Queer Life

As lesbian and bisexual women, we know we come in all shapes and sizes. We embody different habits, quirks, and idiosyncrasies. And because we know there’s no “right” way to live, we’ve learned to accept ourselves for exactly who we are.

21 Lesbian Jokes to Tell at the Dinner Table

Your family doesn’t quite understand your sexuality. They think lesbians do nothing but scissor and talk about how much they hate men. They’re wrong – lesbians also crack corny jokes. After you try a few of these jokes at the Thanksgiving dinner table, your family will become much more accepting of…

Gay Anxiety: Our Daily Queer Struggle

So many people suffer from anxiety in their everyday lives, but ‘Gay Anxiety’ is something very specific to many people that identify as queer. So what is it, exactly? Well, to sum it up into a few words, Gay Anxiety is that thing you get when you dread any situation…

Stop Saving the World: A Love Letter to Activists

Pop quiz. Would you rather be: Dehumanized and brutalized for being black Sexualized and belittled for being a woman Ostracized and fetishized for being queer Pick two. I had to ask myself that question as I decided which activist sphere to commit to. I wanted to be a feminist, an LGBT…

Why Are We Afraid of Butch/Butch Love?

Close your eyes and think of your favorite lesbian couple. Is it tomboy Ellen and glamorous Portia del Rossi? Is it fiery Rose and dreamy Luisa from Jane the Virgin? Is it the hot lesbian stud who lives next door and her adorable girlfriend? Is it two butch lesbians? For most people,…

The Post-Label World

Coming out and identifying as a specific sexual orientation has always been important to most LGBTQ people. There is, without a doubt, a certain level of comfort knowing there are more people out there who, just like me, identify as lesbians. Lately, we have seen a shift in the way society sees…

My Identity Is Not Up for Debate

During the portion of my life that I’ve been out of the closet, I’ve heard a lot of different things. I’ve had women I was interested in who decided – from information they’d inferred on their own – that I wasn’t as gay as I should be. I’ve had other…

Why I Have Given Up On Coming Out

Growing up gay, and coming out always seemed to be the most honourable and logical next step in being open and comfortable with my own sexuality. But, as soon as I got to University, I stopped coming out. What changed? The teen years and the closet Being a young lesbian in…

The Importance Of Doing Things Alone

A couple of days ago I visited my parents. Now, I realize that I’ve written a great lot about my mother, mostly criticizing things she’s said, done, or believes and, probably still sentimental from the last visit, I need to make myself clear: I love my mother, and I do…

My Dating App Success Story

Our story began with Brenda, a lesbian dating app that was all the rage in Sydney in 2013. Although this app was rather sparse in terms of the details you input about yourself, Dylan’s cute picture and short description was quick to spark my interest and I sent them a…

Why Do Black Lesbians Keep Quiet About Domestic Violence?

According to The Advocate, 35.4% of women living with a same-sex partner have experienced domestic abuse or Inter-Personal Violence (IPV), but many black women are often so intimidated by political, cultural and racial factors that they don’t feel safe reporting their abuse. What are these factors, and how can anti-domestic…

What To Do If Your Partner Comes Out As Trans*

Recognize that coming out to you wasn’t easy. It takes a lot of courage to come out, and they’ve probably been working up the nerve to talk to you for a long, long time. Listen respectfully, hear everything they have to say, and keep their feelings in mind while you process.…

The Love Of Political Correctness

In Greece where I live, there is a Facebook group called ‘Ancient Memes’, which has grown really popular during the last years, since it started off as particularly funny. Its point is to write ridiculous meme phrases on historic pieces of art, something like ‘Classical Art Memes’, with usually absurdly…

How To Come Out As Butch

Some people are supportive of lesbians – but only if they look a certain way. That “way” is usually thin, feminine, and unthreatening to gender binaries or to men. If you feel more masculine – aka stud, butch, or masculine-of-center – then starting to express your masculinity can be more stressful than coming…

Should You Attend A Women’s College?

College application season is here! And you have some big decisions. Do you want a large state school or a tiny liberal arts college? Do you want to move to a different country or stay in your hometown? And, of course, do you want a coed college experience? Or do…

The Lesbian Who Didn’t Fall For The Straight Girl

As a queer woman, I can’t tell you the amount of times I have heard the “Lesbian falls for straight best friend” story. We have all heard it time and time again, and it seems to be a defining stepping stone; A sort of twisted angsty heart-break most queer women have lived through.…

How Do You Know If She’s Gay?

Sussing out if that hot chick you’ve got your eye on is gay or not is not as difficult as it sounds. Sometimes it’s easy enough to tell. Like she’s sporting a rainbow tattoo or dresses in the kind of way that you just know she’s gay. But not all…

How Growing Up Affects Your Friendships

Friends hold an entirely unique place in the social hierarchy. Unlike our coworkers, our family members, or our classmates, we’re entirely in control of who gets a position. There’s no formal structure for how often you need to talk, or how long you have to know each other first, or…