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Stephanie Meyer

About Stephanie Meyer

Born and raised in Indiana, Stephanie spent the last seven years in Los Angeles while working her way through film school.Since graduating four years ago, she’s been working as a freelance writer while pursuing her screenwriting and novel aspirations on the side. Her freelancing career has varied from ghostwriting non-fiction e-books to travel and novella writing. She loves learning about new places and writing about them in hopes of inspiring others to get out and travel the world. She currently lives in the Philippines with her girlfriend and ever-growing pack of pups.

Breathe! … And 5 Other Things Brides Forgets To Do On Their Wedding Day

It’s your big day… you’re going to marry the woman of your dreams. And no matter what kind of calming pre-wedding rituals you’ve decided to try (and let’s face it, you’ve probably tried it all), you just can seem to calm those butterflies in your chest, much less remember if you’ve forgotten anything regarding the ceremony.

So chances are you’re probably not even thinking much about taking care of yourself.

What’s a bride to do? Here’s a look at 6 things brides to be tends to forget to do on their wedding day.

Breathe

How can something as basic as remembering to breath be an issue? Well, with all of those nerves and excitement, you may find that taking a breather for yourself…even for a moment is something you may forget to do. You definitely don’t want to be known as the frantic bride. So step back, relax, and take in a deep breath throughout your day.

Take Time for a Snack Break

Food is your friend…no really. Do you want to be fainting from hunger during your wedding vows? Probably not. So be sure you have a few snacks throughout the day if sitting down for a meal isn’t an option. It’s even a good idea to assign someone to “snack patrol” so that you’ll remember to eat and feel great for those “I do’s.”

Spend Some Time With Your Friends

They can be a calming source for you as well as your go to support system if you feel like you’re about to have a nervous breakdown. Plus it’s always good to acknowledge their love and support of your big day.

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Take Time For Yourself

You’re likely going to be surrounding by everyone involved with or in the wedding as you go through last minute preparations. A moment alone to collect and calm yourself is a must during all of the mayhem. And while you’re taking that moment…remember that breathing tip.

Remember What the Day is About

Between the family, friends, dancing, and celebrating…don’t forget that this day is for you and your wife. It’s a day where you are celebrating your togetherness and love for each other. Nothing and no one else really matters in the grand scheme of things but the two of you.

Appreciate the Moment

When it’s all said and done, you are getting married to the woman you love. Don’t forget to appreciate and savor every moment. From her walk down the aisle to your first dance…take the time to cherish and remember the moments with your new wife.

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Tackling the “Terrible Twos”

Every parent has heard about it… when their little angel of a toddler suddenly becomes a tantrum throwing, not so angelic hellion on two feet…also known as the “terrible twos.”

Some experts argue that the terrible two phase is a myth and simple a stage in a child’s development. But if you and your partner are currently going through such a stage in your child’s life, it’s definitely a valid issue.

So what can you do if your child is seemingly entering the terrible twos and you’re both at wits end trying to figure out how to deal with it?

Here are some worthwhile tips to help you tackle those terrible twos and restore a bit of needed peace and serenity to your household…

Have Patience

This may be easier said than done, especially if you’re dealing with an unruly toddler who is throwing an abundance of tantrums and mood-swings with no foreseeable end in sight. While being patient might be the hardest step for you and your partner, it’s also the most important.

This means not only recognizing that you child is going through a stage, but also acknowledging that it will pass and that anger isn’t going to solve anything. Take some deep breaths, don’t respond to the moment with anger, and if you must, walk away for a bit.

Know Your Child’s Eating and Sleeping Patterns

As adults we get moody and even sometimes grouchy if we are hungry or haven’t gotten enough sleep. Children are the same way. Your child is learning about the world around them and their place in it…even at the young age of two.

Lack of sleep or missing a snack may trigger tantrums more easily. That’s why it’s important to make sure you keep your child on a consistent sleep and eating schedule.

Enforce Consequences

You can’t be a total softy with your child and expect those tantrums to just magically go away by giving them whatever they want. Giving he or she consequences when they are misbehaving is useful not only for the current terrible two phase, but also in their later development.

They will be much more disciplined and have better behavior if they know they will have to endure the consequences from bad behavior. Lay down the ground rule and make sure your child realizes the consequences if those rules are broken.

For example, if he or she pulls hair or hits when angry, let them now these actions are not acceptable and they will have a “time out” or whatever form of consequence you feel is appropriate.

Don’t Forget to Praise

This goes hand in hand with enforcing consequences when your child is misbehaving. If he or she does something that exhibits good behavior, for example putting away their toys without being told, then you should give positive reinforcement.

Acknowledge the good behavior with praise. Your child will remember your positive reactions and want more of that out of you in the future.

Turn Terrible to Terrific

With conscious effort from you and your partner, you can help transition your toddler out of the terrible twos stage. Give your child choices, praise them when they have done well, and follow a daily routine as regularly as possible.

With choices, your child will be less likely to start an argument. With positive reinforcement, they will be more likely to repeat the good behavior that garnered praise from the mommies.

And with a regular daily schedule, you’ll be less likely to find yourself in the middle of a tantrum because of a missed nap or because your child is grouchy from being hungry.

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Tying the Knot? Make Sure Your Girlfriend Has These Qualities Before Marrying Her

You and your girlfriend have been together for a while now. Things are going splendidly.

You’re head over heels in love and even contemplating taking that big step of getting married.

Marriage…otherwise known as a lifetime of commitment and devotion to each other. But before you decide to jump into the matrimonial bliss, first it’s time to take a step back from things and make sure your girlfriend truly is the one you want to marry.

Often times we can be blinded by lust. And while lusting can be quite fun, you also have to make sure your girl has the qualities you’re looking for in a future wife. So before you two tie that knot, let’s take a look at qualities to look for in each other.
Does your girlfriend…

Share Your Beliefs and Values?

This doesn’t mean she has to share the same religious beliefs (or lack thereof), but it does mean that she should have respect for your views.

It definitely does help to have some of the same moral and ethical beliefs though. Believing in the same things…like coffee as a morning necessity, for example, can make life a whole lot easier on the two of you.

Like to Learn New Things?

Spending your life together can get pretty boring if you aren’t learning from each other as well as trying new things. If your girlfriend is okay with the same old routine and isn’t one for changing things up, then you may have a problem down the road. (Unless you’re not a change sort of girl either, then it may work).

But your relationship will only grow and flourish with learning together. So make sure she’s up for trying something new…whether it’s traveling to an exotic destination or taking up a new hobby together, never stop trying new things.

Trust You (And is Trustworthy Herself)?

Trust is one of the most important things for a relationship to survive. If your girlfriend feels like she needs to check your cell phone 24/7 to see if you’ve been texting your ex or is always jealous of past relationships or even other women passing you by on the street, then you may have a problem.

Trusting each other is vital, and if she doesn’t trust you, or gives you any sort of reason not to trust her, its not likely things will change once you get married.

Willingly Make Compromises?

If your girlfriend is willing to forgo staying in to catch that next episode of her favorite TV show that she’s been dying to see all week in order to accompany you to your favorite artist’s concert (even if she isn’t really into the artist), then she’s probably a keeper for life.

Let’s face it; relationships are about compromise and not always getting your way. And if you’re both willing to compromise to make each other happy, then your relationship will stay healthy and happy as well.

Love Your Flaws?

And do you love hers? You’re not perfect, and neither is she, but does she embrace your flaws and imperfections, or does she always point them out and dwell on them? Your girl should find the beauty in your flaws.

It’s the beautiful quirks that make you who you are. If she doesn’t appreciate those quirks and thinks she can change who you are, then she’s not worth holding onto.

Have the Same (or Close to the Same) Sex Drive?

Being sexually compatible is always a plus when it comes to your relationship. If you and your girlfriend are completely off when it comes to each other’s sex drives…like you want to be constantly doing it like rabbits and she’s totally fine with making love once a week…then you have a problem.

And while sex isn’t the only thing you should base a future with her on, it’s still quite important. You should be with someone who has a similar interest in sex as you do.

Make You Happy? (…like you can’t stop smiling when you see her…happy?)

Okay, maybe you don’t have to be smiling every second of every day, but she should at least give you a feeling of true happiness.

Of course there are going to be bumps in the road along the way, but at the end of the day, do you look forward to being in her arms and feeling that genuine sense of pure content that comes with loving her?

If so then make sure you hold onto her tight and work together to keep that happiness vibe flowing!

 

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Gettin’ Busy: Tips for Revving Up Your Sex Life After Baby

You’ve brought that precious bundle of joy home and the two mommies couldn’t be happier. But… you realize your sex life has been lacking (or maybe it’s basically nonexistent).

Between late night feedings, diaper changes, and work schedules, there’s no doubt that sex may definitely drop down on your priority list after your baby is born. Exhaustion and the stress of your new responsibilities as mothers tend to win out over making love.

Not to mention giving birth can leave you feeling sore, dry, and feeling not very desirable to your partner. Don’t worry…most new parents have been there before, so you’re not alone. So how do you rekindle that bedroom flame when everything seems to be working against you?

Here’s a look at some insightful tips to help you and your partner turn the heat back on in the bedroom after you’ve had a baby…

Leave Expectations at the Door

Not only is sex post-baby going to be different than before you or your partner gave birth, but everyone is going to be different when it comes to feeling like having sex again.

Be patient with yourself and your partner, and don’t have expectations about the sex.

Think of it as re-discovering each other and have fun with it. When you leave all expectations at the door, you just may find your sex life reaching new and exciting heights!

Be Patient

This goes for whomever gave birth as well as her partner. You may be on different pages with each other in terms of wanting to have sex again.

Be sure to communicate with each other and don’t shut your partner out if she’s not in the mood.

She’ll get there in her own time. Being patient with each other will not only help you ease back into your sex life, but it will also help when it comes to raising your baby as well.

Rev Up the Foreplay (A lot!)

It’s normal to be a bit afraid of post-baby sex, especially for the birth momma. Many thoughts could cross your mind like if your body is healed enough for sex, distracting you from you and your partner actually even attempting to have sex.

But there’s a solution to that…a little foreplay goes a long way. Whether it’s a seductive trail of kisses down the back or an all out make-out session, definitely partake in the foreplay.

Not only does it feel good, but it can help you and your partner reconnect and discover each other all over again.

Nap Time = Sex Time

You’ve put your baby down for a nap…why not have a little fun with your partner?

Yeah, it may sound a bit like having to schedule a bit of “nooky” time with your girl, but at least it’s a time when you’re both free and have time to yourself. And let’s face it, with a newborn; those moments are going to be few and far between. Everything else on the “to do” list can wait.

By thinking nap time equals sex time, you and your partner will have something to look forward to.

Get Naked!

It doesn’t matter how you’re feeling about your post-baby body (you look beautiful no matter what), getting naked is sexy and a turn-on.

And it doesn’t necessarily mean you have to have sex, but just the act of getting naked and feeling your partner’s bare skin upon yours may just help turn up the heat. Try taking a shower together, or maybe a playful game of strip poker…even some skin on skin spooning might do the trick.

You might end up feeling completely at ease and rested and fall asleep, or it could fuel the fire and make you want to take things further. Either way, there’s not much getting naked can’t solve!

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Warming the Winter Blues: 5 LGBT-Friendly Beach Destinations

Not everyone is a fan of winter and all of the cold, wind, and snow that comes with it.

But when it comes to searching for that perfect warm, tropical beach getaway, not all destinations are created equal when it comes to being LGBT-friendly.

So if you’re looking to kick back, relax, and enjoy the sand, sun, and surf, take a look at these beach destinations that will not only ward of the winter blues, but will also be welcoming to the LGBT crowd…

Cancun, Mexico

It’s a hot spring break destination, and also home to the popular gay beach Playa Delfines. Here you’ll find plenty of white sand and incredible views. There are also plenty of beach activities to check out, including taking surfing lessons.

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Sydney, Australia

In the “Land Down Under” you’ll find not just one, but six gay-friendly beaches to chose from. Check out North Bondi Beach, Tamarama Beach, or Bronte Beach. If nude sunbathing is your thing, head for the secluded beaches of Lady Jane Beach or Obelisk Beach.

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Manuel Antonio, Costa Rica

Costa Rica is one of the few countries in the Central and South American region that tends to be LGBT-friendly. And if you’re an outdoor enthusiast, the country is a perfect destination that boasts many eco-friendly spots. La Playita (also known as Play Dulce Vida) is a popular gay-friendly beach. There are also plenty of gay-friendly hotels and vacation rentals available in the area too.

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Miami Beach, Florida

This sunny Florida city hosts an abundance of sexy men and women, as well as high-end shopping, fine dining, and plenty of nightlife. Here you’ll find plenty of gay bars and clubs as well in the South Beach Area. Don’t forget to check out the nude beach, Haulover Beach for some relaxing sunbathing.

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Maui, Hawaii

The LGBT-friendly “Little Beach” in Makena State Park is a hotspot for the gay scene. Located about a mile (1.6km) from the Maui Prince Hotel, this secluded beach is relaxing and picturesque. In fact, you have to hike over a lava-flow trail to access it. It’s perfect for some fun in the sun and makes for a small adventure when hiking to it.

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Step Away From the Rainbow Onesie… And Other Lesbian Baby Shower Tips

When it comes to attending the baby shower of a lesbian couple, whether you are also a lesbian or happen to be straight, there really shouldn’t be a difference between a same-sex baby shower versus one thrown by a straight couple.

The truth is, lesbian parents are going to need the same things as straight parents to raise and care for their baby. So there’s really no need to treat a lesbian baby shower any differently than any other shower you’ve been to.

But if you’re still struggling with what to do, how to act, or what to get the baby and moms to be, here are some helpful tips to help you avoid a potentially awkward shower moment…

Get Usual Baby Gifts

Just because it’s a lesbian couple, doesn’t mean you should get everything in rainbow print or bright rainbow-like colors. Let’s face it, this isn’t a gay pride parade, it’s a baby shower. Stick with the typical cute baby outfits and toys. Oh yeah, and don’t forget the diapers…lots and lots of diapers.

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Recognize Both Moms to Be

This is important since both women will be taking equal responsibility with raising the baby. Don’t assume that one will take on a “mother” role while the other takes the “father” role. The couple will create their own blend of roles unique to them. It’s not up to you to figure that out for them.

Don’t Ask Who the Father Is

This is lesbian no-no 101. Whether it’s your first lesbian baby shower or not, you should never ask the couple this question. First of all, it’s really none of your business. And secondly, you’re basically insinuating to the moms to be that they are not going to be adequate enough to raise their child without a father figure. Even if you know the circumstances behind the pregnancy, this is never an appropriate question to ask.

Don’t Over-think It

Chances are if you were invited to the shower, you’re close to one of the moms to be or both. Just because it’s a lesbian couple doesn’t mean different rules apply. Over-thinking what kind of gift to give or what to say to the couple is too much unnecessary stress. Put any preconceived notions aside and just have fun at the shower with your friends.

Express Your Happiness for the Couple

It’s a universal gesture to offer your congratulations to the couple at a baby shower, as well as expressing how happy you are for them. It shouldn’t be any different for a lesbian couple. Chances are you were invited to the shower because you’re a friend anyway, so it goes without saying that you’ll be happy for them and their soon to be new family.

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Have Passport, Will Travel: 5 Things Every LGBT Traveler Needs to Know Before Heading Overseas

With more and more countries having a broader acceptance of the LGBT community or even doing away with outlawing same-sex marriages, the number of LGBT travelers is on the rise.

In fact, LGBT travel is actually flourishing, especially when it comes to travelling abroad. With the desire to travel comes the eagerness to explore diverse destination… ones that may not exactly be LGBT friendly.

So when it comes to travelling abroad, here are some important suggestions to take into consideration that will help you maximize the comfort, safely, and enjoyment of your next trip out of the country…

Be Diligent About Your Research

This is key when it comes to making sure you avoid any potentially hostile environments towards the LGBT community abroad.

As much as you may want to travel to a specific country or region, keep in mind that there are still many countries that view homosexuality as illegal and punish “offenders” accordingly.

Also be sure you research gay-friendly accommodations as well. Yes, even in this day and age, there are still some hotels that will not accept LGBT travelers.

Know the Laws in Your Destination

After you’ve done your research and have selected a potential travel destination, it’s also important to make sure you’re up to date with current laws regarding LGBT rights as well as the political climate.

It’s also important to understand the social climate as well. While the destination may advertise itself as LGBT-friendly, that doesn’t necessarily mean the citizens are widely accepting of the lifestyle.

Be Aware of Local Customs and Perspectives

No matter where you plan to visit, adapting to a new culture can be a challenge. While you’re planning your trip, be sure to take note of the destinations culture as well as the general behavior and mannerisms towards the LGBT community.

This doesn’t necessarily mean you have to be in the closet during your trip, but it does mean you should be respectful and aware of what the people believe and practice.

Remember, you are a visitor in their country, so always be sure to understand local sensitivities and practices.

Be Aware of Your Surroundings

If you’ve done your proper research, then you’ll probably be aware of places and destinations that will be LGBT-friendly upon your arrival.

Make sure you are always aware of your surroundings when it comes to neighborhoods, restaurants, and tourists hot spots as well. Roaming into the wrong neighborhood or bar could result in a potentially dangerous situation, especially if the area is not known for being LGBT-friendly.

Pay attention to your surroundings and you should be just fine.

Seek Out LGBT Locals

This will not only help you understand the local culture better, but it’s also a great way to meet new people and network as well.

Look for social or professional groups in the area or look for LGBT-friendly tour guides that can help you make the most of your trip while staying safe.

When it comes to traveling abroad as an LGBT traveler, be smart, safe, and definitely do your research…and don’t forget to enjoy your trip too!

Getting Pregnant: Known Donor vs. Sperm Bank – Which To Choose?

So you and your partner have decided to get pregnant…congratulations on the big decision. Now it’s time for the next big choice…should you use a sperm donor you know, or should you go with the anonymity of a sperm bank?

Both options can have their pros and cons, and it’s definitely an important choice to make. Just remember that there is no wrong or right choice. There’s only the choice that fits the needs of you and your partner.

Here’s a look at the advantages and disadvantages of choosing a known donor versus a sperm bank…

Known Donor:

Many lesbian couples tend to consider this as an option first, since they already know the donor and can get an idea of what the child may look like, any health issues that could arise, and the overall personality of the potential friend or acquaintance that will be donating.

But there are other factors to consider if you and your partner decide to go the known donor route….

The Pros of a Known Donor:

  • Fresh Sperm: Yeah, it may sound gross, but the reality here is that sperm from a sperm bank is going to be frozen. Fresh sperm gives you more of a change from the insemination to take, which increases your chances of getting pregnant.
  • Known Medical History, Physical Appearance…etc: You won’t have to play much of a guessing game in terms of how your child will look physically, or what his or her personality will be like since you already know the donor. Plus you have the advantage of knowing any medical issues that could come up.
  • Co-Parenting Potential: This is only if it’s wanted. Most lesbian couples may choose to not have the known donor in the child’s life as a father or caretaker, but the option is always there if you find you need help or just want your child to know the donor.

Cons of a Known Donor:

  • Visitation Rights Potential: There’s always that “maybe” that your known donor may want to sue for visitation rights or custody. While that doesn’t mean it will happen, it might be something that will always stay at the back of your mind, causing unnecessary stress.
  • Differences of Opinion: If you do chose to keep him in your child’s life, his opinion on how to raise him or her may differ from you and your partners, causing conflict. Always keep this in mind if you choose to include the known with raising your son or daughter.
  • Costs Can Add Up: While the sperm may be free, other costs can arise such as the legal fees for drawing up contracts, sperm analysis. STD testing, and any other tests that may need to be done. You may also have to pay for travel expenses if your donor lives a large distance from you and your partner.

Sperm Bank:

It’s a popular choice from all types of couples, including the lesbian couple. That’s because of the anonymity as well as the convenience of knowing the sperm is viable and tested for diseases.

Here are some things to consider if you and your partner decide to get pregnant with a sperm bank…

Pros of a Sperm Bank:

  • Waived Parental Rights: Sperm donors are required to waive all parental rights. This means you’ll never have to worry about an unexpected visit from the donor or legal fights for custody. Essentially, once you buy the sperm, you own it.
  • Disease Screening: Tests for common STDs and genetic diseases are already done by the sperm bank, so you don’t have to worry about having it done yourself.
  • Open or Known Donor Options: A lot of sperm banks offer this option. It means that the donor would be willing to be contacted when the child turns eighteen, if you and your partner agree to this, of course.

Cons of a Sperm Bank:

  • Expensive: It’s definitely not cheap to get sperm through a sperm bank. With all of that convenience and tested sperm comes a price…and it’s usually very high. Be sure it’s an investment you and your partner can handle financially.
  • Frozen Sperm: The frozen sperm isn’t going to be as fast-moving or fast-acting as fresh sperm. This could make the getting pregnant process a bit longer than desired. So you’ll have to have patience if using a sperm donor from a sperm bank
  • Impersonal: While anonymity works for most couples, you still don’t know everything about the donor like you would if you have a known donor in mind.

 

When it comes to making the important decision of what kind of sperm donation to use, you and your partner need to sit down and discuss the options, pros and cons, and what you think will work best for the both of you.

Taking the time will make a big difference on not only your child’s future, but you and your partner’s as well.

5 Key Tips For Finding A Lesbian-Friendly Pediatrician

Searching for a pediatrician to care for your child can often times seem like a long and daunting task, no matter the sexual orientation of the couple.

After all, this is the person that is going to look after the well-being, health, and growth of your newborn well into his or her teen years, so choosing the right fit is a definite must.

However, for same-sex couples, finding a pediatrician can sometimes be even more difficult or even a bit scary. There’s no question that discrimination against LGBT couples in the medical world does exist, but that shouldn’t discourage you from finding the best possible care for your child.

Here are some helpful tips to consider when looking for an LGBT-friendly pediatrician…

Do Your Research

There are some really great resources out there when it comes to searching for the right pediatrician.

Check out The Gay and Lesbian Medical Association (GLMA) or The Human Rights Campaign Healthcare Equality Index websites for directories of healthcare providers that could be well-suited for you, your partner, and your child.

Doing the proper research prior to your child’s birth is also ideal since you don’t want to be stuck without a pediatrician after he or she is born, and the process of searching and interviewing can take quite a lot of time.

Ask for Referrals from Friends

Word of mouth is one of the best ways to find a pediatrician. Ask your same-sex couple friends who are parents who their pediatrician is and if they are happy with them.

You can also ask your same-sex friends who don’t have children who their healthcare provider is to see if their office can refer you to a pediatrician that is LBGT-friendly.

Set Up Interviews

If you’ve found a doctor you think might potentially be a good fit, set up an appointment so that you and your partner can get a feel for him or her. Be sure to write down any questions you might have.

It’s also important to make sure the doctor feels comfortable answering any questions you might have in the same manner he or she would with a straight couple, as well as making sure both parents are interacted with equally.

You don’t want a pediatrician who feels that one of you is more of the “parent” than the other.

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Honesty is the Best Policy

Make sure you are up front with your potential pediatrician right from the start. It’s not only important to be open and honest about your sexuality, but also with your intent to raise the child in a same-sex household.

And as with any doctor, be open and honest about your medical histories as well as with any concerns either of you may have.

Work With Your Doctor

Whether it’s the first time your chosen doctor has worked with an LGBT family, or they have plenty of experience with same-sex couples, don’t be afraid to help your doctor with any questions he or she might have.

All of you have the child’s best interests at heart, so working together will ensure the child will be as healthy and happy as they can be…and the mommies will be just as happy knowing their child is in good, caring hands!

Are We There Yet? 5 Tips for Surviving a Long Flight

Let’s face it, who really looks forward to those long international flights?

The idea of spending hours upon hours (upon even more hours) cooped up inside an airplane where you’re likely to get little to no sleep and are subjected to less than tasty airline food it definitely not an appealing thought.

But if you’re going to be embarking on one of those far away destinations, you may as well make the best of it.

Take a look at these helpful tips for getting you through that long flight that you can reach your destination feeling less like a zombie and more like an eager traveler ready to take on your destination…

Wear Comfortable Clothes

Think of the most comfortable outfit you own and go with it. What’s the point of worrying about how you look while enduring a long flight? It’s all about the comfort here. Plus there’s always the opportunity to look more presentable when you land.

Bring Your Own Entertainment

Don’t rely on the prospect of in-flight movies and programming. Chances are the choices are going to be less than ideal, or you’ll end up being the lucky one whose headset or screen isn’t even functioning. Whether it’s a tablet loaded with e-books, actual books (yes, those still exist), crossword puzzles, or an MP3 player full of your favorite tunes, definitely bring plenty of your favorites along.

Get Up and Move Around

Not only is this important for your sense of sanity, but it’s also beneficial to your health. Sitting for a long period of time brings the risk of deep vein thrombosis (blood clots forming in your legs). Whether it’s simply getting up to stretch your legs for a bit or taking plenty of trips to the bathroom, just be sure to get up and move every once in a while.

Bring and Extra Blanket or Sweatshirt

Those flights can really get cold, and although blankets are usually handed out, they are often times very thing. Also let’s face it, who knows where all they’ve been. Bring along your favorite hoodie or a nice and cozy fleece blanket. That way you’ll be prepared when the temperatures seem to drop to sub-zero freezing mode.

Stay Hydrated

And by that…stay away from the caffeine and alcohol. Stick with drinking plenty of water during your flight. Yes, that may mean more frequent trips to the bathroom, but look at the bright side…you’ll also be getting in your stretching at the same time.

Baby Planning 101: 5 Things To Do Before The Newborn Arrival

When the time is nearing for your baby to arrive, things can get a bit hectic around the house.

And while you and your partner have probably gone over the newborn necessities checklist so many times you can recite it by heart, there’s a chance you may have missed something in all of the baby planning chaos.

Here’s a look at a few things that will help you maximize that checklist and get you as prepared as two new moms can possibly be for the big change that’s about to come your way

Choose a Paediatrician

Although this seems like an obvious thing to do, it can often times be forgotten until parents realize their baby is sick. And if you haven’t chosen a pediatrician before your child is born, it can be difficult to find one at the last minute that you entrust your child’s wellbeing with.

So take your time before the birth to find the perfect pediatrician fit for you.

A good way to do this it through recommendations from friends and family. And don’t be afraid to make calls and set up consultations to help you find the right doctor.

Freeze Meals Ahead of Time

Once the baby is home, it’s going to be a hectic and stressful time, not to mention tiring. Let’s face it, nobody is going to be in the mood to cook. Before your due date, be sure to stock up your fridge with healthy food options. It’s also a great idea to make freezable meals ahead of time.

That way all you have to do is warm them up in the oven and your good to go without having to worry about what to cook for dinner on top of everything else.

Pack Your Hospital Bag

It’s a good idea to have a hospital bad packed for you and the baby ahead of time. Must haves to include in the bag are toiletries and personal items, socks, lip balm, and snacks. Personalize your bad so that it fits your needs, and don’t forget to have your partner bring her own bag as well since she’s most likely going to be spending her time at the hospital with you.

Wash Crib Sheets and Baby Clothes

It’s always a good idea to wash anything that will be coming in to contact with the baby’s skin. And while you don’t have to wash everything all at once, pre-wash at least a week’s worth of clothing before the baby’s arrival so you don’t have to worry about doing laundry while you’re recovering from childbirth and taking care of the baby.

Make a Labor Playlist

It might not even be something you considered putting on your checklist, but so many moms have sworn by the calming feelings the get from listing to music while in labor. So take the time to go through your favorite songs and make  yourself a playlist. Music has proven to be therapeutic for many different situations, and childbirth is no exception.

 

 

Can’t Get Away? Try These Tips For Planning A Successful ‘Staycation’

Traveling the world definitely isn’t for everyone. And when it comes to travel, let’s face it, there really isn’t much of a grey area when it comes to liking it.

You either love it and want to see as many destinations as you can in your lifetime, or you’d much rather stay in the comfort of your own home and learn about exotic places while munching on some potato chips and watching the Travel Channel.

So how can you tell if you’re a lover or hater of travel? Well aside from the obvious signs of dreading getting on an airplane and cramping your style by having to stay at a hotel with no cable versus jumping for joy at choosing your seat on the plane and looking forward to checking out that hip new hostel that everyone on travel blogs has been raving about.

here’s a look at a five signs you may have indeed caught the travel bug and are destined to roam the globe…

Your Bucket List is Full of Travel Destinations

Most people might have one or two exotic destination to see before they die, but not you. Your entire list (or the majority of it) is full of places you want to travel to. Not only that, but it’s most likely that your list is continually getting longer.

From the exotic allure of a secluded Southeast Asian Island to the adventure of trekking through Patagonia…your bucket list will leave no stone unturned (or no destination unexplored).

You “Window Shop” Travel Agencies

Where most girls love to window shop the department stores and shoe stores, you’re more interested in the latest travel packages your local travel agency has to offer.

Who needs a sale on loafers when you can get a great deal on an all-inclusive yoga retreat in Bali?

You Can’t Wait for that Next Passport Stamp

Those not infected with the travel bug can’t wait for the next great French lesbian movie, a sale on Converse sneakers, or the latest Radclyffe novel, you’re itching to get that next stamp in your passport.

Yes, you’re wondering what that South African visitor’s visa stamp will look like next to your Brazilian exit stamp.

Your “selfie” Includes an Airplane Wing

Forget taking a “selfie” while you’re dining at the newest sushi restaurant that includes everything you’re eating. Your “selfies” have you, the airplane wing, and a bird’s eye view of the newest destination where you’ll be landing at.

You’re Always in Trip-Planning Mode

It doesn’t matter if you’ve just returned from a trip or not, you’re always ahead of the game when it comes to figuring out where you’ll be travelling to next.

Who has time for jet lag? When you’ve got the travel bug, you must heed the call. Plan on, girlfriend, plan on.

Bringing Baby Home: Important Adoption Tips For Lesbian Couples

You and your partner have taken that big step… you’ve decided to adopt a child. While congratulations are in order, you also have to do your research and find out what roadblocks you may encounter along the way.

While adoption among the LBGT crowd is becoming more widely accepted, there are still some places that either don’t allow gay couples to adopt, or may make it harder for them.

Adoption can already be an arduous process for any couple, but the more you know, the easier navigating that tricky world will become.

Here’s a look at some great tips for you and your partner as you embark on your future adoption….

Consider All Adoption Options

There are a variety of options out there when it comes to adoptions, so be sure to choose the best fit for you. Are you looking for a public domestic adoption or a private domestic option? Are you looking to adopt an infant or would you be open to adopting an older child? Will race and ethnic background play a part in your decision? These are all important questions to consider and play into the type of adoption best suited for you and your partner.

Know Local Adoption Laws

Laws will vary depending upon the country you live in, and from there the state, region, or province. Some areas may not even allow same-sex couples to adopt, so be sure you are educated on your local adoption laws and understand them before going any further.

Be Honest and Up Front

Don’t hide your sexuality. Not only is that not being true to yourself, it could end up backfiring if the truth were to come out that you’re not a heterosexual couple. Be open and honest with the adoption agency and the birth mother (if birth mother will be known). That way you’ll be building a trusting relationship with all parties involved. And why would you want to be involved with someone who is against same-sex rights to begin with?

Search Out Gay-Friendly Adoption Agencies

Not all agencies are going to be gay-friendly, and you have the right to have your adoption process no matter what your sexuality is. This might take a bit of research, but it will be well worth it. Check out the history of various agencies and whether or not they have anti-discrimination clauses listed on their website or brochures. Taking the time to ensure you’ll be treated fairly in regards to your adoption is a must.

Find a Support System

The process of adopting a child can be lengthy and exhausting. And once you’ve finally brought your child home, raising him or her will also bring challenges as you and your partner embark on the new journey of motherhood. That’s why it’s helpful to have a support group of others who have already gone through the adoption process or are still are still going through it.

It’s important to be able to share your fears and concerns as well as your joy and happiness with others going through the same thing. Having a support system will definitely help you transition into your new roles as mothers as well.

Budget Travel: How to Plan a Trip Without Breaking the Bank

When it comes to traveling, there tends to be a big misconception about it only being for those who have a lot of money. And while travel can get costly if it’s not planned properly, taking a trip doesn’t necessarily have to drain your savings account.

Here’s a look at five helpful tips to help you save money and get you well on your way to taking that next trip while getting the most for that hard earned money…

Plan Ahead

Don’t expect to be saving any money by planning your trip at the last minute. Not only will airfare be more expensive the closer it gets to your departure date, hotel reservations will be harder to come by and there may not even be any vacancies.

Planning well in advance means you’ll also have more of an opportunity to take advantage of early bird deals, sales, and discounts on travel packages.

Consider Traveling Off-Peak

Not only will this save you a lot of money, but it will also spare you from having to deal with the annoying tourist crowds.

Do your research and look into when the peak seasons are for your intended destination. It’s always a good idea to avoid the spring break and high traffic summer seasons as well as major holidays, as airfare and pretty much everything else from hotels to restaurants will charge more so they can cash in on the busy season.

Travel Light

More and more airlines seem to be jumping on the charging for checked luggage bandwagon, especially for domestic flights.

Check with the airlines you’re looking into and see if they have and extra charge for a checked bag. If so, consider traveling light and only taking a carry-on. Not only will you be saving money, but you’ll have less laundry to worry about when you return…it’s a double bonus.

Pick a Hotel Alternative

There are actually some really great options to choose aside from the typical hotel. Check into accommodation alternatives to the big chain hotels. You may be surprised at what’s available for a fraction of the cost. Bed and breakfasts and hostels are always great bargain options.

Sometimes you’ll also run across condo and apartments for rent by locals who cater to tourists and offer some affordable options as well.

Look Into Free Attractions

While taking in the typical tourist attractions typically always going to be on your “to do” travel itinerary, don’t forget that there are usually some great free options to check out as well. Often times you can find obscure museums and exhibits that don’t charge an admission fee. There are often times great parks and outdoor venues to explore as well for free.

So take a day off from doing the touristy thing and see what you can find to do that costs absolutely nothing!

‘Who’s The Father?’ And Other Questions Not To Ask A Lesbian Parent

It’s a joyous time for the happy couple when you’re expecting a child, whether you or your partner are having the baby naturally or adopting. But even in this ever-evolving world where the acceptance of “less” traditional families is slowing catching up with the times, there’s still most likely going to be that one person that has to ask the expectant mothers one or more of those clichéd lesbian parenting questions. Here’s a look at some of those questions you should avoid asking a lesbian mother…

Who’s the Dad?

Why should this question even come up? You wouldn’t ask a pregnant straight woman who the father is, nor would you ask an adoptive parent who the dad is. So why be insensitive and ask a lesbian couple that question? If you want it put simply…there is no dad. But there are two very loving moms who have gladly taken both the role of mother and father, if that’s how you chose to look at it.

Who is the Biological Mother?

Even if you know the situation surrounding the pregnancy or adoption, this is not an okay thing to ask. Perhaps one in the relationship carried the child and gave birth, perhaps they had a surrogate, or perhaps there was an adoption. None of this matters, however, because asking who the biological mother is tends to imply that whomever gave birth to the child is more of a mother than the other partner.

Where Did You Get the Sperm?

Even if you know the lesbian couple well, this is a bit of a touchy and insensitive question to ask…unless they are very open about the topic. Otherwise it’s a very private thing and truly nobody’s business where the donor came from.

Won’t the Child Miss Out By Not Having a Father Figure?

This question suggests that two women are not capable of providing for the needs of their child the way a man could. It implies inferiority and is definitely not an acceptable question to ask a lesbian couple. It comes with the assumption that they aren’t capable of teaching their children “masculine” things like sports, for example.

What if Your Child Gets Bullied Because He or She Has Gay Parents?

Kids are going to be bullied no matter what their background is. Whether it’s because they are poor, a different race, gay themselves…the list can go on and on. So should a mixed race couple not have children because they could get bullied? What about a low-income family who can’t afford fancy clothes for their child?

The same goes for a child raised by a gay couple, so it’s pretty simple-minded to think only children from a gay household would get bullied.

Baby-Proofing the Mommies: 5 First Time Parenting Tips to Help Keep Your Sanity

There’s no doubt that first-time parents may find themselves a bit stressed out, worn out, and mentally tapped out when it comes to the demands of taking care of a newborn baby. But when it comes to taking care of your child, it’s also important that you take care of yourselves and each other as well.

Take a look at these five helpful tips to making sure the mommies are caring for themselves just as well as their caring for that new bundle of joy…

1. Tag-Team Those Late Night Feedings: Chronic sleep deprivation isn’t going to do anyone any good.

It can wreak havoc on your mood, memory, concentration, and ability to cope with every day stress. Instead of both of you getting up with the baby, it’s better to take turns…tag-team it. That way one of you gets to catch up on your sleep while the other tends to the child. Then switch it up the following night and so on.

2. Take Care of Your Health: If one of the mommas isn’t feeling well, the whole family is going to feel it.

Both of you should focus on good health and nutrition as well as proper sleep for yourselves too, not only the child.

3. Don’t Be Afraid to Take Time For Yourself: Know it’s okay to take time away from your child sometimes.

Quality “you” time is just as important as quality time spent with the baby. So go ahead and take some quiet time to finish that book, have coffee with a friend, or go for a relaxing walk. This will work wonders for centering you and refreshing your mind and body.

4. Accept Help: It’s okay to ask for help. In fact, it will do wonders for the stress level and exhaustion.

Accepting help doesn’t mean you are any less of a mother. It simply means you’re willing to acknowledge that you really could us a bit of a breather from the stress and tiredness…especially if you’re running on fumes from the late night feedings and basically everything else that comes with caring for an infant.

5. Spend Time With Your Partner: You and your partner decided to raise a child together, yes, but that doesn’t mean you should let your relationship take a back seat to the baby.

Make sure you find the time to spend together. Whether that means getting a babysitter so you can have an occasional night out on the town, or simply watching a movie together at home with some takeout without being interrupted, nurturing your relationship is just as important as nurturing your newborn.