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11 Songs Every Lesbian Should Listen to When They’re Missing Their Girlfriend

Sometimes, when we want to be with our girlfriend the most, we just can’t find ourselves in the same place. Whether it’s physical distance or unfortunate circumstances keeping you apart (don’t you hate when the girl you love is in love with someone else?), this playlist is sure to help soothe the pain of being alone. Let us know in the comments if there’s another song you think we should add!

Perfect – Doria Roberts

Doria Roberts has one of those soothing, soulful voices that helps to remind you of everything you love. The aptly-named “Perfect” tells a beautiful tale of the love that she has for her partner, which is likely to be the same love that you feel for yours.


Love And Affection – Joan Armatrading

While Joan has never come out as a lesbian, this song has been a favorite among lesbians since the ‘70s for its ambiguous and sexy feel. This is sure to bring some happy memories of when you and your girlfriend first started awkwardly flirting with one another (and it’s just as sure to be stuck in your head for the rest of the week).

Bring Me Some Water – Melissa Etheridge

If you’re missing your girlfriend because she’s in the arms of another, Melissa Etheridge’s powerful tune can help your misery find a little company. While I don’t advise you listen to this if your relationship is actually in a rocky place, but it can soothe your heart from the pain of her wandering eye.

Come Over Here – Sarah Bettens

Missing the lady who hasn’t come out yet? “Come Over Here” is one woman’s urging for her lover to take the plunge. If you and your lady are having a hard time being with each other due to disapproving family members, this song can help remind you that everything’s going to be all right someday.


Constant Craving – k.d. Lang

If you believe in soul mates, it can be reassuring to know that you’ll find each other again in the end. “Constant Craving” embodies your feelings for the woman who holds a part of your soul – whether intentionally or not. This song offers reassurance that your love will last, despite the odds. (And besides – who doesn’t love k.d.’s mind-blowing voice?)

Sweet Woman – Cris Williamson

If you’re more of a fan of the oldies, Cris Williamson’s supercharged tune about being in love with a woman will take you back to the good old days. Back in a time when it was risky to confess your feelings for a woman, Cris bravely announced her love for another and captivated our hearts. (Seriously, if you haven’t heard this song, listen to it – it’s beautiful.)

Our Purpose Here – Ferron

Another older tune, Ferron tells of missing her lover when she travels – something many of us have felt from time to time. Whether you’ve let your lover go or still let her hold your heart, this song might intensify the longing – be warned!

Sweet Darlin’ Woman – Meg Christian

Another song full of passion for women, Meg Christian sings of the “sweet darlin’ woman” she loves – and she’s sure to remind you of the woman you love. Although Christian has officially retired from the music scene, her voice still captivates listeners worldwide.

She’s So Lovely – The Butchies

What if you’re looking for something that’s just a little grungy? The Butchies deliver a strikingly rocking love song with “She’s So Lovely”. Although the screamed lyrics are a little tough to make out, lines such as “grab my hand baby I just want to talk/she’s so lovely, yeah” help bring the innocence to rock. Sweet melodies cranked out by powerful voices, The Butchies might just be your new favorites!


Will You Be There – God-des and She

For those who want more urban-sounding love songs, God-des and She helps put into words the desire for your lover to stay by your side, always. The vocals are beautiful, and the lyrics are just right when your relationship is in that awkward “will we make it through this?” confusion. (Pro tip: You will, if you both put forth the effort.)

Closer – Tegan and Sara

We couldn’t have a list of lesbian songs without including Tegan and Sara, of course – and this song helps to fill the void that exists between you and your partner, whether it’s emotional or physical distance. It’s peppy enough to dance to, yet sensual enough to get intimate to. What more could you want?

What songs did we miss?

If you have any other song suggestions for us, leave them in the comments – we’d love to take a listen!

14 Music Videos That Confirmed I’m Definitely a Lesbian

I’m not sure about you, but… I knew I was into girls way before I was ready to admit it to anyone else. There were so many signs that I saw in myself and I wrote off as one thing or another. Whether you knew and didn’t come out, or you didn’t know until everyone knew, this list is sure to bring back some vivid memories – or maybe even inspire some type of feelings within you.

How many of these songs just screamed, “Yep, definitely gay!”?

Britney Spears – I’m a Slave 4 U

For the most part, I’ve never been too much of a Britney fan, but this song is a stark exception. It’s got a similar sort of video-vibe that Dirrty had, but it’s a little less overt about it. Plus, who can honestly say that they’ve never had a thing for bellydancers?

Ciara – Like A Boy

The subtle connections to lesbian aesthetics are suddenly much less subtle. We’ve all dated someone who dressed like one of the Ciaras in this video – whether it’s the ballgown Ciara or the snapback-and-wifebeater Ciara. Admit it – and then admit you want to watch it again! (And please try to get past the part where she assigns unnecessary gender to things. It’s 2016, and we’ve moved past it, but this video came out in 2007, so we’ll forgive her.)

The Veronicas – Take Me On the Floor

I think one of the first signs that I couldn’t hide the gay anymore was when “4ever” came out, and I immediately assumed that the two were lovers, instead of twins. (I know, I know, it’s creepy, but they didn’t have their hair the same back then, and I was apparently blind.) But this song even implicitly gives the idea that the beautiful Jess would be into kissing a girl… And I’m okay with that.

Aaliyah – Try Again

Aaliyah was a singer in a league of her own, and that sexy way she moved in every little crop top and tight leather pants… Maybe that’s why it’s become such a big aesthetic among millennial lesbians these days. Okay, maybe we don’t do tight leather pants, but sports bras and sweatpants? I can get on board with that one every single day, and if you inject some glam into it, too, you’re channeling some Aaliyah – and I don’t think anyone is going to complain about that.

Shakira – Whenever, Wherever

I have to admit… Shakira is one of my biggest straight-girl crushes. She’s always showing off her midriff, which I really enjoy. Plus, she’s also super petite (I think she’s under 5 feet tall!) which I also seriously like in a woman. And, she’s got the confidence for a line like “Lucky that my breasts are small and humble” – so I’m pretty sure she’d never shame me for my flat chest. Score.

t.A.T.u – Show Me Love

Okay, so it’s not the t.A.T.u song that most people associate with being gay – but bear with me if you haven’t seen this one yet. There are literally hundreds of girls in short plaid skirts, button-up shirts, and ties. Thousands, even, maybe. (I never actually counted the girls.) And they’re marching like they’re actually proud of demanding love… Hey, how does that sound familiar?

Mya – My Love is Like Wo

Long before Janelle Monae pulled off the suit thing, Mya made it happen with My Love is Like Wo… And whoa is right. This song pretty much embodied every chance that we had of Mya being gay, and although I’m pretty sure she’s actually not, she’s definitely a master of multiple disguises. Just try and see if you can watch the video and not find a single outfit you don’t find is sexy. Go ahead –I’ll wait.

Hayley Kiyoko – Girls Like Girls

Okay, this one is significantly newer than many of the other songs on this list, but if you watch this video and don’t think a) these two should kiss already; b) her boyfriend is a complete dick, and c) she deserves to be treated so much better, then I really don’t know what to tell you. This song embodies pretty much every inner emotion that most of us felt when we were working to come out. (And PS, there is a happy ending – so yay!)

Christina Aguilera – Dirrty

Personally, Dirrty was one of my least favorite Christina Aguilera albums… But this video doesn’t even try to deny what it’s about, and it definitely gets the intended response. Christina Aguilera has always been a huge crush of mine, and this was definitely one of the songs that opened my eyes to that.

Aaliyah – Are You That Somebody

Oh, here’s the sports bra and sweat pants. Yep, that explains it. She’s often been regarded as one the most beautiful women who ever lived, and it’s not hard to see why. She managed to ooze sensuality everywhere she went, without being vulgar or explicit about it – how can you go wrong?

Christina Aguilera, Lil’ Kim, Mya, Pink – Lady Marmalade

Does this one even need any words? Probably not, but just in case… This is the song that single-handedly taught an entire generation that voulez-vous coucher avec moi was the only French you’d ever need to learn to get some action.

Beyonce, Shakira – Beautiful Liar

Between these two undeniably-gorgeous women, their perfectly-synchronized gyrating, and the story that we’ve all found ourselves in at least once (whether with a man or with a woman), this is a power anthem that will also help bring sexy back. Too bad it doesn’t work out like that for us normal people.

Latch – Disclosure

This video involves literally getting up the courage to go kiss a girl at a party – how many of us have been there before? Sure, there are straight couples at this party, but let’s be honest: You weren’t paying attention to them, and neither was I.

Shakira – Can’t Remember to Forget You

Again Shakira is in a video that we know is super queer-bait-y, but we just can’t resist… This is the stuff dreams are made of. If you have ever wanted to know what your Shakira-and-Rihanna fantasies would look like if they actually played out, this is it.

Out Aussie Singer-Songwriter Courtney Barnett Set To Appear On ‘The Ellen Show’

Out singer/songwriter Courtney Barnett is a breath of fresh air and we’ve been listening to this songs, on a loop, for months.

So its great to hear, the out Aussie singer-songwriter has been conscripted to perform on The Ellen DeGeneres Show early next week, the same day that (oh, no big deal) Michelle Obama will be in attendance, giving Barnett arguably one of her most high-profile audiences to date.

Barnett spent a solid number of years playing in other people’s bands before she decided to go it alone a couple of years ago. She recorded a debut EP with the help of friends, and has since created buzz all over the globe – most notably with her performance at the CMJ Music Marathon in New York, which is known for unearthing breakout bands and artists.


Barnett’s partner is Jen Cloher, a singer-songwriter, and they live together in Melbourne. They have worked together and the track Numbers is about their relationship and the age difference.

If you like fun, folky, throwback rock and roll music – something kinda retro and kinda fresh all at once – you’ll love Barnett’s sound.