Is cheating worth breaking up over?
We all know someone who has been in a rotten relationship, where their pattern cheats or lies to them. Yet, no matter what they are willing to give that someone a second chance.
But, does anyone really deserve a second chance?
Should we simply move on the first time that we break up? When and how does someone deserve a second chance?
The biggest issues are always cheating and trust. (Usually in that order.)
If someone cheats on you (or has an affair, whatever terminology you prefer) does she deserve a second chance? Should you break it off?
Well, you know as well as I do that if you discover that your lover is a cheater – you will end up having trust issues and no matter how hard you try, what you do, or your individual situation: you’ll have a hard time trusting your partner again (if you ever trust them again).
You know that as soon you have the slightest suspicion that they’re up to no good; you’ll obsess. You’ll question, And you’ll suspect, and soon the question of whether or not your partner is being faithful will consume majority of your thoughts.
So, what if you discover your girlfriend is cheating or has cheated – What do?
In the past, I’ve gone both ways on this subject. I’ve handed out second chances like they were candy on Halloween, and I’ve also cut my losses and moved on.
The woman I continued to let come back (and yes, it happened more than once) eventually showed that she was never going to change, so I cut her loose. She and I had dated on and off for 2.5 years. She’s married now (surprisingly) and still calls from time to time wanting to know if we can “get together”, which I know means more than a simple coffee date
It also shows me that she hasn’t changed. Three years after our break up and she’s still the same.
So, what would you do in the event you uncovered an affair?