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How Many Lesbians Do You Know?

Its a FACT, the average person in the UK personally knows more gay men than lesbian women – a YouGov polling has reported.

Asking just two thousand participants from across the UK, the government poll revealed the average British person knows 5.5 gay men and 3.1 lesbian women, either as friends or acquaintances.

An as if the stats couldn’t get any better – the average man knows 6 gay men and 2.7 lesbians, while the average woman knows 5 gay men and 3.4 lesbians, according to the data.

This informative information was gathered by government body YouGov in a survey aiming to find a reasonable number for how many gays and lesbians there are in the UK.

Unsurprisingly, people who identify as gay, lesbian or bisexual are extremely likely to know many more, with the average gay person knowing 21.6 gay men, and 10.3 lesbians.

The survey also shows a geographical difference in the numbers of gays and lesbians the average person knows in the UK.

Londoners know a higher number of gay men than anywhere else in the UK, with the average spiked to 12.1, with the average person knowing 8.5 gay men and 3.6 lesbians.

Across the UK, the average person knows 4.8 to 5.5 gay men, whereas they know significantly less lesbian women, with the averages ranging from 2.5 to 3.6 lesbian women known to the average heterosexual Brit.

The government now estimates there are 3.6 million British people who identify as gay or lesbian.

7 Disney Characters That Have the Potential to be Lesbians

What is it about Disney movies that we love… Is it the message of being yourself? That the underdog that ends up on top? The idea good will triumph over evil? Or that there will always be a happy ending? For me its all of the above… Yet, while Disney movies funny loving entertainment, there has never been an OUT and proud lesbian, gay, bi or trans character in an animated movie.

However, this doesn’t mean there isn’t some closeted folks in the mix. Characters that Disney could have intended to be gay, or use gay stereotypes. So let’s take a look back and see exactly who are the most ambiguously ‘lesbian’ Disney characters… So here are 7 characters we believe have the potentially to be Lesbians.

DISCLAIMER: This is all up for interpretation and in no way should be seen as a factual representation of what the filmmakers intended.


 Disney-Lesbians-011. Terkina from Tarzan

Played by out lesbian Rosie O’Donnell, Terk was a girl which nobody had an idea was a girl when Tarzan was released in 1999.
In the film, Terk is a tomboy who hates dressing like a lady and has no interest in other males.

 

 


Disney-Lesbians-022. Elsa from Frozen

On the gay spectrum Frozen hits it big time for lesbian-reference. With her ice powers, Elsa is different from other people. Her difference is an occasion of fear and secrecy. Misguidedly, her parents teach her to “conceal it, don’t feel it.” This repression of her true nature leads to isolation, anxiety and finally a meltdown at Elsa’s coronation, at which she inadvertently ‘outs’ herself. Regarded with fear and revulsion by others, Elsa defies the society that has rejected her, and celebrating her acceptance of her true identity in the power ballad “Let it Go”. Also something to note, Elsa at no time shares her sister Anna’s romantic longings, nor does she show any interest in a male suitor or in being courted.


Disney-Lesbians-033. Miranda Wright from Bonkers

Miranda has a lot of strikes in the possible lady-lover category. Female cop. Serious lack of interest in traditional love life. Hangs out with insanely dramatic, possibly gay couple (Bonkers and Fallapart). Really, if it weren’t for the fact that she wears her hair long and uses a bra instead of an ace bandage, I’d say she here gayness was a cert.

 


Disney-Lesbians-044. Merida from Brave

After Brave premiered there was a huge furore over the idea the next Disney princess was a lesbian. They reasoned the only way a 14-year-old archer have no interest in getting married to suitors she had never met unless she was gay? While this was quickly disregarded as soon as they actually watched the movie, Merida still has a large gay and feminist following.

 


Disney-Lesbians-055. Nakoma from Pocahontas

I always thought Pocahontas and Nakoma were lesbians and had to keep it a secret due to Pocahontas’ betrothment to to Kocoum.
Nakoma is best friends with Pocahontas, and the two girls have been friends for a long time. Nakoma’s personality is a foil to that of her best friend. While Pocahontas is more free-spirited and mischievous, Nakoma usually tries to be more serious and responsible. She sometimes tries to act as the voice of reason to Pocahontas. However, her warnings often go unheeded, especially when she tries to stop Pocahontas from going to find John Smith.


Disney-Lesbians-076. Rebecca Cunningham from TaleSpin

TaleSpin was a spin-off to The Jungle Book‘s Baloo. It was also a cheesy attempt to create a safe “bad boy” character in the form of Kit Cloudkicker. While some claim Rebecca and Baloo have a love/hate thing going on, it’s clear that overall she is disgusted and annoyed by him, therefore opts to stay out of a romance.

 

 


Disney-Lesbians-067. Gadget Hackwrench from Chip and Dale Rescue Rangers

Gadget was the brains, and the beauty in Chip and Dale Rescue Rangers, yet she had a careless disregard for her femininity. She hung out with the cool guys, whose advances she more or less ignored over-and-over again, while solving crimes, fixing engines, and inventing awesome flying machines. Gadget is pretty much the lesbian backbone thats holds the group together.

 


Tinker Belles and Evil Queens: The Walt Disney Company from the Inside Out

From its Magic Kingdom theme parks to its udderless cows, the Walt Disney Company has successfully maintained itself as the brand name of conservative American family values. But the Walt Disney Company has also had a long and complex relationship to the gay and lesbian community that is only now becoming visible. In Tinker Belles and Evil Queens, Sean Griffin traces the evolution of this interaction between the company and gay communities, from the 1930s use of Mickey Mouse as a code phrase for gay to the 1990s “Gay Nights” at the Magic Kingdom. Armed with first-person accounts from Disney audiences, Griffin demonstrates how Disney animation, live-action films, television series, theme parks, and merchandise provide varied motifs and characteristics that readily lend themselves to use by gay culture… find out more


 

 

 

Showbiz’s Late Lesbians

It takes some lesbians a little bit of time to figure out that they are lesbians. Their suspicions might start with a few “signs” at school – they don’t fancy boys and/or they might feel attracted to a best female mate. Intolerant friends and family might dissuade them from expressing their true sexual identity at that age, but when they get older they realise they are free to be who they want to be.

Here are four famous showbiz women who took a bit of time to realise that they were queer.

Kelly McGillis, actress

She was one of the iconic faces of American cinema in the 1980s, her credits including Top Gun, Witness and The Accused. After a failed marriage in the early ’80s, McGillis settled down with a girlfriend, despite wrestling with guilt that her lesbian persuasion was somehow morally wrong. Things went terribly wrong in 1982 when two men burst into her house and sexually assaulted her and her girlfriend. Her reaction was to descend into drink and drugs, but she did emerge out the other end when she started making regular appearances on the lesbian TV show The L Word in 2007. Since 2010 she has been happily married to music company exec Melanie Leis.

Wanda Sykes, comedienne

Wanda Sykes admits to having queer urges in her childhood, but felt socially pressured to repress them. She did eventually come out at the age of 40 after a seven year marriage to the record producer Dave Hall, with whom she has two kids.

Maria Bello, activist and actress

Maria’s “modern family” consists of her beloved son, a close friendship with her ex-husband and a romantic pairing with her long-time friend Claire Munn, whom Maria only realised she was in love with when she was 45 years old!

Carol Leifer, writer and comedienne

Here’s another celebrity who didn’t realise she was a supporter of Sappho until early middle age. After dating such high profile gents as Jerry Seinfeld, Carol Leifer fell in love with her now-partner Lori Wolf when they were both in their early 40s.

We Put 5 misconceptions About Feminine Lesbians to Rest

Yes that’s right – we put 5 misconceptions about Feminine Lesbians to rest. So listen up…

1. They going through a phase

No, its not a phase. This major misconceptions that sadly many femmes have probably heard before. When femmes come out the whole world gets a bit confused. Those princess-loving, straight-looking girly girls that make the guys drawl just shouldn’t be lesbians – right. Wrong! Their lesbianism is permanent, and not a phase.

2. That femmes are masking their lesbian nature

Oftentimes, feminine lesbians face marginalisation at the hands of both LGBT and straight people. Why – well because they don’t look like ‘real’ lesbians, they’re copping out, and hiding their sexual preference to a homophobic society. Sometimes there’s an added assumption that they’re not ‘out’ in the community or are confused.

3. Ummm, femmes are passive… (cough)

Their is misleading stereotype that feminine lesbian sit in the background, legs crossed and eyelashes batting. If you think that then you are way wrong. While their some ladies out there who prefer their partners to take the lead, others are dominant.

4. Femmes are Superficial

Beneath the makeup and frilly dresses, femmes tend to be no more shallow than the rest of the population. Much like their girly straight counterparts, lesbians who slather on the lip gloss can be intelligent, kindhearted, AND open-minded.

5. Femmes are bisexuals in disguise

The decision to identify as lesbian or bisexual is a highly personal one. If women identifies as lesbian, them believe her. Appearance doesn’t dictate sexuality and neither should you.

What’s In a Name? A Quick Glossary of Lesbian Labels

What’s In a Name? A Quick Glossary of Lesbian Labels – It’s a bit of a conundrum: nobody likes to be labelled in a specific way, but at the same time people do have distinctive traits and find themselves belonging to different tribes and subcultures. This is especially true of lesbians, as our guide below reveals:

Dyke: A term that is typically only used by LGBT people. Some may be offended by a straight person using this term.

Power Dyke: A lesbian who has attained social status, either within the gay community, or in the wider world. AKA Suit or Power Lesbian.

Diesel Dyke: An aggressive butch. AKA Bulldagger.

Sport Dyke: A sport-loving lesbian who might wear baseball caps and running kit.

Baby Dyke: A young lesbian who might just be coming out of the closet. AKA Dyke-in-Training.

Blue Jeans Femme: She identifies as femme, or feminine, but tends to put on jeans and casual wear.

Chapstick Lesbian: She dresses down and eschews make-up. Coined by lesbian TV star Ellen DeGeneres. AKA soft butch or androgynous.

Lone Star Lesbian: She’s only slept with one person in their life.

Gold Star Lesbian: She’s never had nor ever will have sex with a man.

Lipstick Lesbian: She loves “girly” stuff like make-up and fashion, but fancies women as much as the next lesbian. AKA Femme or Fem.

Butch: She adopts traditionally masculine traits.

Stone Butch: She gets her kicks from really pleasing her partner, even though she doesn’t want to be touched or fondled. She does not like to be touched sexually.

Soft Butch: She’s butch in manner and style but softer and more feminine at the same time.

Pillow Queen: She tends to prefer receiving rather than giving sexual favours.

Boi: She’s biologically female, though boyish in mien and appearance.

Stem: Somewhere between “stud” and “femme”.

Kiki: Neither butch nor femme, this girl defines herself as something else. Originated from 1950s US bar culture. AKA Futch.

Stud: She’s dominant and often Afro-American.

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15 Facts ALL Heterosexual People Should Know about Lesbians…

15 facts ALL heterosexual people should know about lesbians…

  1. Just as heterosexual people can know they’re straight without ever having sex, lesbians can too. You don’t need to have slept with a woman to know you are gay.
  2. Not all lesbians are identified as butch or femme.
  3. Being a lesbian is not a phase, its just life.
  4. Lesbians are not necessarily attracted to all girls they meet.
  5. A girl can have long hair and still be lesbian.
  6. Lesbians hate it when straight girls experiment on them.
  7. Just because lesbians are sexually and emotionally attracted to women, does not mean they hate or even dislike men. In fact, many lesbians love men.
  8. Sure lesbians have sex, but like heterosexual relationships, sex is not all there is to lesbian relationships.
  9. Some lesbians haven’t met the right woman yet, but meeting a man has nothing to do with it.
  10. Lesbians love their mums just like the rest of the world.
  11. Lesbians are not as tough as we think.
  12. Being a lesbian is not the same thing as being a straight man.
  13. Asking a lesbian why she ‘doesn’t like men’ isn’t going to suddenly make her revaluate her whole life and sexuality.
  14. The word lesbian is used in the gay world if both are of the same role in bed.
  15. Lesbians simply rock!

 

Who’s Who of the World’s Greatest Lesbians

We take a look at some of the pioneers that paved the way for us all. Here is KitschMix’s ‘Who’s Who of the World’s Greatest Lesbians’


Sappho (610-570 BCE)

The ancient Greek poetess lived on the Isle of Lesbos – which is where we get our name from of course. Her verse celebrated love between women and attracted a legion of groupies and admirers. Her last poem was only discovered recently, hidden inside and Egyptian mummy. Sappho was living and practising a lesbian lifestyle some five centuries before the birth of Christ, so religious people who claim that LGBT behaviour is a modern sin are completely wrong.


Audre Lorde (1934-1992)

She was an inspiration to millions as – so she described herself – a “black, lesbian, mother, warrior, poet”. She fought prejudice on many fronts, opposing racism, sexism and homophobia as a member of many alternative lifestyle communities.


Del Martin (1921-2008) and Phyllis Lyon (1924- )

No two women have made a great contribution to lesbian media than these two. The Curve and The Ladder – two highly influential publications – helped to raise the profile of Sapphic activists in the 1950s. They also helped set up the LGBT advocacy group Daughters of Bilitis. Apparently their dinner parties were pretty amazing too!


Ellen DeGeneres (1958- )

Arguably America’s best-known lesbian entertainer, Ellen began wowing the crowds in her sitcom Ellen in the 1990s and hasn’t let up since. She came out in style by appearing on the cover of Time magazine and saying ‘Yep, I’m out!’


Cris Williamson (1947- )

Chanteuse extraordinaire Cris Williamson not only recorded a 1975 album, The Changer, that shifted half a million units, but set up her own record label Olivia Records. A devoted advocate of LGBT rights, she has done for lesbians in music what people like Freddy Mercury and Elton John have done for gay men in music.


Martina Navratilova (1956- )

When 9 time Wimbledon champion tennis star Martina Navratilova came out, lesbians everywhere had a new sporting idol. She bravely fled her homeland of communist Czechoslovakia to come and live in the US and win a record-breaking 167 professional singles titles. Whew!


Rita Mae Brown (1944- )

A talented screenwriter and novelist whose 1973 book Rubyfruit Jungle broke new ground in its frank and vivid descriptions of lesbian behaviour. She famously said, “I don’t believe in straight or gay. I really don’t. I think we’re all degrees of bisexual.”


Melissa Etheridge (1961- )

The Kansan turned a few heads when she burst onto the heartland rock scene in the early ’90s, but we can thank her for breaking a few barriers down in that traditionally conservative music genre.


k.d. lang (1961- )

Country and Western is even more conservative, so it took that scene a little while to get used to the Canadian lesbian singer-songwriter k.d. lang. It wasn’t difficult once they’d heard her ballsy lyrics and beautiful melodies.

‘Difficult Love’ in South Africa – Photographer Zanele Muholi Captures These Stunning Images

Zanele Muholi is a visual activist and advocator of black lesbian visibility in South Africa. She awarded globally her work with the queer media and ongoing photographic portrait series of black lesbians.

“What does an African lesbian look like? Is there a lesbian aesthetic or do we express our gendered, racialised and classed selves [sic] in rich and diverse ways?”

Zanele Muholi

Combining her passion for art and her commitment to addressing social injustice, she tackles the subject of LGBTI rights across the world, focusing primarily on her home country in order to redefine the stereotypes associated with gender and sexuality.

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Watch FÉMININ/FÉMININ – New Lesbian Web Series from Canada

FÉMININ/FÉMININ (or WOMEN’S / WOMEN) the brain child of writer and director, Chloé Robichaud and produced for Lez Spread The Word. It is a new lesbian web series, which is a docu-dramatic / comedy, and delves into the lives of six 20-something friends – lesbian, bisexual, and straight, who “live and love” in Montreal.

The pilot episode of Féminin/Féminin, (which you can watch in full with subtitles), below, has been released on Vimeo as a part of Lez Spread The Word’s fundraising campaign to finance the remainder of the series, which will total eight episodes and begin airing in June

5 Lesbian Archetypes at the Gay Bar

Go into any gay bar and you’ll find different kinds of lesbian barflies. Here are just a handful:


Gay Bar Hater: She’d rather be at home watching TV, but her mates have dragged her out and she is having an awful time. Here body language is negative: she’ll be tutting, rolling her eyes and frowning. She’ll be trying to drink her Bacardi and Coke as fast as possible in order to start enjoying herself – not that that will happen as long as she’s in the gay bar.


Under-Rager: Before she gets barred for drinking too many shots, the under-rager would have had sex with the hot peroxide blonde in the toilet. Usually has a black X on each hand.


 Plastic Dyke: Another common type, the plastic dyke likes to wear a bandana, tight trousers, studded belts and a blazer or bomber jacket. Her hair is fixed with various kinds of pomade and hairspray and she likes to pose as often as possible.


The Faux Straight: Her high heels and too-much make-up give off the signal that she might be too pretty to be gay, but appearances can be deceptive. In reality she can’t wait to be banged by the masculine gals and her eyes will wander in that direction while she sips her cocktail.


The Recent Convert: She’s just come to terms with who she really is sexually, but she’d very inexperienced. She’s enthusiastic enough but she has no clue about how to seduce a woman so every time she tries to subtly check out the talent, it is obvious to the whole bar what she’s up to. Having made the switch from straight to gay relationships, she sincerely hopes that every dalliance with a girl she has will be fulfilling, long-term and life-changing. How sweet and naïve!

What Lesbians Say, And What They Really Mean

Another very funny and insightful article, dusted off from writer Mila Jaronie archive. If you don’t speak fluent lesbian, then this should help – What Lesbian’s Say, And What They Really Mean.

P.S. This is article not exclusive to lesbians, but common enough phrases you might have heard before.


“I’m not ready for a relationship right now.”

What they mean: You’re not who I see myself adopting three cats and moving into a cold-water walk-up in Greenpoint with. Sorry.

Alternate meaning: I like you but under no circumstances will I be known as your girlfriend. I’m just not ready for that type of commitment. I still expect you to hang out with me/ text me/ hold my hand/ buy me shots, though.


“What? Nothing’s wrong.”

What they mean: You just f-cked up. Bad. Don’t talk to me.

Alternate meaning: Absolutely everything in my life is wrong! Try and get it out of me. Come on, you’re not trying. God, do you even care? Try harder. Ask more questions!


“Do you think she’s hot? I mean, it’s cool if you do…”

What they mean: Omg, you are mentally banging her right now. I can just see it. Just try to lie to me and say no, I dare you. Don’t think I won’t remember this when we go home tonight.

Alternate meaning: How do you think she would feel about a threesome?


What they say: “What are you talking about, I love your friends!”

What they mean: I would rather drink a pint of antifreeze than be forced to fake-laugh at any more of those corduroy-wearing d-bags’ lame stories.

Alternate meaning: I wish you would hang out with them more.


“I don’t want to talk about it.”

What they mean: If you even think about bringing this up again, we are over. I’m not kidding.

Alternate meaning: We need to talk about it. Extensively. You start.


“Why are you being distant?”

What they mean: Who are you thinking about right now?

Alternate meaning: If you’re going to break up with me just do it already! I’m not going to sit here patiently while you choose what words you’re going to break my heart with!


“What do you mean, what do I mean?!”

What they mean: Are you even listening to me? I just told you everything that’s wrong with my life in under two minutes and you ask me what I mean?? You really don’t get it? Ugh, I’m not telling you again. Why are we even together.

Alternate meaning: I don’t even know what I’m talking about anymore, I was kind of hoping you did.


“Babe, we need to talk. About us.”

What they mean: I hope you don’t have anything important to do within the next fourteen hours, because that’s how long it will take to get through everything.

Alternate meaning: I don’t know how to say this without admitting I went through your phone, but you’re in trouble.


“I was basically sober all night, I only had three beers!”

What they mean: I got completely sh-thoused and may or may not have groped the DJ, the bouncer and your best friend.

Alternate meaning: I got completely sh-thoused and may or may not have groped the DJ, the bouncer and your best friend. And I accidentally hit your credit limit. Oops.

Debauched Dinah Party Caught on Camera

This April’s Dinah Weekend (2014) in Palm Springs was a huge hit. Over five fabulous days, 10,000 lesbians rampaged around the desert having a gay old time. We loved the live music, we loved the parties, we loved the bikini-clad debauchery by the poolside.

The US’s biggest lesbian event attracted everyone from Mary Lambert to Tegan and Sara, the stars of The L Word. A lot of the fun was caught on camera and we present to you the choicest shots from off the web…

The L Word at The Dinah 2014

Leisha Hailey, Kate Moennig and Laurel Holloman at Club Skirts The Dinah 2014 – Exclusive interviews and behind the scenes footage. Dinah Shore Weekend, 2014 in Palm Springs.

The Dinah 2014 Promo “The Lesbian Book Club”

The Lesbian Book Club with Doria Biddle, Guinevere Turner, Mariah Hanson, Erin Foley and Gloria Bigelow. Club Skirts Presents The Dinah 2014 – the largest lesbian event in the world.

 

image: thedinah.com 

Meeting Other Lesbians – A Quick How To

Do you feel like you’ll never meet the girl of your dreams? Are you shy, not sure where to begin? Well here are some tips to help you meet some new lesbians.

  1. Be yourself. Being someone you’re not just to get with someone is a big no-no. If she doesn’t like you the way you are, then she’s not “The One”.
  2. Join a group. If you have an LGBT group local to you, join it. You will get to talk to people who are going through some of the same issues you are facing and you might find a date. Networking with others in groups based in your own city or town will help you meet others with interests like yours.
  3. Go out and meet girls. Keeping to yourself and staying at home will not help you to meet new ladies. You need to get out there. The more places you go to, the more girls you’ll see, so start introducing yourself to people. Bottom line: the more places you go, the more people you meet, the more of them are girls, the better your chances of meeting a girl you’ll want to learn more about!
  4. Do the things you love to do. If you’re into reading, go to the library or your local bookstore. If you’re interested in photography or art, take a class at your local adult school or community college. If you enjoy sports, look into leagues in your area and go out and join a team. Anyplace you go where things you love are happening, your chances of meeting the right girl increase. And, if she is there, then she and you will have something important in common. Bonus.
  5. Go Online. Get involved in LGBT groups online – there are loads of fun people to talk too. Using care and awareness, it might even be safe to meet one or two (in a public place at first).
  6. Put your best foot forward. Of all the steps here, this is probably the most important. If you seem angry, sullen, pouty or petulant, people will not be interested – too much drama. Instead, work on creating an outer aura of confidence and good humour and a friendly face. If you present yourself with assurance and a smile, you will definitely attract a more assured and optimistic woman. Remember, it’s much better to attract the sort of person who complements you, and is willing to make the best of whatever situation comes her way.

12 highly, highly irritating things lesbians do on social media

I saw this article and smiled, then realised half the things on this lists I actually do… sign. Orginally written by Sophia M T Carter for her blog ‘Anything Can Meaning Everything

(p.s. the picture is Miley Cyrus and not a lesbian, but I think you get my point for using it).

12 highly, highly irritating things lesbians do on social media

  1. Selfie after selfie after selfie and so on. They don’t even try and change their hair, makeup, clothes or even change the background.
  2. Selfies taken half naked….or even worse…in the shower. Why? Just why would you do that?
  3. Selfies taken in the shower when they probably should have stayed covered up.
  4. Selfies taken when they finally decided to dress and you think…shit…they don’t look any better……
  5. Selfies with a caption professing their vanity It always seems to be the less blessed ones, or captions saying they feel sad or lonely. Great idea here. Maybe…just maybe if you stopped taking so many photos of yourselves and got yourself outside you might actually meet some friends that would stop you feel lonely and sad?
  6. Status updates…CONSTANTLY! Shut UP! I don’t care that your girlfriend left you anymore, it may be a revelation, but I’m fairly certain that my news feed cant take it anymore We get it…your sad, but she left you a year ago…move on!
  7. Status updates about how they are newly Lesbian and they’ve found themselves and the one they love. I mean I really am all for that, but please stop posting pictures and how much you love each other and the PET NAMES (princess, pookie etc)….you are littering my fucking news feed and I really am sick of looking at it.
  8. Lesbians adding lesbians and lesbians and lesbians…until they end up with about one million lesbians on their friends list of who they don’t even know, and probably turn out to be creepy old men pretending to be female.
  9. The ‘I don’t give a shit about being single, I’m loving life’ …your fooling no one. I’m just saying.
  10. Professions about how many girls they hooked up with…if you have to say that to everyone all over fb or twitter, it looks kind of desperate…leading us all to the logical conclusion, your lying. You are not a ‘player’ you just do what the rest of us do, go home…alone…have a pizza and go to sleep.
  11. Use of language such as and I quote ‘rubbing fannys’ is gross…like do you actually have any sort of dignity…or respect for yourself?
  12. Lesbians who profess through instagram, twitter, facebook and god knows what else…that they live some kind of Miley Cyrus lifestyle. Breaks my heart to say it…but you don’t. Your not, nor will you ever be…Miley Cyrus.

Sunday Brunch – Harlem Renaissance with Gladys Bentley

As butches we have our own spectrum of “queerness”. We are gender-queers; in butch/femme relationships, in butch/butch relationships or no relationships; butches – as a gender option; butches comfortable being butches; butches comfortable being lesbian; butches comfortable being women, butches being comfortable being men.

from – The Butch Caucus

Gut Lightning from Twilight for Gladys Bentley (Fall 2012) from Adam Graetz on Vimeo.

In the 1920s Harlem was an open and accepting place for gays and lesbians. African-American historian Henry Louis Gates has described the Harlem Renaissance as being “surely as gay as it was black, not that it was exclusively either of these.” Black gays and lesbians, described in Harlem vernacular as being “in the life,” provided entertainment in the form of private parties, sometimes fund raisers, and sometimes private erotic events. In addition to the clubs of Harlem, private rent parties became a place where gays and lesbians could dance and socialize without fear of being arrested. Rent parties were private parties that people threw in their apartments to raise rent. Rent parties became places for gays and lesbians to mingle in relative safety.

Enter Gladys Bentley. Born in 1907 the Philadelphia native left home at 16 for New York. For Gladys, her lesbianism made her need to strike out on her own all the more urgent. As she would recall many years later in an Ebony Magazine Article, “It seems I was born different. At least, I always thought so….From the time I can remember anything ,even as I was toddling , I never wanted a man to touch me…Soon I began to feel more comfortable in boys clothes than in dresses”.

She began her career singing and playing piano at rent parties and the legendary speakeasies of “Jungle Alley” at 133 between Lenox and Seventh Avenue. She appeared at Harry Hansberry’s “Clam House” on 133rd Street, one of New York City’s most notorious gay speakeasies, in the 1920s, and headlined in the early thirties at Harlem’s Ubangi Club, where she was backed up by a chorus line of drag queens. She attracted gay, straight, black and white audiences.

What I love about her the most is she was a BUTCH lesbian. Bentley dressed in her trademark tuxedo and top hat. She flaunted her sexual orientation and reputation as a ‘bulldagger’ or butch lesbian. She openly flirted with women in the audience. She was a 250 pound woman dressed in men’s clothes (including a signature tuxedo and top hat), who played piano and sang her own raunchy lyrics to popular tunes of the day in a deep, growling voice while flirting outrageously with women in the audience.

Starting in 1928 (at age 21) she began a recording career that spanned 2 decades. 8 recordings for the OKeh recording company were followed by a side with the Washboard Serenader’s on the Victor label. Although on her recordings she did not dare have lesbian lyrics, she certainly played up this image in the clubs and in public. She married a white woman from NJ and used her fortune to provide them with an apartment on Park Avenue complete with servants and drivers.

In the 1930s the repeal of Prohibition quickly eroded the prominence of Harlem speakeasies. Furthermore, the Great Depression seems to have ended much of the “anything goes” spirit of tolerance that had pervaded in the 1920s. By 1937 the glory days of Jungle Alley were very much a thing of the past. Bentley (now aged 30) moved to Los Angeles to live with her mother in a small California bungalow. She was able to maintain some success, particularly during World War 2 when many homosexual bars proliferated on the west coast. Once again , Bentley carved out a niche for herself in this subculture and environment. Many lesbian women came to see her shows at “Joquins’ El Rancho” in Los Angeles and “Monas” in San Francisco, although on occasion she did have legal trouble for performing in her signature male attire.

In the 1950s McCarthyism swept the United States and it was no longer safe to be an “out and proud” butch lesbian bulldagger. Out of desperate fear for her own survival (particularly with an ageing mother to support) Gladys Bentley started wearing dresses, and sanitizing her act. In 1950, Bentley wrote a desperate, largely fabricated article for Ebony entitled “I am Woman Again” in which she claimed to have cured her lesbianism via female hormone treatments. Bentley became an active and devoted member of “The Temple of Love in Christ, Inc”. She was about to become an ordained minister in the church when she died of a flu epidemic in 1960 at the age of 52.

These desperate attempts to survive do not diminish her previous accomplishments. For many years, on a daily basis, she took risks that would not be common until the Stonewall era. In the last two decades, Rosetta Records has re-issued some of Ms. Bentley’s songs as part of various “Women in Jazz” compilations.