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Easy Online Lesbian Dating Guide: Be Simple, Be Honest, Be Cautious

Is it a flaw in our society that we find our dates on the internet these days?

In the last few years, the prevalence of online dating has increased dramatically, with an average of 10% meeting their current partner on the internet in 2015 alone. These amounts vary greatly depending on what the person is looking for – for example, up to 80% of gay men meet their partners in the online world. This is a huge rise from 14% in 2001. Considering the specifics of the gay community, this is a big deal!

Why is online dating so popular these days? Well, between the availability of online dating apps such as Zoosk, Badoo, and Tinder and the difficulty of finding someone in the “real world”, we’re becoming more reliant on the internet as a whole. I even found my current partner on the internet – although not through any of the typical channels (we met through Facebook after I became friends with her cousin, but that’s a much longer story).

So… Is it a flaw in our society that we find our dates on the internet these days? Well, I don’t think so.

Meeting partners through the internet allows us to learn more about them from the comfort of our own homes, without the stress involved with the traditional dating methods. There are definitely a number of things to look out for – such as “romantic scams”, which involve one party getting money and gifts from the other party without ever meeting in person.

However, for those who are cautious and impose their own rules, these risks can be minimized.

Interested in dating online? Here are the ground rules we recommend for your safety and satisfaction.

1. Don’t lie on your profiles.

Lying will soon be found out, and then you’ve just wasted the time of you and your partner.

2. Don’t use old photos.

If you use a photo that doesn’t look like you do now, meeting up with your date can be an embarrassing experience. We all want to put our best foot forward, but you shouldn’t be misleading.

3. Don’t agree to send money or gifts to anyone you don’t know.

This should be a given, but some people are very trusting of others. Generally speaking, this isn’t a good thing on the internet. Sure, there are more “good people” than “bad people” on the internet, but anyone who’s genuinely a good person won’t expect you to pay them without even knowing them.

4. Don’t lie to your friends and family about what you’re doing when you go on a date.

It’s sad that this even has to be mentioned, but the truth is, people do get raped and murdered by people they meet on the internet.

Sure, this can be extended to people you meet through friends as well, and even people you’ve personally known for a long time – but it’s much easier to avoid if you tell at least one reliable person where you’re going to be and who you’re supposed to be meeting with. Consider arranging for a call at some point to make sure you’re ok. It’s a good idea to discuss a “code word” just in case it’s not safe to say what’s really going on.

5. Be honest with yourself (and your matches) about what you want.

There are a good number of people who are looking for just sex (about 12%), a great deal of people who are looking for a casual relationship (about 70%), and a fair amount of people who are looking for someone to marry (about 11%). There’s no reason to be misleading about your intentions – you can find the person you want if you’re honest.

Take selfies! Women who take selfies are about 4% more likely to get a date through online dating apps and websites if they take selfies. Full-body selfies can up this to 203% more responses!

6. Don’t get desperate.

Up to 1/3 of people who date online don’t ever actually make a date with anyone they meet online – and that’s ok. The best relationships tend to happen when you’re not looking, but that doesn’t mean you should necessarily give up. If you really want to find someone, you can. The internet is a big place. Just make sure it’s not the only place you look.

All in all, the important thing to remember if you choose to date online is to be safe and honest, and don’t set your expectations too high. The right woman is out there for you. She just might not be on the other side of the screen.

Match Releases New Study On LGBTQ Dating Habits

Match, the world’s largest relationship company, is celebrating Pride this year by releasing the company’s first-ever survey of LGBTQ singles in the U.S.

Match scientific advisor Justin Garcia said in a statement;

Today’s society is full of rich gender and sexual diversity, however relatively little is known about the dating experiences of LGBTQ people. Nearly half of the LGBTQ population in America identifies as single, and a vast majority of these singles, some 80 percent, are seeking a committed relationship. By expanding our annual Singles in America study to include more people of diverse identities, including gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender Americans, we are beginning to address these knowledge gaps to better understand singles today.”

So what are these changing tastes and insights?

More gay singles want to get married than straight singles – even before the Supreme Court ruling last year. Match found 63 percent of gay singles have always wanted to get married against 25 percent who never want to get married and 21 percent who have no opinion.

Only 41 percent of straight singles said they definitely want to marry.

As for Obergefell v. Hodge, only 17 percent of gay singles said they changed their mind about marriage once it became the law of the land. Most gay singles (61 percent) feel the same way about getting married as they did before the court decision.

Straight men have “better sex” than everyone else.

Yes, you read that right. The Match survey found that 85 percent of straight men orgasm during sex, compared with gay, straight, and bisexual women – who orgasm the least – with bi women only orgasming 48 percent of time.

However, Garcia warns that the orgasm isn’t the perfect measure for great sex.

“People assume that every time a man has sex, he’s has an orgasm,” he said. “But all people have sex for a wide variety of reasons. You can still have great sex that doesn’t always result in orgasm.”

Bisexuals are the least likely to be out. An overwhelming 96 percent of bisexual men are not out, while 39 percent of bisexual women are still in the closet.

From this data, you can see that bi erasure is very real. Bisexuals are often stigmatized from both straight and gay and lesbian people. We as people like categories, and bisexuality poses a challenge to that.”

Garcia even wonders from the data how many who answered gay or lesbian might really be bisexual.

Each individual wants to pick a camp, and that’s hard. A lot of singles may be bisexual and don’t find out until much later in their dating lives.”

5 Lesbian Dating Apps To Keep Your Single-Self Entertained On Valentine’s Day

Being single on Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be depressing. Its can be highly entertaining.

Because Valentine’s Day is all about celebrating love, and the means loving your self. And there is nothing wrong with pampering yourself with your own special lovin’ and chocolate on this romance-infested holiday.

So this Valentine’s day take the opportunity to reach out and connect with others

1. Her

HER takes a new approach to dating. Instead of focusing on dating, HER has its focus set to the wants and needs of the lesbian community.

As their site states:

Gay guys had their zillion apps, straight people got Earth. We wanted lesbians to have their space.”

By taking the focus off of dating, HER gives you an all-in-one solution to the social problems you might face. Want to find a fun gay party? Meet some new friends? Read news stories that are relevant to you? HER helps you do all of that.

Currently, their reach is fairly limited (only on iOS in a few English speaking countries) but they are taking requests to launch for Android as well as new regions. As far as newcomers go, HER promises to be a strong contender in the lesbian social scene – and you can get in while it’s still new!

2. Scissr

Okay, we’ll admit – we’re a huge fan of the name of this one. It’s a bit tongue-in-cheek, but the implication that it’s an app just for hook-ups isn’t true. Their motto is “There are no boundaries to life, nor should there be with any legit lesbian app. Let’s create something together that’s mind blowing for lesbians. An app which satisfies our needs for friendship, and oh yeah – love” – which speaks to me on an emotional level.

All first impressions aside, Scissr is all about connecting you to other lesbians, whether you’re looking for love, friendship, or just something to do.

They offer a wealth of free services that will help you to expand your social (or romantic) circle – including profile reviews that guarantee no “dudes or fake accounts”.

3. FindHrr

FindHrr is one of few apps that boast an entirely lesbian crew – which sets it apart because, who knows lesbians better than other lesbians? Officially this is a social app (rather than a dating app), which means that they don’t just cater to those looking for love (or sex – and in fact, they discourage sending “naughty” pictures, which is generally good advice to follow anyway!).

Coming from someone who’s continually looking for new connections, apps like this are great. Even if you are looking for a date, sites and apps that help to take the pressure off things are super helpful – especially for those who may not be ready to fully come out of the closet yet. If you’re looking for a way to get more into the lesbian scene without leaving your comfort zone, FindHrr may be just what you’re looking for.

4. GaydarGirls

For those who are looking for a different experience (but definitely looking for romance), GaydarGirls offers “the largest selection of gay personals on the web”. It’s not the most highly-featured site out there, but it does cover all the basics of a dating app – profile creation, photo albums, chat rooms, and search engines. If you’re only focused on the possibilities and not the overall look, GaydarGirls is a minimalist answer to the age-old question – “Where are the eligible lesbians around here?!”

All jokes aside, GaydarGirls presents itself as a simple solution to your dating needs. For those who like the structure of such sites as Craigslist and Yahoo! Chat, you’re likely to feel right at home with GaydarGirls. There aren’t any extra frills or distractions – just you and other single lesbians.

5. Pink Sofa

As I’m sure the name implies, Pink Sofa is all about the lesbian social scene. The name Pink Sofaitself was chosen to imply that it would be a comfortable, friendly place – just like your living room! The idea has resonated with a lot of people, too… Enough that it is one of the longest-running businesses owned and managed by lesbians.

Founder Liz James came up with the idea over 13 years ago, after realizing that the lesbian dating scene was, to put it simply, a bit sketchy. She wanted to offer a way for lesbians to meet other lesbians without the frustrations of the bar scene, the risks of the personals scene, or the headaches of the less-exclusive dating site scene. After all, as women who love other women, are needs are different.

For those interested in Pink Sofa, there are both free and premium membership options, which makes it inclusive to people of any budget. After all, not everyone can afford the high prices of the online dating world – but Pink Sofa has fairly reasonable prices in the first place (as low as $10 per month if you subscribe in 12-month increments). They occasionally offer free trial premium memberships as well, just in case you’re not sure if you want to pull the trigger yet.

Whether you’re by yourself this Valentine’s Day or with a significant other, it’s important to remember that Valentine’s Day is about celebrating love.

It’s not about celebrating the flowers and chocolates you got from the local corner store.

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11 Amazing Online Dating Resources For Lesbian, Bisexual, And Queer Women

In this technology-filled age, people are more and more willing to accept the idea that dating online is a legitimate way to meet someone. Truly, I’ve met a lot of my past partners on the internet – some through searching, and some through happy accidents.

But what if you’re actively looking for someone online? Can you find someone by filling out some questionnaires on a website?

Of course, if you are dating online, you’ll need to follow some basic precautions in order to ensure that you’ll have an enjoyable experience, but there is a good chance that you could meet the woman of your dreams on an app.

Here’s our rundown of the best places to meet someone online.

Scissr

Okay, I’ll admit – I’m a huge fan of the name of this one. It’s a bit tongue-in-cheek, but the implication that it’s an app just for hook-ups isn’t true. Their motto is “There are no boundaries to life, nor should there be with any legit lesbian app. Let’s create something together that’s mind blowing for lesbians. An app which satisfies our needs for friendship, and oh yeah – love” – which speaks to me on an emotional level. All first impressions aside, Scissr is all about connecting you to other lesbians, whether you’re looking for love, friendship, or just something to do.

They offer a wealth of free services that will help you to expand your social (or romantic) circle – including profile reviews that guarantee no “dudes or fake accounts”. As someone who’s tired of people on “social sites” who aren’t who they say they are (and don’t take “just friends” for an answer), this feature alone is a game changer.

Sure, there are other sites and apps that take action to prevent fake accounts, but Scissr makes it one of their primary goals. After all, the “lesbian community” isn’t just about lesbians – it’s about all women who even think they might be interested in other women. Scissr was created for all of us.

Zoosk

Zoosk is an interesting site. Like many other online dating sites, you pay for a membership, which puts a little more pressure on you to actually “get your money’s worth” out of it (since it’s literal money spent, rather than just your time). That little tidbit aside (hey, if you’re looking for a lady to love, chances are you’re going to be spending some money on her anyway, right?), Zoosk has a user base of over 50 million members. In the online dating world, it’s a numbers game. Their large numbers mean that there are, statistically, a lot of women who love other women.

Zoosk users also love that the site (and app) are fun to use. After all, you don’t want to feel that it’s a second job just looking for love, right? Instead of filling out a bunch of profile questions, Zoosk evaluates their users’ “click habits” – what’s likely to make you check out a person further? Chances are, that’ll ring true across the board if it happens regularly. They use this information to (eventually) suggest you people you might like to talk to. They say that every interaction you do on the site will influence the algorithm, meaning it learns what you like and will tailor your matches to meet it.

For a one-month membership, you’re looking at almost $30 – but if you’re willing to commit to a longer membership, the price goes down dramatically when you buy a few months in bulk. The three-month membership plan drops it down to $19.98 per month, while the six-month drops it all the way to $12.49 per month. If you’re going to do it, you might as well go all in!

HER

HER is a bit different than many of the other apps and sites on our list. Instead of focusing on dating, HER has its focus set to the wants and needs of the lesbian community.

As their site states:

Gay guys had their zillion apps, straight people got Earth. We wanted lesbians to have their space.”

Ladies, I’m pretty sure you can agree – we all want to connect with other lesbians, right?

By taking the focus off of dating (although there are definitely dating-site features at play here), HER presents itself as an all-in-one solution to the social problems you might face. Want to find a fun gay party? Meet some new friends? Read news stories that are personally relevant to you? HER helps you do all of that.

Match

Match has been a player in the game for a long time now, outliving many other “fad” dating sites that came and went. There are millions of members around the world and their claims are backed up by actual results. (Chances are, if you hear of someone meeting someone else on Match, they’re pretty happy about the experience.) They are not exclusively a “lesbian” dating site, but with millions of members worldwide and a warm welcome for those in the gay community, they’re not sweeping us under the rug, either (remember when eHarmony did that? Yeah, we do too.)

Match has always sought to improve the online dating experience, and even today with so many competitors, they’re constantly seeking out new ways to improve their algorithms and increase their users’ success. Possibly the biggest way they do this is through their search functions – they’re easy to use, very welcoming to under-confident daters (whether gay, straight, or bisexual), and they come up with good, solid matches.

In addition to their search functions, they actually have features that promote the users getting together offline, too. That’s actually pretty monumental from a dating app, as they definitely make more money if you’re spending more time looking for a date than actually getting one, right? But they know that their easiest advertising is going to be word-of-mouth from happy new couples.

There is an extensive questionnaire that you’re asked to fill out when you first start, and many members might be put off by this – but it’s important to realize that, on any dating site, the more questions you answer, the easier it is for the people behind the site to use math and science to find your perfect partner – which means less work on your part. Match at least does a fairly good job of making the questions fun and simple – super important!

They’re a bit more expensive than some of the other options, and they will ask you to do a bit of work to get your accurate matches – but once you do, they’ll not only give you their choices for who you should be with, but they actually tell you why they were picked. This makes it easier to understand your own preferences, and it can help you to understand where you should be re-evaluating your priorities if you do get a match that wasn’t a good fit.

Compatible Partners

So, earlier we briefly touched on the fiasco that was eHarmony “not allowing” gay members on their site. Compatible Partners was their answer to that fiasco. Powered by eHarmony’s hugely successful matchmaking algorithms, Compatible Partners is directed straight at the gay and lesbian community. They’re not one of the bigger sites, but on the internet, there are no guarantees that success can’t be had in the smaller communities. After all, matchmaking algorithms already imply a sense of destiny – wouldn’t it be great if your perfect partner was on the same small site as you?

Something that’s exclusive to Compatible Partners is their “eH+” – a premium matchmaking service, which partners you with a personal matchmaker. This personal matchmaker will actually interview you, and other users who pay for this premium service, in order to determine not only what you want based on science, but also what you want based on you. This helps to balance the science of compatibility with the reality that is your interests and desires.

However, Compatible Partners goes a step beyond even this revolutionary step. How would you feel about having a detailed description of who you are in a relationship, what you need to get out of it, and the reasons your past relationships have failed? (Wow, putting it that way, it could be a bit scary to read!) They offer the “Book of You” – which does exactly that. And, with a few simple steps, you can make this “book” public to your matches – they can read all about what makes you, you.

So, how much are all these features really going to cost you? Quite a bit, actually, but if you’re really looking for “the one”, it might be a worthwhile investment. After all, the more in-depth their matchmaking strategy is, the more beneficial and successful the relationship will likely be in the long run. Their membership options are offered in 6-month intervals, and of course the longer chunk of time you buy at once the less expensive it is overall. (Not to mention, the longer you stick with it, the more likely it is to find the perfect woman for you – their algorithm isn’t at its peak success after just a month or two; it takes time to find the perfect solution to your needs.)

Elite Singles

This is an exclusive dating pool, for those who have strong “qualifications” and criteria for their dates. In fact, over 67% of their users are University graduates, making their choice of the word “elite” make a lot of sense. If you value excellence in your matches and don’t mind filling out a bunch of questions (remember that earlier we said the more questions there are, the more precise the matching is), Elite Singles may be the right choice for you.

In addition to the initial questionnaire you fill out for your profile, there are settings for your profile that make it easier to custom-tailor your matches to your own wants and needs. Their questions cover every possible aspect of your perfect match, from their views on step-children to their character and their hygiene. While many other sites focus on what they think would make a good match for you, Elite Singles lets you set your criteria around what you require from a future partner. After all, if you’re searching for perfection, wouldn’t you want them to be perfect for you?

Of course, the typical conundrum lies within this process. The more questions you fill out, the easier it is to weed out someone who doesn’t meet your standards, but the less standards you set, the more matches you’ll get. It seems like a catch-22, but with “elite” right in the name you’d expect the matches to be pretty exclusive.

Their prices vary greatly depending on the number of features you choose to buy access to – which is pretty standard in the online dating game. Like so many things in the age of apps, it’s free to sign up and “use” the site, and you only pay for premium features if you actually want to use them. Of course, the premium features house the most possibilities, but that’s not to say it’s a required part of the process.

FindHrr

FindHrr is one of few apps that boast an entirely lesbian crew – which sets it apart because, who knows lesbians better than other lesbians? Officially this is a social app (rather than a dating app) which means that they don’t just cater to those looking for love (or sex – and in fact, they discourage sending “naughty” pictures, which is generally good advice to follow anyway!). Their site reassures users with the simple premise:

Whether you’re seeking a hot date for the weekend, want to find the best gay bar or lesbian event near you or love reading reviews on local attractions when you travel abroad, findhrr will surpass all your expectations.”

Plenty of Fish

Fun little back story: After a break-up, years ago, I was on PoF looking for a date. I had a friend who I told about the site, and she responded with a quick, “That sounds like a lesbian thing.” Well, it’s not an exclusively lesbian dating pool, actually, but there are many bisexual and lesbian members in their numbers.

Plenty of Fish doesn’t have a million questions for you, and I don’t recall there ever being any “premium features” (if there were, I certainly didn’t use them). It’s not the most scientific site, but the fact that it’s free means there are a bunch of users just waiting to talk to you. You can message people for free, and you’re encouraged to fill out your specifications on your profile – but the real “work” is up to you. (Hey, it’s free, what do you expect?)

They do have some scientific matching algorithms available to their users, such as their “Chemistry Test” which evaluates the things you want and the things you need, and helps to tell you whether your potential matches will meet those needs or not. It’s a nice touch, but it is still a free match, and your results may vary.

Plenty of Fish offers some fun features that you often have to pay for on other sites, which makes it a great budget-conscious choice. They estimate 3 million active daily users – again, not all of them women interested in other women – and they claim to be the most popular dating site out there. I’m not sure if that’s true or if it’s just marketing hype, but when I was on the site I met a ton of people. Some weren’t right for me, some were better off as friends, and some were quite weird. (I once actually had “a date” with an escort that I met on PoF – that was a crazy experience, to say the least.)

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OKCupid

OKCupid is another one of the freebies that isn’t exclusively for lesbians, but allows a great deal of success. Instead of treating their matchmaking questions like one big test, you are welcomed to fill out as many or as few questions as you like.

Something that sets them apart is that they have you evaluate what you want your partner’s answers to be. Obviously, you might not know – but this small difference between them and other sites actually lets you specify the things that don’t really matter to you. After all, just because you’re deeply religious doesn’t automatically mean that you require a partner who is – right? (This is of course just an example.)

OKCupid uses your answers to these tests, as well as some fun personality quizzes (yeah, really!) to gauge your compatibility with your matches. You are shown a score of how likely you are to be friends, enemies, or lovers, based on what each of you answered to the questions. You can even compare answers directly if your match has allowed their answers to be posted publicly. If I remember correctly, this also extends to the personality quizzes – after all, don’t you want your matches to be fun as well as serious?

As far as free sites go, I personally stand behind OKCupid. The fact that you’re not forced to sit through tons of questions all at once makes it a lot easier to explore the site on your own time. Got a few minutes with nothing better to do? Might as well answer a few questions! You can even go back and change your answers to questions you’ve answered previously, if you’ve found that your needs and wants have changed. Humans are fluid in nature, after all, and things change over time – but OKCupid stays free.

Pink Sofa

As I’m sure the name implies, Pink Sofa is all about the lesbian social scene. The name Pink Sofa itself was chosen to imply that it would be a comfortable, friendly place – just like your living room! The idea has resonated with a lot of people, too… Enough that it is one of the longest-running businesses owned and managed by lesbians.

What Now?

Well, obviously, if you’re dedicated to finding your perfect partner, the more in-depth your search is, the more likely it is to be successful. I’m not really sure how effective any of these are for finding a match, personally, as I’ve been matched with people who I had actually previously tried to date with no success. (Hey, even science isn’t perfect. And there was that one time that OKCupid matched me with my mother… Talk about awkward!)

But if you don’t mind investing a little time into finding the perfect person for you, and you’re willing to take the steps necessary to guarantee your own success outside of their algorithms, there is scientific proof that these matching algorithms work, at least some of the time.

The extent of the weight of science in each of these sites is different, and what works for one may not work for all. Your best bet is of course to use common sense when going on any dates, and to take pride in your own future. After all, any matchmaking site is built with the intent of earning money.

They get more money if they have a proven track record, but they’ll never do all the work for you.

Take care, and best of luck on your search!

The Joys Of Modern Romance And Online Lesbian Dating

Despite trying my luck at gay bars, strumming up some false charm to flirt with everyone at work, and being set up by what few friends I had, I was luckless in the love game.

That is, until I decided that I was no longer too proud to pimp myself out on a dating site.

I have always been the type to fall in love far too easily. Yet, as many of you might sympathize, the rest of the world has never been too quick to fall for me.

I realized promptly when I came out that the sheer quantity of my potential dates had dwindled to a sliver of what it once was—and I wasn’t very good with meeting people to begin with.

Unless you regularly go out to queer-abundant areas of your city or town, there’s absolutely no guarantee you’ll even cross paths with someone of your orientation.

To start, when you’re exclusively looking for those who identify as LGBTQ, there is less than 5% of the population who do (as calculated by Gallup polls in 2012). You can go ahead and nearly cut that number in half if you’re only looking for women.

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The fraction gets smaller when you factor in how many of those few live in your general vicinity, and who might go to in the same place at the same time.

Then there are so many other variables when looking for your same-sex other-half beyond simply meeting them: Will they like you? Will either of you know that the other is looking for the same thing? How to make a move and risk rejection? Are they already dating someone?

If you want to increase your chances of meeting the right person by any amount, I do suggest getting over the negative stigma and trying a dating website or phone application.

There are plenty of others out there looking for the same thing that you are, who might be too afraid to put themselves out there.

You might just find the perfect person, who otherwise you never would have come across.

Straight Guys Make Dating Profiles For Their Lesbian BFFs (No Really)

Creating your profile online profile can be a daunting task. There are so many different ways you can describe yourself. It can be hard to know the best way to get people interested.

So hand over that task to you straight guy friend… watch and learn people, watch and learn.

Lesbians and Gays Banned From Bisexual Dating Site

Recently, BisexualFish.com, the website for bisexuals looking love, declared that the site is dedicated to bisexual individuals only, and will not allow gays and lesbians to be on it.

Marshall, founder of BisexualFish.com

We want to reiterate that our service is only for people who are attracted to both men and women. We just want to provide a place where everyone has the same orientation. Common interest is very important when it comes to dating, more important for the bisexual crowd. It would be a very unpleasant experience when you come across someone on the site you want to say hi to but she replies ‘sorry, I’m not interested in dudes’.”

Marshall was quick to reiterate that this wasn’t about discrimination

This isn’t about discrimination at all. As part of the LGBT community, we certainly know what it’s like to be prejudiced and no one wants feeling. However, we want to create a more dedicated platform for our members. I’m sure there are services that are for gay and lesbian only, where gay and lesbian will have a much bigger chance to meet that one.”

Unlike any other dating sites, BisexualFish.com doesn’t allow its members to select their “orientation”. The only option is for “bisexuals” to meet “bisexuals”, which means if you’re a member, you could only be bisexual.

However, Marshall mentioned another term which sounds a little bit vague, “bi-curious”.

There are people who are curious about bisexuality. They might be uncertain about their sexuality thus can’t identify themselves as ‘bisexuals’, but as long as they’re interested in both men and women, I don’t see why we shouldn’t give them a big welcome.”

Creepy Things Guys Say to Lesbians on Dating Apps

Men aren’t very good at hearing a “hard no” in person, and online – pah!

It’s partly due to their socialisation to think if they persist and find the right phrase or action, then they’ll win the prize. And partly thinking that women are “just playing hard to get”.

So when confronted by a lesbian on dating app they go into overdrive, especially when those dating apps have a good chance of being for lesbians only?

One lesbian woman decided to find out and blog her experiences on her tumblr account. The results are mind-blowingly sad…

What do lesbians look like???

The ‘but I’m a lesbian too’ guy

The empathetic man

‘I like women… you like women’ must be a match then

The confused male

Has to be a racist

The confused

The ‘cock shot’ convincer guy

The downright rude

The ego

Comment below if you have a dating app horror story.

Online Dating – The Beginners Basics

So I joined a popular dating website about two years ago now. I actually met my latest ex-girlfriend through this site. However since recently using it a bit more often, there have been certain things that are starting to irritate me somewhat:

Firstly (and I have been a little guilty of this myself in the past), I do not want to be texting you for a month, talking about meeting up, but never actually doing so.

If you want to meet me, here is my number and let’s go for a drink. As nerve-racking as it sometimes is, it really is that simple.

Secondly, my profile states who I am and the types that I go for; I tend to like women a bit older than myself, but of course this is based on your maturity level not mine.

I have a mild obsession with married straight women. I like feminine women, girly girls, with all the curves in all the right places. If you have read my profile, thank you, but some of you clearly didn’t think it through before deciding to send me that message.

You look like me. I don’t want to date ‘me’.

Which then means you either didn’t read my profile, or you’re suffering from an extreme case of reverse body dysmorphia.

Thirdly, I am always really frustrated by the generic “hi” messages;

“Hi”.

Well “Hi” right back at yah.

This conversation is over. I mean it hasn’t even started and it’s already over. You like me, yet you’re expecting me to start the conversation? Nu-uh. Nope.

Another thing, if someone does not respond to your “Hi”, they’re not being rude, they’re just not interested.

There is no point in engaging in conversation with someone if you’re not interested. It’s called leading someone on or getting someone’s hopes up. So when they don’t respond, please girls have some self-respect because this –

“Hi” (12:34)

“Hiya hun” (15:37)

“Hello?” (15:55)

Let me tell you, it’s not cute. It’s desperate.

Lastly, but probably the most important one for me – do not start a conversation with me by telling me where I work, please. It’s a little bit weird and kind of slightly stalker-ish. Do I tell you where you work? Who your friends are? No, no I do not. “You work in that bar don’t you?” Yes. Yes I do…

Block.

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Lesbian Online Dating Tips

While the dating scene is fun and exciting, think of create an online dating profile can be a little intimidating. It is just like a billboard advertising you to the entire dating universe. You get to create this advertisement, as we say, and make it portray you just the way you want.

Online dating can be super competitive, since there are millions of people signed on as well, and perhaps have caught the eye of someone you wish to fancy yourself with. So if you become an available lesbian online, make your online profile the greatest it can be, so you can impress anyone that crosses your path!

You don’t have to be an expert at creating the *perfect* online profile, you just have to use the best components of your life to make it stand out from others. Use flattering pictures of yourself, use good grammar, portray all of your interests.

An opening headline is the biggest aspect of the lesbian dating profile. Headlines alone are designed to catch the eye of the reader, and have the reader interested enough to pursue whatever they are reading. It’s not rocket science, its one sentence that has to grab their attention effectively in a positive way. Skim through other profiles to find a good idea of what your headline should look like, and then come up with the perfect one for you!

You need nicely taken photographs that show you being outgoing and having fun in activities, so people know that you’re not some lazy bum who sits around all day messing around online with other females. Along with the pictures, you need a good summary of who you are, brief but in-depth. You want to leave the reader wanting to get to know more about you, and wanting to contact you. Keep it short and sweet, ladies! J