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Never Regret Experimenting

Some time ago, I was dating a girl who I thought was perfect for me. We had been friends for most of our lives, and I found myself incredibly attracted to her.

I knew all about her troubled past, but I was willing to look past it because I also knew about her family and the ways they had pushed her towards some unsavory behavior.

That is… Until I found out that she was cheating on me with a large number of people. I had given her a chance, and she had turned out to be everything I didn’t want in a partner.

I went into a bit of confusion, and reeling from this experience left me questioning everything about myself. Obviously, I didn’t even know what I wanted. I thought she was perfect for me, after all, and I couldn’t have been more wrong.

I ended up going “back into the closet” and dating men for awhile. I made quite a few poor decisions during this time (about a year), but my choice to question my sexuality was never one of them.

I had come out of the closet at a fairly young age, after a fair amount of confusion; I felt that it was possible that I had taken things that happened to me and allowed them to shape who I became, in a way that wasn’t necessarily accurate.

However, after this dating of men, it became incredibly apparent to me that I was not, in fact, attracted to men after all. Although my preference of women over men may have happened right around the same time as some bad things happened to me, the two weren’t as interconnected as I had thought as a teenager.

Now, in the lesbian community, there’s a bit of stigma surrounding women who have had sex with men, but choose to identify as lesbians.

Many see us as “bisexual” despite the fact that a label is something you set for yourself – and often, if a woman feels that you have been dishonest about your sexuality, she may dismiss you entirely – and I ran into this a fair amount in my subsequent dating life.

A fair amount of this is based on biphobia, which is its own problem, but other women’s rejection of my self-imposed label felt like a slap in the face.

For women who have never had sex with a man, it can be difficult for them to wrap their head around the idea of a woman who has. I’ve never been a good liar, so I don’t even try – I have always been upfront with the women I’ve pursued when it comes to my past.

When it comes to dating men, I’ve never been particularly proud of my choices, but the fact remains that if I hadn’t examined these feelings, the questioning would always be there.

This is often what leads women to consider relationships with other women in the first place – their uncertainty surrounding their heterosexuality. Why, then, was it so different for me to transition to “bi-curiosity” in the other direction?

For anyone who has any inkling of curiosity when it comes to dating the gender that they don’t typically date, I urge you to explore it – safely. You may face some contention when it comes to your future partners, but hopefully this will soon be an obsolete thing.

After all, I’ve always been a firm believer in “don’t knock it until you try it” – why is our sexuality treated differently than that?

In my personal experience, my experimentation only confirmed what I had previously thought: I am definitely very, very gay. That doesn’t mean that there’s anything wrong with you if you find out one day that you’re not.

Sexuality is often said to be fluid and can change over the course of your life. What works one day may not necessarily be true the next. It doesn’t mean you were wrong or that your sexuality was just a phase, it means that you’re human and you have changed.

Couple Openly Discuss The Insecurities Faced When Dating A Bisexual Woman (Video)

Lynette & Corey, an engaged couple of four years, open up about their relationships and discuss the real struggles, and insecurities surrounding sexuality.

Corey, who is straight, finds it tough to imagine he is enough for Lynette, who is bisexual and has dated both men and women.

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Their relationship has been both on and off, and during the off periods he was worried that she was using that time to date women and get with her ex-girlfriends.

What is interesting though, is he is not threatened by her dating other men, but if she still wants to see other women.

Even though Lynette says it ‘really isn’t an issue’, Corey still doesn’t understand.

Also read: 11 Real and Annoying Struggles Bisexual Woman In A Heterosexual Relationship Face

He wants to know if women were still a factor, because “it’s still present one way or the other.” In order to truly trust her, he wanted her to come clean about everything.

Lynette responded by saying sexuality can be fluid, and it’s not always black-and-white.

It’s a part of her life, and something she never wants to get in the way of her relationship with Corey.

She tells him

In my experience and I feel like several other people’s experiences, sexuality can be very fluid. There have been several instances where I’ve been attracted to this person. It’s caused me not only a lot of really fucked up hurt and stuff like that, because it’s so confusing.

I knew immediately when I met you that I choose this person. I didn’t know, a long time ago I thought I might end up with a woman. I was open to that a long time ago. But now after meeting you, I knew that wasn’t an issue anymore.

It wasn’t a case of, “Oh, that’s dead now”, but it’s “I choose you” and I wouldn’t do anything to fuck that up.”

The video is for The Skin Deep, a series of couples asking deep and honest questions in an effort to learn more about modern relationships.

Legend of Korra – Korrasami Lesbian Artwork Revealed by Show Creator

Legend of Korra co-creator Bryan Konietzko has released some very romantic Korrasami artwork. The art will be sold as an exclusive print at an exhibition, and Konietzko plans to donate the amount to an LGBTQ suicide prevention hotline.




The show surprised fans after concluding the popular animation series with a romantic lesbian linkup between the show protagonist Korra and her long time friend Asami.

Shippers have been in full support of the Korrasami relationship since it was rumored at the beginning of The Legend of Korra season four. Although many thought it would never be showcased as the show had such a young demographic.

Well we were all extremely surprised during the shows final episode with the implication that Korra and Asami were entering into a deeper relationship and even more surprised when the creators actually confirmed our suspicions.

Later show creator Mike Dimartino came forward and confirmed the Korrasami lesbian relationship.

“Our intention with the last scene was to make it as clear as possible that yes, Korra and Asami have romantic feelings for each other,” Dimartino said on his official blog page. 

The moment where they enter the spirit portal symbolises their evolution from being friends to being a couple.”

Mike Dimartino

Clarke and Lexa From ‘The 100’ Are Our New Favourite TV Couple

CW’s The 100 answers the hypothetical question of what would humanity do if we were wiped out by a nuclear war. The answer, naturally, is that we’d be forced to live in space on a ship called the Ark and wait until Earth finally became stable’.

Just 97 years into the journey and ‘Council’ has sent a group of 100 young criminals (who’ve been arrested for things as serious as murder or as harsh as being the second born child in your family) down to Earth to see if it’s stable, as oxygen on the ship is running out.

They’ll hit the ground, set up shop and see if it’s safe for everybody else to come down. At least, that’s the plan for smart female lead Clarke Griffin and her rag tag bunch of ‘sky people’.


Things don’t go so well though as they’re forced to deal with the menacing Grounders (survivors of the nuclear war who feel that Clarke and co. are trespassing), Reapers (enemies of the Grounders) and the mysterious Mountain Men who are a different, dangerous force altogether.

There’s also acid dust, mutated animals and the risk of radiation. Yet amongst all this they still find time for love.

The show is racially diverse, stars a female lead and each of its characters are well written, and multidimensional (after all, they are loveable criminals), but it has been overwhelmingly heterosexual.

In the first season alone there are about five different male/female hookups or potential love lines which will probably put you to sleep.

Stick with The 100 though as after over a dozen episodes of Clarke’s men-only love life (season one has just 13 episodes), she finds love with Commander Lexa who is the leader of the Grounders, establishing themselves as one of the few lead queer romances that we see on TV.

Their kiss in the show’s most recent episode was beautiful and treated with the utmost respect – just like all of the other heterosexual love pairings we’d seen on the show. And it’s significant not just for queer fans who’ve been crossing their fingers for canon ‘Clexa’ for a while, but because Clarke is now one of the few queer female lead characters on TV.


The only other example of a queer female lead (who isn’t just part of an ensemble where everybody is ‘sort of’ the main character e.g Pretty Little Liars) is Lost Girl, but that shows ends soon and so Clarke comes at a time where queer women need representation the most.

It’s also incredibly promising that The 100’s producer Jason Rothenberg wrote on Twitter that “In #The100, they don’t label themselves. If Clarke’s attracted to someone, gender isn’t a factor. Some things improve post-apocalypse. Clarke is a bisexual character. Remember that in this society, no one’s worried about it. They’re worried about spears to the chest.”

So the budding Clexa romance has support from the people who make it and massive support from the fans and we can’t wait to see where The 100 takes their romance next.