Have you ever fancied someone of the same-sex? Ever just wanted to jump someone’s bones that have the same body parts as you?
If so, these might be signs that you are gay…
It’s nothing to worry about; it’s not ‘wrong’, or ‘bad’, like others may have persuaded you that it is. Gay is defined as being sexually or emotionally attracted to someone of the same sex as you. Gay can be used as a noun or an adjective. Gay is typically used for men who are attracted to other men, but can be used across the widespread platform of LGBT (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender). As the term gay was used more and more often, it became acceptable to use it as an antonym for the straight sexual orientation.
Throughout time, homosexuality was once considered as a mental illness, but by 1973 Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders made it evident that it is not even close to being a relevant mental illness. The APA has also crossed off homosexuality as a mental disorder.
Being ‘gay’ doesn’t mean something is wrong with you. There is nothing wrong with being gay. Some are born gay, just like being a straight man it is another way of expressing ones sexuality. Being gay, having gay relations is just as natural as opposite-sex couples doing the same exact thing. Sexual desires and fantasies come from within, and cannot be forced on someone. There are some discoveries of biological differences between gay and straight men and women.
Sexual orientation is already determined by the time humans are born. Science has begun to prove that sexual orientation is influenced heavily by the hypothalamus section of our brains. There are no real evidences behind why someone is gay, and there are still several debates and researches coming up every day with new findings.
Most people have felt gay urges throughout some point in their life. Whether it was in teenage years, a college experience, or a couple years into their marriage, it has most likely occurred. Not all gay tendencies last forever. Some who experience gay related feelings early on may quickly dissolve with time. However if feelings last for a long period of time, then it is quite certain that he/she is in fact gay. It is up to each individual to decide how they will cope with their feelings and what actions they will take to handle them. If someone is gay, and has a supportive family and friends, then he has a better advantage than most to live a happy, healthy life.
Prejudice against gays is still definitely around; however it is slowly and steadily decreasing, so gays get a better chance to enjoy their lives. While communities are becoming more accepting and sensitive, people don’t have to be ashamed of who they truly are on the inside, anymore.
There is no way to stop someone from being gay, if he has instincts that are having him be turned on by a guy, there is nothing he can do to change those feelings. There are different methods nowadays that help men and women meet their ideal partners, deal with their feelings, and talk about their fantasies and secrets that no one else knows about. There are websites, telephone hotlines, and therapies.
While there is still a lot of progression for equal justice for people in the gay community, gays are finally becoming more comfortable being themselves, and not hiding their interests from family and friends. All anyone can do is promote justice and hope for better times for all gay people.