Safe Sex is a MUST whether a lesbian, gay man, or heterosexual. We all need to be conscious, so read, take it in and lesbians start practicing safer sex
- Remember, just because you’re not having sex with men… doesn’t mean you’re not having sex with men? Some women who identify as gay or bisexual have also had sex with men at some point. So, if you or your partner have had sex unprotected sex with a man your at risk for certain STDs.
- Dental dams do exist. The attitude towards these mythical sheets of latex seems to be ‘No one actually uses them’. However, if you’re looking to perform oral without actually exchanging bodily fluids then should be. And FYI, they come in flavoured varieties.
- Nail maintenance should never be underestimated. It’s not only a courtesy for your partner; it’s a safety issue. Any sexual activity that can lead to bleeding or cuts in the lining of vagina increases your risk, so keeping your nails trimmed will help avoid any unwanted accidents. Also make sure your hands are clean; wash them before, after and sexy.
- When it’s ‘that’ time of the month keep things in prospective. This is because diseases like HIV are passed through contact with blood. If both you and your partner are tested and in the clear, there is no need to worry.
- Toy etiquette. If you use sex toys or vibrators clean them thoroughly before sharing. Alternatively, use a condom or don’t share sex toys at all.
- Always be vigilant. Sexual health isn’t just about when you’re getting it on. You should always know what’s up, down there. You know your body, and you know when things are not “normal”, so if in doubt book yourself in with your doctor.
- Regular check-ups. The gynaecologist’s office can be a daunting place for all women, but it can be all the more daunting for gay and bisexual ladies. Especially since the usual arsenal of questions are based around heterosexual sex. However, you should have no fear. Remember, an open conversation will bring your doctor up to speed and let them know your history, avoiding these awkward questions next time around.
- When in doubt – get tested. The only way for you to know where you stand is to simply get tested.
- Honesty is always the best protection. So have a frank and open conversation with your partner. Even when it’s awkward/scary/weird – you’ll be happy you did.
- And last, but not least – take it seriously. Lesbian safer sex is not an oxymoron, sexual health is important for everyone, regardless of your age, gender, or orientation.
