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My name is Sky, I'm from the States, but 2 years ago I packed my stuff and moved to England to write. Traveling is my passion, and I am determined to see as many countries as possible!

9 Types Of Lesbians It Sucks To Have Sex With

Relationships end for all kinds of reasons. Maybe people grow apart, maybe they want different things or maybe the sex is bad.

That’s right – bad sex is something many women actually end a relationship over.

So what type of women does it suck to have sex with?

1. The stationary lover

Why do some women feel the need to keep sex to one position and at the same pace? There’s a whole world out there.


2. The tongue-jabber

These women treat oral like it’s an assault, and when you make-out with them, they try to remove your tonsils with their tongue. Too much tongue action is will numb all body parts – It’s a vagina, not a deck that needs a new finish.


3. The look-me-in-the-eyes lover

Sometimes you want to close your eyes and think happy, sexy thoughts. But this lady removes you from your moment, forcing you to look deep into her eyes. While, yes this can be ‘hot’ with the right type of lover, there is a certain type of woman who seems to think that good sex can only happen with constant eye contact. It’s not always going to be soulful lovemaking.


4. The ‘limited’ dirty talker

Talking dirty is an art form, which you need to come prepared for. Just saying “wet” & “horny” 70 times gets me dry. Also, no one wants a slutty parrot in the room.


5. The fast-finger blaster

Treating my private parts like a video game will get you no-where. Chill. There’s no gold at the end of this rainbow.


6. The only-her-oral-obsessed woman – really, really!?

In my eyes, selfishness about oral is a cardinal sin. It’s in the fine print of the Ten Commandments. Look it up.


7. The orgasm chaser

We all deserve to come in our own time. I don’t need to hear “are you there yet, are you there yet, are you there yet”. This mantra is an orgasm turn off.


8. The period-phobic

Periods happen. Period sex can happen. Get over it.


9. The woman who simply doesn’t pay attention

Above all, the worst type of person to have sex with is someone who doesn’t pay attention. Ask. Communicate. Listen.


Question: Why Do So Many Gay Women Go For Unavailable Women?

As the stereotype goes, gay women have a tendency to fall not only for that straight friend, but other unavailable women too.

Wanting what you can’t have drives many of us crazy. So, why are we into people who just aren’t into us?

Talking to Huffington Live host Nancy Redd, Mo Welch, the comedian and writer behind “The Plight of Falling for Unavailable Women,” said the first woman she ever dated was on the night of the woman’s divorce, so she was “clearly not ready for another person.”

You have no idea how attractive unavailable women are. They are the most attractive and the most fun. It is wrong, but I’m very competitive, you know. I’m just trying to win,”

Jokes aside, some argue a dalliance with a lesbian simply allows straight women to flaunt having had a lesbian experience as if it’s some sort of avant-garde novelty.

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But Staceyann Chin, who wrote this piece on dating straight women for The Guardian, explained the “allure.”

I think that there’s some amount of, ‘I’m the only one that’s ever been there. I’m the one who made her do this. There’s that kind of sexy thrill. You know, romance is always … kind of anti-reality.”


Watch the full conversation here.


What Makes Female Masculinity Hot?

There is something about being in close proximity to a butch woman that makes me go a little fluttery inside – kind of melty and shy, and occasionally, bold.

Perhaps this is accentuated by the fact that butches are rare and precious in my particular corner of the universe, but when and wherever they cross my path, something within me sits up and takes notice – because I share the other side of the secret.

Be sure to read: 8 Weirdly Adorable Things Soft Butches Do That We Can’t Get Enough Of

I know the special magic that happens when female yin meets female yang, and the opposite polarity locks us together like magnets caught up in each other’s sway.

There’s nothing sexier than being yourself.

15 Awkward Moments Every Vegetarian Lesbian Will Understand

I stopped eating meat almost ten years ago. I made this lifestyle change after reading a book called Skinny Bitch and learning about what goes on in slaughterhouses and what goes into our food. The facts really turned me off. I also deal with chronic stomach pain, and since eating meat can be hard to digest, it was a health choice as well.

I’ve never regretted my decision to stop eating meat. Sure, I sometimes smell bacon and miss it. When my mom makes meatballs, I’m reminded of being a little kid and eating them before she put them in sauce (the BEST).

Going out to eat with my girlfriend would probably be a lot less complicated if there weren’t so many things I couldn’t eat. But I love my lifestyle choice and I don’t see myself going back anytime soon.

The worst thing about not eating meat is other people’s reactions (like so much else in life). I don’t know why meat-eaters are obsessed with people who don’t eat meat, but honestly, you all need to chill. I literally do not care what you eat.

Why do you care what I eat?

1. “Ah so, you don’t eat meat (wink, wink, nudge) of any kind.” – it’s a constant killer

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2. When everyone with you at a restaurant is trying to help you figure out what to order.

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3. When your friends want to share small plates at restaurants with the meat-covered hands.

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4. People who crack jokes about vegetarians because they think it makes them edgy and hilarious.

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5. Family members who don’t get it – “No I don’t eat fish, and yes I’m still a lesbian!”

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6. “So, what DO you eat? Salad?”

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7. Eating in France – “Je suis vegetarian” is hugely useless phrases.

Using this word can result in someone only feeding you lettuce, or someone packing thin slices of meat into your food and actually thinking that they are helping. It’s not their fault; the word itself simply does not translate well.

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8. When your new meat-eating girlfriend invites you over to their house for dinner, and you let her know you don’t eat meat, which makes her feel obligated to cook you something special.

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9. Or you don’t tell her, and then make her feel bad when you can only eat the side dishes.

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10. Going on road trips with non-vegetarians.

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11. When the waiter is hovering by your table listing off the (all meat) specials.

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12. The prix fixe menu. – “Hmm, which should I choose, the chicken or the steak?”

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13. When the token vegetarian entree is just a pile of roasted veggies, and you have to pay $18 for it anyway.

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14. Having to ask for the ingredients of EVERYTHING.

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15. You order the veggie chilli, take one bite, and realise that it has meat in it…

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New Breast Cancer Treatment Claims To Wipe Out Tumours In 11 Days

According to new reports, a breakthrough new treatment for breast cancer has been shown to wipe out tumours in as little as 11 days.

Doctors working on the trial have described the results as “staggering,” and claim a new, two-pronged approach could pave the way for unprecedented breast cancer treatment options.

The discovery was announced at the European Breast Cancer Conference in Amsterdam, with the UK team of doctors saying the fast-acting treatment could spare thousands of women from intensive chemotherapy sessions.

The 257 participants in the study were all women newly diagnosed with an aggressive stage of breast cancer.

Trials were carried out at 23 participating hospitals around the UK, with doctors prescribed a combination of two existing drugs, Tyverb and Herceptin, as soon as the women were diagnosed.

However, by the end of the trial, 87% of patients showed improvement thanks to the treatment, while 17% of the tumours shrunk considerably, and 11% had disappeared altogether.

The leader of the study, Professor Nigel Bundred, a cancer surgeon in Manchester, said,

For solid tumours to disappear in 11 days is unheard of. These are mind-boggling results.”

While this clearly marks a major breakthrough in breast cancer treatment, Dr. Bundred expressed he wants to stay cautious before it’s been proven.

These results are so staggering that we will have to run another trial to prove that they are generalisable. But it is clear what has happened – we are pretty certain that we are not only getting tumour disappearance – we are getting an immune response as well.

Now that sounds like something we can all get excited about.

Reasons Why Now Is The Best Time To Be A Single Lesbian

Perhaps there was a time when Valentine’s Day was actually kind of nice.

But today you’d be hard-pressed to find even the most romantic lesbian couple muster up the enthusiasm for what is essentially a mid-winter marketing ploy.

Now its all about the single status. The freedom. The entertainment. The women.

Sexuality is fluid, and so should the rest of our lives. So here are my top reasons for why now is the best time to be a single lesbian.

Careers are cool

We’re a generation of disruptors, problem-solvers, and self-starters, all of which is made us more difficult when you have to balance work with a relationship. Being single allows us the time and freedom to pursue careers we actually want.

Travel is easier than ever

Which means you can meet other singles from literally every corner of the world. This surely increases the odds of finding your actual soul mate.

Dating Apps

Say what you want about swipe apps and hook-up culture – they are as great or awful. Nothing wrong with having more options to meet people.

No one judges you

Similar to the point above, “settling down” isn’t the goal of life anymore. It’s becoming more common to assume people are single by choice, not circumstance.

You’re not a spinster by 22

The societal pressure on women to get married and have kids has eased significantly even since our parents’ generation. Be single longer, have fun,

and get that dream job; it’s all good.

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Historians Discuss The Often Under-Appreciated Queer Female Pioneers Of Our Past (Video)

To celebrate LGBT History Month in the USA, HuffPost Live talked with lesbian historians Lillian Faderman (author of The Gay Revolution: The Story Of The Struggle) and Bonnie Morris (Professor of Women’s Studies, George Washington University and Georgetown University) to celebrate the often under-appreciated women-loving-women pioneers,

The discussion is focused on lesbians’ roles in the Stonewall movement, Sappho, Jane Addams, the Feminist movements, and trace lesbian representation in pop culture.

Watch below…

Relationship Dilemmas: Escaping The Friend Zone

Do you often find yourself daydreaming that your BFF was actually your girlfriend? You get along so well and are a perfect fit.

How do you get out of the friend zone?

If you play your cards right an awesome relationship can follow. Fail and you risk jeopardising a wonderful friendship.

It’s a scary scenario. So how do you go about turning a friendship into the romance you always envisioned?


Be ready to stick it out. It is possible but it’s not going to be a short term thing. Telling this person upfront will only make things messy and awkward.

Make her jealous

When she is busy telling you about someone she likes say something like “that reminds me, there’s this new girl that I met the other day…” and then smoothly describe the story. Make sure the conversation flows smoothly. Do not let her know you have an agenda. Let the new girl appear slightly better.

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Become unavailable

Do not be too common. Keep your distance but always speak in a pleasant and brief manner when you meet. The point here is to confuse her in what is going on in your life. Make her spend time thinking about you.

Look Good

You probably know her standards. Exceed her standards and be incredibly desirable. Be bold and compliment her on her looks
when you meet. Flirt with her after arousing her interest. Tease her about her love life and her inability to recognise love when it’s right in front of her.

Pick the moment

Start by breaking the touch barriers. No more high fives. Go for lingering touches followed by eye locks. Now that you got all the preparations done with; choose a moment when you are alone and ask her out.

15 Surefire Ways To Kill Your Relationship

It would be nice to have some guarantee on the longevity of relationships, especially after all the work you’ve done to get into her in the first place.

Alas, there isn’t, and even the seemingly greatest lesbian romances are at risk when they’re not protected and cultivated.

Here are some things that will kill even the ones that started out amazingly well.

1. Taking each other for granted

You got her to commit, so now you can back off a bit on the effort, right? Wrong. Same thing goes for the other way around.

2. Bottling up feelings

It’s often easier in the moment to swallow small grievances, but the resentment that builds and the inevitable explosion later on is harder to get past.

3. Lack of general intimacy

Besides sex, intimacy includes being emotionally close, physically close, listening, and nurturing that bond all the time.

4. When one person denies sex

Sex is just a part of healthy romantic relationship, and if two disagree on what this means, things can go downhill quickly.

5. Being overly selfless

Yeah, giving and considering her needs is important and necessary, but so is taking care of ones self. No one wants a partner who loses her identity in a relationship.

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6. Being inconsistent.

Feeling all about the relationship one day and like you could do without the next day will only leave the other person feeling unstable and insecure.

7. Skipping dates

If the only time you spend together is on the couch at home, it’s easy to assume the feeling of restlessness is about the relationship, when it might just be about the routine.

8. Being condescending

There is a lot of learning to be had in a relationship; but not because one person takes charge. Nothing makes someone feel small like when someone they care about is constantly making them feel dumb.

Also see: 12 Types Of Lesbian ‘Non-Relationships’ You’ll Have Before You Settle Down

9. Breaking trust

Of course it’s possible to rebuild trust in the right relationships, but experience it too many times and that vow of honesty starts to mean nil.

10. Being selfish in bed

If your sex life is routine and you’re both going at it with the mind-set of taking care of yourself, it’s going to build a gap between you.

11. Denying the other in public

Healthy couples don’t mind that other people know that they’re couple. If one person shies away from being open about the relationship, they might not be ready to be in.

12. Holding grudges

If a conflict is discussed, apologies are made, and everything is back in order, no one should continue to carry around the anger about it. It’s like poison.

13. Being on different pages about life goals

A relationship can seem perfect in the moment, but if neither party is willing to make sacrifices about future plans then undoubtedly different paths will be taken.

14. Never putting away the devil’s advocate vibe

Ever argue for the sake of arguing as if you’re a lawyer or something? Yeah… that. Seeing both sides to a situation is great, but claiming the opposite of everything he says just to do it is different.

15. Constant complaining

Annoying things happen all the time, but usually when we’re with company we enjoy things like traffic or the wait at the restaurant don’t seem so important. When the small things threaten to ruin the night, they can start to threaten the relationship as well.

3 Reason Why Your Girlfriend Treats You Like Sh*t

Are you always annoyed and irritated at the way your girlfriend treats you? Does she make you feel like a slave, a child getting scolded by her mother, or a student being nagged by a teacher?

And it’s not like you did anything terribly wrong. You’ve been trying to figure out for ages why she’s like this when she loves you.

She just keeps throwing tantrums at you and complaining about everything. She disagrees with whatever you do and whatever you say. Nothing you do seems to impress her.

Well, these 3 reasons explain why girlfriends actually act that way.

You have a super close and comfortable relationship

Just like how people randomly get angry or ignore their family members over nothing, she feels that you are her comfort zone, so much so that she can do anything in front of you. You have always been gentle and accepting of her. You always forgive her behaviours even if you always get annoyed. Deep down, she knows that she can only do such things in front of you because you are forgiving enough, you cherish her enough and you love her enough to forget about such things.

Even if the whole world misunderstand her, she expects you to trust her

When she had a bad day outside, she grumbles to you. In the process, she may get a little too agitated and start channelling her anger towards. She can start complaining about you and keeps trying to pick a fight. She feels that everyone doesn’t have the need to know what she’s feeling inside but you have to.

When she starts complaining about you, it is probably because she thinks you are not listening to her story, not paying attention to why she’s in a bad mood and not comforting her. In the end, she is not treating you badly because she feels like it; she just wants you to empathise with her. 

She has super high expectations of you

This is why she is always unhappy about your performance. She’s easily picking out all your flaws because she believes that’s not all you have got. She thinks that you can be better or even the best. She expects you to always be the best you can, to try the hardest you can. Whenever you do something, she has secretly listed out her expectations, be it simple things like celebrating her birthday or serious things like a company project.

For example, based on her last birthday celebration, she will expect you to have a certain standard. And when you can’t reach that standard, she feels a little let down. It doesn’t mean she does not appreciate your efforts but she just can’t contain her disappointment.

And as they said – the greater the expectations, the greater the disappointment.

22 Annoying Things My Girlfriend Does

You might be one of those lucky people who are so in sync with their girlfriend that the world is on big happy place. Or (because you clicked this article) you might have just had it with her infuriating habits.

Don’t get me wrong, I love my girlfriend with all of my heart and soul, but I sometimes get annoyed with some of the things she does.

Things that just make me want to stop talking and just be angry in my own space because I hate being angry with her.

So what gives me beef about my GF…

1. When her pent-up frustration turns into passive-aggressive comments.

2. When she eats my organic food and replaces it with supermarket value food.

3. When she insists on talking to me while I’m studying, even when I have my headphones in and clearly don’t want to.

4. If I ever forget to tell her something that means I’m hiding from her.

5. When I’m on the phone and she suddenly decide to jam out to really loud music.

6. When she talks about our relationship problems on Facebook.

7. When she doesn’t acknowledge my efforts.

8. When she keeps texting during “US” time.

9. When it obviously I’m in a hurry, and she stop me to have a “talk”.

10. When she consistently forgets house keys and I have to get up to let her in.

11. When she obviously steals my perfume but totally denies it.

12. When I’m always the one who has to empty the garbage even though it’s mostly their trash.

13. If I don’t meet her sometimes, this means I’m not interested.

14. When she keep the lights on when I’m trying to fall asleep.

15. That she still friends with her ex, and talks to her about our problems.

16. When she doesn’t rinse the dishes.

17. When she never believes me when I say she looks good.

18. She will ask me what to wear but finally wear what she likes.

19. If I’m online and I’m not messaging her that means I’m chatting with some other women.

20. If I don’t say I love in a good night message, it means I don’t love her.

21. If I behave different, this means I’ve changed.

22. She can have a celebrity crush but I cannot.



Coming To Terms With Your Sexuality

Coming to terms with your own sexuality is always a complicated and unique experience.

There are a lot of opinions out there. Some will tell you what you are feeling is just a phase. Some will tell you that you are just second guessing yourself, and to let that idea go. Others will try to get you to believe that what they are saying is the truth.

Ignore them. Ignore them all. No one can tell you how to feel, or who to love.

The only person who can uncover the truth is yourself.

If you are struggling to come to terms with the fact that you might be gay, know that you are not alone. Many struggle with these exact issues. And there is a way to deal with it.

You need to spend some time to re-evaluate yourself.

Go somewhere quiet where you can be alone, and think. This is key! You need to think. Think about who you are, what makes you you. Remember all of the positive things about you, and know that no matter what your sexuality is, it does not determine your self-worth.

Imagining yourself as both heterosexual and homosexual – ignore social norms and figure out which one feels more natural to you. When you imagine yourself kissing someone, is it always a woman? Do you find women attractive, and in more than just a physical way? Which gender makes your heart race and palms sweat more?

Homosexual, heterosexual, bisexual, asexual, pansexual – they are all just labels used to describe types of love. Focus less on the labels and more on your feelings.

How you feel is more important than how other people might label you.

Coming to terms with your sexuality takes time. It won’t happen over night. You’ll go through some emotions, very similar to the Five Stages of Grief.

1. Denial – “No, I’m not gay. I can’t be.”

2. Anger – “Why is this happening to me?”

3. Bargaining – “Maybe if I experiment a little I’ll find out I’m not actually gay…”

4. Depression – “I can’t believe I might be gay”

… until finally you come to the most important stage:

5. Acceptance.

Accepting your sexuality (no matter what it is) is a profound experience. It’s this moment where your mind suddenly becomes crisp and clear.

You stop, and realise that, yes, this is your sexuality and that it isn’t that bad. When you accept your sexuality, you will feel this huge weight lifted off of your shoulders. Suddenly, everything falls into place. All your problems have a source and all your feelings have a reason. Suddenly, you can’t stop smiling.

Some people have always known that they were gay. It takes others a long time to come to terms with their own sexuality.

No pace is wrong, or too slow. You have to take your time and really feel confident in yourself.

No one can tell you what to be. If you’re gay, you’re gay! You cannot decide to be gay or straight. You can only decide how and when you will accept your sexuality.

And when, and if, you accept your sexuality, it will feel amazing.

Like everything in life, there are things you cannot change. You cannot change your sexuality. You can only change your reaction to it. If you choose to accept that you are gay (or straight, or bi, or whatever), it is a huge step in your growth as a person that needs to be celebrated.

It’s your right to love; no one has the right to tell you otherwise.

Things You Learn When Your Long-Term Relationship Collapses

Yes, relationships are great, but they also destroy the parts of you that are necessary to function in the single world.

The ending a long-term relationship is just like being born. It’s painful, loud, and once it’s over you’re left screaming at a world you don’t understand.

There’s a lot of stuff out there about how to get over your ex, but I’ve found zilch that speaks the truth of having half of your personality cleaved away from you.

So here are some arbitrary lessons I’ve learned since becoming newly single.

No one really cares at an utter mess you’ve become

Sure, your friends will pat your back, and your parents will start calling you more, but fundamentally, hearing about your romantic failings, is as compelling to the average happy person as opening a gas bill. Someone else’s gas bill.


There hasn’t been a good photo of you taken in half a decade

This is something you’ll realise pretty quickly while setting up a Tinder account one hung over one Sunday morning. All photos are couple shots. Loved up, embracing, couple photos.


No one wants to have sex with you

Relationships are great, but they also destroy the parts of you that are necessary to function in the single world. They make you lazy. In the past sex was always available. You may not have capitalised on this, but you knew it was there. Now you have to work for it. You have to make an effort. Groom, pluck, scent, and preen.


You don’t want to have sex with anyone anyway

It’s not that no one wants to have sex with you when you’re just out of a long-term relationship, but it’s also that you might not want to have sex with anyone anyway.


The dating scene has completely changed

You’re five years older, and the women around you are five years younger. They dress differently, they smell differently, and they communicate differently. You’re lost in this new world, and there is no one there to guide you through it.


You’ve forgotten how to flirt

Seriously. What the hell is flirting? As far as you can tell it’s like talking, but… sexier, somehow? Jesus Christ, you’re fucked!


You’ll go out but fail to make new friends

When you’re finally out of the house and in a club, you don’t talk to anyone. Instead, you end up the person standing in the corner of the club staring into the lights and then looking at my hone, hoping that somebody finds that irresistible.


You release you friends are forever, REALLY

Seriously. Get some buddies. They’re great. They’ll haul you out of the abyss just by farting into your voicemail.


You accept you’re fatter, greyer, and less exciting than you were before

You’re single. Showers are now optional. Your ideal date is binge watching Netflix shows alone on your sofa. Your sweaters are too tight. Your jeans are too wide. People say that’s getting older, but you getting older is something you do as couple, not when you’re single.


15 Things You MUST Know Before Dating A Sarcastic Woman

The universal truth about dating is this: People want what they think they can’t have.

I’m not saying this is good. I’m simply saying we all like the chase, and we all enjoy being kept on our toes a bit.

Dating is a game, and I think sarcastic people have a natural edge over the competition.

Well-crafted sarcasm is attractive, because it demonstrates intelligence, a sense of humour, emotional IQ, confidence, style and an edge of sassy flirtation.

You can’t help but gravitate toward the hilarious woman who can hold her own, make people laugh and win over the hearts of the crowd, which very well might be your friends.

BUT, be warned sarcastic people can be a nightmare to date (yes, I admit it).

Here are a few things you should know about dating a sarcastic woman:

1. They’re always messing with you

Don’t take it too seriously. They’re playful, like cats with laser pointers. You’re the cat and they’re the laser pointer. Just take the joke and throw it back, okay?

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2. Mean comments are displays of affection

There’s nothing more intimate or affectionate than me calling you an asshole and kissing you afterwards, trust me.

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3. They remember everything

That time you tripped, spilt your drink… shut your finger in the door. They like to keep their joke bank fresssssh, so don’t think that anything goes unnoticed or is off limits.

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4. They come off cocky, but it’s a front

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5. If you don’t know if they’re joking, safe to assume they’re joking

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6. They ARE laughing at you, but that’s because they like you

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7. They have soft, gooey centres under the hard exteriors

They’re only this sarcastic because they have many layers of depth and feelings. For every mean thing they joke about, they have five more nice things to say about you.

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8. If they ignore you in a big group, it means they like you, yes you, the one their not talking to

They’ll never be the ball and chain, and the more they ignore you, the more they can make eyes at you and mouth “I hate you,” which is basically a sign of head-over-heels, stupid crazy affection.

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9. “I hate you” means “I love you”

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10. They will say something really mean and immediately wish they didn’t say it

It’s almost like sarcasm is this involuntary reaction and they. Can’t. Stop. Being. Sarcastic.

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11. They will occasionally say something incredibly sincere, but you won’t notice because you’ll think they’re being sarcastic

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12. They actually have a lot of feelings

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13. They’re bad with making the first move

They truly, honestly do not know how to give you the signal that they like you or that they care about you. They are hoping you will see through their sarcasm and see they’re basically dying for you to notice them.

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14. Being sincere doesn’t come easy

So when they get serious, you need to pay attention. (Or like cherish it or whatever).

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15. In the truest reality, you’re dating a sensitive, affectionate, loving lady

Sarcastic girls are really the sweetest girls. Just shut up about it, okay?

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10 Signs You’ve Found The Woman You Should Settle Down With

There’s one thing we’re all chasing after, and that is love.

Falling in love is like coming home. Your worries are quieted and you feel protected in your partner’s arms. And when you’re deep in love, it’s hard not to picture the rest of your life with that other person.

But how do we know for certain that it’s real forever and not just a fantasy?

Here are the ten signs you’ve found the woman you want to spend the rest of your life with:

1. You don’t need to pretend

Good days and bad days, you can totally be yourself — whatever mood you’re in — and she always thinks you shine. She understands who you are and doesn’t expect you to be anyone but yourself. There’s no pretending. You can lounge in stained sweatpants and not formulate sentences; she gets it because she’s right there with you.

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2. At the end of a really bad day, all you want is to be with her

No matter what kind of crummy mood you’re in, you’d rather be with her than be alone. She will always patiently listen to you, while you speak your mind and she won’t invalidate your concerns with her honest feedback. Her confidence and passion positively influence your own, which makes your relationship all the more exciting. You want to be near her, always.

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3. The attraction is more than just physical

Physically, emotionally and mentally, you two are compatible on all those levels. The chemistry between you both is powerful enough to block everything else out. Even doing the littlest things together, such as running to the grocery store, feel more special because she’s around. You can’t keep your hands off each other and you certainly aren’t holding back.

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4. You want to share every experience with her

When you envision your future, she has a major role in it (and vice versa). The idea of spending the rest of your life with her doesn’t scare you. Being by her side is where you feel most comfortable.

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5. She not only listens to you, but she also hears what you’re saying

She can read between the lines and anticipate your needs without you having to communicate them all the time. She knows what you are trying to say without having to always explain yourself. You help each other grow and become the people you want to be.

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6. You have the same idea of romance

Whatever your definition of romance is — intimate dinners, long road trips, cuddling in bed — she shares in it and will go the extra step to make that happen.

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7. You love more than you fight

It never feels good to fight because you care too much about her to hurt her. The compromise always seems like the best option because you both can be happy. But at the end of the day, you really can’t stay mad at each other for long.

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8. Your happiness is her happiness, and vice versa

You know she’s the one because she’s good to you in ways that you’ve never thought possible. She wants what’s best for you, even if it comes at a cost to her.
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9. She accepts you as you are

You’re messier, louder and maybe less funny, but she loves you for it. She makes you feel good about all those things you might dislike about yourself.

She knows everything about you — good and bad — and appreciates both because it’s all part of who you are.

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10. She lets the world know you’re her true love

She brags about you to her friends because she’s so proud to call you her own. You would brag more, except everyone already knows how enamoured you are.

You are hers, she is yours and suddenly it all feels comfortingly simple.

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The Rise of Casual Sex Between Women

New York Magazine recently reported that Americans are now more OK with casual sex than they were in the 90s.

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According to the data from the nationally representative General Social Survey of 33,380 Americans over 18, 37% have had casual sex in the past year, compared to 32% in the 90s.

In addition, Americans have had more sexual partners over the course of their adult lifetime now than they did in the 90s.

There are a lot of reasons these more relaxed attitudes exist.

The media are more open about same-sex relationships.

There has never been more sex in mass media than there is now — and that’s a good thing because we are no longer viewing sex as a something shameful, secretive or taboo.

Sex has always been a normal part of everyday life, but now that normality is reflected in the media, too.

Even more so, being confronted with these images of sex and sexuality in the media forces us to have conversations about them.

Also read: The 10 Best Things About Being a Lesbian That No One Tells You

Feminism gives women more choices, especially when it comes to sex.

For women, the most important component about modern-day feminism is choice.

Thanks to feminism, we can choose our careers, our motherhood status and our skirt length. Most importantly, we can choose how much sex we want to (or don’t want to) have.

No longer are women expected to remain virgins until marriage. No longer does the number of people they’ve slept with define them.

The Madonna-whore complex has been rendered bullsh*t, and the reclaiming of the words “slut” and “whore” has given women freedoms they’d never before experienced.

Today, when it comes to sex, anything goes.

The Western World is less religious.

Religion might be great for a lot of things, but sex-positivity is not one of them.

According to data from the Pew Research Center, 20% of Americans are not religious.

With religion comes a perspective on sex that’s generally of the more conservative variety.

The fact that Americans are less religious means they aren’t adhering to beliefs that cast sexuality in a shameful light.

When you don’t affiliate yourself with a religion, you’re free to make your own decisions about your sex life without any reservations or guilt.

The boom of the Internet makes sex-related information more accessible.

With the rise of the Internet in the past decade, it’s never been easier to search for anything sex related, including how-tos, advice and, yes, visual stimulation. And by visual stimulation, I mean porn.

Statistics over the years have exaggerated exactly how much porn is on the Internet, but that doesn’t discredit porn’s effect.

Out of the top one million most popular websites on the Internet, about 4% are sex related.

Information about sex on the Internet may not always be reliable, but this doesn’t stop people from seeking it out anyway.

Also read: 5 Common Misconceptions About Lesbians

Dating apps make it easy to find sex.

Tinder, GayDar Girls, Her – if you think of a word and awkwardly tweak the spelling, there’s probably a casual sex app with that name.

Thanks to these dating apps, we now treat sexual prospects like we treat weekly food shop.

Much like you’d browse through veg at supermarket, you can browse through prospects in your bedroom, on the train, at the club, on the toilet — literally anywhere.

Seeking out sex has never been easier or more convenient, which further normalises it.

Instead of the “walk of shame,” it’s called the “stride of pride.”

A one-night stand is officially no longer a “walk of shame.” Now, it’s a “stride of pride,” which gives casual sex a whole new positive meaning.

We no longer live in a world in which you should feel guilty for engaging in sex with another women. You get it. Just let your freak flag fly.

7 Struggles Lesbians Who Hate Flirting Know to Well

When we think of women flirting, we often see the toss of the hair, the bat of the lashes, the intense gazing, and the seductive finger trail down the cheek…


But for me, this behaviour is utterly bewildering and foreign. I was born with an innate inability to be flirtatious. No, I’m serious. I feel like (and look like) a pathetic, lost puppy when I make even the faintest attempt at being flirty.

So to all my flirt-averse sisters out there, I present 7 struggles all lesbians who hate flirting know to well:

1. You address and treat every woman like your homeboy – no matter how attractive she is or how totally into her you are.


2. You have one signature flirt move, which most women don’t pick up on. Mine is a 5 second gaze, then avert


3. The awkward hand hover, which means your hand never comes to a complete rest on a women’s body when you communicate. You’ll never touch her shoulder, rest it on her knee, or give her a real embrace.


4. When a cute woman flirts with you, it’s a fate worse than death. As soon as she gives you that half smile and intense eye contact, you are like a rabbit caught in headlight. Your heart starts pumping in your ears. Your mouth refuses to smile back. And all you want to do is run.


5. You start speaking in riddles. If you actually do make it to the point of a “flirty” conversation, you’ll blurt out the most random of statements, like by answering her question about your plans next weekend with something like, “So, do you prefer Bing or Google?”


6. You over analysis everything, because even if you do flirt, you don’t do it right. If you do (by some miraculous aligning of the heavens, make a semi-successful flirty gesture or comment to an attractive woman) you’ll later agonise over how lame you actually sounded.


7. You feel awkward around women who are hyper-flirty. Did she just bat her lashes and laugh at that unfunny joke? How does she do that? And now look; she’s with the woman I like.


Lesbian Problems 101 (Video)

99 problems, getting pregnant ain’t one! But being lesbian can sometimes sucks – from understanding women, to texting, threesomes, complex friendship dynamic, The L Word and more.

Every lesbian goes through these problems. So watch and relate…

Watch more great video from the The Gay Woman Channel – they rock


27 Lesbian Rites Of Passage We All Go Through

What is a Lesbian’s ‘Rite of Passage’. Well basically its the rituals that marks your transition from a baby dyke, to a former baby dyke. Simple

1. Coming to terms with your sexuality

2. Lying to your parents about your “friend” staying over – eeeek

3. Hooking up with your ex, and then telling yourself its not “complicated”.

4. Changing your Facebook relationship status to “its complicated”.

5. Pining over your ex for way too long.

6. Obsessing over your online dating profile before you publish.

7. Checking up on someone you’re still hung up on.

8. Staying with someone for all the wrong reasons.

9. Crushing on your best friend.

10. Falling for a straight girl.

11. Felling complete despair after your first big break-up.


12. Spending an excessive amount of time processing your feelings.


13. Hooking up with a co-worker.


14. Hooking up with a friend’s ex.


15. Hooking up with an ex’s ex.


16. Completely losing your sanity over a crush.


17. Not making the first moving, and then watching as your best friend makes it instead.


18. Too much eye contact, and zero conversation.


19. Divulging too much information on a first date.


20. Accidentally texting the wrong girl.


21. Accidentally texting the right girl the wrong message – cringe.


22. Changing your wardrobe in order to become more “GAY”.


23. Changing yourself for the person you’re dating.


24. Taking too many selfies when you’re single.


25. Then taking too many ‘welfies’ when you get into a relationship.


26. Getting a Bieber hair cut.


27. Telling your best friend you fancy her.

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10 Mistakes ALL Lesbians Make (Video)

Head held in shame, because most of these mistakes apply to me. Ok – ALL apply to me.

Yes, I’ve continued to live with my girlfriend after we broke. Yes, sex toys have caught me out. Yes, I’ve dated my ex girlfriends best friend. And yes I over analysis everything. Need I go on?!

Curious to see more of Arielle Scarcella’s videos? Check out “Lesbians Explain: Sleeping With Men” and “Once You Go D*ck… You’ll Never Get Chicks.”


15 Signs You’re Dating a Lesbian Sociopath

Here’s a fun fact – according to clinical psychologist Dr Martha Stout, 1 in 25 people are sociopaths. Which means there is a possibility that you may be dating one, or there is a chance you’ve come in contact with one in the past.

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Note, not every sociopath is psycho criminal, but they are definitely no fun to have around. Our advice? Take a look at this list of signs that your significant other is a sociopath.

1. They tend to lie, quite a bit.

Pathological liars, is what they are. When they get caught in one of their many lies, they will blame someone else, change the subject, become very angry, or point out your flaws. Just know, they’ll never admit to their lies.

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2. Lack of connection to their past.

This will not be noticeable from the beginning, but after some time you will realise “hey, I don’t know anyone from their past. Hmmmmm.”

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3. They are super charming.

When you meet them, their words and attentive stare will instantly attract you. However, it is only superficial.

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4. They’re oozing with sexual charisma.

Sociopaths have more testosterone than others. They attract you to them like a magnet, and they are also much better in bed.

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5. They have an oversized ego.

When you meet them, they will probably inform you of their accomplishments, winning attributes, and any other reason they are so very amazing.

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6. There is never any remorse or guilt.

They don’t care. They hurt you? Oh well, not their problem.

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7. They come on very strongly.

They are slightly overbearing and need you to be aware of their intense desire to be around you.

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8. They lack maturity.

They’re very immature and childish.

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9. They socially isolate you.

They want you all to themselves, and try to cut you off from the rest of the world. This will make it a lot harder for you to leave.

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10. They always have a lot in common with you.

They seem to be your soul mate immediately. They somehow have everything in common with you.

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11. They always blame others.

They never take responsibility for their actions. It is always somebody else’s fault.

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12. They’re kind of obsessed with you.

They are slightly overbearing and need you all to themselves.

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13. Oh, the dramatics.

They are usually the life of the party because of their dramatic displays. Every story is a theatrical monologue.

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14. They always play the victim.

Even when they tell you stuff about their past, all of their stories are skewed to make you think “awwww, poor kid.”

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15. They like to move a little too fast.

Sociopaths like to move a little quickly. They trust you from the beginning and try to start a relationship immediately.

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10 Tips to Get You Though Running into Your Ex Girlfriend

Cara Delevingne and St Vincent – real name Annie Clark – are believed to have been dating since last December and things are clearly going well.

This week, the duo were spotted partying up a storm in Cannes, where Cara mixed business with pleasure by bringing the Annie along to the lavish Chanel dinner at Tetou restaurant in Antibes.

However after the event, the two made their way to Gotham nightclub in Cannes, but there was some awkwardness as Cara’s ex Michelle Rodriguez also showed up.

Crunch moment. What to do?! But it got us thinking, how do you handle running into you ex?

1. Smile, a LOT. Remember, a smile is a curve that sets everything straight.


2. Quickly run inside the closest washroom to see if your hair is looking stellar! Make sure you’re looking ‘ultra hot’.


3. Try not to talk to her about her recent holiday. You already know the gossip; having seen it plastered all Facebook and Instagram.


4. If you’re still single, then just totally avoid talking about relationships; focus on other things like your awesome job where you just got a big promotion, or that fantastic exotic vacation you recently took. Make sure she knows that being single can be lots of fun too!


5. You could also pretend to be dating someone way hotter (*jealousy* works wonders)


6. If it was a bad-breakup then maybe being nasty is also not a bad idea. Reserve that smirk for this moment.


7. Most importantly, stay calm! Take a deep breath and talk with a lot of confidence! ex-gf-cara-17

8. And be ready with an exit plan. And yes, you should be the first one to evacuate the scene. Pretend a fake call maybe!


9. One fool proof option to avoid any type of awkwardness: Just…run away!


10. Or you could act a little mature about it. Catch up briefly and just go your own way!


The Best Response You’ll Ever Read to ‘How Lesbians Have Sex’

A perfect response to the time old question ‘How do lesbians have sex’ – well here is the answer from Buzzfeed’s Flo Perry – This is How Lesbians Have Sex

Step 1: Take off your lesbian attire.

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Step 2: Talk about your feelings.

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Step 3: Get yourself some scissors.

Step 3: Get yourself some scissors.

Step 4: Cut your bra right off.

Step 4: Cut your bra right off.

Step 5: Burn your bras.

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Step 6: Hold hands, but not for too long.

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Step 7: Introduce your cats. (You can hold hands if you feel the urge.)

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Step 8: Get out the biggest dildo you own.
This Is How Lesbians Have SexStep 9: Sword fight with your dildos.
This Is How Lesbians Have SexStep 10: High five your gal pal! You did it!
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Step 11: Remember to put back on your lesbian attire, and you might need to buy a new bra.
Step 11: Remember to put back on your lesbian attire, and you might need to buy a new bra.

So now the age old mystery of how lesbians have sex is finally solved! You’re welcome.

5 Reasons Why ‘Hook-Ups’ are a Poor Excuse For a Date

So we live in the world Hook-Ups – where you meet a person and suggest go grabbing a coffee or a drink, instead of asking some out on a date. You must have heard the line “I’ll meet you at the bar,” which sounds so lame – well unless you’re Shane from The L word that is.


Now I’m not a fussy dater. I’m not always expecting a multi-course meal at a five-star restaurant, but for a first date, I am hoping for a place that offers something a bit more than muffins, free WiFi and my favourite brew.

Here are my top five reasons why we should get rid of the Hook-Up dates once and for all:

1. It makes me feel like you don’t think I’m worth a real date


Asking someone out for drink is just an easy way to ask someone out without really asking someone out. For the people doing the asking, there is virtually nothing to lose.

If they get rejected, they can simply use the cop-out that it was never actually a date.

If they manage to lock down the date, it’s a very straightforward thing to plan. If it goes badly, they can know, rest assured, no effort or resources were wasted.

2. It results in a lot of confusion as to what this “meet-up” is


“Let’s grab a coffee on Monday” via text message is easily the most nonchalant way to ask someone out. It’s to the point I’m not even sure if this is a real date.

Did you just friend-zone me? Are we just catching up? At least with dinner or some other date-like activity, both parties are (usually) fully aware of what the outing entails.

3. It’s a little too casual


I’m all for casual dates, but the local lesbian bar is too casual for me. It’s nosy, we’re near to your ex, my friends just walked in, and now I’m not exactly motivated to strike up engaging conversation.

If we’re on this date, it means I’m at least slightly interested in you. I want to look good for our date, and I don’t want to stick out like a sore thumb next to a plethora of people in sweats.

The environments of Starbucks and other quirky coffee shops are made to be casual. They are supposed to encourage studying and “hanging out,” rather than nervous and excited conversations by first daters trying to look desirable.


4. It has an inevitable short time frame


There are very few people in this world who can drink one single drink for more than 20-30 minutes, so you have to order a second to prolong a date – which means you face the risk of appearing to be a lush.

I suppose having a guaranteed out within 20-30 minutes is a pro if the date goes badly, but if I’m going on a date in the first place, I’m hoping it’ll turn out well.

Also, we are so fast-paced in every other aspect of our lives, we don’t need or want our dating lives to be as such. I want to take my time, and I want you to take yours. If you try to tell me you don’t have the time for more than a simple coffee drink, you certainly don’t have the time to take this relationship to the next level.

The drink date is limiting – the longer you go, the drunker you get. And the drunker I get the more I forget. So I forget all the the good stuff – the life stories, the experiences and the passions.

5. Drunk kiss or no kiss


A (sober) first kiss is awkward enough without it being along a line of people waiting at the bus top outside the coffee shop in pure daylight. Unless your drunk, and by now all you rules i.e. ‘you’re not the “type” to kiss on a first date’, gets blown out of the water.

The majority of our generation favours casual hangouts and hookups rather than actual dating, but the coffee date blurs the line between what is “real” and what is casual.

I, like many girls I know, am done wasting time trying to figure out whether our coffee meet-up or “study sesh” was considered a date or not.

Hooking up is fine, but if you’re into someone, do her a favor and take her on a real date. This way, there will be no overanalyzing what your intention is.

7 Tips For Handling Relationship Insecurities

We have all felt unworthy of love. Our insecurity make us see problems where they don’t exist, turning what can been successful relationships into a short-lived, dismal failure.

Find out how to get over relationship insecurities and have a better relationship.

1. Stop thinking it is all about you


A self centred world view will have you chasing boogeymen where they don’t exist. Stop psycho-analyzing every word choice people make and be more present in the moment, so you can notice the message behind their tone, physical presence, and posture. Obsessing with hidden meanings is a sure-fire way to miss the point. Having that overwhelming urge to fill every second of silence with needless words is a habit of an insecure person.

2. Stop psyching yourself out


Your thoughts can be your relationship’s best friend or worst enemy.  Have you ever found thinking negative thoughts like, I know they’ll get sick of me someday? or, How could they love me?

These thoughts have little to do with reality, but a lot to do with fear. In other words, the problem you are concerned with doesn’t exist — you invented it! Any time you find yourself feeling insecure about your relationship, tell yourself, “The thing I’m worried about only exists in my head. I have full control.”

3. Stop lugging around all that baggage


Ever been in a relationship so terrible that you would love to just wish it all away so you never have to think about it again? Join the club. You’ll be hard-pressed to find a person who doesn’t have a bit of baggage because this love thing is an unpredictable (and sometimes rocky) ride. A little baggage is totally okay, but you need to lighten your load before jumping into any new relationship. Let go of any left-over hurtful feelings that might be lingering and realize that your new relationship is a new opportunity to put all of that behind you. The lovely thing about life: you can re-start as many times as you need to!

4. Stop seeing things in black and white


How do you react when someone blames you for something that you don’t think is your fault? Survey says: you get defensive. Likewise, confronting your partner over a problemno matter how obvious it may be to youwill most likely cause them to become defensive. This usually leads to a knock-down, drag-out fight that is the opposite of productive because you’re both too busy trying to prove you’re right to resolve your conflict. If you have a problem, don’t immediately point the finger, but instead approach your partner with compassion and understanding. Be comfortable in the fact that neither of you is fully “right” or “wrong.” The true answer lies somewhere in the middle.

5. Stop feeling paranoid over nothing


Let’s face it: we all talk to people of the opposite sex. Just because a boy and girl (or boy and boy, or girl and girl) are friends doesn’t mean there is more to the story. Avoid the temptation to snoop your partner’s phone, Facebook messages, or email account. While this could temporarily calm your nerves when you see nothing afoul, it is also a behavior that could quickly become addictive, not to mention damaging for relationship trust when they find out Big Brother is watching.

6. Stop putting off uncomfortable conversations


While conflict is stressful for your relationship in the short-term, it will build the strength of your relationship in the long-term. Facing your problems without fear will help you grow closer to your partner. Never mince words with each other and you will develop trust so strong that you can tell your partner anything that is on your mind.

7. Stop being dependent on anyone but yourself


Having someone to hug, kiss, cuddle, make love to, and share your life with is nothing short of wonderful. But before you march off into the sunset in search of love, you need to learn to love yourself. Just like you shouldn’t invite a friend to your home while it’s a disorganized wreck, you shouldn’t invite a partner into your life while it is in disarray. Take care if your inner-house before you invite anyone else to it.


5 Ways to Electrify Your Sex Life

We can all use some fresh ideas to spice up our love lives. So, here are 5 approaches I found useful

Surprise a lover with a new experience

New experiences energise us. Sharing them increases intimacy, making hot sex more likely. So rent an erotic film, plan a trip somewhere romantic, or organise a couples massage.

Use role-play to engage your imagination.

People find it invigorating to become someone else for a moment, to act in ways they normally wouldn’t. It can be exciting to do things that you may have only dreamed about.  Role-playing can give you the freedom and the permission to act out in ways that are out of character.

Plan a trip to a sex-related entertainment destination

Visit a burlesque club, see a stripe club show, or visit a fetish club. Go with an open mind and make sure you stay long enough to make that initial uncomfortable anxiety disappear.

Read an erotic story

Find a new book that is written about sexual experiences you have not yet experienced. When you have done so, write out a fantasy or two of your own.

Spending time examining the experiences of others can give us saucy new ideas. Some of the things we read will bore us, others might make us cringe, but usually there will be something that captures the imagination and gets our own creative juices flowing.

Note: When writing, remember that you are doing this for yourself, so don’t spend too much time obsessing about how well you are writing, how good your grammar is or if your spelling is diabolical. You can worry about all of this if you decide you are going to share what you write with others.

Visit a sexy lingerie shop or a sex shop

Push yourself out of your comfort zone and actually ask the sales staff about the toys you have never even considered looking at in the past. Looking online is not the same, as you cannot interact with others directly and actually see and touch the toys (and learn how to use them). If you are too embarrassed to go on your own, consider going with your lover or a really close friend.

Finally, enjoy yourself

Take the time to make the most of all aspects of your life. You deserve to have an electrifying sex life, and you can create one with some courage, imagination and persistence.


Single You vs. Relationship You and 7 Things You Said You Wouldn’t do

Single You told yourself you wouldn’t become one of ‘those girlfriends’ who neglects all other responsibilities, dumps their relationship issues on others, drops out of parties, and neglects their personal goals for a relationship.

But here comes Relationship You, and you’re in love, and sometimes its really worth putting these things on hold – right?!

So regardless if you’ve been in a relationship for two weeks or three years, here are all the things Single You said Relationship You would never do.

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1. Shacking up and playing “house” all weekend

You used to hate that one friend who couldn’t come across town to hang because she was having too much fun cooking and cuddling with her girlfriend.

Now you ARE her, and you get it. And what can you say? The option to not leave your couch sounds better.

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2. Bringing girlfriend drama out with you

No one wants to hear about the latest soap opera that is your relationship, let alone make you feel better about having a girlfriend when their single. Relationship You should know her audience better.

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3. Giving up plans with your friends to attend your girlfriends aunt’s birthday

While you could have been eating and gossiping with your mates, you are instead doing it with OAPs – long gone are the frills and spoils of a carefree single life, doing as and what you please.

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4. Referring to your partner in every story

It’s like you don’t live separate lives anymore. This used to scare Single You and made you say harsh things like, “She’s not her own person.”

But now, it makes you feel good to have each other’s backs and say things like, “I get to hang out with my best friend.”

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5. Referring to yourselves as a “WE”

This one always made Single You especially bitter – women who are part of a couple and thus, need to refer to her other half as a “WE.”

And yet, here you are, answering people’s questions about your weekend plans almost instinctively as “Us.”

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6. Staying in because your girlfriend isn’t going out

Nooooo – your internally pouting. This one takes guts to admit, so at least you’re not totally betraying your moral high ground.

Single You knew how to spot one when she saw the “I’m not feeling well” excuses coming on.

You’re not trying to get all dolled up for no one’s attention. There, you said it. You can go back to rubbing your boy toy’s back now.

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7. Posting to many “wefies”

Vacation pics are already upsetting to everyone who isn’t there.

Why make it worse by showcasing lovey-dovey, vomit-inducing pictures of you and your boy making out? Single You would have called you out two Snapchat stories ago.

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Figuring Out You’re Bisexual

So, how do you know if you’re a lesbian or bisexual? Its actually a big question to ask yourself. However, you’re not alone in asking this – a lot of women find themselves questioning their sexual orientation at different stages of their lives.

The truth is that no one, but yourself can find the answer to this question. It’s YOUR identity, and no partner, parent, friend, mentor, or stranger can figure it out for you. Sexuality is often very fluid. Its is a moveable feast and many people move across a continuum during their sexual lifetimes, with heterosexual on one pole and homosexual on the other. In addition, orientations change over time — sometimes temporarily and others permanently. So, don’t worry too much about being right and finding the right answer.

Even people who identify as strictly homosexual can find themselves in a situation in which they are aroused by heterosexual images or by a heterosexual experience. Or fantasise about genders and sexual experiences that they would not actually physically enjoy in reality.

Then there are the people who identify as homo-flexible or hetero-flexible. Homo-flexible are people who are sexually attracted to people of their own sex, but there are certain situations in which they might be attracted to those of another sex/gender. Hetero-flexible people are primarily attracted to people of the opposite sex, but on occasion they may have a sexual interest or encounter with someone of the same sex. These are often classed as bi-curious women, who occasionally become sexually involved with other women, but who would not have a full romantic relationship with another woman.

There are those who identify as bisexual who lean toward one pole or the other, and tend to confine their serious relationships to either homosexual or heterosexual, but have shorter term liaisons or relationships with people falling toward the other pole.

In the middle are those of us who are closer to 50/50 in our orientations. We come close to equally preferring partners of our own sex and partners of another gender. Many of us find that it is the energy and connection that determines the large part of our attractions.

There are those whose gender orientation is fluid as well and this interacts with sexual orientation. Fluid gender orientation means that the person does not identify as strictly one gender all of the time. He may identify as male some of the time, female some of the time, feel like a mix of the two some of the time or identify as being without a gender.

At the end of the day, you don’t need to label yourself unless it’s what YOU want and it helps YOU. There’s a wealth of info about coming out as LGBT on the internet. We especially recommend the Queer Youth Network website, RH Reality Check or the Both Directions booklet from BCN.

If Women Were Themselves On A First Date

As cliché as it sounds, being yourself is probably the best way to ensure you not only have a good time on a first date, but also get a second date, too. That said, there are a few dos and don’ts to keep in mind when hanging out with someone totally new— remember, it’s all about making a solid first impression…

If Women Were Themselves On A First Date

What Lesbians Do After A First Date

On a side note you should also follow Arielle Scarcella on YouTube she puts up lots of great content that lesbians can relate to as well as has many videos that  help others understand what being a lesbian is like.  She also believes in being body positive and is a huge activist in the LGBT community.

SeX.ED 101 | Vagina Confidence

Vagina. When was the last time you said the “V” word out loud and didn’t feel a little self-conscious?

In an age of skin-baring pop stars, crazed internet porn and the sexualisation of women, it seems ironic that vaginas are still considered the most taboo area of human anatomy.

So, why is it still so hard for women to talk openly about their vagina?

It took me while to feel comfortable with my vagina, and to even look at it. I used to think it was something to be hidden and ashamed of. But, in time I learnt to see the wonder in vaginas, especially in other women, and in time I saw that pleasure in mine.

According to a study in the U.S, women who feel confident and comfortable about their vaginas have more sex and get more head.

Body confidence is important. All vaginas are beautiful.

Did you know…

Vagina directly translated from Latin means sheath or scabbard. But its name is constantly changing over time. The most universal nicknames for vagina is pussy, muff, cootch, twat and c**t.

Australian feminist and scholar Germaine Greer once said that the latter “is one of the few remaining words in the English language with a genuine power to shock”.

C is a recognised word and can be found in various English-language dictionaries including our own Macquarie dictionary, where it is defined as “the female genitalia” as well as “a contemptible person”.

In various indigenous languages it is referred to as “nungle” and “kuckles” (also the name of a Broome-based band).

In French it is called “la chat”, “tarte au poile” (hairy tart) and more politely, “le foufoun”.

The dubious colloquialism “hokey” is used to describe a loose foofa. According to the urban dictionary, the term is derived from the song The Hokey-Pokey, meaning you can put your left leg in and shake it all about.

TV show host Oprah Winfrey even has a name for it – the vajayjay.

Then there’s foofa, box, pink, cock massager, one car garage, sperm dumpster, hoo-ha, axe wound, lady bits, china, vulva, blossomful of nectar, muffin, toolbox, velvety love folds, pastrami meat flaps, pin cushion, catchers mitt, cuckoos nest, the wound that never heals, bearded clam, beef curtains, tunatown, vertical taco, bajango, catpipe, nozzle trap, bushburger, front wedgie, meat hole, fanunu, pecker wetter, dirty south.

Come to think of it, maybe vagina isn’t so bad after all.