When you ask those not in gay / bi women team ‘how do women have sex together’, they kind of tilt their head inquisitively go “hmmm…” and the next thing the topic of scissoring is raising its dainty head.

Why, because scissoring is assumed to be the exclusive sex-activity that we queer women take part in – well that and oral sex.

Huh, really… but why this act in particular? Well, because a) people often know nothing about lesbian sex, apart from what they see in porn, and b) in our hetero-normative culture, sex is seen as a genital-on-genital action, and therefore by that logic, scissoring just makes sense.

So do all lesbians scissor? Well yes and no. Scissoring is a colloquial umbrella term for Tribadism, which is the non-penetrative sex act of rubbing ones vulva against another’s body-parts (e.g. thighs, stomachs, and bottoms) for sexual stimulation.

It’s not just aiming your clitoris at another’s and creating fireworks (massive porn star myth). Also, if you are actually aiming at that it can all become pretty awkward, i.e if there is a significant height difference, it’s way more trouble than it’s worth.

So, yes scissoring is possible. It is pleasurable, but it is not always this…

It can be…

And this…

But the truth is…