Is It OK To Masturbate In A Relationship?

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I remember back when I was on the online dating scene. There didn’t really seem to be any consistency between the women I was matched with – despite every site claiming they’ve got “the best” matching algorithms – and, more than once, I’d been matched with someone who I’d already asked out in the real world and been shot down in a rush. (I tried to convince them that it meant I was right about us, but they didn’t buy it.)

However, one of the things that stuck out to me most is the amount of judgey-ness I saw on those sites. I’d run across women who had boyfriends – or even husbands – but expected their female partners to be totally faithful (yes, even when they were looking for more than one).

I’d run across women who were “totally straight, but instant messaging didn’t count”. I even ran across a few women who said that they’d hate for their partners to touch themselves.

One in particular even said that she wanted someone who never masturbated – even when they were single.

Lol, what? Good luck, lady.

I’m not trying to tell you that you have to masturbate. Your body is your body and no one should be able to tell you what you can or can’t do with it. But, by that same token, your partner’s body is her body – pure and simple.

This means that, quite frankly, you have no right to tell her she can’t masturbate – just as you don’t have the right to tell her that she has to have sex with you.

And it doesn’t matter what your official relationship title is, or your sexual orientation, or even the way you feel about masturbation.

You don’t have to like it – but if she does, you need to respect that.

What if you and your partner are sexually active, but she’d rather do the deed herself than let you handle things for her? I’ve been in that position before, and it kinda sucks. That doesn’t mean you get to dictate what she does with her body, though – it’s still her body.

If she’s more comfortable (or more satisfied) doing things on her own, why not ask her if you can watch, or have a mutual masturbation session, instead of regular sex?

This sexy little deed allows you to get the passionate closeness of the sexual experience, but with the perfect control of masturbation. It’s the best of both worlds, and no one gets to be jealous!

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