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Caitlin Stasey Admits Being Queer at a Catholic Girls School Led Her to Self-Harm

In the latest issue of Birdee, cover girl Caitlin Stasey has revealed that discovering she was a lesbian while at a Catholic girls school led her to self-harm.

The outspoken actress told the magazine she repressed her sexuality as a teenager because, in her community, being gay was “a condemnable offence”.

“It’s such a f**king dark and terrible thing to admit, but throughout high school I cut myself – I had a lovely upbringing, but I was mortified by the fact that I had these feelings and that I felt gay, and I was constantly being told it was wrong.”

Caitlin Stasey

The 24-year-old from Melbourne says the struggle made her to turn her back on religion.

“I became incredibly hateful of religion and am now resolute that it is one of the greatest tragedies to befall mankind.”

Caitlin Stasey

Stasey also said she would love to run a “totally ethical, all-inclusive strip club for disabled and trans women” as well as an “ethical pornography production company run by women”.


Earlier this year, Stasey launched her own feminist website Herself.com, which features a series of nude photos and frank interviews about women’s relationships with their bodies and sexualities.


“We consider a woman’s sexuality so linked to her physicality that for a woman to appear naked publicly is automatically an act of sex and not for herself,” she said. “There’s also a very specific construct of woman we are all used to seeing, and while those women are no less women, I was so desperate to see different faces, different bodies.”

Caitlin Stasey

In her own profile on the website she says she is in a loving relationship with a man, but identifies predominantly as a lesbian.

“I’ve known I was mostly gay ever since I can remember. I know it troubles many people for me to refer to myself as a lesbian considering I have a male partner.”

Caitlin Stasey

‘Mostly’ Lesbian – Australian actress Caitlin Stasey Discusses Her Sexuality

Even though she’s currently dating actor Lucas Neff, Australian actress Caitlin Stasey says that she has always considered herself a ‘mostly’ lesbian.

The actress, best known for her roles in ‘Neighbours’, ‘Tomorrow When the War Began’ and ‘Reign’, is bringing issues surrounding body image, sexuality and gender roles to the table through her newly launched herself.com.

On the site she opens up about her sexuality, provoking an new discussion on what it means to be a lesbian.

“I’ve known I was mostly gay ever since I can remember. I know it troubles many people for me to refer to myself as a lesbian considering I have a male partner. 

I think they gather that it trivializes the plight of the LGBTQIA community & although that couldn’t be further from the truth at this point in my life I’m trying to steer as far from labeling as possible.

Compartmentalizing myself only leads to condemnation & contradiction. I’m happier being fluid and I’m happier being honest.”

Caitlin Stasey

Her new website shares stories and experiences of other women, as a way to encourage empowerment of women. Each interview given is accompanied by tasteful nude photography giving readers, according to Caitlin…

“Herself is a gesture to women for women by women; a chance to witness the female form in all its honesty without the burden of the male gaze, without the burden of appealing to anyone.

These women are simply & courageously existing, immortalized within these photos. Within their words, their experiences and stories are offered on Herself in the hopes of encouraging solidarity – that maybe we as women will take comfort in the triumphs of others rather than revelling in each other’s defeats. 

Let us reclaim our bodies. Let us take them back from those who seek to profit from our insecurity.”

Caitlin Stasey

Caitlin herself has posed full-frontal for the site, while also spilling on sometimes-uncomfortable topics like puberty, masturbating and having “vivid dreams” about women.