I’m a woman, who happens to date other women.

When I walk down the street, people stare when I hold another woman’s hand. They question how we know each other.

They say things to us that they would never consider saying to a straight couple.

We are singled out because we are different. It’s weird though, because we don’t feel different.

I don’t think of my self as being a lesbian couple. I see us as a couple.

People have their own idea of what a lesbian relationship looks like, and if someone doesn’t fit that bill, then it’s really hard for people to understand.

And not understanding, apparently, opens the door for a line of questioning.

1. How do you… you know… do it?

2. Are you sure you’re a lesbian?

3. Which one of you is “the boy”?

4. What is scissoring?

5. Is it weird to have friends who are girls? Are you ever attracted to your friends who are girls? How do they feel about it?

6. But… you’re so pretty! You wear dresses. I don’t get it?!

7. How do you know you’re actually a lesbian? Like, are you sure?

8. But… you… but you… dated guys?

9. Do you fear what God will think?

10. My [insert friend, distant family member, or neighbour] is a lesbian, do you know her?

11. Is it because you hate men?

12. It must be so cool to have two closets and more makeup and shit?

13. Being with another women must be so much easier?

14. You’re attractive for a lesbian, aren’t you?

15. Don’t you miss real sex?

16. Do you hate straight people then?

17. I’ve always wanted to be a lesbian but I just don’t think I can give up sex with men, you know?

18. Did you choose to be a lesbian?

19. If you like girls who look like men…why don’t you date men?

20. Do you guys just use toys?

21. So can I watch???

22. Is that you sister? Cos you really look like sisters

23. I bet you really like Ellen?

24. Are you sure this lesbian thing isn’t just a phase?

25. Is your life really like the L Word?

26. Have you always been a lesbian?

27. I’ve never been to a gay wedding, can I come to yours?

28. Why do all lesbian dress like boys?

29. Oh so that’s why we didn’t work out?

30. I always wanted to be a lesbian, but…

31. Are you sure you don’t want to be with a man again?

32. Will you use a sperm donor or use someone you know to get pregnant?

33. You’re a lesbian? What a waste