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In ‘Unicornland’ Polyamory Is Honest, Sexy and Awkward

If you’ve seen one web series, you’ve more or less seen them all. The vast majority of web series, even queer ones, involve a hapless young adult surrounded by a troupe of quirky characters as he or she searches for their one true love. It’s funny. It’s poignant. It’s…done.

In that respect, Unicornland is similar. It’s a love story. Except, instead of one true love, the main character is searching for her multiple true loves.

Meek and mild-mannered Annie dreams of becoming a unicorn – that is, a person of any gender who dates couples. Every episode centers on Annie’s escapades with a new couple. Sometimes it’s hot. Sometimes it’s awkward. Usually, it’s both.

The writer, Lucy Gillespie, drew the story from her own life. She got married young and divorced young, after realizing that she was tired of being afraid of life. She wanted to explore, to cherish all of the things – and people – that life had to offer. Her experiences in the polyamorous and BDSM community made her feel like she was alive.

She hired a primarily female cast and crew to make all of her actors feel more comfortable, especially during the sex scenes. Gillespie is literally replacing the male gaze with the female gaze. She also hired a BDSM consultant to make sure that Unicornland, unlike movies like Fifty Shades of Grey, accurately depicts BDSM culture.

The show is also notable for its diversity. There’s not just one way to be sexual – not just one sexual orientation, body type or race. The show proves that women and men of all types deserve to find pleasure.

Says Gillespie, “I was trying to be as realistic as possible about the journey of this young, naïve woman and the pitfalls she makes and the sanctuary that she finds.”

Check out the show for yourself at the official website.

What Is Platonic Polyamory, and Is It Right for You?

When you think polyamory, what do you picture? Do you think it’s three people in one relationship? Do you think it’s two people cheating on each other out in the open? Do you think it’s all about sex, sex, sex?

What about polyamory without sex?

You’re probably thinking, “What’s the point?” After all, sexual freedom is a large part of polyamory.

But sex worker Eva is in a platonic, polyamorous relationship with her best friend, and they never have sex. Recently, she sat down to discuss her experiences.

Eva was monogamous for her entire life until she began working as an escort. Because her job required her to sleep with men for money, she and her girlfriend became polyamorous in order to make things easier. After they broke up, Eva thought that she wanted to remain single. But then she fell in love with her best friend.

This isn’t the Hollywood, romance-and-sex type of love. She and her best friend grew closer and closer until they described their feelings as being in love…but they’re not interested in sleeping with each other.

So you might be asking: Isn’t that just, y’know, friendship?

Not quite. Eva and her best friend are getting married soon, have plans to purchase a house and intend to foster children. They vacation together and make all life-changing decisions together. Says Eva, “We basically function as a couple, just without the sex.”

However, they’re not celibate – far from it! Eva still sleeps with men for her job, and they each date and sleep with other people. But Eva considers her girlfriend her “primary” relationship and can’t see herself getting serious with anyone else.

It might sound complicated, but Eva insists that she and her girlfriend maintain constant, open communication. Whenever any issues arise, they talk about them immediately. They don’t have secrets from each other, but they do have privacy.

What’s the most difficult part? Surprisingly, Eva says that it’s not the relationship itself, it’s how people react to it. Many people can’t accept that love can exist without sex. Her friends and family don’t quite understand.

Regardless, Eva is happy in her queerplatonic relationship. It just feels right.

Does this sort of relationship sound intriguing to you? You might be suited for a queerplatonic partnership. Learn more about that at HelloFlo and Meloukhia.

Polyamorous Lesbian Relationship Myths Busted

If you find that your own lesbian relationship lies outside the ‘traditional monogamous couple’ model, you’re definitely not alone. Their are many multifaceted and multifarious love relationships to choose from.

Increasingly, people are opting out of the traditional structure of monogamous partnership or marriage, and choosing polyamory or open marriage/partnership as viable alternatives.

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So what is a polyamorous relationship? There is a common misconception that a polyamorous relationship is really no different from an open-relationship agreement: one committed couple, with some lighthearted fun on the side. But the word “polyamory,” by definition, means loving more than one.

In an open-relationship, there is still a central, committed couple, who allow one another to engage in purely sexual (or at least quite casual) outside relationships. Generally, any discussion about the benefits of such practice revolves around how it strengthens and/or reinvigorates the central couples relationship. For those of us living in polyamorous families this is not the case. Most polyamorous units have deeply committed relationships with more than one partner, with no hierarchy among them and no core ‘couple’ at the heart of it all.

Lesbian Polyamory Myths Busted

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