I am one of those super weird people who does better in a relationship when it’s long-distance. That’s not to say I’m a bad girlfriend (or at least I don’t think I am), but I am definitely an introvert and I thrive on having my alone time. I’m also a hopeless romantic, and I don’t like the thought of not having someone to care for. What can I say – I told you I was a weirdo.
In my current relationship, we have more of a “part-time long-distance” agreement, and it works out pretty well. She goes out of town for a week or two at a time, and I stay home to focus on my work and my hobbies. It doesn’t work for everyone, but it works for us.
That’s not to say that long-distance relationships don’t have their own unique challenges, though. It seems like whenever I want to cuddle the most, she’s not really here for that. I think it has something to do with wanting what you can’t have, but I don’t really have any solid evidence there. I always end up buying her a ton of things when we’re apart, which isn’t so great for the bank account, but it’s a way for me to channel my affection and make sure it’s not completely squandered by the time she gets back.
Wondering what gifts you should get for your long-distance girlfriend that’ll let her know she’s on your mind even when she’s not near you? We’ve got 9 ideas to share today, and most of them are pretty inexpensive, too. Do you have any ideas we missed? Let us know in the comments!
1. Letters. Lots and lots of letters.
In the modern age of technology, it’s all too easy to just send a text and assume that conveys your message. But texting doesn’t really convey emotions, and it doesn’t feel intimate. A hand-written letter, on the other hand, tells a story. If you take the time out of your day to write a letter by hand, it shows that you really put some thought into it. And if you spray your perfume or cologne on it, too, it helps to keep you on her mind, too. Don’t worry if your handwriting isn’t that great – she’ll love that you took the time to try.
2. A scrapbook or photo album.
One of the biggest bummers of a long-distance relationship is that your partner isn’t there to share in your memories. Creating a scrapbook or photo album of the things that happened since the last time she visited you is a great way to let her be a part of your life, even when she can’t be there in person. If your arrangement is more like mine, try to make an album of your memories together for her to take with her when she goes. Either way, there’s something deeply intimate about photos that aren’t displayed on a screen – so give it a shot!
3. A jar of memories.
This one might take a little more to ship, but it’s sure to be an interesting surprise. First, find a nice-looking jar or bottle. It should have a wide enough mouth that things placed in it will come back out easily. Then, on small scraps of colored paper, write down some happy memories that you’ve shared together – such as “Remember that time you rode your bike all the way across town to see me at work?” Finally, cover the jar or bottle and write a short note that she should pull out a memory any time she’s missing you. It’s a sweet and inexpensive gift that’s all about the great times you’ve shared.
4. A shared journal.
One of my favorite long-distance gifts is a shared journal or smashbook. Of course, anyone who’s read more than a few of my posts probably knows that I’m big into journaling anyway, but sharing that journal with your partner is a great way to bridge the gap between you. One of you keeps the journal for a week or two, filling it with little tidbits about your day. Then, you send it on to the other, and she is free to read and add in her own tidbits, too. Once the two of you get back together, the book will serve as its own scrapbook of the time you spent apart – and you’ll cherish it forever.
5. One of your shirts or sweatshirts.
I know, it seems super cheesy, but there’s a reason that pretty much every distant couple ever has swapped shirts, and every spurned lover seems to hang onto one of her ex’s. You have your own distinct scent, and chances are your partner misses it! When you exchange something that smells like you, you’re tapping into the amazing powers of the Proust phenomenon – your sense of smell actually has a better memory than the rest of your body.
6. A book (that you’re also reading).
If you and your girlfriend are both avid readers, buy two copies of the same book, and have a little “book club” between the two of you. This is a great way to share an experience, especially if you choose one of the classics that are known to have powerful emotional impacts. But, even if you go for something shorter and funnier, you’re still going to be sharing a good book with your love – and isn’t that nice?
7. A personalized mug.
I’m not talking about going out and splurging on one of those engraved masterpieces they sell at the mega-malls – I’m talking about buying a simple mug and hand-painting it with a quote that means something special to you. After it’s painted, be sure to glaze it so that your quote won’t rub off. Then, every day when she drinks her coffee or tea, she’ll have you on her mind. Simple, sweet, and practical – it’s the gift-giving trifecta!
8. A romantic coupon book.
If you know you’re going to be meeting back up soon, why not make her a booklet of romantic favor coupons? They don’t have to be anything extravagant, but small tokens like a sensual massage, her favorite movie, and breakfast in bed are all great ideas. But what if you aren’t set to see each other for quite a while? That’s okay, too – send some sexy coupons and let her mull them over for a while. The sexual tension is sure to cause a stir once you’re finally face to face again.
9. A star in her honor.
Okay, so you can’t actually buy her a star, but the International Star Registry lets you claim and name a star. It’s totally cheesy and they have nothing to do with the scientific community, but how many people do you know who have a star registered in their name? They’ll even give you the coordinates so that you can look up at your star – a perfect way to bridge the gap between the two of you.