straight one. Ummmm.. why? Because women understand each other? What – did you meet my ex, or my ex before that? No relationship is ever easy, and just because you are both women, doesn’t make it any easier.

Seven: To be a lesbian you need to identify as one. Nope – there are many terms for us to use. Gay, queer, femme, butch, stud – we can label ourselves any way we choose.

Are Lesbians Tolerated more Than Gay Men?

When professional female athletes comes out, it’s treated as something of a non-event. However, for a man the story will make headlines for weeks. It will be a moral discussion, manhood will be questioned and support will be given to those who feel threatened.

Why? Because we live in a male-focused society.

Studies have shown that tolerance of lesbians tends to be higher than that of gay men, and lesbians are less likely to be targeted for violence because of their sexuality. Gay males are more likely to be targeted not just with verbal abuse but for crimes such as theft, vandalism, or violence.

A study in the UK found that LGBT teenagers are nearly twice as likely to be bullied by straight classmates. However, in young adulthood, lesbians and straight women faced about the same amount of harassment, young gay men were nearly four times more likely to experience abuse than their straight colleagues.

So what makes lesbianism so inoffensive? Lesbian relationships are often seen as not real relationships, because sex between 2 women is not seen as real sex because a penis is not involved. And to have real sex, you need a man.

It is also ok for women to be physically affectionate with each other (to a point) without attracting negative attention.

Switch that to 2 men being affectionate, and society freaks out. Men are ‘supposed’ to act a certain way, and anything hinting difference is mocked.

This also goes to dress – a women dressed masculine maybe hassled for looking like a ‘dyke’, but is less likely to be physically threatened, which happens to men wearing skirts.

So what does it boil down to. Simple – female invisibility. It might seem illogical to think of female invisibility as a good thing, but it does mean that women who don’t match what society expects of them can fly under the radar.

In contrast, the existence of male visibility and privilege means many men are denied the right to be themselves.

 

Our Top 10 Lesbian Primetime TV Kisses That Got Our Pulses Racing

From Willow locking lips with Tara, to Buffy star Sarah Michelle Gellar awarding kiss with Selma Blair, on to Xena: Warrior Princess and the underlaying love story with Xena and Gabrielle that ended with a kiss, through to new lovers Piper and Alex in Orange is the New Black; and Emily and Maya from Pretty Little Liars locking lips in Brookside, giving Britain its first ever pre-watershed lesbian smooch.

Here are our Top 10 Lesbian Primetime TV  Kisses that got our pulses racing…

1. Laura and Bo from Lost Girl – hot!

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2. Piper and Alex re-kindly things in Orange is the New Black – double hot!

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3. Willow and Tara in Buffy the Vampire Slayer – so sweet

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4. Sarah Michelle-Gellar showing Selma Blair how to kiss in Cruel Intentions

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5. Xena and Gabrielle finally kiss at the very end of Xena: Warrior Princess (we miss this show)

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6. Britanny and Santana in Glee – YEAH!

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7. The Good Wife and Kalinda one night with Lana

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8. Pam and Tara in True Blood – see hate turn to love

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9. The OC – Marissa & Alex first kiss

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10. Emily and Maya from Pretty Little Liars – Awwwww

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‘K&A’ – a Web Series Worth Watching

K&AThe KitschMix team have a new weekly passion, and it comes in the shape of K&A.

If you like Broad City, then you will love this. Set in the city of Boston, this comedy centres around Karly (straight) and Alex (lesbian), best friends since college, whose dysfunctional, co-dependent, drinking, and drug taking relationship impedes them from ever finding someone special in their lives besides each other.

Created by Katie Shannon and Katie Thompson, and starring Audrey Johnson and Ashley Elmi – this ‘no-holds-bar’ web series is a delight to watch.

The first episode premiered back in June, with episodes airing on a weekly basis on YouTube.