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Five Simple Steps – How to Avoid an Awkward Moment of Silence

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You are in a conversation with a great person you just met. Everything is going splendidly until suddenly, you run out of something to say. You briefly smile and look away. She says nothing, you say nothing. Awkward! Just how do you avoid these awkward silences in the future?

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Five Simple Steps – How to Avoid an Awkward Moment of Silence

1. Be prepared

Before going out or meeting that special someone prepare. Research, ask around, and get lots of stories and topics to talk about. If you have an arsenal full of tasty rib cracking conversations you won’t stall. Whenever you hit a dead end there will be five more paths to choose from.

2. Safe statements

Learn your safe statements. When you hit an awkward silence talk about the food, weather or the stories around town. Practicing this will give you time to think of something more concrete to say next.

3. Attentive listening

People love to talk about themselves. You can keep your date talking about herself for quite a long time just by listening and asking the right questions. Avoid boring questions that make your date sound like a job interview.

4. Activity

If despite all your efforts the awkward silence is still there. Suggest an event. Go for a walk, dance or whatever activity your situation allows. Find something to diffuse the tension. Make sure it’s something you can do together.

5. Enjoy the silence

A philosopher once said ‘our ability to enjoy silence can say more than any words we can find to fill that silence’. Whether we open our mouths and talk or stay silent we are always communicating what we believe about ourselves. If the idea is of awkwardness in your mind then that is what your date is going to read in the conversation. It is our minds that transform what was simply a moment of silence into an awkward moment of silence. Step in and enjoy the moment. Do not look at your phone or gaze around, simply look at her and relax.

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