11 Songs Every Lesbian Should Listen to When They’re Missing Their Girlfriend

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Sometimes, when we want to be with our girlfriend the most, we just can’t find ourselves in the same place. Whether it’s physical distance or unfortunate circumstances keeping you apart (don’t you hate when the girl you love is in love with someone else?), this playlist is sure to help soothe the pain of being alone. Let us know in the comments if there’s another song you think we should add!

Perfect – Doria Roberts

Doria Roberts has one of those soothing, soulful voices that helps to remind you of everything you love. The aptly-named “Perfect” tells a beautiful tale of the love that she has for her partner, which is likely to be the same love that you feel for yours.


Love And Affection – Joan Armatrading

While Joan has never come out as a lesbian, this song has been a favorite among lesbians since the ‘70s for its ambiguous and sexy feel. This is sure to bring some happy memories of when you and your girlfriend first started awkwardly flirting with one another (and it’s just as sure to be stuck in your head for the rest of the week).

Bring Me Some Water – Melissa Etheridge

If you’re missing your girlfriend because she’s in the arms of another, Melissa Etheridge’s powerful tune can help your misery find a little company. While I don’t advise you listen to this if your relationship is actually in a rocky place, but it can soothe your heart from the pain of her wandering eye.

Come Over Here – Sarah Bettens

Missing the lady who hasn’t come out yet? “Come Over Here” is one woman’s urging for her lover to take the plunge. If you and your lady are having a hard time being with each other due to disapproving family members, this song can help remind you that everything’s going to be all right someday.


Constant Craving – k.d. Lang

If you believe in soul mates, it can be reassuring to know that you’ll find each other again in the end. “Constant Craving” embodies your feelings for the woman who holds a part of your soul – whether intentionally or not. This song offers reassurance that your love will last, despite the odds. (And besides – who doesn’t love k.d.’s mind-blowing voice?)

Sweet Woman – Cris Williamson

If you’re more of a fan of the oldies, Cris Williamson’s supercharged tune about being in love with a woman will take you back to the good old days. Back in a time when it was risky to confess your feelings for a woman, Cris bravely announced her love for another and captivated our hearts. (Seriously, if you haven’t heard this song, listen to it – it’s beautiful.)

Our Purpose Here – Ferron

Another older tune, Ferron tells of missing her lover when she travels – something many of us have felt from time to time. Whether you’ve let your lover go or still let her hold your heart, this song might intensify the longing – be warned!

Sweet Darlin’ Woman – Meg Christian

Another song full of passion for women, Meg Christian sings of the “sweet darlin’ woman” she loves – and she’s sure to remind you of the woman you love. Although Christian has officially retired from the music scene, her voice still captivates listeners worldwide.

She’s So Lovely – The Butchies

What if you’re looking for something that’s just a little grungy? The Butchies deliver a strikingly rocking love song with “She’s So Lovely”. Although the screamed lyrics are a little tough to make out, lines such as “grab my hand baby I just want to talk/she’s so lovely, yeah” help bring the innocence to rock. Sweet melodies cranked out by powerful voices, The Butchies might just be your new favorites!


Will You Be There – God-des and She

For those who want more urban-sounding love songs, God-des and She helps put into words the desire for your lover to stay by your side, always. The vocals are beautiful, and the lyrics are just right when your relationship is in that awkward “will we make it through this?” confusion. (Pro tip: You will, if you both put forth the effort.)

Closer – Tegan and Sara

We couldn’t have a list of lesbian songs without including Tegan and Sara, of course – and this song helps to fill the void that exists between you and your partner, whether it’s emotional or physical distance. It’s peppy enough to dance to, yet sensual enough to get intimate to. What more could you want?

What songs did we miss?

If you have any other song suggestions for us, leave them in the comments – we’d love to take a listen!

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