Sex is such a diverse thing; there’s no right way to have it – you just have it.
Even when you’re in a relationship, the sex is not the same all the time; and even if you’re with someone forever, the sex doesn’t stay the same.
It grows and changes along with your relationship and you. It surprises you with something new around every corner.
1.The lazy kind of sex
Sometimes, there just isn’t any rush. You’re going to be together all night, all day and neither of you has any desire to be anywhere else.
Fingers linger a little longer. Movements become a little slower. There’s nothing frantic about this. You discover something new around every curve, in every shadow cast on skin, and nothing has ever been more fulfilling.
You know you can have it all for hours, and so you do, with breaks for food and naps and lazy, sleepy talking.
2. The “big date” sex, that doesn’t quite happen
You go to dinner, you go out, you talk forever, you throw all of your energy into the night and you couldn’t be happier about it. When you get home, you’re exhausted, and you lie next to each other, contemplating having sex.
In the end you simply fall asleep draped over each other, fully clothed and happier than you’ve ever been. You wake up the same way. Not having sex has never felt so good.
3. The passionate sex you forgot all about
The sex isn’t always the best thing you’ve ever had. Sometimes it’s just okay. You fall into a rut, having the same kind of sex in the same kind of way.
Then one day, completely by accident, you find the passion again. You’re doing something silly or something that brings you closer, and suddenly without warning, you start having sex. Then that suddenness, silliness and closeness jumpstarts the passion and reminds you, “Oh, hey. Here I am.”
4. The quickie sex
One person is completely dressed and ready, and then, all at once, she isn’t again.
It might make you late or it might mean you won’t have time for breakfast, but it’s worth it anyway — even if it’s quick. It just felt right.
5. The “just because you can” kind of sex
Sometimes you initiate sex just because you can, because you know there was a time when you didn’t have someone you could be close to like that whenever you wanted.
You want to cherish what you have now: amazing, mind blowing, sometimes underwhelming, not always satisfying, occasionally messy, incredible, how-did-I-ever-live-without-this-before sex.