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Is Scissoring Actually Effective? | We Answer Your Questions

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Q: Is scissoring actualy effective? 

Dear KitschMix,

So I’ve been seeing my girlfriend for almost a year now, and we want to get more adventurous in the bedroom. She really likes the idea of scissoring and I’m open trying anything once.

We tried last night as well…no luck was had.

Our main problem was that our vulvas, let alone our clits, weren’t rubbing together that well. If anything, both of our asses kept getting in the way. We kept referring to pictures online on lesbian forums, tried to position both our bodies differently, used pillows, etc. etc., but still no improvement.

Has anyone had success with scissoring? Any tips?


A: Oh my goodness, scissoring. It is both my guilty pleasure and the bane of my existence. It can definitely be effective, but there are some problems.

First, it’s definitely a learning experience. Chances are, it’s different than other things you’ve tried in the bedroom, and this can make it difficult to know when you’ve got it right. Especially if your main information is through pictures or porn – because the goal of these two types of materials is to show you what’s going on, they’re a bit misleading when it comes to actual practice.

You really need to be right on top of each other or it isn’t going to work. Most likely, you’re going to have to practice a lot before you get it down – but you’ll definitely know when you do.

Second, your anatomy plays a big part in it too – to an extent. I am not a very small girl, especially in the hips and butt area, so I feel your pain! My current partner and I have both gained a bit of weight over the past year or so – partially due to her having surgery, and partially because I stopped exercising as much as I used to. Before, when we were smaller, we were able to work it out – but even before we got to the sizes we are currently, it got difficult as we got further away from that “perfect” weight for us. We still try every now and then, but it’s not like it was when we were smaller.

For something that feels like scissoring but is a bit more forgiving to body types that aren’t “perfectly built” for such, consider standard tribbing. Technically, the only difference between the two is that scissoring is clit-to-clit while tribbing is clit-to-anything. This makes it a lot easier to handle, but produces the same end result.

Try aligning yourselves with your legs between each other’s legs. Try and get your thigh flat against her vagina, and help her to do the same. Then, as one of you rubs yourself against a leg, the leg that is against your partner will rub against her, too – and if the two of you are on the same rhythm, it feels very similar to “real” scissoring.

I hope this helps – please write again and let us know if this worked for you!


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What Your Zodiac Sign Says About Your Sex Life

Astrology is a fun thing to think about for many people, and for every person who thinks it’s utter garbage there’s bound to be someone who uses their astrological signs to make many important life choices. Personally, I think it has as much power over you as you allow it – just like any other “alternative” sciences.

So, what does this mean for you? Your choice to believe in astrology or not is purely a personal decision. If you find correlations that help you, that’s great! Everyone needs something to believe in, and if astrology is your thing, the following “sex horoscopes” may help guide you on your path to sexual fulfillment for this month.


Aries (March 20 – April 20)

Aries, if you’re single, you should expect a great deal of new encounters this month – some may even call them adventures on their own! On the 9th, Mercury goes direct, which promises that your love and sex will be truly exciting. Later in the month, Mars joins with Venus to entice the prospect of new dates and sexy fun. If it seems like your romantic interest isn’t feeling the same way about you, rest assured that they’re probably just shy. Make the first move and you will be rewarded.

For the Rams in a serious relationship, the full moon brings a blossoming of your love, so you should plan for new romantic encounters with your love. This will lead to the passionate sex you’ve been dying for, and makes for a perfect excuse to look for that sexy Halloween costume you’ve had your eye on. Not big into Halloween? That’s fine, just take advantage of the current influx of costumes to pick out an outfit that’s only for your partner to see.


Taurus (April 20 – May 21)

In the second half of the month, the shroud that’s been covering your sensuality should be lifted, and you have plenty of time to approach that new boo you’ve been eyeing. Make that date – you’ve got a great deal of luck coming to you this month. Make sure you don’t use this as an excuse to over-spend on your dates, though; this isn’t the way to win their affections.
Committed Bulls, the cooler weather will no doubt bring back the spark that you’ve been repressing lately. It’s a great time to get frisky with your lover – maybe even get the Halloween treats and costumes into the mix for some special holiday fun.


Gemini (May 21 – June 21)

Gemini, this month brings you personal satisfaction and a great deal of pleasure. Your intelligence and charm will help you win over that woman you’ve been pursuing. Your judgment will be clear and your sex drive will roar because of it. You’ll be able to accurately discern who is interested in you sexually, and use this to your full advantage this month. However, towards the end of the month, this will begin to taper off, and you’ll be more inclined to connect with your family than to seek out a new flame – don’t resist this urge!

If you’re in a committed relationship, your dual spirit will lead you to a deeper personal connection with your partner. Take some time to get to know her better – even if you’ve been together years, there’s no doubt a lot more to learn about her. Whether you’re in a relationship or not, this is a good time to seek out new friends, as the wavering in your sex drive will ensure that your attention can be focused on being a good friend and partner, rather than focusing on your sexual needs.


Cancer (June 21 – July 23)

For most of the month, you should be focusing on taking care of your body. This can be particularly difficult with the abundance of candy that’s present everywhere right now, but you must be diligent. Take some time to work on your emotional bonds, and it will translate to a better sexual experience around the 22nd. Don’t plan for any dates on the 27th, as the full moon may interfere with your plans and lead to heartbreak.

Love and sex are both a bit of an investment this month for all Crabs. Exercising with your love interest or partner could prove beneficial, as it will help to regulate your emotions and clear your mind. You will be rewarded for your focus and dedication with the glorious conjunction of Venus, Mars, and Jupiter towards the end of the month.


Leo (July 23 – August 23)

Your animal magnetism will shine bright this month, Leo, and you will be showered with affection. Consider making those changes you’ve been thinking about in regards to your wardrobe and your hair style – these will dazzle your new date. You could try a Halloween shopping date and choose a fun costume for yourself and your new partner – then tempt them to bring it to the bedroom for some extra sexy fun.

For the Lions in a committed relationship, you should put your effort into your relationship right now. Take some time off work, if at all possible, and spend that time with your partner. Get a fun new costume or outfit and parade yourself to your partner – she’s sure to love it. With Halloween so close, the full moon on the 27th promises to be a fun time for a private rendezvous in costume – what do you have to lose?


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Virgo (August 23 – September 23)

During the beginning of the month, you probably encountered some stress and hectic emotions. Rest assured that this is over for now and you can begin to relax. The alignment of Mars and Venus assure that your sexual appetite will boom – you should seek out a new partner and plan a great date. It’ll definitely net you the results you’re looking for.

If you’re in a committed relationship, it’s a good time to rent a sexy movie or read an erotic novel with your love. This activity will bring you closer as a couple and allow you to bring back the spice.

Consider planning an unforgettable evening, including a candlelight dinner, around the 27th – your partner will thank you accordingly!


Libra (September 23 – October 23)

Libra, this month has some few surprises up its sleeve for you, especially as it pertains to sex and love. You should expect some good news sometime soon – but don’t forget to set aside some attention to the important matters like your bills. The alignment of the planets right now will lead you to focus on your lustful thoughts, but you must not neglect the other aspects of your life.

For my committed Libra friends, this means that you should plan on a more romantic tone with your lover, and allow things to progress naturally. Don’t try to push the sex as you can get wrapped up in the moment and cause an argument. In fact, that argument may be inevitable – and it has the potential to translate to a bigger problem down the line. Don’t neglect your partner’s needs, or your financial responsibilities during this time or you can seriously regret it in the near future.


Scorpio (October 23 – November 22)

Scorpio, this month is going to be thrilling for you. There will be plenty of opportunities for new sexual escapades, so you shouldn’t ignore these chances. You will have a great deal of charisma working for you this month, and the sexual power will flow through you better than ever.

Committed Scorpio lovers, your partner will surprise you with an increase in passion. Don’t let your jealousy ruin this extra love right now. Your partner deserves the same love they are giving to you. Especially toward the end of the month, your temper may be short, and you will have to control yourself to ensure you don’t make any silly mistakes.


Sagittarius (November 22 – December 22)

This month is a great time to sweep your lover off her feet with a romantic getaway. It doesn’t matter if you’re whisking her off to a tropical beach or simply visiting the local farm for some apple picking and pumpkin carving. Go shopping for some new clothes and buy those tickets!

For single Sagittarius ladies, this month invites you to take a new date to somewhere you’ve never been. You should try to travel as much as possible, and try new things. Splurge on something you’ve been eyeing for awhile, and take that new date to the restaurant you’ve been dying to try. Consider taking her on a road trip – the alignment of the planets this month almost guarantees that your rendezvous will result in a satisfying sexual experience before the end of the month.


Capricorn (December 22 – January 20)

Single Capricorns should avoid dating any new partners at the beginning of the month, as Saturn has an uneasy alliance with Uranus for a good portion of the month. This can cause some problems in a new relationship, and it’s likely to factor into your love and sex life for the month. It should clear up around the 22nd.

If you’re already in an established relationship, however, you can use this time to deepen your bond with your partner. Watch an old movie or read a book together, and ensure that you are there for each other during this time. Make sure you are guarding against depression as emotions are likely to fluctuate throughout the month.


Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)

The month of October is a great time for Aquarius to meet new people, as there will be plenty of parties (which you love!) and dating will be an adventure. The last week would be a great time to invite that special new person in your life to a fun party – whether it’s planned by a friend or by you yourself.
For my lovers, use this time to get into the Halloween spirit with your loved one. Pick out fun and sexy costumes for each other, unpack the decorations, and get to planning the perfect witchy bash for the spookiest night of the year. This social energy will translate to a charge in your sexual chemistry, and your sex life is bound to see a spike this month.


Pisces (February 18 – March 20)

Love and sex are on the up-and-up for you this month. Your anxieties will begin to fade away, which will allow you to connect with someone special towards the end of the month. If your anxiety hasn’t melted away completely yet, don’t worry – push yourself past it and the right person will come find you.
Fish in a committed relationship should take care that they are not overspending this month, as there are plenty of romantic activities you can do with your partner for much cheaper that will still allow you to harness the sexual energy building this month. Go for a walk and hold hands, roll around in some fallen leaves together, or share a bucket of popcorn at the movies – and then enjoy the sexual spark when you return home.

Your Monthly Lesbian Horoscope | June 2017

As the first month of summer rolls around, fittingly it’s The Sun who’ll be bringing us the most positive energy and shining bright in all of our houses. Venus will still be backing the Sun up for most of us and our relationships will feature heavily in all we do.

This doesn’t only refer to personal relationships, there’ll be some developments with our work colleagues too.

The Dark Moon will make an appearance for some of us, but we can combat any negative effects by using our patience and our self-confidence, just don’t let that confidence turn into ego! As negative influences try to creep in, don’t give them a chance, and stay classy, sassy, and always act with love.

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Aries 3/21 – 4/19

Although The Moon will support your biggest enemy, Saturn, this month, The Sun is weighing in and fighting your corner with some success. This means it’ll be a mixed bag for you in June, but nothing too disastrous should happen. The main issues will be at work and you could feel an overwhelming desire to tell your boss just what you think of them, and maybe even to stick their job! Be careful and don’t act too spontaneously, you could say things in the heat of the moment you regret later. All this drama in your work life leaves your personal life pretty quiet. You should be able to strengthen your connections in your private life, which is good, as you’re going to need them!


Taurus 4/20 – 5/20

With The Sun and Venus working together in your house this month, bringing you positive energy, it’s no surprise that your relationships will be stable and straight forward. You shouldn’t experience any bumps in the road and for single Taureans especially it could be a time for meeting new people and making new connections. In your work life you face a few small annoyances, the main one being that at least one person you work with will try to play down your achievements and even suggest they are the result of something other than your hard work. They might even attempt to start a rumour or two. If they are trying to shake you, don’t let them. You know the truth and so does anyone who’s a real friend.


Gemini 5/21 – 6/21

Saturn is already gunning for you in June, but when Venus comes along and jumps on the same boat, you’ll really see some good times roll in. In your work life you should be patient if something doesn’t quite work out first time. In the first ten day period things could easily slip out of your hands, but in the second ten day period they’ll come back around again and you’ll have a second bite at the cherry. In your personal life you’ll feel a lot of personal growth going on and you can really connect with the inner you more deeply. It’s also a good time for strengthening your family ties, and any long term friendships. These people will be your rock in the future so do right by them now.


Cancer 6/22 – 7/22

There’s some curious energy going on in your house this month, Cancer. Most of this is going to be caused by the appearance of The Dark Moon, who’ll be pulled along by the force of The Moon. Although The Dark Moon often spells trouble, for you it will bring a kind of clarity and you’ll suddenly feel like your eyes have opened and you’ve woken up to a few things in your life. At work you’ll understand situations and practices better than you did before, giving you a head start in anything you do. In your personal life this energy should bring you a feeling of peace and spiritual harmony. This will bring an atmosphere of calm over your home and relationships and any lingering tensions will disappear as you smile everything away.


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Leo 7/23 – 8/22

The Sun will be especially strong in the house of Pluto this month and with Pluto backing it up with more positive energy, you could be set for some interesting developments. Your work life should be pretty stable, but you will have to take care of your jobs yourself and don’t pass things along to someone else. You need to keep tight control over what’s being done in your name or you could have a nasty surprise. At home things are a bit more fluid. It’s still positive energy, but here there are opportunities for change. This means it’s a good time to look at the relationships in your life and decide if they are positive for you. It’s hard, but if someone is bringing you down, you need to decide if you’re willing to put up with this negativity.


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Virgo 8/23 – 9/22

You’ll have The Sun and Mercury to thank for your good fortune this month, but you’ll need to watch out for Neptune who’s ready to exploit any small crack of negativity that enters your month. This will be especially noticeable in your personal life where things will be calm and positive, but paradoxically this will cause your passion to lie just under the surface and any small tensions could easily be blown out of proportion. At work you can actually fight your corner with this and it’s advisable not to back down from any conflict, but to stand up for yourself, especially in the first ten day period when you mustn’t be walked all over. At home this will be more precarious, so be careful of who you argue with.


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Libra 9/23 – 10/22

The Sun is shining strong everywhere this month and for you Saturn will come long and offer support. Only Mars will be acting negatively towards you in June, and the red planet will seek to exploit any areas where you have low confidence. The important thing here is, though other people and situations around you may change, don’t be tempted to change yourself to fit in with them. Be yourself and have confidence in who you are and what you believe in. Do this and you’ll remain strong. Luckily for you, you’ll have the foresight and the ability to understand what’s going on and you’ll be able to spot frauds and two-faced people a mile off. Stick to your own course and ignore the fair-weather people, and The Sun will keep shining.


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Scorpio 10/23 – 11/21

As Saturn stays solid in your house this month, Venus and The Moon also move onside, switching from their usual position against you. This will bring you much high energy, but you need to be careful how you use it. In your work life especially, this burst of positive energy could cause you to feel invincible and you’ll see this as the perfect time to experiment and maybe even take some risks. You’re not bullet-proof though, so don’t do anything without thinking it through first. The same is true in your personal life, but here it’s more about people and, especially any new people entering your life. Don’t be a fool, don’t let her into your life too much too soon, and don’t see caution as a weakness. You don’t know this person yet, so be careful.


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Sagittarius 11/22 – 12/21

Most of the planets will be gunning for you this month, Sagittarius, and Venus will be at the front of the pack. You will have to contend with negative energy from Mercury and The Dark Moon, but you can navigate this by being super careful. Mercury and The Dark Moon are looking to exploit any little mistakes you make, so quite simply, don’t make any. In your personal life it looks like someone around you, probably a relative, will make a huge decision and they’ll look to you for back-up and support. Although this isn’t your decision to make, you should still consider its merits carefully. At work you should rely on your colleagues to help and support you when things get tough. They’ll also help you to achieve something big this month.


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Capricorn 12/22 – 1/19

The Moon is going to switch sides in your house in June and instead of pouring its usual rain all over you, it’ll shine positive energy down on you in droves. Instead, Jupiter will take up The Moon’s mantle, but remember Jupiter is looking to exploit particular traits in you and if you don’t let your ego out to play and you stay open minded, you won’t give it room to do anything. In your personal life this is going to be especially tough for you. You’ll feel the need to re-evaluate some of your connections, especially your friendships, but you need to do this with fairness and open mindedness and don’t involve your big ego, or you’ll end up in a fierce battle. Worst of all, others will begin to take sides. So stay calm and be rational.


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Aquarius 1/20 – 2/18

Mercury and The Sun are going to bolster each other this month, meaning you’ll have extra support in anything you want to do. Push the boat out when it comes to making plans and putting things in motion. Energy in your house will allow you to go further than you normally could, so think big. This will be an especially productive time for any Aquarians who are doing work in the home. Renovating, moving house, or just simple DIY, will gain extra momentum and you can push the envelope a little further. In your work life you’ll find those colleagues you don’t get on with so well will suddenly want to be your best friend. Be suspicious about this, but don’t dismiss the chance for friendship.


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Pisces 2/19 – 3/20

The Sun is acting in support of Venus in your house through June, bringing you increased people skills and making it a great time for new connections. It’s a good time for entering into agreements, contracts, or partnerships with others and you’ll work well when you’re not working alone. The first ten day period is also a lucky time for you, so anything you sign or have a go at is likely to be positive. It’s a great time for spending with family and friends and it’s going to be the right time to take a trip as a group, enjoy weddings and family get-togethers, or also for starting new relationships. The only area for caution is when mixing money with friends or family. This is the one area you could fall fowl, so keep boundaries.

Your Monthly Lesbian Horoscope | May 2017

The last month of spring can often bring the feeling of new opportunities, with the dawning of summer just around the corner and lots of warmer days to enjoy. Venus and The Sun are teaming up for many of us this month and they bring positive energy and warmth, but that energy is limited. For many of us this can be quite frustrating, as we’ll have to deal with issues on our own and some if the things going on around us will be confusing.

We all need to take our time over things this month and gather information and all our confidence so we can step out each day and feel the sun on our backs. This is a time for doors to open and opportunities to come along, but choosing what path to take can be daunting. Relax and take it easy, everything will work out and what will be will be.

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Aries 3/21 – 4/19

You’ll have The Sun on your side this month, Aries, but that won’t mean anything dynamic or too adventurous is likely to happen. Instead, you should see quite a stable and steady few weeks emerge, especially in your work life where you’ll fall into a comfortable routine and you’ll be able to get a lot done. You home life will pan out a little differently and here you’ll need to watch your back, as Saturn and Venus will be on the prowl ready to pounce if you make even the smallest mistake. This shouldn’t put you off looking ahead and planning your future, just watch your step as you go.


Taurus 4/20 – 5/20

May will bring you some positive energy with The Moon and Jupiter supporting you and pushing you forward. Make sure you check everything out before you commit to anything though, as not everything will be as it at first seems this month. This will be especially tricky for you at work and you may have to engage more with someone you don’t like in order to get all the information you need. In your personal life things will be more precarious and you’re going to have to accept that sometimes the best laid plans go array. The best approach to this situation is to be as relaxed about it as you can. Go with the flow and see where it takes you


Gemini 5/21 – 6/21

Saturn is going to bring you a lot of positive energy this month and the potential to get a lot done and achieve things in all areas of your life, will be there all through May. You will have Mercury to contend with though, who is dead set on throwing obstacles in your way. Don’t be frustrated or let this get you down. In your work life the best way to deal with this is to cover all bases. Don’t put all your energy into one thing, but have your fingers in a few pies just in case one goes down the tubes. In your personal life it’s all about perspective and how you choose to view things. This really can be a game changer for you, so choose wisely.


Cancer 6/22 – 7/22

Although The Moon and Jupiter are on your side this month, their influence on you will be minimal and you’ll have to do most of the work yourself and take full responsibility for what happens. At work the first ten day period of May is going to the strongest. In this time you’ll put things into place and you’ll feel like you’re really pushing forward with projects. But in the second ten day period things will get a bit more sticky and you’ll have to work harder to see things through. All this activity in your work life will make it harder for you to give attention to your personal life, but try to find some kind of balance and play as well and as hard as you work.


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Leo 7/23 – 8/22

Pluto will pal up with Uranus this month in your house, which is an unusual and fairly negative situation. Uranus is normally against you, but Pluto doesn’t often venture over to the dark side. This means things could be difficult for you, but some good old fashioned hard work will get you out of any holes you fall into. At work this can’t be avoided and you’ll just have to get your head down and get on with it, but in your personal life there are ways you can minimise the hard times. Basically, pay attention to what you’re doing and saying and make sure you are being considerate. If you step out of line with those you love right now, you’ll feel the cold shoulder.


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Virgo 8/23 – 9/22

As Venus and The Sun team up in your house and bring high energy to you, you might be forgiven for thinking this is sweetness and light all the way…but you’d be wrong. While these two planets are bringing you positive vibes, the downside of this is you’ll have so many different directions you could go in and so many possibilities opening up, you’re in danger of taking a wrong turn. At work you may think everything is obvious and clear, but this is actually where you need to be most careful. At home you’ll feel the opposite and things will seem muddled and unsure. Both areas need the same forward thinking and care if you want to emerge successful.


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Libra 9/23 – 10/22

There’s no avoiding problems this month, Libra, but luckily for you, you have the dream-team, of Saturn and Venus in your corner who’ll point out issues to you before they become too big to handle. Although the planets can’t go further than this, this helping hand should be enough for you to work though things and get results. In your work life you should ask for help when you need it, don’t go thinking you can cope with everything on your own. In your personal life, it’s actually a great time for single Libras to make a move on someone they’ve got their eye on. Problems will crop up, but it’s the perfect way to test if this has potential to go any distance.


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Scorpio 10/23 – 11/21

Saturn will be around to back you up this month in all you do, but although it’s bringing up your rear with positive energy, it won’t be able to do much about problems that come your way. What it will be good at, is pointing you in the right direction, so trust in your sense of space right now and get ready to work through issues. In your work life you should be able to get your ideas across well and those around you will be happy to let you do things your way. In your home life it’s most important that you and those close to you are all on the same page. If any one of you (including yourself) goes off and does things without letting others in on it, there’s going to be trouble that’s hard to resolve.


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Sagittarius 11/22 – 12/21

Venus and The Sun are pairing up all over the universe this month, and for Sagittarius this means the possibilities are good, but you need to be prepared to put the work in. This doesn’t mean you should limit yourself out of fear that you can’t cope, quite the opposite. In your work life especially you should reach high and dream big and gather your self-confidence to motivate you. In your personal life you’ll need to take more of an observational role and let others’ dramas and issues play out without your input. Getting involved with the problems of your friends and family will only put you in the firing line when things go wrong. Be there to support, but don’t meddle.


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Capricorn 12/22 – 1/19

Although Mars is supporting you this month and brings some positive energy your way, things won’t be all clear and straight forward for you. In your personal life you’ll be most confused at times and you could feel like you’re a bystander in your own life, not knowing what’s going on half the time! Issues will appear to arise that are muddled for you, but they will soon work themselves out without you having any idea what happened! This is due to the energy in your house opening up many doors and allowing different situations to enter your celestial house. At work you’ll be faced with lots of opportunities, but you should take your


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Aquarius 1/20 – 2/18

With The Sun strong in your house through May, you’ll have quick reactions and you’ll be able to deal with problems as soon as they arise, batting them away like annoying midges! Just keep an eye on your mood, especially in the first ten day period, as you may feel like everything is against you and nothing is going right. You do have the tools to sort everything out, but it could bring you some negative emotions if you’re not careful. There are bigger changes on the horizon for your home life, with moving home, renovating, changing who you live with, or simple DIY, looking likely. Again, you have what it takes to deal with anything, so welcome it with open arms.


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Pisces 2/19 – 3/20

Venus and The Sun are bright in your house this month and they bring you a very particular angle with which to deal with things. Basically, you’re encouraged to stop flogging dead horses in your life. In other words, stop bothering with situations, tasks, and even people, who are bringing anything to your life and just isn’t working out for you. This will be most intense at the end of the month in your work life, where you’ll be very aware of things that stand in your way and need disposing of. In your personal life your destiny should become more obvious to you, and you’ll see that to get to it, you need to knock some obstacles out of the way. Don’t feel guilty, you’ve already given enough of your time to these things.

Your Monthly Lesbian Horoscope | April 2017

The second month of spring brings many of us some changes and plenty of opportunities. It could feel at times like a tornado is ripping through our houses, but we have a lot of high energy around so it’s no wonder the strong spring wind feels fierce. The Sun and The Moon are active in most houses this month and these powerful planets will bring the unexpected and lots of surprising openings. We’ll need to put the effort and the work in to get the best results, but we’ll have a head start in most circumstances with strong surges of enthusiasm and positivity. Drama could surround us in our home lives, but none of this involve us directly and we will only be required to lend support and smooth things over. Our abundance of positive energy makes us perfect for this and we’ll feel enlightened and strong.

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Aries 3/21 – 4/19

Mars and The Sun will have your back this month, but even these two powerful planets can’t work miracles and you’ll need to be prepared for the unexpected. At work you should go through your daily tasks methodically and keep your course. It’s not a good time to be doing anything unusual or for taking on work you’re not familiar with. Stay flexible regarding anything that comes your way and be ready to adapt to the needs of others. At home you’re pleasing your girl, which is great, but don’t do this at the expense of your own happiness. Make sure you’re getting what you want as well and make sure your partner is willing to compromise sometimes.


Taurus 4/20 – 5/20

Although The Moon is strong in your house this month, it isn’t best placed to give you what you need right now. Thankfully The Sun is around to offer some back up and with these two planets shining light on you together, you can’t go far wrong. Your work life should be pretty stable in April, but you will have the chance to improve your situation if you have the energy to take it. Keep alert for opportunities and weigh up the pros and cons before you do anything. In your personal life it’s important that you stay your course, even if you’re being called out for it and others seem to think you’re wrong. Listen to your heart and keep doing what you feel is right.


Gemini 5/21 – 6/21

At the beginning of this month, Gemini, you’ll feel a big surge of positive energy and you’ll feel like you can smash tasks and take on the world…but you’re unlikely to have anything to direct all this enthusiasm at, which could lead to frustration if you’re not careful. It could be confusing at first, but later in the month you’re going to need this energy so don’t waste it. This relates mostly to your work life, or possibly home based projects, where things will go well if you use the energy right. In your personal life it’s a little different and here the things


Cancer 6/22 – 7/22

The Moon will have your back in April, Cancer, and will take on the role of protector in your house. In your work life this means you can start to implement changes that benefit you and bring your work more into line with what you really want to be doing. This could be starting your own business or bringing more of your own practices and passions into what you already do. There’ll be a lot going on in your personal life, but it won’t necessarily involve you directly. It’s more likely that you’ll be enjoying being a part of what’s going on from the side lines. Family gatherings, marriage, babies etc are all likely and could bring you a lot of happiness right now.


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Leo 7/23 – 8/22

During April you’re going to have The Sun shining in your house, but it’s a curious sort of energy this powerful planet is bringing to you. You’ll be encouraged to think deeply, reflect on your situation, and even meditate if it helps you to see more clearly. At work it’s the perfect time for planning and organising. You’ll be able to formulate plans well and it’s the right time to take these ideas forward and put them to your bosses as solid possibilities. In your personal life you should be able to reach a higher understanding of yourself and how you behave and interact with others. You can change your position on something now, or you can think about presenting yourself in a different way.


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Virgo 8/23 – 9/22

There’s some mixed energy in your house this month, with Mercury bringing you the tools you need to make plans and organise yourself, and Mars working hard to solve problems in your way and resolve issues. This means on the one hand, it’s the right time to push forward with plans and ideas, but Mercury isn’t extending you the energy to actually put anything into action. It’s up to you from here as Mars will be working to smooth the way if you do want to go forward. Whether at work or in your relationships status, you can hold back and be sure of what you’re doing for a later time, with solid plans in place, or you can move forward and take action right now. How bold you feel is down to you.


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Libra 9/23 – 10/22

There’s a lot of positive energy in your house this month and Saturn and Mars will be bringing good vibes to everything you do. Success is high right now and you’ll have a lot of opportunities coming your way in your work life. However, don’t be too quick to say yes and take on too much. This month is more about working on projects you’ve already begun, rather than taking on more, no matter how great they might seem. Make sure you pace yourself so you don’t run the risk of burning out. In your personal life there’s a lot of sunshine, but it’s also a great time for identifying any cracks in relationships and repairing them before they grow wider.


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Scorpio 10/23 – 11/21

You’re short on support from the planets this month, Scorpio, and you may be left to go it alone in most areas of your life. However, don’t let this worry you, gather your confidence and self-belief and know that you have what it takes to make April a success. You’re going to have to put the effort it, but you’ve never been afraid of hard work. In all areas of your life you’ll be especially good at noticing the little things that others tend to skim over. This will be great for you at work and will give you a different approach to everyone else. At home this will allow you to be more attentive to your partner, and if you’re single it’s a great time to meet someone new as you’ll be alert and you’ll be a great listener.


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Sagittarius 11/22 – 12/21

Jupiter and Mars will be teaming up in your house this month to shine a slice of luck on you. However, don’t let this lead you to become complacent, luck is a tool and it’s how you use it and what you do with it that determines what you get out of it. At work you’ll be especially strong at building projects up from the bottom and really fleshing out structures. You may have to get your hands dirty this month, but with luck on your side this is going to lead you to great success. In your personal life you should use your confidence, even if you don’t have much of it, to make yourself shine. It’s especially busy for single Sagittariuns who could end up beating girls off with a stick!


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Capricorn 12/22 – 1/19

Mars and The Moon are bringing a lot of positive energy to your house this month, but will also create a soothing atmosphere which makes it a great time to get some rest and relax. Your work life will be split into two halves this month. In the first period you’ll be able to deal with problems affectively as they arise, and it won’t take up too much of your time and energy. In the second half you’ll gain the energy to put wheels in motion on something and really move forward. In your personal life you’re likely to experience a lot of drama, though none of it will involve you. This could become tiresome as you’ll have to deal with those around you, but stay calm and use your restful mood to bring about some peace.


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Aquarius 1/20 – 2/18

There’s a curious situation in your house this month, Aquarius. Mars is on your side and will bring positive energy, but this is highly unusual for the red planet and it could feel a little awkward to you at first. Try to settle yourself into the situation and be prepared for some instability in the first part of the month until everything settles down. There are changes in the air in your work life this month and you may have itchy feet. Don’t do anything hasty as the energy is skewed, but think things through before you make big changes. In your personal life the focus is on your family where there could be some issues between family members. It won’t affect you directly, but you should help smooth the way where you can.


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Pisces 2/19 – 3/20

With The Sun’s energy bright in your house the first ten day period of this month will be verging on manic. At work you’ll gain a lot of opportunities. You should take on as much as you physically can at this time as The Sun doesn’t often enter your house like this and might not be around again for some time. Things might feel precarious at times because the energy is so high, but don’t be afraid to take some chances and go with it. In your personal life there’s going to be the chance for a big step forward. If you’re single this could mean entering a strong relationship and if you’re already loved up this could even mean popping the question!

Your Monthly Lesbian Horoscope | March 2017

It’s officially the first month of spring and a great time for clearing the decks, wiping slates clean, and sweeping through your house with an all cleaning broom. Saturn is bringing positivity to every sign without fail this month and we’ll all benefit from this strength and energy. How we need to use it and how it can help us will differ, but Saturn is on our side no matter who we are in March.

Opportunities are everywhere and there’s new beginnings and new relationships on the cards for many of us, but we’ll have to put the effort in to get out what we want. This is the case for most of us and March won’t offer a free ride. What it will offer is chances and possibilities. Take them by the horns and ride them while they’re here.

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Aries 3/21 – 4/19

You’ll have highly motivational energy from Saturn in your house this month, coupled with determination from The Sun. This is a very positive way to begin the month and you should be able to achieve a lot, but make sure you aren’t trying to control every situation in your life. You’ll face some challenges at work, but you have the strength to get over them fairly easily. In your personal life you can look forward to harmony and happiness, as long as you’re acting with honesty. Don’t think the positive energy you have gives you a free pass, you still have to take responsibility for what you do and how you do it.


Taurus 4/20 – 5/20

Venus and The Moon have your back this month and Saturn will smile on you for once and side with them as well. This makes March a great time for you to push forward with plans you’ve had on the back burner, especially in your career. It would be the perfect time for anyone thinking of starting their own business or making a drastic change in their career. In your personal life you have a choice to makes, and it’s a tricky one. You’ll be forced to choose between two people, or two relationships you have, and put one before the other, or even let go of one in favour of the other altogether. Listen to your heart and trust your feelings on this.


Gemini 5/21 – 6/21

Saturn is firmly on side this month, but unfortunately this is the only support you’ll get and you’ll have to be your own rock for most of the time. In your work life it’s a simple case of what you put in you’ll get out. You could feel under pressure at times and you may have more responsibility than usual, but work at it and you’ll get the rewards. Your personal life may seem like something of a roundabout, as you go from one circumstance, to another, then back again. You’ll be attractive to everyone around you in the first ten days, then this will cool off, then you’ll go back to being a magnet again. Try to stay grounded and take the rough with the smooth.


Cancer 6/22 – 7/22

Saturn, in a good mood with many signs this month, will team up with The Moon to bring you positivity. You could have some problems with balance in March and if one area of your life has to win out over the other you should make sure it’s your personal life and not your career. Your work life will present a few challenges, mainly in the lack of resources available to you to get the job done, but you are only one person and you can’t run yourself into the ground. Your personal life needs more of your attention this month and you’ll get some news in the first half of the month that forces you to make a decision later on. Be rational and don’t be led by your emotions.


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Leo 7/23 – 8/22

The Sun and Saturn will face off directly against Mars and The Moon in your house this month, the former being positive and the latter negative. This means you have to keep your wits about you and don’t relax until you know everything’s in hand. If you stay focussed your work life could bring you some much needed financial gains. This could be a bonus, pay rise, or a higher paying position. Don’t let this possibility distract you from putting the effort in. In your home life it’ll be those around you who are in tricky situations, rather than you, and you have to be the one to help them through and give support. Be the person others need you to be right now.


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Virgo 8/23 – 9/22

Mercury is by your side this month, giving you support, but Neptune will do its best to mess things up for you. This means you need to take care before moving forward with plans, making decisions, or reacting to anything. On the whole, the more bold you are in March, the more you’ll gain, so don’t be afraid, but do pay attention to details. This applies to all areas of your life and any single Virgos will find that someone they’ve had their eye for a while now will finally notice. This will go well as long as you are yourself and you don’t try to impress too much. This girl likes things to be real and she’ll see through any fakery pretty quickly.


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Libra 9/23 – 10/22

The Moon and Venus are working against you this month, but Saturn’s positive energy knows no bounds right now and will easily neutralise any negativity from other planets. There are some gains to be made at work for you in March, but it might not always be obvious where and how. A lot of the real work is going on behind the scenes so you’ll have to get your hands dirty to make progress. In your personal life things will be much simpler, though that doesn’t necessarily mean easier. You still have to put the effort in to get what you want out, and the more effort you make the easier things will get.


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Scorpio 10/23 – 11/21

There’s some complex energy going on between Saturn and The Moon in your house this month. This is neither especially positive or negative, but will be inter changing. This means you’ll need to be prepared to adapt and be flexible and you could be faced with new situations and changes to circumstances on a daily basis. At work you should make sure you’re only using your energy on things that matter and that you don’t waste your time on issues that won’t go anywhere. In your home life you need to be ready to react to other people’s problems and to offer support where it’s needed. Keep listening to loved ones and recognise when something is amiss.


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Sagittarius 11/22 – 12/21

Jupiter and Venus will be covering your world in roses this month and it could appear to you as if everything is sunny and glorious and that your fortunes have taken an upturn. It’s true that you’ll have opportunities in March, but nothing comes for free. At work you’ll need to move on issues quickly and take advantage of possibilities before they close. This could make you feel pressured, but you have a lot of positive energy on your side right now. There’ll be a dilemma or decision to make in your personal life and single Sagittariuns will find this especially hard as you’ll feel on your own with this. Go to your close friends and family for advice, they are there for you.


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Capricorn 12/22 – 1/19

Saturn is sweeping through your house with a clean broom this month and you’ll be encouraged to look at any negative relationships and people in your life and think seriously about cutting them loose. This spring clean of your life will allow you to welcome better things and ‘out with the old and in with the new’ can be a positive way to start the season. In your work life this applies to projects and work practices rather than your actual job. But in your personal life it can be taken very literally. There is one relationship especially in your life where you’ve given all you can and it’s time to seriously think about moving on. Something far better is waiting round the corner.


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Aquarius 1/20 – 2/18

Saturn and Mercury are bringing you all the positivity and strength they can this month, but there will still be at least one tricky situation you can’t wriggle out of. Unfortunately it’s your own lack of attention to details that’s got you into this and you can’t simply talk your way out of it. You’ll need solid solutions this time, so get ready to strategize and plan. In your personal life this will take a different form and you’ll find someone new in your life is being over clingy and too familiar with you. You’ll need to be diplomatic on this one, but when it comes down to it, ask yourself how much this person means to you and whether you’re willing to put up with this.


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Pisces 2/19 – 3/20

Venus and Saturn arm in arm and smiling in your house is a very unusual situation and you should make the most of the positive energy they bring to you this month. Most of this will be focussed on your personal life and if you need to tip the scales of your attention in one direction, this is where it should go. Things at work will be fairly straight forward and you should try to approach any issues with colleagues with a smile on your face. Don’t get drawn into petty dramas or gossip. In your personal life you can look forward to a good outcome to a situation, even if it doesn’t always seem like it’s going your way. Remember, when things are difficult is when you need to step up and really put the effort in. This could be your finest hour in this area of your life to date!

Your Monthly Lesbian Horoscope | February 2017

February is often thought of as the month of love, but it can also be the month most likely to experience frost and a chilling cold snap. Despite love being everywhere in February, that’s not necessarily the case for most of us in reality.

That said, there’s plenty of positivity around for most of us this month and there’s a lot to feel up-beat about. Venus and Jupiter are acting like everyone’s favourite crime fighting duo, dampening negativity wherever they come across it.

And these two together will work to bring many of us great achievements in our work lives and stability at home. There’s a strong focus on family this month and despite February being the month of love, it’s our family who will take up most of our time and be our priority.

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Aries 3/21 – 4/19

Venus and Saturn are cosying up to you this month, Aries, and seem to really want to be your besties. These two dynamic planets are showering you with positivity. All this will influence you greatly and make you feel extra generous and giving. In your work life in particular, this is where problems could arise. Don’t forget the purpose of work amidst all this good will, and remember you are there to earn your living, not to give away your time and skills for free. It’s an especially interesting time for single Arians who are likely to meet someone significant. In this area of your life you need to be prepared to be flexible, as making way for this special person could mean sacrificing other things.


Taurus 4/20 – 5/20

Pluto is going to try to block your path at every turn this month and will do everything it can to put obstacles in your way, but with Venus and The Moon working together on your side, there isn’t much to worry about. In your work life team work and collaborating on projects will be the way forward, though this could mean you have to work with people you don’t get along with. You have the right positive energy to get your head down and get on with this for the greater good. In your personal life the opposite will be true. Here you should be wary of new people and especially careful about being too open with anyone you don’t know very well.


Gemini 5/21 – 6/21

The planets are behaving in a fairly neutral way in your house through February. While this means they aren’t sending any negative vibes your way, it also means they aren’t gifting you with any positivity either. It looks like it’s up to you, Kid! There are some interesting opportunities coming your way in your work life this month, but you have to really want it to get anywhere with any of these. There looks like being a time of transition in your home life, which could cause you considerable stress. Which way you all move as a family and what happens next is very much down to you, so take your time and think carefully about what’s best for everyone.


Cancer 6/22 – 7/22

Jupiter and The Moon are providing you with a solid support system this month, but this doesn’t mean you can coast along without worrying about anything. To get results you’re going to have to put the effort in. At work, especially, the more you put in the more you’ll get out and with Jupiter and The Moon firmly behind you all the way, you could really go far. In your personal life a little doubt can be a good thing, as long as you don’t allow this to turn into paranoia. You should spend some time alone this month to get more in touch with the inner you and ask yourself if these feelings of doubt really do have a basis.


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Leo 7/23 – 8/22

There’s a strange situation going on in your house this month between Pluto and Uranus. You may at times feel like there are too many obstacles in your way and no matter how you try you aren’t getting anywhere. In fact, these two mischievous planets are only creating the illusion of problems, rather than problems themselves. This will be especially apparent in your personal life where there is a wedding to plan. This could be your own, or it could be someone close to you, but if you’re not careful you’ll end up letting the pressure of this get to you. Take a step back and realise that nothing terrible will happen if things are delayed or not 100% perfect.


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Virgo 8/23 – 9/22

Venus will take over from Mercury as your closest ally this month, bringing a lot of peace and stability to your love life and your family life. You do need to beware in all areas of your life though, as Neptune is up to no good. Check all opportunities that come your way carefully before you do anything. Neptune will present you with openings that seem too good to be true. They are, so don’t act on anything until you’re certain it’s legit. This will be especially important in your work life where you could be drawn into dodgy deals or make decisions based on inaccurate information. It would be better to be seen as someone who is less than dynamic this month than to go down avenues that prove to be harmful.


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Libra 9/23 – 10/22

Venus and Jupiter are like a crime fighting duo in your house this month, Libra, giving you their special energy to overcome any negativity and to push yourself forward to great things. The only stipulation is that you act fast. Any Libras who dawdle could easily miss the boat. This is a great time for any Libras who are considering starting their own business or doing something entrepreneurial. The key is to dive in headfirst without allowing yourself time to let doubt seep in. In your personal life you have a decision to make, and once again you’re encouraged to make it without over-thinking things. Listen to your gut and go with how you feel. Your heart knows what you want and need, all you have to do is hear it.


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Scorpio 10/23 – 11/21

Saturn is bringing you strong positive energy this month and you can look forward to achieving lots and enjoying considerable harmony. However, your downfall will be lethargy if you allow it to be. The Moon isn’t taking any prisoners in February and if you don’t put the effort in you won’t get anything out. You can get lots done at work if you stay focussed, but don’t chance a look behind you into your past mistakes or you’ll easily be thrown off course. In your personal life there could be a few surprises and not everything will go to plan, but this is a great opportunity to learn to be more adaptable and to make the most out of unforeseen circumstances.


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Sagittarius 11/22 – 12/21

Venus and Jupiter are a competent double-act in many of the signs this month, and for you they are teaming up to help you realise your most ambitious plans. Don’t be afraid to go for it this month, even on things you think you have little chance of achieving. Positivity is on your side and you stand a higher than average chance of making it through. If there are risks to what you’re doing, weigh them up with the possible gains and bear this in mind, but ultimately you’re encouraged to reach high. In your personal life you’ll be surprised to find something unusual out about someone you’ve known for a long time. You can take the chance to strengthen your relationship with this person through this shared revelation.


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Capricorn 12/22 – 1/19

In February Mars will be bringing you the chance for success in all that you do – if you want it enough and you put the time and effort in. You can see Mars as your support system this month, there to hold you up and encourage you, but ultimately you have to do the work yourself. The red planet will also be there to help you resolve problems in your work life and will help you to find creative ways to overcome obstacles. In your personal life it’s a great time to meet new people, whether that’s potential love interests or just new friends. You don’t need to worry too much about who’s right for you as the significant ones will be naturally drawn to you and will stick around.


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Aquarius 1/20 – 2/18

Mars will be doing its best to deny you any success at work, but by the start of the second ten day period of this month, Saturn will swoop in like your guardian angel and you’ll feel like a weight has suddenly been lifted. All this means you should consider carefully any risks involved in what you’re doing in the first ten day period when things are precarious. In your personal life there’s a strong focus on family and you may see some issues going on with other family members that could seem to be none of your business. Don’t ignore this tension between others and if you think you can do something to help, put yourself forward and try to do the right thing.


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Pisces 2/19 – 3/20

Mercury and Venus are at each other’s throats in your house this month and there won’t be a resolution until Jupiter steps in at around the second ten day period. Until Jupiter smooths things over you’re better off making plans and writing lists than actually trying to put anything into action. You’ll need a lot of focus and concentration at work and don’t beat yourself up if you happen to be in the wrong place at the wrong time. In your home life you can set a good example to those around you by spreading warmth and love and being the light for everyone. Draw the line here when it comes to lending money, as family and finances together is a recipe for disaster.

Your Monthly Lesbian Horoscope | January 2017

With the beginning of the New Year comes a lot of hope and thoughts of fresh beginnings and clean slates. But just like most New Year’s resolutions, things in the astrological world don’t always go to plan. Saturn is the planet most of us have to watch out for this month and this dark one will be trying to cause negative vibes in many of our houses.

We do have a lot of support and positive energy around to counter this though, and most of us can look forward to a time of opportunity and fairly stable conditions. Many of us need to watch out for new friends, acquaintances, or colleagues who come on too strong or want to get too close too quick. In fact, we’d be wise to use caution in most things in January and make sure we know just how the situation lies before we do anything.

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Aries 3/21 – 4/19

The Sun will take over from Mars in your house this month, bringing your relationship and love life to the forefront of your attention, meaning work will take a back seat for you. This means your work life will be stable, but not much will happen of any significance. In your love life, on the other hand, you’re set for some changes, and most of this will happen within you. Some Arians are going to find their emotions will change drastically in January and they’ll no longer feel the same way about their partner. For others it will be a change of direction and you’ll find that the path you’re on with your girl is no longer right for you. This doesn’t mean you can’t move direction together, but if you can’t being honest about it is the best way forward.


Taurus 4/20 – 5/20

The Moon will be your strongest allay in January and although Venus will try to bring influence to your house, the energy from The Moon will overshadow everything else. This means your love life won’t be able to gain enough of your attention this month and work will take over. It has to really, as you’ll be in the position of being the one person who gets to decide where projects are heading and where your work path is going. In your personal life someone close to you is going to mess up and they’ll look to you for help and support. This will be tricky for you as you don’t have the time, but don’t be tempted to say “I told you so”.


Gemini 5/21 – 6/21

Jupiter will be trying to work against you this month, but energy from Mercury combined with the support of The Sun and Saturn, should be enough to counter any negativity. The first half of January will be fairly quiet, but in the second half things will begin to heat up. This is when you’ll have opportunities to make more money and boost your finances. In your personal life, someone close to you will reveal something about themselves, or a side to them, that you weren’t aware of. This could be difficult to accept and work with, but by the second half of the month you will have found a way forward and you can see a successful outcome.


Cancer 6/22 – 7/22

Support in your house is shaky this month, and you’ll need to be cautious and think through situations before you react. In particular, don’t refuse to help those close to you when they need you, as this will store up bad karma for you. In fact, your oldest and closet friends are very valuable to you in January and you should be wary of any new friends or anyone who comes on too strong. This applies to your work life as well as your personal life, and colleagues who suddenly want to be your bestie are most likely up to no good. Your family and close friends will tell you straight if they feel someone is no good for you and you should listen to them, but you should also do your best to spot it for yourself.


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Leo 7/23 – 8/22

This month The Sun is focussing all its energy on your personal life and will be encouraging you to let go a bit more with your emotions and don’t be afraid to let them show. In your work life you should watch out for being taken advantage of. In particular, be aware of being put upon and having too much work thrown your way. If you start to feel pressured, slow down and look carefully at what’s going on. In your personal life it’s a little different, here you shouldn’t try to work against what’s going on, but you should let everyone involved know how you feel about it and be upfront and honest. Your emotions are valid and should be listened to.


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Virgo 8/23 – 9/22

Mercury is bringing strong energy to you this month, Virgo, and it will focus most of this on your relationship. Here, the gift of great communication is coming your way. This means you can easily solve any tensions or issues you have at home and in your family. It also means you’ll be attractive to others as the way you speak and communicate will act like a magnet. What you do with this depends on your circumstances, but having fun is fine right now as long as no one’s getting hurt. You will face some problems in your work life, but you can overcome these if you arm yourself with knowledge. This will be your greatest power in January, so get as much information as possible.


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Libra 9/23 – 10/22

As Saturn, your natural ally, turns against you this month and goes over to the dark corner, you’ll have to be careful with how you proceed with issues and projects. Most importantly, be careful about any major decisions you have to make. You need to take your time over this and make sure you’re making the right choice, so if you’re being pressured for time, refuse to choose at all. This will be most vital in your work life where you’re likely to feel pushed to make a decision. Take the time you need and if that’s not acceptable you’ll have to let the issue go. The same thing is true in your personal life, except here any decisions you are faced with give you the chance to move upwards in your relationship.


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Scorpio 10/23 – 11/21

As Saturn’s dark mood spreads across the stars this month, you won’t come out unscathed. Though Saturn is working against you, you can avoid negative outcomes by taking your time and being patient. In your work life you’ll need to be flexible and ready to adapt to changing situations. Focus on getting things done that are unfinished, but don’t rush them and make sure they’re done properly. If you’re in a relationship your home life will be stable and harmonious, but single Scorpios can look forward to some interesting developments. As with everything this month, take your time and don’t jump into anything without thinking it through. Following your heart is important, but you need to listen to your head right now too.


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Sagittarius 11/22 – 12/21

Things are looking good in your corner of support where Venus, Mercury and Jupiter will all be working hard to bring you positive energy. However, you do have The Moon in the opposite corner working against you and The Moon has especially powerful energy. This is going to mean you can expect good things, but you need to proceed with caution. At work you should focus on projects you already have underway and haven’t finished yet, rather than attempting to start anything new or take on unusual work. In your home life your family will be proposing changes to how you all do things, or wanting to introduce something new you’ve never done before. Again, proceed with caution and don’t rush into anything.


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Capricorn 12/22 – 1/19

Saturn is in a bad mood with many of the signs this month, so you’re getting off reasonably easily as for you it’s a case of the planet being neutral in its energy towards you rather than negative. The Moon is also moving position to support you so that only leaves Mars in the running for bringing you down. That being said, it looks like being a good time to implement any plans you have at work, as things will be fairly stable and stand a good chance of seeing things through positively. There’s a more complex situation in your personal life where you’ll need to be careful with your health and well-being and also be wary of new friends and acquaintances. In some instances, these two things will be connected.


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Aquarius 1/20 – 2/18

You’re in a pretty unique position of having Saturn on your side this month and with Mercury also bringing positive vibes your way, things should be pretty good. There are a lot of opportunities around in your work life, but this could lead to some frustration for you as you won’t physically be able to take advantage of them all. Try to focus your attention on the things you think are most beneficial to you and give those things 100% instead of trying to grab everything on offer and only having limited energy for each thing. In your personal life there will also be some opportunities, but here you have to decide if they are really worth the work you’ll have to put in to make those doors open.


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Pisces 2/19 – 3/20

The combined positive energy of Venus and Jupiter in your house this month, is especially strong and means you can enjoy great success as long as you learn to listen to your inner voice and trust your instincts. In your work life you’ll have to put in the hours to make projects a success, but as long as you’re prepared to sweat for it, January will have some great rewards. In your home life you can expect a fairly quiet time, but your love life could deal with some excitement if you have the desire to make it happen. Don’t go for tired clichés here, but try to be more original in your thinking. As with everything in January, the more thought and effort you put into this, the better the outcome is going to be.

Your Monthly Lesbian Horoscope | December 2016

December, the month of over indulgence and festive fun, won’t be all sweetness and light for all of us. It may be the season of good will to all, but Mars didn’t get the memo and is spreading rage and fiery anger all over the signs.

Thankfully, Venus is on hand with some Christmas cheer and will gift most of us some harmony and general good vibes.

The effect of Venus will also bring some emotions to the surface and some of us will feel vulnerable and unsettled. We can rely on our partners most of all this month, with our friends offering support when we need it. Out work lives will be full of change and upheavals, though some of this will be minor and some will not be nearly as bad as we at first think it is. It’s important to take our time with all that’s going on and to take a step back and see the bigger picture.

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Aries 3/21 – 4/19

With Venus on your side this month and Mars working against you, the best course of action for you on the whole is to take your time and be patient. In your work life this means keeping your head down and getting on with things, but most importantly this month, don’t worry about being late and not getting things done on time. It’s better to not finish things right now than to finish them badly. Venus will offer support in your personal life, which could cause confusion for you. Those close to you may seem to be attentive one minute and distant the next, but keep going through this and you’ll find nothing significant is going on under the surface.


Taurus 4/20 – 5/20

The strengthening of Venus and The Moon in your house this month, based on their positions and relation to each other, will bring about a feeling of team work and sharing through December. At work, don’t put pressure on colleagues or anyone working beneath you, but instead try to foster an atmosphere of sharing the load and working together. You’ll get much more done this way and you’ll be working in a better environment. In your personal life it’s all about sharing the love, supporting and helping each other, and sometimes just being together. Venus is strongest here and will encourage you to be active in your relationships and wider connections.


Gemini 5/21 – 6/21

The Moon’s influence will be especially strong in your house this month, and this will mean you are led by your emotions in everything you do. There’s a strong sense of karma for you in December and you may have to accept that what happens right now is a result of what you’ve done in the past weeks and months. Someone at work will let you down or disappoint you this month and your emotions are so fragile this is likely to upset you. Try to focus on your own concerns rather than what this person is doing. It won’t affect you if you don’t let it. In your personal life you’ll have the opportunity to get to know someone a lot deeper. This could actually be someone you’re already close to, but didn’t know as well as you thought.


Cancer 6/22 – 7/22

Mars and Saturn are working in tandem to bring you down this month. Luckily the position of The Moon in your house means that some of this negative energy at least will be squashed. In your work life you’re going to need to be aware and alert and to look beneath the obvious. Things aren’t always what they seem and if you can dig a little deeper into events and situations, you can stay ahead of the game. In your personal life you’ll be working on the flip side of this. Here you should be careful about letting too much of the true you and what you’re thinking out in the open. Be a little guarded and don’t wear your heart on your sleeve. Your trusted friends will know anyway, but with everyone else, don’t display your feelings just yet.


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Leo 7/23 – 8/22

The planets will pretty much cancel each other out in your house this month, with only Pluto having any real influence. Pluto is going to gift you lots of personal freedom, which is great, Right? Well, yes, but you’re also going to be pretty much left on your own with this, so be careful what you do with it. In your work life this means you’re going to have to up your game and really put the effort in. The rewards are there, but it’s up to you to reach for them and make things happen. In your home life there’s less you can really do to change things and make things happen, and here you’ll be better off going with the flow and adapting to what’s going on.


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Virgo 8/23 – 9/22

Mercury is really going to do its best to bring you down this month. You’ll get some support from Venus, but your tendency to feel like a failure and to suffer from low self-worth will be hard to overcome. You’ll need to stay motivated at work and you can gain some strength here from those around you who will spur you on to keep being a better version of you. Your personal life is going to be pretty much ruled by your libido this month, as this is one area you don’t have any doubts about! Try to spend some time thinking about where you’d like to be in your life and how you can make moves for this to become a reality.


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Libra 9/23 – 10/22

Venus is active in most of the signs this month and for you this will mean some emotional instability. You’ll feel like your work life is precarious and your home life is unsettled. At work this will be mostly down to your desire to have more than you have right now. Ambition is good, but right now it’s causing you to feel vulnerable and you may need to limit your expectations and your goals. This will only be temporary, but it could be the difference between a calm December and a fraught one. At home you’ll feel like things are changing too fast and it’s making you uncomfortable. Try to take a step back and see the bigger picture. These changes are small, but necessary.


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Scorpio 10/23 – 11/21

Mars is feeling especially angry this month and wants to rage its fiery temper in your house. Luckily Venus is strong and with The Moon in support, can counter the red planet’s anger. For you this means you’ll be presented with a lot of opportunities, but not all of them will be good for you so be careful about what you choose to do. In your work life, don’t be afraid to say no and to tell someone you disagree with them. You need to put your own interests first here. In your personal life you can pretty much go with your gut when it comes to making decisions. Sometimes too much information can be confusing and your heart already knows the answer.


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Sagittarius 11/22 – 12/21

Venus is in a good mood with everyone this month and for you she’s especially strong in her positivity. Only Mercury will try to dampen this and bring some dark clouds. In your work life this could potentially cause a volatile situation. There could be some vying for attention and for the prize of achieving more. The best advice is to ignore the competition and do what you do best. Get on with your work and don’t worry about what anyone else is doing. If you don’t succeed in being first this time, you will next time around. Your home life could be quite confusing, but you should trust your feelings and take your time to react. Your decisions this month can always be changed later on.


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Capricorn 12/22 – 1/19

Mars will be working hard to exploit your weaknesses and bring you down this month, but you have The Moon and Saturn on your side so you can feel confident in your champions. There’s likely to be a major change or occurrence in your work life in December. This could be a change in your role, a promotion, a change of career entirely, or it could be a change happening around you. Whatever is going on, you need to focus on your own position and what this means for you. Don’t be afraid to think big. Your love life looks pretty similar and here you should be bold. A leap into the unknown can be daunting, but can also bring great things to your life.


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Aquarius 1/20 – 2/18

As with most signs this month, Mars is on the war path and creating havoc wherever it can. But you have a positive situation in Saturn who will receive a boost in energy from Uranus, making this a well-supported force for good. The best course of action for you, especially at work, is to take your time and don’t react hastily to anything. In all things work related, in fact, you should slow down and take a more measured approach. Your personal life will pan out a little differently and here it’s hard to say what will happen, but you should be ready for anything. Surprising events can catch you off guard if you’re not careful so stay alert and ready to handle anything.


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Pisces 2/19 – 3/20

Jupiter and Mercury will pretty much cancel each other out in December, but Venus is strong in your house, as she is throughout the signs, and this is where most of your energy will be focussed. You may at first think that the drama going on around you at work is nothing to do with you. However, you can’t stay out of this as it’s affecting everyone and you shouldn’t be afraid to step in and say what you think. You’ll be a good negotiator and it could even be down to you to sort this mess out completely. In your personal life all looks like being rosy. Venus is bringing light to this area of your life and it’s a good time to make plans and look forward. The only fly in your soup could potentially be your family, so be prepared to deal with them with determination.

Your Monthly Lesbian Horoscope | November 2016

November is the month when the cold really starts to bite for many of us, and this will be reflected in the stars with a fierce negative campaign going on from Saturn in particular.

Not many signs will escape the dark clouds Saturn brings, but Venus is bringing light and showing us the path forward with positivity.

As usual, Venus likes to guide and leave pointers, but prefers us to do much of the work ourselves. Our professional lives look like being especially tricky and we’ll need to put in a lot of time and effort to succeed.

We’ll also face some issues with colleagues and there’ll be some gossiping and drama around that we should stay out of, even when it’s directed at us.

We can cope with all this though, as our home lives will be much more harmonious, thanks to loving Venus.

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Aries 3/21 – 4/19

You’re facing a fairly calm November, Aries, with The Sun and Mars on your side and only Saturn fighting against you. This will result in a stable time at work, though this means you won’t find any major successes or excitement in this area. You’ll make steady progress, and the only problem you face is one of boredom. In your personal life you could find yourself over reacting to situations and feeling over emotional, maybe because nothing too dramatic is going on and you feel the need to spice things up a bit. Be careful you don’t lay it on too thick with your close friends. They are supportive, but too much moaning and drama this month will start to wear thin.


Taurus 4/20 – 5/20

Although The Moon and Saturn will join forces and stand against you this month, there’s no need to pay them any attention as Venus and Pluto will bring up the defence and cancel out any influence the other two have. This could mean some basic hard work for you in your career though and no matter what your level or status is at work, you’ll have to get your hands dirty this month. At home there’ll be no real dramas and you can keep moving forward with your personal life as you planned to. You might come across a few stumbling blocks, but you’ll overcome them without much issue if you can look closely at the root of these problems and address that. Friends will be on hand to offer support and practical help if you need it


Gemini 5/21 – 6/21

You’re looking at a productive month ahead, Gemini, but it won’t be without its issues. Venus and Saturn are teaming up to work against you in November and it’s only Jupiter who’ll have the strength to try and block them. At work you’ll be close to completing a task or project and the finishing line is within sight, but rather than relax at this point you’ll need to really concentrate and work hard to bring everything together in one last push. In your personal life too, actions will speak louder than words and in the case of your relationship and your family, you’ll need to show, rather than tell, that you care and want to put the effort in.


Cancer 6/22 – 7/22

There’s a complex situation going on in the house of Cancer this month. The Moon is sending positive energy your way, which is great, but Saturn and Mars will be working against this. Although they can’t hope to compete against the powerful Moon, Jupiter is also acting strangely this month and will basically ‘opt out’ of doing anything at all. At work you’ll get more done and to a higher standard if you can work as part of a team. This will not only help to deal with any mistakes you might make, but will also bring more hands to the pump. At home you’ll face the same kind of situation. Don’t turn down offers of help because of your pride, but recognise how much more you can do with others on board.


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Leo 7/23 – 8/22

Pluto’s positivity will be strengthened in your house this month, and Mercury looks likely to join in. On the downside The Sun and Uranus will work against you, but their influence looks like being less than the positive stars. This means you will face some issues in November, but if you can find the positive way forward you can overcome anything and come out the other side. In your work life someone will try to slur your name or perhaps start gossip about you. Don’t react to this and get involved, but prove your character by being you and working hard. The gossips will always be found out in the end. Similarly, in your personal life you’ll face some competition, but don’t get over emotional. Instead prove your worth by being you.


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Virgo 8/23 – 9/22

In November you’ll feel the force of Mercury and Neptune throwing negativity your way, but don’t panic because Venus is fighting your corner and will bring you freedom and open opportunity especially in your personal life. In this area of your life you’ll find you can have what you want, but just be careful what you wish for. Don’t be too impulsive, as you might end up biting off more than you can chew. Your work life won’t be as much fun unfortunately, and it also won’t be as productive. Be cautious of pointing out the mistakes others make, as no one is perfect and this will come back to you with vengeance when you slip up and make your own errors.


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Libra 9/23 – 10/22

At first glance it looks like a pretty negative picture in your house this month, with The Sun, Mars and Saturn all working against you. However, Venus will come along to lend a hand, if a little late in the month, and will significantly reduce the influence of the former stars on you. This means you’ll need to be strong and alert in the first part of November, when you could face some reduction in your energy, especially at work. In this area of your life you’re unlikely to be able to work to your usual pace and standard and you might have to accept that you’ll be taking it a little slower. At home you might have some issues to deal with when family members don’t support you and your decisions, but later in the month you can accept that your girl is all you really need and she will stand by you.


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Scorpio 10/23 – 11/21

Unlike many of the other signs this month, you will have a positive energy triangle surrounding you in the form of Saturn, Venus and Mars. These three powerful planets will work together to create good conditions for you to prosper and succeed. Your work life looks like benefiting the most and you can pretty much guarantee good things and positive outcomes to whatever you do. Your personal life could be a little more complicated, especially if you take advantage of the positive vibes and decide to act selfishly or over indulge. You can live how you want to live this month and you are protected, but consider the feelings of others before you act.


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Sagittarius 11/22 – 12/21

Venus will be working against you this month, Sagittarius, threatening your personal life and your emotional stability. To make matters worse, Jupiter who would normally support you, is withdrawing completely and seems to want to see how you cope fending for yourself. This might sound pretty bad on the surface, but it does give you the chance to step up and sort out any issues that come your way in your own style. At work, someone you’ve worked with for a while now, and maybe even closely, will surprise you and make you doubt them. Don’t jump to conclusions and do give them a chance to prove themselves, but bear in mind that sometimes we only think we know someone while the real them has been hiding.


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Capricorn 12/22 – 1/19

It’s Jupiter and The Moon in the dark cloud corner, against Saturn and Mars in the sunshine corner for you this month. It’s hard to say at this stage what the outcome will be for you, but one thing is for certain, much of it will depend on how much effort you put in. At work you’ll need to plan and strategies meticulously and make sure you understand exactly what’s in front of you and work out how best to approach it. In your personal life you’ll need to take a look back at your past before you move forward. All the lessons you need to have learned are in your past and you can use them now to see how to deal with your present situation and where you want to go with it.


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Aquarius 1/20 – 2/18

It’s a straight out battle between Mercury, who’s against you, and Saturn, who’s very much on your side in November. The way forward for you this month is to focus on the things that are important to you and work hard in those areas. There will be some negativity around, but it might not be in the significant areas of your life. Your work life will require hard work from you if you want things to run smoothly. Beware of gossip and don’t get involved in the drama created by others. This has nothing to do with you. Your personal life will offer more intensity for you in November. This will be good for some and bad for others, as it could be passionate and it could be tense and bring conflict.


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Pisces 2/19 – 3/20

The main influencer on your house this month will be Venus, bringing light and positivity to your November. This is great news, but Venus likes to help in more of a push and shove way and she will expect you to do at least half of the work yourself. The most important thing, especially in your work life, is to not waste time. Take every opportunity and look for chances in this area. Wasting time and being lazy will be your downfall this month. In your personal life you don’t need to take any action, your time here is focussed on feelings and deep emotions. In particular, you should spend some time really understanding your own feelings and what you need right now.

The Right Woman for You, According to Your Zodiac Sign

Have you been looking for the person who will perfectly complement your life? We all know that dating on an arbitrary set of requirements is silly, but there is some benefit to choosing a partner who complements you personally. Even though the zodiac isn’t always the most reliable way to figure out who a person really is, it certainly doesn’t hurt to know what you’re getting yourself into.

But, of course, not all women follow suit with their astrological sign. For example, a woman who was born on the cusp of two different signs might have qualities from one, both, or neither. Likewise, someone’s moon sign can play into their compatibility, too – so it’s important to compare all the information before you make any final decisions.

Now that we’ve got that out of the way… Knowing what types of women will best complement you can be a great place to start. Use your own discretion, of course, but let the stars guide you in the right direction.


Aries (March 21 – April 19)

Aries women are turned on by success, so get you a woman who’s strong and independent. The perfect girlfriend for you will speak her mind, without being rude, and one who will happily take on any challenges thrown her way. (After all, she’ll have to meet your family eventually, and you know that’s going to be a challenge.)


Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

Taurus women prefer just a touch of femininity in their partners, even if it’s hidden behind a masculine outer shell. The perfect woman for her will be supportive, yet daring – she needs to be taken out of her comfort zone every now and then. Most importantly, a Taurus needs someone to bring a little fun into her life, as it can be a bit boring being so stubborn all the time.


Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

Gemini women are turned on by humor and wit, and just a bit of sarcasm thrown in for good measure. They need a woman who is creative and smart, and would be best complemented by a woman with a beautiful smile. Gemini is a bit of a joker herself, so a sense of humor is an absolute must, but the woman who can lob the jokes right back is definitely a keeper.


Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

Cancer craves loyalty more than anything else. The perfect woman for her will be vulnerable and devoted – and, in turn, she’ll let down her walls a bit to meet in the middle. While Cancer women are generally the protectors in the relationship, they also need a woman who’s willing to lift them up when things get a little rough. Being strong all the time is hard, so she needs someone who can help stick the broken pieces back in place when needed.


Leo (July 23 – August 22)

Leo women need someone outgoing and opinionated – someone who will challenge her in all the right ways. The perfect woman for her will be someone who cares about the way she presents herself, but not necessarily the way that others see her. Leos are attracted to the whole package; they need someone smart, funny, and ambitious.


Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

Virgo women aren’t into that whole beauty queen thing, and in fact they’d rather be with someone who holds back a little than someone who puts it all out on display. Her perfect partner will value common sense over high-maintenance behaviors. Virgos also need someone who will put up with their little “quirks” (and they have many!) without taking things too personally. In fact, the less personal things get, the better – Virgo would rather her partner talk about current events than deal with those pesky feelings.


Libra (September 23 – October 22)

Libra women don’t take dating lightly, and they’re not going to be totally satisfied until they find their perfect match. Their demands aren’t super high, but they may keep one eye to the sidelines while they figure out if it’s a fit. They need a woman who will keep their attention while also being supportive and secure – they’d never settle for a woman who wasn’t self-assured. Once they find their perfect partner, though, they’re true soul mates, and there’s nothing they wouldn’t do to keep their partner happy.


Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

Scorpio women are a textbook example of an alpha personality. They’re the best at what they do, and they need a woman who can keep up with their high expectations. In short, that means her perfect partner should be athletic, adventurous, loving, and smart, with just the right balance between passion and independence. (And, if she happens to be sexy, too, that’s just icing on the cake.)


Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)

Sagittarius women love being challenged, so she needs a woman who will amaze her and teach her something new. Her perfect partner has a lot of energy and enjoys adrenaline-filled activities, such as daring sex and heated debates. That doesn’t mean she wants someone with too much pushback, though – she also needs to feel stimulated, and if it’s all arguments all the time, there’s nothing to gain. The perfect woman for her will be an asset to her world, instead of a complication in it.


Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)

Capricorns don’t fall as easily as some of the other signs, but when they do fall, they fall hard. The perfect woman for her is going to be confident without being overbearing. She should have high sex appeal, but she keeps it for her partner’s eyes only. PDA is all but off the table, although once it’s just the two of them, she craves affection and attention. Since Capricorn has her own stuff going on, she needs a woman who does, too – she’s not going to settle for someone who needs someone to hold her hand, literally or figuratively.


Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)

Aquarius women need someone bold and independent – someone who doesn’t need her affection to get by. She’s looking for a self-starter who doesn’t mind being left alone from time to time. In fact, Aquarius women need someone who cares less about others and more about herself. She does her own thing, and she needs a girlfriend who does her own thing, too – regardless of how other people feel about it.


Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

Pisces women are quick to fall in love, but they can fall out of love just as quickly if the situation doesn’t quite fit. Pisces’ world revolves around art and nature, so she needs a free-spirited art lover to appreciate everything she has to offer. Her perfect partner is loving, kind, and accepting, and she should love animals – if things work out, they’re going to end up with a lot of cats.

Your Monthly Lesbian Horoscope | October 2016

As autumn officially begins, the darker days and colder climate can get some of us down, but we have plenty of support and help from Mars and The Moon to shine some light and warm us up. Saturn is bringing negativity to almost all the signs this month, focussing mainly on our work lives where we’ll find it a struggle to keep up with demand at times. We’ll also be faced with some complex situations regarding those around us.

This relates to our work lives for some of us, and our families for others. We should all stay true to who we are and don’t be talked into anything we aren’t comfortable with, or be expected to accept a situation we know isn’t fair.

Although Saturn is seeking to cause trouble where it can, we have a lot to be thankful for and this month especially, we have loyal and loving friends.

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Aries 3/21 – 4/19

Although technically Mars is on your side this month, Saturn will be its nearest comrade and Saturn is in a playful mood. In other words, play things straight and Mars will shower you with positivity, but deviate and you’ll feel the force of both planets in tandem. Think carefully before you make any decisions, especially at work and in financial matters, as this seems to be where Saturn wants to mess with you most. Your home life should be fairly calm, the only problem coming from members of your family who want to tell you how you should be doing things, or how to live your life. Stand your ground here and don’t be dictated to. Even if Saturn seeks to cause trouble, it’s not worth being walked all over.


Taurus 4/20 – 5/20

Venus looks like being in full support of you in October and though she’s traditionally all in favour of love and relationships, Saturn and Pluto will try to disrupt your life in this very area. The way forward is to attack problems head on. Don’t let issues get the better of you, but motivate yourself and look for solutions. Take good care of yourself this month and watch out for your health, as stress and pressure at home can cause physical trouble too. Your work life should be much more straight forward and the only problem here is that you’ll be bombarded with information at times and may find it difficult to process it all. Stay calm and work through everything methodically.


Gemini 5/21 – 6/21

You’d forgiven for thinking the planets are ganging up on you this month, with only Mercury staying by your side. But one friend is better than none and you’ll have to trust in Mercury to guide you through some troubled waters in October. You’ll need to be strong in your work life where you’ll face opposition from your colleagues and any clients you might have. If you can keep going through the bad weather those above you, or in influential positions, will recognise your resilience. Avoid spending time with your family this month, as minor irritations between you will quickly blow out of proportion. Your friends will be your support mechanism and you’ll learn who your true friends are – the ones who stick around and stick by you.


Cancer 6/22 – 7/22

Although Saturn is looking to do harm wherever it can this month, you have The Moon on your side and there’s nothing quite like The Moon to shine a light in the darkness. At work someone is going to try to talk you into doing something you don’t feel comfortable with, or lead you down a dark path. They’ll have all the chat to convince you this is a great idea, but you know deep down it’s not where you want to go. You may have to accept that money isn’t everything and living with yourself happily is more important to you. It could be this person, or it could be someone closer to you, but someone around you is going to envy, and maybe even feel hatred towards, you. Be cautious and don’t rise to any bait. This person will show themselves for what they are in time.


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Leo 7/23 – 8/22

In one corner you have Pluto and The Sun gunning for you and in the other you have Uranus wanting to bring you down. Before you rejoice in the two against one scenario, Pluto and The Sun will suffer some weakness of energy while Uranus will have its strengthened. This will pretty much put them on an even keel, but you’re still going to need to be careful and put effort in. Work hard, but don’t make any big decisions or sign anything this month, as you can’t be sure you have all the information. Single Leos will meet someone new this month, but for one reason or another this connection is likely to not quite hit the spot. This girl is either not the one for you, or you’re going to mess up. Put it down to experience and keep going.


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Virgo 8/23 – 9/22

Only Mercury is going to stand out as working against you this month and this will have such a minor effect you’re unlikely to feel it at all. Opportunities at work will be varied and this is a great time to look at expanding your income. Whether you work full time already or not, think about how you can make some cash in addition to your wage and look at new horizons with positivity. If you’ve thought about changing career, now is the perfect time to make this a reality. You’ll be asking some deep questions about those closest to you in October. Nothing has lead you here specifically, but you’ll be doubting their love and loyalty. Try to look at things from their point of view and don’t jump to any conclusions.


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Libra 9/23 – 10/22

There’ll be a clash of wills going on between Saturn and Venus in your house this month. This means you’ll find disruptions and annoying delays in all areas of your life, though there won’t be anything too serious going on. At work you’ll be fielding minor issue and kinks in the smooth running of things left right and centre. There’s also likely to be a lot of events and activities to sort out. This could get frustrating for you as it will slow you down, but try to accept that this is the way it is right now and calm will come again later. At home you’ll face a similar story, but here it could lead you to ask yourself if constant niggles and issue are worth it. This is where it could get serious if the answer is no.


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Scorpio 10/23 – 11/21

Saturn is a force for negative for many of the signs this month, and you’re no different. However, you have The Moon and Mars on your side and they’ll prove more than a match for sad Scorpio. This could cause you to feel a general dampening of your mood and a suppression of your energy, especially in the first ten days of October. Don’t try to figure out the cause or look for answers, just try to ride it out and know that it will pass. This darkness is likely to affect you mostly at work as it’s all too easy to blame your working life for dark moods, Your home life should be the one thing that provides some sanctuary and spending time with loved ones is highly recommended.


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Sagittarius 11/22 – 12/21

You will be the exception to the rule this month, as Saturn, who’s playing havoc with the other signs, looks like taking a shine to you. Teaming up with Venus, this temperamental planet will do all it can to oppose any negativity in your house. You will still need to be careful though, especially in your personal life where you’re advised to not socialise with your partner in big groups. This looks like it will lead to arguments and conflict between you. At work you’ll need to double check everything you do for mistakes and make sure you’re following instructions to the letter and paying close attention to details. If you keep this covered you should see out the month without any problems.


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Capricorn 12/22 – 1/19

While a battle goes on between The Moon, gunning for you, and Jupiter, against you, Saturn will decide to opt out completely. Saturn is in a dark mood with most of the signs this month so this is unexpected behaviour. This will mean you’ll suffer a loss of influence in your day to day life and you can’t count on the support you usually can. Work could be difficult when you’re asked to give your attention to two separate projects at the same time. You won’t be able to do this and you’ll have to prioritise one, which could lead to problems for you. The issue at home will be with your family where you’ll either fall out with someone or you’ll realise that they don’t, and won’t, understand you. It’s your call, but you can’t force someone to open their eyes.


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Aquarius 1/20 – 2/18

When Saturn decides to drop of its responsibilities to you this month, Mars is only too happy to step in and take over. This is going to cause some upheaval in your house as one tries to fit the other’s shoes. The area you need to keep a close eye on is your finances. You can keep things ticking over here and stay on the level as long as you follow a budget and don’t give in to any temptations. You should follow this thinking through into other areas of your life in October and look at any bad habits you might have. What are these weaknesses actually bringing to your life? Can you see a brighter future without them? Be tough with yourself and be honest. You have the strength to put things in perspective.


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Pisces 2/19 – 3/20

You often find this time of year brings you down and you struggle with the darker days and cold weather. However, Venus is bringing you some light in October and the effects of the season should be minimal this year. Your work life will be busy this month and you’ll be in high demand. Use this opportunity to really show what you can do and put yourself forward. Stay confident, but don’t take on too much and start to buckle. October will be an unforgiving month if you push too hard. Don’t mix your work life with your personal life, and try to not bring emotions into your work. Your home looks stable, with only a few minor issues in your family to deal with. Choose your battles here and don’t get caught up in little dramas.

Your Monthly Lesbian Horoscope | September 2016

Venus is in a cunning, mischievous and very dark mood with most of the signs this month. Luckily, most of us have enough support from Jupiter, Mercury, and The Moon, to re-address the balance and block out Venus’s negativity.

There will be some issues though, and September will feel very much like the official end of the summer and the beginning of cloudier, dimmer days.

Venus’s influence will be mostly felt in our connections with our work colleagues and significant others, and we can be forgiven for feeling some paranoia. The truth is, not everyone around us can be trusted and our instincts are spot on if we feel like some people don’t have our backs.

We’ll need to ride some waves and keep our heads down at work in order to avoid confrontations, but as always, we should remember that these testing times pass by like the clouds in autumn days.

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Aries 3/21 – 4/19

Although it does look like Venus is going to be working against you this month, she’s no match for The Sun, who’ll be wholly on your side. This is going to bring you some luck in your work life. You’ll need to be prepared and alert to the opportunity though, or it could pass you by. In your personal life things will be a little different. For any single Arians meeting new people, be aware that this is not a good time to start a new relationship. If you’re looking for some fun, go ahead, but if you’re looking for the girl of your dreams, wait it out ‘cause anything you get into in September might burn bright, but it will also burn out fast.


Taurus 4/20 – 5/20

You’ll be facing a stressful time in September, as The Moon and Venus fight it out in your house. The most pressure you’ll face this month will be in your work life where you’ll be staring down a deadline or being pushed to close a deal or wrap up a project. Stay cool and focussed and you can do this, but let stress get the better of you and it could all fall apart. Your personal life has a tiny bit of complication in it, especially if you tell intimate details of your relationship to any of your friends. Your partner has a right to expect that what happens between the two of you stays between the two of you, so don’t be tempted to tell.


Gemini 5/21 – 6/21

Venus is in a dark mood with many of the signs this month, and it’s no different in your house. However, Saturn and Mercury are working together to drown her out with light, bringing you some relief. At work you’ll be the victim of attempted manipulation by one of your colleagues. This person will do all they can to have you under their spell, but be strong and don’t be pushed around. Avoid an outright confrontation, but resist their attempts and keep doing your own thing. As expected, Venus will be messing in your relationship, and this will cause you to find some confusion and inconsistencies there. Go to your friends for support, especially your closest and most trusted, and know that this time will pass.


Cancer 6/22 – 7/22

Although Jupiter and The Moon are bringing you light this month, it doesn’t look like being enough to counter the darkness from Saturn. Your work life will bear most of the brunt of this and you’re going to need to be wary of the people around you. You do have some true friends at work, but there are also those who would stab you in the back at a moment’s notice. You might think you already know who this is, but there is a snake in the grass and this person could bring you a nasty surprise. You’ll get some light relief at home though, and your personal life looks like being full of fun this month. Be sociable as much as you can and enjoy creating happy memories with your family, friends, and partner.


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Leo 7/23 – 8/22

With Uranus and Pluto acting against Leo this month, and Mercury staying neutral, it could appear to be a negative time. Luckily, the Sun will act powerfully in your favour and the only negative feelings you should suffer are those of wanting to hide away from everything and everyone. If you can overcome this feeling there’s every suggestion that your work life can be successful in September. The second half of the month is when you’ll start to feel that you’re getting somewhere in your career. Your personal life will be very different and it should start off well, as long as you resist the urge to hide away. Your positivity relies on you getting out there and pushing hard to be optimistic.


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Virgo 8/23 – 9/22

In one corner this month you’ll have Venus casting shadows on your work life, and in the other you’ve got Neptune doing the same for your love life. All’s not lost though, and Mercury will work to reduce the effects of both of these stars. With Venus in your work area you’ll find it fairly quiet, but you will have to ride some waves as the temperamental star works some mischief. Your love life will be much more tempestuous, with Neptune holding the reins. Here you’ll have to work hard to keep the peace and you’ll need to pay extra attention to your girl if you want everything to stay stable. Avoid arguments at home as much as you can as Neptune would love the chance to stir the pot.


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Libra 9/23 – 10/22

Venus, who is usually on your side, will lose her favour with you this month and as for many of the signs, she’ll turn on you with a black mood. Thankfully though, The Sun and Saturn will work together to bring you positivity, evening out the balance. Your work life will be busy in September and to avoid getting bogged down and stressed, you should delegate and prioritise your tasks and projects. Focus your attention and energy on each task in hand and do them each well, rather than trying to hop from one thing to another. Your home life will be quiet, and you can use this time to enjoy being creative. You could do something creative together with your girl, or find a new activity you’ll both enjoy.


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Scorpio 10/23 – 11/21

As with most of the signs this month, Venus is out to mess things up. In your house she is being joined by The Moon whose powerful energy will be bringing negativity. It’s not all bad though, as Saturn is in support of Scorpio in September and will work hard to balance things out. You could feel paranoid at work this month and you may be tempted to do some snooping on your colleagues to find out who your real friends are. However, it isn’t necessarily the people you should be looking into, but the circumstances. Do this, and you may even find new opportunities for yourself. Whether you’re single or in a relationship, someone is going to declare their feelings for you. What you do about this depends on your situation, but either way, it’s a nice feeling to be wanted!


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Sagittarius 11/22 – 12/21

Venus is in a bad mood with everyone this month, and you’re no exception, but The Sun who’s working to squash negativity in your house, has bigger fish to fry. Mercury is the one you really need to watch out for in September. As expected, Venus will concentrate all her energy on your emotional life, so Mercury will be out to get you at work. The Sun’s doing a great job here though, and you won’t face any major problems. The only tricky issue you’ll have is with your colleagues who’ll run a thin line between respecting you and envying you. You should try to stay on an even keel in your love life as any small niggles will be amplified by Venus. It’s also a bad time to meet someone new or edge towards a break up, as everything negative will be felt ten-fold.


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Capricorn 12/22 – 1/19

Although The Moon, Jupiter, and Mars will all be working against you this month, Saturn will be working on your side and will be much stronger than any of the other three. Your work life won’t offer up any big challenges or rewards, but there could be an opening to a new opportunity for you. This isn’t anything life changing, but it is something that could take you down a new path potentially. Your personal life will be slightly different and you may find yourself thinking over past events and relationships. Don’t let this impede on any current situations, as what’s done is done and it’s the future that matters now. The older generation could offer surprising amounts of wisdom to you if you go to them for advice.


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Aquarius 1/20 – 2/18

The Sun will do a great job of blocking out the negativity from Saturn and Mercury in your house this month, and the effects will feel more like a mini soap opera at times, rather than an all-out disaster. Trust your instincts at work if you feel like one of your colleagues is out to get you. You’ll be hard pressed to find any actual evidence or real reasons for how you feel, but your gut knows what’s going on. Your personal life will be much the same and you should trust your intuition. Whatever is going on at home, your heart knows about it and you should pay attention to your sixth sense. In both cases, don’t make a big scene, but watch events carefully and bide your time.


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Pisces 2/19 – 3/20

Venus is causing havoc amongst most signs this month and she’s decided to turn her back on you completely. Luckily you have Jupiter and Mercury bringing you light and positivity, creating some complex and often confusing situations. You’ll need to be pro-active at work and there’s no time for relaxing or shirking. Make sure you don’t try to pass off work onto other people that you should be doing, no matter how busy you are, as this will be noticed. In your personal life you need to pay attention, or at least appear to be paying attention. To your girl and your close friends and family. If you act like you can’t be bothered with what those close to you are saying or dealing with, Venus is going to have the excuse she’s looking for to bring the whole house down around your ears.

Your Monthly Lesbian Horoscope | August 2016

Like a typical summery August, mixed with hot sunny days and threatening dark clouds and thunder storms, your astrological August is a mix of still days and alarming lightening.

In almost all the signs Venus is causing trouble and doing her best to bring the doom.

Some of us will feel this depression more than others, and much of it depends on who we have working on our side.

Mercury is a hero this month, evening the balance and bringing good things to many of us. But for most of us, the fight between light and dark leaves our days a little grey with not much happening either way.

It’s a great time to work on our inner selves and to try to be our own best friend. Our partners will be supportive and she’s got our back, but we won’t always be in the mood for company and love.

Make sure we’re all talking and letting those around us know our mood isn’t their fault.

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Aries 3/21 – 4/19

It’s a straight out ding-dong between Venus and The Sun, on your side, and Saturn and Mars in the other corner, this month. This astrological tension will bring about some curious effects for you in August. In your home life something will happen that pushes your buttons and hits a weak spot in you. Whatever this is and whoever’s doing the pressing, it will actually turn out to be a positive thing. It might hurt at first, but it’s going to force you to see things in a different way and open your eyes. At work someone will unintentionally cause you trouble. The question isn’t so much what do you do about this, but why did it happen in the first place? Try to work out what went wrong before the second part of the month, when this problem could start to slow you down.


Taurus 4/20 – 5/20

With Venus, Pluto, and Saturn all working against you this month, it might look a bit rough. However, The Moon is on your side and is strong enough to counter most of the bad vibes. It will still feel like you’re fighting the tide at times, though, especially in your home life. You won’t be the focus of tensions, but you can’t help but be involved when it’s going on around you. At work it’s going to feel muddled and foggy and you’ll no longer be sure of where you’re heading. Any Taureans who are self-employed will find it especially challenging in August. Some of this will be pointless worrying, so try to recognise what the real issues are and which you are blowing out of all proportion.


Gemini 5/21 – 6/21

Mercury and Saturn will be working together in August to bring you good energy and positivity. This dream team will divide their time equally, Mercury taking your work life and Saturn covering your personal life. Mercury is going to concentrate on opening up opportunities and bringing you work. The only down side to this is, you may end up with more work than you can handle. Don’t suffer in silence, but delegate and ask for help. Meanwhile Saturn is concentrating its power on the inner you. This is the time to focus on your inner happiness and fulfilment, regardless of what else is or isn’t happening in your private life. Do things that satisfy you, meditate if it helps, and feed your creativity.


Cancer 6/22 – 7/22

The Moon is leading your house in August and will bring every other planet onside except Saturn. This will lead you to be a shining light at work and you’ll achieve more than you thought possible. Just be careful you don’t get too carried away and take on too much. Self-belief is a great thing, but delusions and miscalculations will lead you to ruin what’s otherwise a positive time. In your personal life you’re going to be attractive and alluring to many people. If you’re single this is great and you can take it where you want, but if you’re not you’re going to have keep control of the situation. It’s great to be wanted, but quality is better than quantity.


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Leo 7/23 – 8/22

Mercury, Pluto, and Uranus will all turn coat this month, from being against you, to being your ally. This curious situation will bring you increased energy and optimism. Nevertheless, at work you might be better off concentrating on smaller tasks and details behind the scenes, rather than trying to pull off major projects and standing in the spot light. You can be sure you’ll get the smaller aspects right, but the big issues will have to wait. At home you should put your energies into keeping your girl happy and keeping the balance in your lives. She supports you in everything you do and it’s time to show her you appreciate it. The only bump in the road will be with your friends, but this isn’t your fault so be patient and all will straighten out.


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Virgo 8/23 – 9/22

Mercury is working hard in your financial sector this month, while Venus is being disruptive in your home life. This means your finances should receive a nice boost, as long as you’re working for it. Nothing comes for free and you’re going to have to put the effort in. Use your mental attitude to envisage what you want and where you want to be. Mercury is paying attention and is in the mood to deliver. Unfortunately things won’t be so positive in your relationship, where Venus is causing havoc. There could be some serious issues for some Virgos here and it could even prove disastrous. But it’s up to you whether you think this is something worth fighting for, or whether it’s time to let go.


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Libra 9/23 – 10/22

Venus is looking to cause disruption and give you something of a kick up the ass this month. Though this will mean ripples in your house, Saturn and Mars will be working together as a force to stop too much damage. In the first days of August you’ll need to concentrate at work and put all your energy into focussing on the task in hand. Do this well and there’ll be rewards waiting for you later in the month. Due to the pull and tug going on in your house, your personal life will feel complex. You’ll find yourself worrying about what your friends think of you and you’ll suffer some paranoia. This is all artificial and only going on in your own head, so try to relax and let the feeling pass.


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Scorpio 10/23 – 11/21

Like many signs this month, you have Venus doing her mischief and The Moon shining positive light and energy on you, meaning there’s some positive and some negative in your August. There could be some confusion, especially at work, as The Moon tries to compensate for Venus by giving you what you want…when this might not really be what you want. Be careful what you wish for this month, because if you’re sick of your job and wish you could leave…you may find that you are in fact leaving. Think through what you really want and what you actually need. At home, don’t rise to any bait and stay calm even in the face of the worst provocation. If you accept a fight this month it could have consequences you don’t like.


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Sagittarius 11/22 – 12/21

Venus is in a mischievous mood with almost all the signs this month and you’re no exception, Sagittarius, but Mercury and Jupiter will be working against her in your house to try to keep the peace. At work they will achieve this and you’ll find your professional life is calm and stable. Now would be a great time to push yourself forward and reach for more. Be confident and show what you can do. At home Venus will manage to cause some tension and you’ll feel like your partner is holding you back at times. You want to work on your own personal improvement, and that’s great, but don’t forget that your priorities aren’t the same as hers. Talk things over with her and she’ll understand how important this is to you.


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Capricorn 12/22 – 1/19

The Moon, Mars, and Saturn are all on your side this month, shining positive light on your life, with only Jupiter in the negative corner. In your working life the advice is to keep your head down and get on with what you have to do. Now is not the time for pushing yourself forward and getting too much attention. The negative energy from Jupiter will make any such actions go sour and you could end up with the attention being on all the wrong aspects of what you do. The story is pretty similar at home, where there’ll be arguments and conflicts in your family that you shouldn’t get involved in. Try to live a quiet uneventful August and you’ll emerge from it with a smile on your face.


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Aquarius 1/20 – 2/18

Mars and Mercury will both change their natural position in your house this month, and will be in full support of you. Your main enemy in August will be your own emotions and mental state, and you’ll have to work hard to bring yourself up from this. Your work life will be stable and even though you’ll feel pressured and stressed, the reality is there’s no need to be. You can afford to work calmly this month without worry. In your personal relationships you’ll be the one who is over emotional and often not thinking straight. Your partner will have her work cut out and if you can, try to remember her feelings and what this is like for her. Be careful you don’t say anything you might regret, and don’t be too demanding.


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Pisces 2/19 – 3/20

Although Mercury is a force for good in your house this month, like most of the signs, you’ll have to suffer Venus and her mischievous behaviour. The beginning of August will be quiet and a bit boring at work for you, and this will cause you to get irritable and frustrated. If you’re not careful this will, in turn, cause problems. Once in a sticky situation because of your own impatience, it’s going to be down to you alone to get yourself out of it. Your mood will continue at home, and though your partner is supportive and wants to help you’re best left alone at the moment. If you can persuade your girl that you need some space without it sounding alarming, you’ll be able to centre yourself again and let go of your bad mood.

Your Monthly Lesbian Horoscope | July 2016

We all know the weather in July is at best mixed and full of changes, and so is the astrological outlook. Saturn is taking a back seat for most of us and in some cases will totally refuse to lift a finger. Meanwhile, Venus will be stepping into the breach and bringing relief to personal relationships.

The Moon will also be very active this month and our work lives will be busier than we’d like as we reach the height of summer. This is not the best time for most of us to be taking a break, unfortunately, as opportunities will be many and our chances of success are high.

Reap your rewards while you can and plan your free time and holidays for later. July should be a reasonably calm and peaceful month. There’s unlikely to be any disasters on any front and it’s a time for looking forward and being productive in all areas of life.

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Aries 3/21 – 4/19

Though the Sun will be shining positive energy on you this month, Saturn has an evil streak and it’s aiming it at you. Most of this will be concentrated on your work life where a situation causes you to speak out. You’re going to find out just who your friends are here, and who is on your side. You should certainly say what you feel is right, while keeping in mind, everyone loves a winner, but only true friends stick by you even when you’re in the wrong. Your home life will be much quieter, but follow the same train of thought with your girl. Do say what you feel, but watch how you say it and be aware that words can often be hurtful. She will stick by you when you’re wrong, but that doesn’t mean she’s happy about it.


Taurus 4/20 – 5/20

Pluto and Saturn will join forces against you in July, but with Venus working hard to counter act any negativity, it might not be so bad. You will need to keep your wits about you this month though, especially at work. If you’ve suspected some underhand tactics and possible backstabbing could be going on, stay vigilant. Be especially wary if someone you haven’t been close to suddenly wants to be your best friend. With Venus on your side your personal life will be fairly stable. Those Taureans in a relationship should consider the balance of power they currently have. No relationships are completely equal, but you should always strive for more give and take.


Gemini 5/21 – 6/21

As Saturn withdraws its usual support for you, Venus does its best to fill the gap. Unfortunately Venus doesn’t have the same influence in your house as Saturn and won’t be able to stop problems from arising. The main area of issues for Gemini in July appears to be with your friends. Whether you have a large circle of friends or just a couple of close besties, there’s going to be a fracture. You can fix this and it’ll work best if you recognise what’s happening early on and talk over the problem. There could also be some trouble in your family, but rather than tackling this head on you should try to get everyone to put their differences aside for a family get together. This one can keep.


Cancer 6/22 – 7/22

With The Moon fully on your side this month you can look forward to a great outcome, no matter what you have to weather. The only fly in your ointment appears to be Saturn who’ll try to rock the boat. The pure light from The Moon will see you through everything in July, but it’s still important to believe in yourself. There’ll be times when you doubt yourself and your capabilities, but rest assured, you are on the right path and you will get your rewards for your hard work and kindness. Now is not the time for taking a break, but for being as productive as possible. Don’t be steered from the course by petty squabbles or conflicts. You need to stay focussed and keep your eye on the prize.


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Leo 7/23 – 8/22

Although Pluto will be doing its best to zap your energy this month, Uranus will be trying to balance things out. You will need to step up and do some of the work yourself though. One way you can help yourself in July is by getting rid of destructive elements in your life. If you’re struggling to feel positive, avoid anything and anyone you know full well brings you down. At work you should do your best to be part of the team and feed off positive energy from the right people. In your personal life it’s the same story, look for peaceful surroundings and situations and avoid anything and anyone who causes you stress. Spend your free time contemplating where you are in your life and get your head into a forward thinking, positive frame.


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Virgo 8/23 – 9/22

While Venus will be unpredictable and temperamental in your house this month, Mercury will bring calm and still waters where it can. A curious situation at work will have you confused. Remarks from colleagues and managers will seem strange and you’ll get the feeling you’re the focus of gossip and suspicion. Something you’re not aware of is going on and you should do your best to find out what it is fast. Be direct and go to the highest. Don’t get involved in the gossip and don’t pay this problem your worry. Someone wants to cause you trouble so don’t give them the satisfaction of appearing scared. If a similar thing happens at home and your partner suddenly seems to make no sense with their words and actions, get to the root of what’s going on as quick as you can and nip it in the bud.


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Libra 9/23 – 10/22

It’s a straight out battle between Venus and Saturn this month, with no other planets wanting to get involved. Though Venus is on your side in July, that doesn’t mean your personal life will be plain sailing. If you’re in a relationship, your partner is going to become suspicious of you. Assuming there’s nothing for her to worry about, you should be open and honest about your feelings for her and make her believe she’s got nothing to fret over. A similar situation could arise with your friends, in that they feel they can’t fully trust you. Again, do your best to prove them wrong. At work you’re going to be the focus of someone’s jealousy. Pay no attention to this as it won’t go anywhere or cause you any trouble, but take it as a compliment. You must be doing something right!


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Scorpio 10/23 – 11/21

Saturn will turn its back on you in July, but don’t worry because The Moon and Mars will be ready and willing to fill the gap and come to your aid. You’ll have the chance to make a little extra money this month and while this seems great on the face of it, it’s important you check it out and do some substantial digging before you go ahead. With The Moon strengthening your family relationships now is the perfect time to tell someone how you feel. This relates directly to a family member and one you’ve been holding off from confronting. Don’t get involved in any gossip or back stabbing, but tell this person exactly what your views are. The Moon has your back and it’s time to be straightforward and direct.


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Sagittarius 11/22 – 12/21

Venus and Mercury are both bringing rain clouds to your house in July, one for your work life and one for your personal life. Luckily Jupiter will be fully on your side and will do its best to counter any major issues. With Mercury focussing all its negativity on your work life you’ll need to pay attention to every detail and don’t let anything fall by the wayside. At home the situation will be a little different. Here you may well be forced to face up to reality. While Venus is trying to cause trouble, this could actually be the rocket you need. Inspect the way you feel about things going wrong and think about it deeply. If you’re scared of taking a leap, remember, time sorts out these things and pain is only temporary.


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Capricorn 12/22 – 1/19

Saturn, working against you this month, will be no match for the teaming up of Mars and The Moon on your side. This balancing of good and bad in your house will result in a peaceful and stable time for you. You’ve been working hard in your career to move yourself up the ladder, but now it’s time to slow down and give yourself some breathing space. It’s good to be ambitious, but don’t forget about keeping a good work/life balance. At home you need to be patient with your partner when she comes up with another one of her mad ideas. You’re used to humouring her a little, but this time try actually taking her a bit more seriously. Yes, she has some ‘out there’ whims, but maybe sometimes you should consider whether she may just have something that’s worth considering.


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Aquarius 1/20 – 2/18

Like it’s doing with many others this month, Saturn will turn its back on you completely and refuse to give its usual support. Mercury will do its best to fill the gap and The Sun will offer its positivity too, but this won’t be enough to fully protect you. There’ll be trouble in your relationship with your partner and when she voices her dissatisfaction you’ll need to take a good look at yourself and be honest about who you’ve been lately. If you’ve been pre-occupied with work tell her what’s been happening because you won’t see any slowing down in that area any time soon. Your work life is hectic and you’re going to have do some serious prioritising of tasks and projects to get through the next few weeks with your sanity in-tact!


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Pisces 2/19 – 3/20

With The Sun’s full support this month and Venus working on your side, personal relationships and spirituality are high up on your priorities. You’ll be feeling very in tune with your emotions and instincts in July and your relationship with your partner and friends will be peaceful of calm. The only area you’ll need to pay attention to is your family. Here, check everyone is ok and help out where you’re needed. At work there’s a chance to really shine and show what you can do. Take on every opportunity that comes your way with the knowledge that you are capable. Do take on board any advice you get, there’s always more to learn, but believe in yourself and trust your own judgement.

Your Monthly Lesbian Horoscope | June 2016

Though officially the first month of summer, it’s fair to say not everyone will feel the warmth on their backs in June.

The Sun is in a very good position for almost all of the star signs this month, but likewise, Venus is casting long shadows and spoiling for a fight with most of you.

That doesn’t mean love lives will be in tatters and tears will be flowing though, it just means many of you will need extra patience to weather any storms from the most emotional planet in the solar system. The Moon will be the most positive planet in June and will release an abundance of opportunities into many of your lives.

Grab them while you can, but always keep the feelings of others at the heart of everything you do.

In general, June has plenty of positivity in it, not always shining bright for everyone, but the first month of summer holds a lot of light.

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Aries 3/21 – 4/19

Venus will have a particularly strong influence on Aries in June, and not in a good way. This means you’ll experience some tension in all of your relationships and dealings with people, both at home and at work. For some it won’t be too difficult to avoid too much human interaction at work and if you can, that’s exactly what you should do, but this will prove much more difficult in your personal life. Although this is not how you usually like to play things, the best course of action will be to let the other person have the victory. Lying down might not be your style, but if you want to avoid an all-out disaster, you’re going to have to find your meek side and learn how to use it.


Taurus 4/20 – 5/20

With The Moon on your side, rising against Venus, who is normally your ally, June will be a mixed bag for Taurus. Your work life will be a time of some confusion and unexpected decisions. If you whole-heartedly believe in what you do, this shouldn’t cause you much trouble, but if you lack enthusiasm for your job or have doubts about changes, now is the time to take a long look at how you make your living. Changes and choices continue in your home life, but this isn’t going to be anything that comes as a surprise to you. What confronts you this month is what you’ve known was coming for some time, whether you’ve fully admitted it to yourself or not. Now is the time to take a deep breath and decide what you really want.


Gemini 5/21 – 6/21

Although Venus and Jupiter will be trying to do you harm in June, they will be no match for Saturn who’ll be your rock this month. At work you should be just as steadfast as Saturn and stay your course. Circumstances and issues, and other people’s opinions, will try to change your mind and undermine you, but be sure of your own decisions and stick to your guns. If you’re in a relationship, you’re going to find this is the centre of everything this month and you and your girl will feel more in love than ever. However, do take care you’re not ignoring and excluding friends and family. If you’re single, June might feel like you’re sitting in a holding area just waiting it out, but use the time to concentrate on yourself and look ahead instead of feeling sorry for yourself.


Cancer 6/22 – 7/22

With Mars and Saturn making friends with The Moon in your house this month, it looks like being a time of great productivity and great results for Cancer. You should feel a surge of energy gifted to you to reach your full potential in the coming weeks, and if you don’t quite find it, take care to eat well and sleep well and you’ll soon be on top. At work you should take full advantage of this period and take the lead where you can. Put forward your ideas and show what you’re made of, it won’t go unrewarded. Your personal life will also present you with plenty of options, but do think it through before you grab them all. If you’re single there’s nothing wrong with being greedy sometimes, but try to look a head a little. You might enjoy it now, but is it what you really want?


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Leo 7/23 – 8/22

Pluto and The Sun will work together to bring Leo some great opportunities this month. Take them while you can and run with them, as towards the end of the month Uranus looks set to bring some doom. With this in mind, you should think through your options, especially at work, carefully. Try to take a step back and look at the bigger picture before you make any decisions, and don’t listen to those around you who try to influence you. You’ve got the tools to do this right, you just need to take your time. Patience will also be needed at home, and as you move towards the end of the month Uranus will start to crank up the tension and make things more difficult. Don’t lose faith in yourself and your relationships, you know who you are and what you want, all you need to do now is stay true to that.


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Virgo 8/23 – 9/22

Having Venus bestowing light on you this month might not be as great as it sounds for some Virgos. This ‘gift’ from the goddess of love will have differing effects depending on your situation. For Single Virgos June could be the month you meet your soul mate, or it could be the month you find you are suddenly a magnet for more women than you can handle, though no doubt you’ll try! But for those in a relationship there’s the chance this won’t work out so well. If you and your girl stay at home all month and live a quiet life you’re likely to enjoy a cocoon of love. However, out in the world you’re going to attract attention. She might not like this and it could cause arguments. It could even lead you to meet someone new and spell the end of your relationship. Look before you leap and think before you speak, is the best advice here


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Libra 9/23 – 10/22

Although Saturn and Mars are on your side this month, and this is definitely positive, Venus is effectively ‘on strike’ and won’t be influencing your life one way or the other. What this means for Libra in practical terms is that you will feel lethargic and disinterested in your love life and this will most likely manifest itself most clearly in bed. Your girl is going to notice, so there are going to be some conversations you can’t avoid. Whether this is down to you simply feeling a dip in energy or whether it’s something more serious connected to your relationship, only you know. At work the stars are handing you a curious opportunity. You’ve long complained that your boss is incompetent, and now they are going to prove you right by messing up in a big way. What you do with this is up to you!


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Scorpio 10/23 – 11/21

Though Venus is pretty much putting a dampener on all the signs this month, Saturn will successfully crush her attempts in your house. That paired with the team work of The Moon and Mars to bring you light, looks set to bring you a decent June. Not everything will be smooth though and at work you’ll be faced with some challenges. But with such positivity from above, you’re set to reach your goals and overcome any problems by the end of the month. At home you’re in for a period of exciting changes and movement in your circumstances. What this is depends on your current situation, but one thing is clear, you need to know and understand your own feelings and recognise them before going ahead.


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Sagittarius 11/22 – 12/21

It looks like being a straight up stand-off between Jupiter and Mercury in your house this month. Although Venus will try to do harm, as she will almost everywhere in June, she won’t get very far while these two major planets square up against each other. What this means for you is that situations in your life will be pretty much be left to take their course without any big upheavals. Single Saggitariuns will see a long standing crush evaporate and you may be left wondering why you ever felt anything. While those in a relationship will experience just a few minor niggles with their girl. At work projects will play out as you expected and only those in junior roles will feel frustration at not moving on in their careers. Let the month rumble on and reserve your energies for a later date.


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Capricorn 12/22 – 1/19

The positioning of the stars around Capricorn this month mean that you’ll receive little influence from any of them. Only Saturn and Mars will have any affect at all, and these two will simply provide you with the energy and light you need to guide you through June. Your work life will be a bit slow this month with not much happening of any note. It’s a great time to take some time off if possible, but even if you can’t, you’ll be able to relax a little with the pressure off. In your personal life you might feel like you’re struggling to motivate yourself to do anything. Some Capricorns will feel under the weather, but those who don’t should get out and get moving. Exercising will be a great way to counter the slump and it would also be a positive thing to do with a friend or your partner to bring you closer together.


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Aquarius 1/20 – 2/18

It’s two against one in the house of Aquarius this month, with Saturn and Mars joining forces against Mercury. Fortunately for you Saturn and Mars are playing good cops and Mercury will be mostly defeated. The little effect that Mercury will have in June will be in your work life. It won’t be anything huge, but it does mean you need to take care of the details, be vigilant, and don’t allow yourself to take your eye off the ball. Your home life looks like being smooth, but this will in part be down to how you deal with those around you. Not everyone will have it as calm as you this month, so be sympathetic of others’ feelings and emotions and don’t rise to any baits.


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Pisces 2/19 – 3/20

With The Sun reinforcing Jupiter’s positivity in your house this month, you’re going to feel especially confident in all areas of your life. Only Venus looks set to bring some rain clouds and these shouldn’t overshadow the work of The Sun to any extent. Your good mood will be infectious and you’ll feel like making some major decisions about your life that you’ll be confident can’t go wrong. For any Pisces who’ve tentatively thought about planning a family, now is the perfect time to put those plans into action. The Sun is bringing you much light and family life is at the heart of it. Your work life will feel just as sunny and your sense of summer approaching will invade every area of your life. Just be sure to not get too carried away with your lightness of heart and miss any important issues at work.

Your Monthly Lesbian Horoscope | May 2016

Here’s your complete love and life horoscope for May

It’s nearly summer. YES, finally some sun. So, whether you want to know what’s going to happen with your romance, your career or your life in general, we have general forecasts for the month ahead.

Skip to your Monthly Horoscope Sign: Taurus | GeminiCancer | Leo | Virgo | Libra | Scorpio | Sagittarius | Capricorn | Aquarius | Pisces | Aries 


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Aries 3/21 – 4/19

With Mars aiming to bring you down this month, May will demand some craftiness and also some soul searching from Aries. The red planet is seeking to do harm, but with Venus on your side it will at least be limited. Your work life is where you’ll be hit hardest. You often feel like you’re the only one pulling your weight and that you work harder than most, and while this is a common Aries trait, it’s not necessarily the truth. Take a step back and be honest. Try to see things from others’ points of view and recognise that not everyone finds it easy. At home, things are smoother and as long as you keep communicating with your girl you should be able to negotiate a stress-free May.


Taurus 4/20 – 5/20

Your work life and your personal life can be divided into two very different and distinct areas in May. Venus is in charge of love in your house and she wants to play. Whether you’re single or not, you’re going to find yourself the source of attraction for others around you. Some Taurians will lap this up, while others may find it uncomfortable. Towards the end of the month your emotions and strong feelings for someone will dominate and the fun of flirting will soon seem irrelevant. At work Pluto has the reigns and you’ll be faced with a choice of which path to take. For some it’s an opportunity to grab with both hands, while for others there’ll be some serious thinking to do.


Gemini 5/21 – 6/21

Venus and Jupiter are the two planets dominating the house of Gemini in May. Venus, as expected, is in your love sphere and is eager to give you a kick up the arse! Whichever area of your personal life has become mundane, now is the time to shake it up. With Venus urging you on, the only way you can fail is by doing nothing. Take a trip, go out with family and friends, or just spend some quality time going for dinner with your partner. Whatever you do, don’t sit at home and be lazy. At work Jupiter is pushing you forward in a different way. Here you’re going to find yourself shoved to the forefront whether you like it or not. It’s time to step up, take the driving seat, and show everyone what you can do.


Cancer 6/22 – 7/22

Curious circumstances in the house of Cancer this May will mean you are almost free of influence from any area. The Moon remains neutral while Saturn and Mars will cancel each other out with equal measures of positive and negative energy. While this means it is all down to you, it also means you have limited protection. At work you’ll be busy, but the only way to fully take advantage of all you can achieve this month is to gain a greater understanding of how your business works and what everyone does. Only this way can you empathise with other departments and see new ways forward to get more done. Perhaps not surprisingly, a feeling of isolation and loneliness will fall on you in your home life. Whether you’re single or in a relationship, these feelings can be difficult to overcome. Your family and friends are there for you and you should take advantage of offers of support.


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Leo 7/23 – 8/22

The Sun will be quite literally shining in the house of Leo in May. This most glorious of planets will bring you some much needed optimism in your financial life. You’ll be presented with a handful of opportunities to make some extra cash and the possibility of taking all of these opportunities and being successful is very real. This doesn’t mean money will fall in your lap, you will have to work to get your rewards, but know it’s there for the taking and go for it! In the same way, at home opportunity is all around, only in a slightly different guise. To take advantage of all the happiness you can cope with you’ll need to put the effort in. Treat your partner, call your mother, and spend quality time with your friends. You’ll get happiness back ten-fold.


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Virgo 8/23 – 9/22

With Neptune and Venus bringing dark clouds to your life, only the Moon appears to be on your side this month. Your love life in particular could take a battering in May. For those in committed relationships this will mean some serious disagreements, but if you’re strong together you can overcome anything. For those in new relationships in could cause a tipping point. You’ll either come out of this more sure of each other, or the relationship will fall apart. At work it’s time to raise the bar and check your ambitions. If you aren’t where you want to be in your career now is the time to take stock and look at your life. Spring is all about rebirth and that’s never been more apt than for Virgo this month.


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Libra 9/23 – 10/22

While Saturn and The Sun have a bit of a stand-off in the house of Libra this month, Venus is left alone to cause some mischief. The loggerheads between the two S planets will mostly affect your work life in May. You’ll need to take each problem, issue, or task individually and work through it methodically. You can’t afford to make any mistakes this month and rock the boat. At home the playful influence of Venus could land you in hot water if you’re not careful. This is not the time to lose control. Whether this means staying away from parties and alcohol where you know you might go too far and regret it, or holding yourself back from charging into situations head first, try to keep a cool head this month and keep a tight rein on your feelings and actions.


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Scorpio 10/23 – 11/21

Saturn and Venus will bring positivity in May for Scorpio, with only the Moon looking likely to try and spoil it. In all areas of your life this month, the phrase ‘everyone makes mistakes’ should be held closely to your heart. At work you’ll find this means you. We’re not necessarily talking about a major f**k up here, but rather that something you were so sure was a great idea will be unveiled to be the opposite. Don’t wallow in self pity or embarrassment, but pick yourself up and start seeing solutions. At home, it’s going to be someone close to you who makes a blunder. How big this is will vary from Scorpio to Scorpio, but the important thing is to not lose your tempter and cut the person some slack.


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Sagittarius 11/22 – 12/21

The planets are set to turn against you for the most part in May, or at least turn their backs on you. Only Jupiter will remain your allay. Venus in particular has decided it’s time she saw what you’re made of. For single Sagittariuns it’s all about learning to be humble where your friends are concerned. Put any jealousies aside and understand that someone else’s success and happiness shouldn’t take away from your own. Loved up Sagittariuns will need to be patient with their partner as she undergoes some changes in her life. These changes aren’t going away and you need to be extra supportive. At work you’ll need to thicken your skin and ignore the voices around you. Whether they mean to or not, their words can cause more harm than good.


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Capricorn 12/22 – 1/19

You’ll find that your intuition is on point this month, with The Moon shining positivity and heightening your senses. Only Mars is against you in May, so you’ll still have to put the work in where your life is lacking. This is a great time for taking action and being effective in all areas of your life. At work be aware of the consequences of the things you do and keep looking ahead into your future. You know where you want to go so make sure you’re taking the right steps to get you there. At home, the influences of spring will invade your relationship and cause something momentous to happen. Depending on your situation this could be a new love, moving in together, a wedding, or even a baby.


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Aquarius 1/20 – 2/18

Mars looks set to do its best to cause problems for Aquarius this month, but with The Sun and Saturn fighting your corner, it won’t be too much of a problem. The red planet is focussing its bad temper on your personal life, so your work life looks like coming out unscathed. Luck could very well be on your side in May regarding financial matters so do take advantage of any opportunities that come your way. At home the problems will be regarding a major change. This could be the question of relocating, whether to have a family or not, or simply taking your relationship to the next level. For anyone Aquariuns who have doubts there’s going to be some soul searching and some serious thinking to do. Consider the issue carefully and make sure you feel comfortable, while also being mindful of the feelings of your partner.


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Pisces 2/19 – 3/20

Jupiter and Venus will team up and shower you with positivity in May, with only Mercury bringing the rain clouds. In your personal life you’re likely to experience a rush of passion. Single Pisces need to be especially cautious at this time. Falling head over heels and feeling the surge of chemistry is great, but what comes after that? Take a breath and think about what’s happening before you end up in a situation that’ll cause you problems. At work you’ll be given some extra responsibility and the chance to prove your worth. You are capable and you should see this is a great opportunity. However, don’t fall into the trap of taking on too much. Ask for help when you need it and delegate tasks. Other people around you are capable too and can give you some much needed assistance if only you’ll let them.

Your Monthly Lesbian Horoscope | April 2016

Here’s your complete love and life horoscope for April

April fools! Not this time around – its spring time, and finally some sun. So, whether you want to know what’s going to happen with your romance, your career or your life in general, we have general forecasts for the month ahead.

Skip to your Monthly Horoscope Sign: Aries | Taurus | GeminiCancer | Leo | Virgo | Libra | Scorpio | Sagittarius | Capricorn | Aquarius | Pisces 


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Aries 3/21 – 4/19

There are two very clear sides in the house of Aries during April. On the one hand The Sun and Saturn will bring positivity, while on the other Mercury and Venus only offer negativity. The effect this will have on your day to day life through the month will be one of a balancing act. Whatever you’ve been looking for, be it in your personal life or your work life, you’ll feel that the search is over and you’ve found it. What this means to you depends on your situation, but although this sounds great on the face of it, there’s still negativity to deal with. You’re going to have to accept that not everyone can reach their goals in the same way and the way others achieve may not be right for you. Take a long look at where you are in your life and at what finding the thing you’ve been looking for really means to you now.


Taurus 4/20 – 5/20

The confusion in the positions of The Moon and Venus in the house of Taurus this month mean some extremes of emotion are likely for you. Though it’s good to be passionate about things you believe in, not everyone around you wants to join in with your fanaticism. You’re likely to feel that any tensions arising from debates and arguments aren’t your fault, and that standing your ground and standing up for your beliefs is right and just. It is. You’re right. However, if you want to keep friendships in-tact and family relationships on a level, you may have to bite your tongue sometimes to keep the peace. Be patient and try to keep a lid on your emotions. You can still air your feelings without offending anyone.


Gemini 5/21 – 6/21

With Mercury and Saturn on your side and bringing you all the brightness of early spring, you’re likely to feel a lightness in your step and happiness in your heart. Any problems or tensions you face in April will come from those around you who aren’t feeling quite so sunny. In both your work life and your home life you’ll be dealing with certain people who reveal a side to themselves you didn’t before know of. The good news is, it’s not your girl. Your relationship looks stable and on track. Instead, either friends, family, or work colleagues will present you with difficulties due to someone wanting to get their own way. Try to let this situation run its course rather than charging in confrontationally. Someone else’s vanity isn’t your fight.


Cancer 6/22 – 7/22

The position of The Moon, Saturn, and Mars are forming a triangle of positivity for Cancer in April. A major change in your work life will act as a turning point and shape your future in one way or another. This looks like being a surprise to you and very unexpected, but just how much of a drastic effect this will have on you depends on your position in the workplace. The one certain thing is, no matter how small a change this might be, it’s going to alter your situation for the better. In your personal life there’s also a surprise in store. Here’s where you need to check your paranoia and keep a lid on your suspicious nature. It is perfectly possible for those around you to change their minds for the better or surprise you with their actions, without having an ulterior motive.


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Leo 7/23 – 8/22

Mercury will be doing its best to cause problems this month, while The Sun will be trying to outwit the other planet and block its efforts. At work this means there will be some issues, but nothing you can’t deal with. The real trouble will come if you try to brush problems under the carpet and ignore them. Deal with any issues head on and you can resolve them quickly. In your personal life you’re going to take the bull by the horns and take a huge step forward. If you’ve putting something off, now is the time to act. April is the ideal time to start a conversation with the one you’ve fancied for ages, propose to your girl, or suggest the two of you move into together.


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Virgo 8/23 – 9/22

Mercury, who is usually your ally, will turn coat this month and side with Venus, your usual foe. Unfortunately this is going to cause some dark clouds throughout April and some tough decisions will have to be made. In the very first days of the month you should prepare yourself for whatever will be thrown at you. Armour yourself and be ready for trouble if it comes. At work this looks like being the course of action that will bring you victory, and anyone seeking to mess with you is going to get a shock. At home things aren’t so simple. Here there’s some serious soul searching to be done. If you’ve had any doubts about your relationship it’s time to ask yourself if this is really where you want to be. If the answer is yes, it can be saved. If the answer is no, the time has come to make the break.


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Libra 9/23 – 10/22

Mercury is in a bad mood with all the star signs this month and although you can’t keep the mischievous planet onside either, you are going to be in the rare position of being able to ignore its influence. Mars and Saturn will side with you and will help to keep positive energy flowing your way. The way that this looks set to play out for you is, although you’ll be confronted with good opportunities, you need to be careful about stretching yourself too far. It can be hard to say no, but even harder to cope if you take on too much. In your personal life you’re going to be made aware of someone who has a crush on you. Whether you’re single or not, don’t play with their emotions if you don’t feel the same way. It’s flattering, but make sure you know your own heart.


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Scorpio 10/23 – 11/21

The unusual position of Mars in the house of Scorpio this month means the red planet will be working in tandem with Saturn to bring positive vibes your way. The downside of this is that your success at work will cause jealousy in your colleagues and lead to a feeling of you being ostracized. But this is where Mars really comes in on your side and will lead you to the right actions to smooth the road. Stay calm and keep a level head and the trouble will pass. In your personal life it’s going to be a case of reaping what you sow in a very short space of time. Act out of kindness in the early parts of April and you’ll have your reward before the month is out. Similarly, act from a bad place and you’ll get that back in abundance.


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Sagittarius 11/22 – 12/21

With Mercury in such a bad mood with all the star signs this month, there’s no escaping its wrath for anyone. Unfortunately for Sagittarius, Venus is joining in and bringing bad vibes to your love life. The good news is, Jupiter and Mars will do their best to neutralise any negativity. This can lead to a time of stagnation, but remember standing still is better than going backwards. There’s going to be some disappointments either in your personal life or your working life and while this is frustrating, it’s important to look for silver linings where you can. Sometimes when things don’t go our way we find it turns out to be the best thing that could have happened in the circumstances.


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Capricorn 12/22 – 1/19

April is set to be all about you and Mars against the world. The red planet is well and truly your friend this month and will fight your corner and lend a hand wherever it can. This is a particularly good time for anyone who’s self employed or looking to change direction. With Mars’s backing you can branch out and take a few risks. In your personal life you’re in the curious situation of having some expectations placed on you by your lover or a lover to be. This girl wants you to be decisive and make a move. If you’d normally feel uncomfortable with this, remember Mars has your back this month and it’s the perfect time to strike out and take a leap.


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Aquarius 1/20 – 2/18

Mercury’s meddling in all the houses this month won’t leave you unscathed and the mischievous planet is set to try and ruin any plans you might have. Luckily, Saturn is on hand to do its best to combat the negativity and help to keep you protected. In your working life it’s a great time to take a break get out of the way of any potential problems. This will also allow you to get some much needed perspective on your working life as a whole. Your personal life is in for something much more dramatic. If you’re single you’re going to meet someone who could turn your life upside down. For loved up Aquariuns things will go one of two ways. You’ll either experience the break-up of your relationship, or a solidifying and more serious commitment.


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Pisces 2/19 – 3/20

An out and out stand-off between Mercury and Venus against The Moon and Jupiter will cause uncertainty and confusion in the house of Pisces this month. With such a show down going on it’s hard to imagine any peace, but surprisingly April looks like being a fairly quiet month for you. With all their energies pointed at each other, the planets will pretty much leave you alone. Your usual hard working nature will see you through any major projects at work and though you will find it a tiring time, you can feel proud of yourself when you come out on the other side. In your personal life you should pay particular attention to your family. Your relationship will be stable, but some family issues need your input and you’re perfectly placed to smooth over problems and act as a mediator.

Your Monthly Lesbian Horoscope | March 2016

Here’s your complete love and life horoscope for March

March means spring time, and finally some sun. So, whether you want to know what’s going to happen with your romance, your career or your life in general, we have general forecasts for the month ahead.

Skip to your Monthly Horoscope Sign: Aquarius | Pisces | Aries | Taurus | GeminiCancer | Leo | Virgo | Libra | Scorpio | Sagittarius | Capricorn


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Pisces 2/19 – 3/20

When you hear that Venus is your most major ally in March, you’ll be forgiven for thinking that means your love life will be stonking. But Venus is a little more complicated than that and doesn’t always strike in the way your think. For a start, Venus is trying to help you. That doesn’t always mean you’re in for an easy time, but it does mean she has your best interests at heart. Your tendency to be quite single minded and almost fanatical about the things that are important to you is both a blessing and a curse. Those around you love you for who you are, but bear in mind how this comes across to acquaintances and anyone you don’t know too well. If you’re looking for love this is especially important, and if you’re not, try to see yourself how others see you and perhaps modify your behaviour a little.


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Aries 3/21 – 4/19

If you’ll pardon the pun, The Moon seems to have taken a bit of a shine to Aries this month. With The Moon giving you love on one side and The Sun providing vitality on the other, you might think this means it’s all plain sailing in March. But with two such big personality planets smiling on you, there is some confusion. In your work life this is going to mean there’s little let up. You’re a natural hard worker anyway, but March is going to require even more input from you. The Sun is providing the energy and you’re expected to use it. Be assured that this will bear fruits for you further down the line. Your personal life could be frustrating. You know what you want but don’t seem to be able to get any closer to having it. Take your opportunities when they arise and keep your eye on the prize. Good things come to those who persevere.


Taurus 4/20 – 5/20

Despite The Moon, Pluto, and Saturn all being on your side this month, it’s not going to be an easy few weeks. Perhaps because of the influence of The Black Moon, Taurus is going to need all her own strength and fortitude to deal with the issues coming her way. The problem for you in March will arrive in the form of an adversary. This could be either at work or at home, or even both. If you’re a low position employee in your job, you should watch out for a rival in your love life. You might already know who this other woman is, but if you don’t, keep your eyes and ears open. However, if your job has any degree of responsibility you could well be facing a rival there. This person is either a long standing enemy or someone new out to cause trouble for you. Use your wit and intellect to take them down, your talents and hard work already prove what a worthy opponent you are.


Gemini 5/21 – 6/21

Although Jupiter seems hell-bent on causing chaos for Gemini this month, Venus is on hand to help smooth the way. This means March won’t be without problems but you can overcome them, it just might take a while. You’re going to have to be patient and not expect any quick fixes. At work you should take your time over things and think through any plans or future projects. Do your work as you always would, but don’t rush anything and don’t take on too much. In your personal life, thanks to Venus, situations are the opposite way around. Here you should act quickly, be impulsive, be dynamic, and take the initiative. You still might not see results straight away and March might be a frustrating time, but by acting now you’re setting up success for later.


Cancer 6/22 – 7/22

The strong influence of The Moon this month will have positive effects on your outlook and energy levels. This is going to be great at work and any Cancarians with their own business or in high positions are going to flourish. You will need to put the work in, but this is one period where you have the vitality to do just that and you’ll feel the rewards are right there for the taking. This is a bad time to take time off as your opportunities are ripe and ready to be picked. At home you have the same amount of energy and positive outlook, but there is one downside here. Your partner probably won’t be in the same frame of mind as you and while you’ll feel like partying and doing something crazy, she might just want to curl up on the sofa and get an early night. Be considerate and compromise.


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Leo 7/23 – 8/22

The unusual support from The Moon for Leo this month, coupled with the usual positivity from The Sun, means you can look forward to a fruitful March. Simply put, you’re on fire right now and you should milk it for all it’s worth! At work you can do no wrong. This is the perfect time to push yourself. You’re more than capable and you can reach for a higher position, take on a challenging project, or even apply for your dream job. At home there shouldn’t be any surprises. This is a great period for any single Leos who are either looking for love, or just a good time. It’s the ideal opportunity to put yourself out there, you’re coming across as confident and attractive so make the most of it.


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Virgo 8/23 – 9/22

With Saturn and Mercury teaming up in the house of Virgo this month, you’re in for an interesting few weeks. These guys want you to do well, don’t worry, but they have a thing about self-fulfilment rather than any artificial one. What this means for you isn’t as complex as it might first sound. The planets are concentrating on your happiness and that may not be what you think. For instance, in your work life, you might think a big fat pay rise will make you happy, and it perhaps would, but if you only chase the money right now you’re going to be disappointed. Instead, relax and take pleasure in how much you enjoy doing what you do, and find fulfilment in the everyday things. The same goes for your personal life. You should take some time to smell the roses and appreciate what you have rather than always wanting more.


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Libra 9/23 – 10/22

Pluto is setting the standard for the month ahead for Libra and the phrase you should live your month by is ‘be careful who you trust’. Pluto is certainly an untrustworthy allay and will be making mischief where it can. This could take place at home or at work, or even at both places. If you find yourself in any arguments at home you should stand by your words and actions and make sure everyone knows you can’t be pushed around. It’s most likely this will be a family dispute and you need to stick to your guns here. If you find yourself in a similar situation at work however, tread much more carefully. Wherever possible stay out of disputes. Whatever you do, don’t get involved in gossip or mud-slinging, but stay cool and stay on the outside of arguments and feuds.


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Scorpio 10/23 – 11/21

The curious situation of both The Moon and Mars being on your side this month, means Scorpio is set for a positive, if perplexing, March. Mars and The Moon don’t usually work together like this in your house so it’s hard to say exactly what the results will be, but one thing is for sure, the odds are stacked in your favour and it’s up to you to take your chances and use your luck in the best way. There is a danger that you could feel so positive and unstoppable you’re fooling yourself about your own capabilities. Don’t take on too much or over stretch yourself no matter how great you feel. Your personal life is where your good luck can be mostly seen to bear fruit. Here you’re in for a sunny period and your harmonious home life will be the envy of all those around you.


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Sagittarius 11/22 – 12/21

Jupiter is the only planet with any real influence in the house of Sagittarius this month, and it will play both the parts of villain and hero. If that sounds like you’re set for a rocky ride and a confusing March, you’re not. Quite the opposite. With Jupiter alternating its faces and being the only influence you have, it won’t manage to have any major effect either way. The downside of this is you may feel like you’re treading water this month. With nothing major occurring, you’re going to be stuck in a limbo unable to move forward. This will be especially frustrating for anyone in a lower position at work or without a dynamic social life to begin with. Rather than feeling this is par for the course, it’ll hit home just how stale you’ve let some areas of your life become. The good news is, once out of the slump, you’ll have a greater understanding of where you want to be.


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Capricorn 12/22 – 1/19

Mars, Jupiter, The Moon, and Saturn are jostling for position in your house this month, meaning your life here on earth could resemble a soap opera if you’re not careful. Anything you do in March will be magnified so be careful how you tread. With this unpredictable swinging of unexpected events and reactions, it’s best to keep your head down as much as you can and stay alert. At work you should try to stay away from any new deals, unusual projects or major changes in your professional life. Don’t take financial chances whatever you do, you are likely to lose. In your personal life you need to keep a check on your sometimes passionate behaviour and think about how you appear to others. This is not the time for wild gestures or spontaneous actions. Stay calm and try to be humble.


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Aquarius 1/20 – 2/18

March can be split clearly into two separate areas of your life, with each having their own ‘head of house’. While Saturn focusses all its negativity on your feelings and emotions, The Sun is left to deal with your professional life in the opposite way. It’s not as cut and dried as it sounds though, and just because Saturn wants to mess with your emotions doesn’t mean you should be worried. The influence of the planets is just that, influence, and you can chose to resist the pressure and take charge. Fore warned is fore armed, so watch out for your mood through March. Treat your girl gently and try to diffuse any tensions before they grow. This won’t be easy for you, but remember, tense times pass and all you need to do is keep your true feelings at the front of your mind.

Help Me Find A Suitably “Butch” Gift For My New Girlfriend For Valentine’s Day

Dear KitschMix,

I’ve started dating a really wonderful woman and she means a lot to me. She is very masculine – doesn’t wear women’s clothing, makeup, and the only jewellery she wears is two small studs in each ear, so I’m kind of at a loss as to what to get her for Valentine’s Day. My last girlfriend was the complete opposite, and I’m also very femme. She is my first butch girlfriend so to speak.

I don’t want to treat her like a girl, I want to make her feel special and I’d like to buy her something she can wear all the time, and since it’s our first together, I’d like to make it something memorable, but any kind of flashy jewellery would probably be met with a luke-warm reception.

I’ve been thinking about some kind of “butch” friendship bracelet, or something like that, but the ones I’ve found are generally pretty shoddy and cheaply made. She’s been talking about wanting some colour on her body – I guess I’m looking for something colourful without being super-feminine. Any suggestions? (BTW: She’s in her 30’s.) Thanks.

Hi Reader! I found myself in a similar situation when my current girlfriend and I got together. I’ve never been particularly interested in butch girls, but she persuaded me to change my mind. Unfortunately, I knew NOTHING about butch women! (Let’s be honest, sometimes it’s hard to understand any women, but especially one who’s so different from you.)

Obviously, I can’t tell you what your girlfriend likes, as she’s probably different than my girlfriend, but here are a few ideas that have worked for me over the past few years:

  1. A pocket watch. Pocket watches are highly customizable, and very memorable – especially if you get it engraved, or hand-select one that suits her preferences. My girlfriend likes Nightmare Before Christmas, so I got her a Jack Skellington watch this year – it’s actually pretty cute. You could also choose a simpler one, and take it somewhere to be engraved.
  2. A photo book. There are a number of websites that will let you create custom photo books, with your own captions and backgrounds. You may be able to find a store that does this locally – I used to work for a small photography company that would do photo books for their customers from time to time.
  3. Something handmade. For my first Valentine’s day with my girlfriend, I crocheted her a blanket for her bed. It seems a little cheesy, but arts-and-crafts stuff goes over really well with some women. I’ve still got a picture on my wall from a high school girlfriend. (She did it with chalk pastels, and it’s this gorgeous, weird, abstract rainbow thing. It’s pretty neat, actually.) Most women appreciate things that come from the heart, so think of something creative and go with it!
  4. Simple earrings. There’s a huge selection of earring sets available, in men’s and women’s styles, and generally you can never have too many. I just bought my girlfriend a 6-pair pack of “illusion plugs” (they look like gauged earrings, but they’re just posts). Last year I bought her a pair of rainbow anodized steel Batman earrings, which she wears a lot. Most butch women like to keep their style simple, but that doesn’t mean it has to be boring!
  5. A hat. It might not be the most romantic answer, but if she enjoys hats (or any specific clothing items, really), the simple act of hand-selecting something that you think will look good on her can be sweet. My girlfriend already has a lot of hats, so I bought her a hat rack this year. She’s been hinting that she wants some dress shirts, too – maybe your girlfriend would like one?
  6. Pretty much anything personalized. If you can get something engraved or otherwise personalized, this is a way to add a memorable touch to it, without being too terribly flashy.

Truly, the options are limitless when it comes to gifts – it all depends on your girlfriend in particular. My partner likes flashy and sparkly, just not “feminine”, so my options may be a little more open than yours.

Personally, I think I’d recommend a pocket watch. If you spend the money to get a high-quality one, it can last her for many years, and they’re so simple to get engraved. If you order online, many places will even engrave it for you before you send it out.

I wish you the best, and please don’t hesitate to write back in and let me know what you decided – as well as how she liked it. Take care!


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How Do I Deal With New My Girlfriend’s Lack Of Enthusiasm In The Bedroom?

 Dear KitschMix,

Here is my back-story. I met my girlfriend, online about 6 months ago. We’re both in college, but she is a year younger than me. We have been officially dating for 4 months. Our relationship is everything I want it to be; we communicate well, spend a healthy but not obsessive amount of time together, and generally get along great.

We both vaguely identify as bisexual, although I would say I am more on the lesbian side than she is. I’ve never had a “serious” relationship with a man, and have only really dated women, and in most of my relationships I have been the more “top” or dominant one, taking on a more giving role. She has only been with one other woman, and admitted to me she was more the receiver than the giver.

Okay, moving on. We had sex for the first time after knowing each other for 2-3 weeks. We both had a few drinks, she slept over at my place, and I initiated things and took charge. She made no move to reciprocate, but I was fine with that. As I said earlier, I’m more of a giver than a receiver, and I’m honestly more comfortable that way and I get plenty of pleasure out of it.

So we continued dating, and continued having sex, with the exact same formula. I will initiate and then we cuddle. She makes no move to reciprocate and she never initiates things. We have had 2 conversations about this in the past 6 months that we’ve known each other. The first conversation was when she was drunk and said she wanted to fuck me but she was nervous, and I said I would like that too but I wasn’t totally comfortable with it yet, and I was on my period at the time (we had been dating for less than a month). The second conversation was after we had been together for about 6 weeks. I can’t remember exactly how the topic was brought up, but she told me she was really nervous about it because I am so good at pleasing her and she doesn’t know what she’s doing at all. I told her that that’s okay and I’m not expecting anything amazing, and I am becoming more comfortable with the idea of her touching me.

But that was 2 months ago and since then nothing has happened. We haven’t talked about it again, and she hasn’t made a move to initiate anything with me. We have showered together twice, so she’s seen me naked now. She still didn’t make a move when we were naked in bed together after. I have tried to make it obvious, telling her I’m horny, taking my shirt off without her asking, etc, but she seems to be either oblivious or ignoring it.

I want her to want me. I don’t know if she doesn’t want to be with me, if she’s not attracted to me, if she’s just nervous, or lazy, or what it is. I’m now kind of losing my motivation. I don’t know if it’s smart/appropriate to bring it up boldly, like “hey, why don’t you fuck me tonight?” or to wait until she initiates, or somewhere in the middle. Help?!

Let me start by answering your story with a little story of my own. In most of my past relationships, I have primarily been the giver – but not the initiator. I’m incredibly shy, but like you, I am really into giving it to my partner. I like to get it, too – but I won’t really ask for it. I have a hard time starting something on my partner unless I’m asked, too. If I had to guess, I’d say your girlfriend is probably a little like me.

With my current girlfriend (who is mostly a giver, and quite a bit bolder than I am), it was actually about four or five months before I ever did anything to her. It wasn’t because I didn’t want to, but because I was really self-conscious. I know I’ve got skill, but it’s always nerve wracking with someone new.

Then, one day, she apparently got tired of being the only one to do anything, and she stuck my hand in her pants. Literally, that’s all it took. Sure, she had to initiate the first few times, but after a while, I got used to the idea, and started initiating on my own. Admittedly, I don’t give it to her as much as she gives it to me, but as far as I’m aware, she’s okay with that. She will occasionally ask for it, and I gladly oblige.

I don’t know why we (your girlfriend, myself, and a bunch of other women) are like this, but we are. I don’t think it’s a lack of enthusiasm, though. Most women are just shy, especially if she doesn’t have a lot of experience with giving. Gently coax her into it and she’ll probably be shy, but receptive to the idea.

Once she’s a little more comfortable with the idea of giving you pleasure, try introducing sterner “requests”, like the one you mentioned. In a sexual context, many women are aroused by the idea of being told what to do – and especially if you find she follows directions well! Maybe not on the days you’re trying to be intimate and romantic, but an occasional “fuck me right now” is pretty sexy and provides a great deal of motivation and enthusiasm (at least for me!)


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My Friend Thinks I’m Not Gay Enough

Hi Kitsch Mix,

One of my friends doesn’t think I’m gay enough. For a long time she has seen me as straight. I corrected her on this, but because of my appearance and the fact I dated men, she still won’t accept I’m really gay.

We hang out most weekends with mutual friends, and I catch her staring at me all the time, but I can’t work out if this is an attraction or hostility. She is constantly joking about my sexuality, and doesn’t seem to take me serious.

I don’t know why she is targeting me. We once had a fantastic night together, talking, dancing, and getting along great, but the next time I saw her, she was back to her judging self.

I am gay and I date women exclusively now. This is not a phase, but because I have not been an out lesbian all my life, and don’t look the part – my lesbian status is flawed.

Why can’t she accept me?

Well, reader, I hate to be the one to tell you this, but… She’s not a friend of yours. She might say she is (and she might even think she is) but we accept our real friends. Everyone else is just an acquaintance we’re fond of.

Unfortunately, there are a lot of people who are not accepting of lesbians who have not always identified as lesbians – despite the fact that we make up a large portion of the gay community. (I’d like to say more than half, but I don’t have any specific statistics with me – this is just a thought based on my circle of friends.)

It’s possible that she’s attracted to you, but doesn’t want to let herself be attracted to you. There are a lot of lesbians who refuse to date bisexual women, so by labeling you as bisexual in her mind, she’s “banning” herself from having feelings for you. It’s tough to understand why someone might do this, but it is a form of discrimination. It’s OK to have preferences, but lying about your preferences (which this is) in order to excuse yourself from being a fair person is definitely not OK.

Another possibility is that she doesn’t believe that your sexuality has changed. While it’s important that you realize that she is not allowed to identify for you, it can be difficult to convince others of this. I personally think you shouldn’t worry too much about what she thinks of your sexuality – like I said before, she’s not really a friend if she doesn’t accept your own identity.

Let me put this another way. Let’s pretend you are a doctor. But in her mind, she sees you as a waitress, because you used to be a waitress – before you found out that the medical industry was your true calling. She has it decided that you’re a waitress, and she doesn’t date waitresses. So she taunts you relentlessly and calls you a waitress despite your insistence that you’re a doctor now.

Doesn’t make a lot of sense that way, does it? Especially once you factor in that your profession is a choice, and your sexuality is not.

My advice to you is drop this friend. If she feels the need to treat you like the person you know you are, then welcome her back into your life – but if she keeps disrespecting you and belittling your identity because you didn’t figure it out when you were a child, you don’t need her.


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Your Monthly Lesbian Horoscope | February 2016

Here’s your complete love and life horoscope for February

February, the month for love and the lead up for spring. So, whether you want to know what’s going to happen with your romance, your career or your life in general, we have general forecasts for the month ahead.

Skip to your Monthly Horoscope Sign: Aquarius | Pisces | Aries | Taurus | GeminiCancer | Leo | Virgo | Libra | Scorpio | Sagittarius | Capricorn


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Aquarius 1/20 – 2/18

February will start off quite quiet and stable for Aquarius, but with Mars glaring down its red mist and The Sun trying to outshine it, things won’t stay that way. At first it will seem like you are basking in The Sun’s light only and everything is rosy, but don’t get complacent because after the first ten day period something will change. Though it’s hard to say whether this will occur at home or at work, information will come to light that changes your situation. If this happens at work it’s not necessarily a bad thing. The news could well be of losses, but it could also be something that presents you with new opportunities. Try to see it with a positive spin and look for how it might work to your advantage. If it happens at home it’s likely to be more disruptive. Do what needs to be done to save relationships that are worth saving, and exercise patience and calm to find a way forward.


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Pisces 2/19 – 3/20

Of all the star signs this month, Pisces is the ‘chosen one’. You’ll escape negativity and positivity will be at your door in abundance. As always, these gifts from the stars come with a warning. You’ll have so many opportunities, so much going right in your life, it’ll be hard for you to know what to do first, how to approach your choices, and how to best use your time. Take things one step at a time and consider your options. The greatest warning for you comes in the shape of your responsibility to those around you. Remember other people aren’t having such a fulfilling time and might need your help. Never get so caught up in your own whirlwind that you don’t see when others need you. Keep your feet on the ground and remember what’s really important. Your girl is right beside you and wants to be able to enjoy this ride with you.


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Aries 3/21 – 4/19

With Pluto and Mars in an unusual alliance against you in February, you’ll be left calling on Venus for help. This isn’t such a bad situation for Aries as it does mean some potential spice in your love life, but as always it doesn’t come without its warnings. With Venus on your side there’s the chance for some fun, but be responsible. Whether you’re in a relationship or single, you should consider the emotions and feelings of others. There’s a fine line between fooling around and deeper feelings. Your work life will be in a bit of a limbo in February, with nothing much happening except some leads that go nowhere and some doors that open and then appear to slowly close. Try not to let frustration get the better of you, and ride it out instead.


Taurus 4/20 – 5/20

The planets are well and truly on your side this month. A line up of Venus, Pluto, Saturn, Jupiter, and The Moon is forming in your favour. These Taurus allies seem to have most influence in your personal life. Here you’ll make new friends, enjoy a busy social life, and find either your partner or a new flame is totally devoted to you. Remember to be humble and give back everything you get. Your work life is a little more complicated. The planets don’t appear to be having any effect on your finances and things will be pretty stale as far as money is concerned. It’s particularly problematic for anyone who’s self-employed, but also anyone in a higher position could find the buck stops with them. All things are temporary though, and this will pass.


Gemini 5/21 – 6/21

Though not working together in the house of Gemini this month, both Jupiter and Mercury are looking to bring you luck. Depending on the shape your work life takes already, there could be some interesting opportunities ahead. Self-employed Geminis will have the most doors opening, but any Geminis with ambition should see some chances ready for the taking in February. Think before you jump in, but don’t let opportunities pass you by. At home just like at work it depends on your situation as to what will occur this month. Single Geminis have the prospect of meeting someone intriguing, while those already loved up will be presented with a new layer or discovery in their relationship.


Cancer 6/22 – 7/22

A battle of wills between Mars and The Moon could mean some to-ing and fro-ing in the lives of Cancer this month. The red planet is strongly negative in your house, but The Moon is on hand to try and shine some light. The first ten days of February could be a bit dark for you, but try to remember that this is only temporary. At home you’ll feel any niggles and frustrations are expanded out of all proportion in your mind, while at work you’ll feel nothing is going your way. Try to engage the rational part of your brain and know that this cloud will lift. Meditate, do some yoga, go for a run, anything that helps you to de-stress will be a good tool to use right now. In the second ten day period you’ll find some light begins to filter through and everything looks brighter.


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Leo 7/23 – 8/22

The Sun is shining especially bright for Leo this month, so bright in fact, it will completely drown out the negativity of Mars, Pluto, and Uranus. Only Mercury will get through a chink in the armour, but will still find its powers are limited. As always, all this good news comes with a small warning. At work you’re going to be flying ahead. This sounds great, right? But consider your colleagues. This one’s particularly important for anyone in managerial roles, business owners, or supervisors. You’re firing on all cylinders in February, but not everyone will be able to keep up with you. Show some understanding and cut your staff some slack. At home everything is harmonious, but again, just take a moment out now and then to make sure those around you are as happy as you are.


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Virgo 8/23 – 9/22

The positions of Venus, Mars, and Pluto this month bring some very definite challenges to Virgo. If you’re not careful your work life will be taking up an unequal share of your time and energy, leaving your personal life lacking. You are free to resist this and do your best to equal things up, but it won’t be easy. Your work life will be going great and the more time and effort you put in the more rewards you’ll get, making it very difficult to step away from. Naturally you don’t want to pass up this opportunity to get ahead, but try to find balance where you can. Your girl may well be understanding and patient, but don’t push it. Relationships often mean sacrifice and a little of that now could save you a lot of heartache later on.


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Libra 9/23 – 10/22

The key phrase for Libra this month is ‘prevention is better than cure’. The planets appear to be tussling in your house, which leads to uncertainty and potential chaos. In order to gain some control over what’s happening in your life in February, you’ll have to organise yourself. For a start at work you shouldn’t let situations bleed into one another. If you have too many projects on the go, too many tasks ongoing, or fingers in lots of pies, you’re going to find it difficult to juggle them. Try to pull everything together into one place and work through things meticulously. In your personal life confusion continues. Your loved ones, be it your partner, friends, or family, will show a lack of understanding towards you over some issues. Although this hurts, try to see things from their point of view and ask yourself if you’re being honest and clear with them.


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Scorpio 10/23 – 11/21

The situation amongst the planets this month can be mirrored in the situation of your life. The Sun is a constant for Scorpio in February, shining brightly. However, other planets especially the Moon and Saturn, will try to break through and disrupt the positive flow. The Sun has to stay vigilant and stand firm to keep the light shining. For you this means diffusing and neutralising any potentially negative situations as quickly as you can. There’s no reason to expect trouble, but stay alert for it. Both at work and at home you should be sure not to create any conflicts or reasons for arguments. Try as best as you can to stay the course, be diplomatic, calm and rational. The most difficult area of your life looks like being with your family. Don’t abandon your beliefs and principles, but respect the fact that not everyone will see eye to eye with you.


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Sagittarius 11/22 – 12/21

With The Sun shining its light evenly over all areas of your life this month, and Jupiter blocking the negativity of Pluto and Mars, Sagittarius looks like enjoying a stable and harmonious February. Things at home and at work will look rosy and you’ll feel confidence returning to you in abundance. At work this means you can see clearly what needs to be done to get you where you want to be, and as February progresses you’ll even start to put your plans into action. Go with your feelings of confidence and positivity, now is a great time to look ahead. In your personal life you’ll be doing the same. You can feel positive about your future and for some of you, now is the perfect time to think about solidifying your relationships, moving in together, and begin planning that wedding!


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Capricorn 12/22 – 1/19

Out of all the star signs this month, Capricorn is the only one not affected by the negative meddling of Pluto and Mars. While all your sisters are battling these two villains, you will escape their attention completely. What this means in practical terms is that February will bring you very little in the way of surprises or major events. Your work life will follow a steady stream and your home life will be quiet and calm. This is the perfect time to take a break, have some down time and spend a couple of weeks evaluating your life. If you have itchy feet, it’s a good time to get away from it all or maybe just try something new. It’s not often you get a clear run with no problems so make the most of it. Relax, have fun, and leave the worrying for another time.

How Do I Get Started On The Lesbian Scene?

Hi KitschMix,

I’ve been following you for a while and need some advice. I’ve always dated men – since I was 16 (I’m now 24). I’ve been with 2 women and I almost dated one (long story). I think that I might be a lesbian and not just bisexual, or at least leaning more toward that side of the spectrum. I am TERRIFIED of putting myself into the lesbian-dating scene. At 24, I have very little sexual experience with women and absolutely no dating experience with women. How do I get started and how do I make this process less intimidating? I would’ve tweeted but… I’m not “out” to everyone I know.

Hello reader! Let me start by saying, thank you for writing in! Next, I’d like to let you know that there’s nothing wrong with being “late to the game” – not that you are, really. Many women don’t come out until they have children your age, so rest assured, you’re definitely not behind.

I would also like to tell you that there’s no real reason you need to define your label precisely. We are so happy that 2015 saw a rise of people who refused to subscribe to the “traditional” sexuality labels and instead decided to embrace the idea that sexuality is a complicated spectrum. (Truthfully, I think it always has been, but once upon a time I was in the minority.)

I do have some great news for you, as well – for the most part, dating a woman isn’t that much different than dating a man, except determining whether she’s also interested in women. Although, if we examine the trend of women rejecting the typical labels, it might make more sense if we could just stop assuming anything about anyone else’s sexuality. (Sadly, I think the world isn’t actually ready for this yet.)

Even better news? There’s not necessarily a reason you need to come out to everyone, either – or at least not any time soon. Since we’re starting to widely accept that sexuality is a fluid thing, many women are starting to accept partners that aren’t “out” (even though it does mean there may be some complications once the relationship gets more serious).

Since you’re just getting started, though, there’s no real reason to focus on that. Instead, think about what type of woman you’re looking for, and start your search there. For example, if cardio is really important to you, the gym might be a good place to look for someone. If reading is a bigger deal, then a library or a book store may be more appropriate. Just keep in mind that these women are probably not there with the intention of being picked up, and your overall success might not be that great, especially if you don’t have a lot of confidence.

Thankfully, the age of technology has drastically improved the ways we can find partners, though – and I think that’s even better for the “invisible” queer community than it might be for the rest of the world. With just a few minutes and a Wi-Fi connection, you can set up a killer dating profile and talk to any woman that falls into your criteria. If you’re not sure exactly what kind of woman you’re looking for, that’s ok too – and your options will be a lot more open.

Of course I must urge you to be safe when dating online (or face-to-face). As much progress as we have made over the past few years, there’s easily at least that much work left. Sadly, there are still men who will use dating sites as if they were gay women, and there may be men and women alike with less than pure intentions. When you are appropriately careful, online dating can be a positive experience.

As far as the intimidation goes… Well, that’s different for everyone. Some people are always shy about approaching people – and there’s nothing wrong with that (although you’ll be limited to the people who will approach you). For most women, there’s occasionally a woman who sparks our interest enough for us to get over our fears. And there are even women who exclusively pursue – so just make sure you look approachable!


 

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How Do I Explain My Sexuality?

Hi Kitsch Mix,

My friends and family are struggling this one, but I feel like I could see myself being happy on my own for the rest of my life. I love my own space and am scared shitless of commitment. I don’t want one-night stands. I don’t want a sexual relationship of any kind. I consider myself asexual, and when I explain this to my friends they look at me like I’m crazy.

Hello reader, and thank you for writing in! I can definitely understand why you want your friends and family to understand how you identify. Truth be told, our identities only really serve ourselves, so you should make sure that you want to clarify for your own sake and not because you think it will affect your relationship with your friends and family. You can’t really force anyone to accept any part of you – you just be yourself and hope that they really do.

If it is important for you to define your sexuality, I think that asexual definitely sounds like the correct label. Then again, since your identity is such a deeply personal thing, the only thing that you need to “legitimize” the label you finally land on is whether you are comfortable with it. If you’re not comfortable with it, there’s no real need to specify a label.

Asexuality is a complicated subject, because it’s still pretty new to most people’s attention (if it’s even there yet). I think the way you’ve explained it here to me is probably the best description for those who don’t understand.

Some people may ask you why – and that’s to be expected. You’re not obligated to give them an answer if they ask, though. Not everyone has a specific reason why they are the way they are – it’s a combination of too many other factors to pin it down to which is the most important. Usually it’s easiest if you just say “I just am” and refuse to give it any further attention.

In a perfect world, everyone would be accepted for the person they are, and it’s my hope for you that your friends and family accept you for every part of you. There will be people who say ignorant things; it’s your choice whether you ignore them or educate them. (And your success with either of these options will vary from one situation to the next.)

The most important thing in all of this, though, is that the only one who really needs to be able to accept you is you. If your friends don’t accept you, then they weren’t very good friends. If your family doesn’t accept you (and you don’t rely on them for support), you’re under no obligation to justify yourselves to them. As long as you’re happy, your loved ones should be happy for you.

Take care, reader, and feel free to let us know how things go!


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I’m in Love With My Best Friend, But She’s In Love With A Creep

Dear KitschMix,

I’ve been best friends with this girl for years now and it didn’t take me long to realize that what I felt for her was (and still is) waaay more than just friendship.

She doesn’t know I’m gay. In fact no ones does, but I’ve just found out she’s dating a guy, and I feel heart broken.

But being the good friend that I am, I just pretended to be really happy for her. I’m far from happy, and the guy she is seeing is creep (who a month ago tried it on with me). In fact another of our friends told her this.

He is also very possessive, wants her to spend all her time with him, and when they’re out together he’ll always pulls her away for private chats.

In other cases, I’ll be talking with her, and then he decides that he wants all of her attention, so he’ll constantly be distracting her from me.

There are lots of other details about him that utterly disgust me because he’s just gross in general with his touchiness and over-attachment, but I’ll spare you all the details.

Essentially, even before I met him, everyone I knew thought that he was really creepy.

Now I’m just praying that they will break up. The very idea of them being together (and having sex) extremely breaks my heart.

I feel so stuck. I want her in my life, but watching her with the guy is so hard to take. I don’t think her feelings for me are mutual, so do I bow out.

I want to be honest with her. I don’t want things to be awkward between us, so I’m not saying anything. But I Hope that I can one day I can express my love verbally and physically to this amazing woman without this guy being in the picture, and it just being us together.

This sounds like a horribly painful situation, and I am sorry to hear you’re stuck in it. In some cases, when we have a crush on someone, we may accidentally paint their current partner as the bad guy. Since you’re telling me that other friends have noticed (and pointed out) this behaviour, I’ll assume that’s not the case here.

Unfortunately, if you value your friendship with this woman, there isn’t a lot you can do to make your feelings known without risking the situation going incredibly uncomfortable. I’m the type of person to try and make my feelings known anyway, but the situation is always more complicated when they’re seeing someone.

I think I have a couple different stories for you, to try and help you figure out what you should do:


First: I was in your position.

My best friend and I had literally been friends since the day we were born. (Yes, same day.) We lost touch a couple of times, for a couple of years at a time, but somehow we always found our way back to each other. One day, I started to notice I had very strong feelings for her. She said she felt the same way, but I think she was trying to avoid the situation getting awkward.

Eventually I found myself in the position where I could save her from the bad situation she was in – so I did. My feelings for her grew a little deeper once she was living with me. In my head, I thought, “She just has to feel the same way now.” (Now that I’ve grown a little, I know better – no one is obligated to be with you just because you do nice things for them, but you should do nice things anyway.)

After she had lived with me for a couple of months, we decided to give it a shot, and we started dating – but she was more attracted to men. Men who I personally would consider losers (even when viewed objectively – one of them happened to be my own brother). We tried to make it work for a while, but it was doomed from the start.

August marks seven years since we broke up, and the friendship definitely isn’t the same. She’s actually still with my brother, though, and as much as I resented their relationship initially, I can see now that they’re better together than me and her would have been together, even if for no other reason than I wasn’t what she really wanted.

If you tell your friend how you feel, even if it does result in a relationship, this is something you may risk.


Second: I was in her position.

My next story is a little more recent, and the details aren’t quite the same, but I think it has an equal chance of applying as my first story, above. In this scenario, I was “unofficially” dating someone who I thought was just wonderful – even though everyone else (including the friends who set us up!) was telling me she was a total jerk.

Somewhere in the middle of all this, someone else started talking to me. She was attracted to me, and she made that known from the start – but she never pushed the issue. She let me vent to her about the woman I was seeing and all her crazy mean antics (which can be a really nice quality in a friend, trust me). Whenever I brought up my unhappiness with my current situation, she’d gently offer an alternative – but she would never try to make a move on me unless I initiated it.

A few months later, I had finally had enough with the crap the girl I was seeing put me through, and I called things off. The Friend was still there waiting, and she still had feelings for me – and eventually I opened my eyes and saw that she was actually going to treat me right. (I think my exact words were that she was everything that I hoped the other girl was going to be eventually… Right from the start.)

We just celebrated our second anniversary in December – and she’s still one of my best friends. Sure, she irritates me to no end, and we do have some arguments. But we started from friends, so we have extra motivation to work them out instead of walking away.

If you tell your friend your feelings, this is a real possibility, too.


But every situation is different.

There’s no way for me to predict what’s going to happen in your situation – I can only tell you what happened in my personal situation. I’ve been in situations where my friend and I talked it out and decided against pursuing anything, and we’re still best friends almost ten years later.

Your decision on whether or not to tell her may be shaped by whether you decide to come out or not – because if things go badly, there is a chance that she could out you. (If she’s a good best friend, she won’t, but sometimes that’s hard to tell right away.) Truthfully, there are so many different possibilities – but you’ll never know until you tell her how you feel!

Try and remember to respect the relationship, but as her best friend you are allowed to let her know that her boyfriend is a waste of her time. Just make sure that your feelings for her aren’t clouding your judgment, and remember that the final decision is hers to make.

9 Things to Remember When Dealing with Doubt

Confidence is a fickle creature for many women. If we show too much confidence, we’re portrayed as arrogant, bossy, or promiscuous. If we don’t show enough confidence, we’re seen as unremarkable, mousey, and insecure. What’s a girl gotta do to be treated with respect?!

Well, the short answer is, you need to stop caring what other people think about you – but sometimes that’s easier said than done. Whenever you find yourself having a particularly hard time with it, take note of the following mantras.

1. Self-doubt is all in your head.

Once you realize that self-doubt is literally a figment of your imagination, you can start to repair the problem. Why do you feel like you can’t do or be what you want? Chances are, the fact that you want it says that your innermost opinion is that you can and should. The only thing getting in the way is the little voice telling you you’ll fail.

Most often, the motivation for self-doubt lies hidden in something from your past. Did you attempt it before and fail? If so, maybe you have learned and grown since then – which makes you more likely to be successful. Did someone important to you tell you that you’d fail? Maybe that person has a low opinion of you, but rather than reflecting that in your opinion of yourself, you should let it reflect on them. Someone’s inability to see your value does not diminish your worth.

2. Haters are going to hate, no matter what.

There are going to be people who will accuse you of cheating if you succeed. There will be people who envy your success and try to use it against you somehow. Instead of giving into the negativity and let them talk you out of trying, focus on handling your own business and don’t worry about the people trying to drag you down.

It’s pretty common knowledge that a negative attitude breeds a negative result, and this is often the case why so-called “haters” have a hard time finding their own success. Instead of picking apart how a person has done well for themselves, they take the opportunity to express their jealousy in a passive aggressive way. They think by tearing you down, they’ll look better in comparison – but most people know better.

3. Nobody’s perfect.

Even if you do try and fail, that doesn’t mean that you’re a failure. It just means that you didn’t succeed. Tack a “yet” on the end of that and suddenly it’s a more empowering slogan. Right? Try it out for size: “I haven’t failed; I just haven’t succeeded yet.” Feels good, doesn’t it?

The best thing about acknowledging that no one is perfect is that you give yourself permission to get it wrong. You understand that no one was ever a pro their first time out the gate, and you let go of the idea that you have to be. After all, practice makes perfect, so the more chances you give yourself to fail, the more practice you get – and in turn, the closer you get to success.

4. A jack of all trades is a master of none.

As a teenager, I had a goal to do it all – I wanted to have every job out there. The only problem is, in order to fit everything in, I couldn’t stick with any of them very long. I worked at an ice cream shop, and on a midway, and in a retirement home, and for a tutoring service, and as a writer, and as a housekeeper, and as a secretary, and in a factory, and in a tow company, and in a stock room… All before I turned 21! This sounds pretty exciting, but the fact is that I wasn’t very good at most of those things because I didn’t stick with them for very long.

If you release yourself from the responsibility of only doing things you’re good at, you’re going to miss out on a lot – and it’s never fun to feel like you’re missing out. Self-doubt comes from the idea that we have to be good at everything, which is literally impossible to attain. Let yourself try new things without worrying about how good you are – that comes later!

5. Self-doubt is an excuse.

There, I said it – self-doubt is a poorly-veiled excuse to not do things. It’s lazy, and it’s not fair to you or anyone else. If the fear of failure is strong enough to keep you from trying (instead of motivating you to succeed), you probably don’t really want to do the thing you think you want to do. Think about it: If you already “know” you’re going to fail anyway, what’s the point in giving it your best effort?

In general, people who struggle with self-doubt are not automatically lazy, but if we think we’re not going to enjoy something, we’re less likely to give it our all. And if our enjoyment of something is entirely dependent on whether or not it comes naturally to us, then it’s not as important to us as we thought.

6. Humans like to lie.

I’m sure you probably think you’re honest about the things you enjoy, but most people are guilty of fudging the details. We pretend we’re not as obsessed with the book we’re reading as we really are. We pretend we’re more into the person we’re having sex with than we really are. And maybe we even pretend to love our job because we like the paychecks it brings in.

Our passions themselves get flipped around in this mess. Something we really love gets pushed to the side because it’s not helpful to us, or we’re not good at it. Meanwhile, thinks we hate doing (but are very good at) become our number one priority. These things might pay the bills or bring us recognition, but if that’s your only source of joy, you’re still missing out!

7. Embrace the “I want” mentality.

We need to understand that we are allowed to want things. We are allowed to try for things that we really want – and we are allowed to enjoy ourselves! Self-doubt comes from an expectation of what everyone else wants. When we start thinking about the things that we want, we are actually less greedy than when we worry about how other people will perceive our actions.

This seems counter-intuitive, so let me explain it a different way: If you’re worried about what everyone else is thinking of you, you’re making a huge assumption. For all you know, they aren’t even paying attention! We are our own harshest critics, and many of us choose to lay the blame on other people. What’s even worse is that we are denying them their right to actually have an opinion, because we never try. We don’t even give them the opportunity to judge us before we say that they have!

8. You are not who you were yesterday.

Every day is a new chance to tackle your problem head on. Maybe you failed before, but that doesn’t mean you’ll fail this time! You have learned since yesterday. The world isn’t in the same place as it was when you went to sleep. Literally everything is different – so what makes you think your luck won’t be?

Of course, this mantra works best for those who make a conscious decision to improve themselves over time. Very little happens on its own, and you’re not going to magically transform into some supreme being overnight. But you are never the exact same person you were. Each day holds countless experiences that mold and shape us. Remember this, and don’t compare yourself to who you were in the past – that’s not who you are anymore!

9. Keep moving forward.

So you tried before, and you failed. Try again. Keep trying until you are completely satisfied with the results – whether that means you no longer want what you thought you wanted, or you actually take charge and win. Any other outcome is not and ending, but merely a speed bump.

Even if you resolve your self-doubt and your desire, there’s never really an ending – just a “to be continued” hanging in the air. Self-doubt is a lifelong battle, but in time it does get easier. Once you have gotten used to moving past your doubts, you may find yourself skipping some altogether. This is great – keep it up! You’re on the path to self-confidence and freedom over your own happiness.

The Perfect Best Friends for Every Zodiacal Sign

Our good friends represent a big chunk of our overall happiness, and sometimes they take up a lot of our time. Our great friends stick around through thick and thin, and bring out the best in us. Since these people are going to be spending so much time in our lives, it makes sense to want friends that are actually good for you.

While there are multiple factors influencing your compatibility with your friends, many of the same principles that apply to zodiacal romance compatibility will also affect your relationship with your friends, too.

Is your best friend complementing your destiny – or just your social life?

Most signs will get along best with someone whose sign falls under the same element as theirs (although not necessarily the same sign). If your current best friend doesn’t measure with your star signs, consider comparing your moon sign instead – sometimes that’s just as important!


Aries

Women born under the Ram are often energetic and confident, and may choose to engage in adventurous activities like rock climbing or scuba diving. She needs a best friend who can keep up with her energy, while helping to keep her grounded.

Additionally, Aries woman can be quick-tempered, so she needs a bestie who lets her vent her frustrations instead of acting on them. She may be impatient, so it’s important that her best friend is confident enough to keep her in check.

Best Friends: Leo, Sagittarius

Since Aries is a fire sign, it makes sense that this woman would get along best with another fire sign. Leos are open-minded but just a little bossy, which leads well to the control that Aries needs. Sagittarius women, on the other hand, are straightforward and honest (which means they will call Aries on her crap), but they may be irresponsible – which means they are less likely to try and diffuse a heated situation between Aries and an adversary.

Good Friends: Gemini, Aquarius

Aries women are highly compatible with the air signs, Gemini and Aquarius, as well. Gemini in particular is very intelligent and good at handling a changing situation, although our Aries may not be so willing to hand over control as she would with a Leo. Aquarius is also a good friend because her loyalty will help keep Aries in the moment, instead of allowing her to act on her impulses.


Taurus

Taurus women tend to be determined and self-motivated, usually being a very reliable friend. They may venture into the territory of stubbornness and self-indulgence, so they work best with friends who will either convince them to try new things, or one who will allow Taurus to keep control over the situation.

Best Friends: Capricorn, Virgo

Taurus, being an earth sign, gets along best with fellow earth signs Capricorn and Virgo. Practical Capricorn is just as dedicated as Taurus, so she’ll understand the drive to succeed. Virgo shares Taurus’s reliability, and the two work well, knowing that they can count on each other.

Good Friends: Pisces, Cancer

More than just similar goals and values, Taurus needs friends who are supportive of their own ambitions. Pisces is a sensitive and creative sign, which means that she will help Taurus remember she’s allowed to feel. Cancer’s own sensitivity will remind Taurus that other people’s feelings matter, too (even if she sometimes forgets).


Gemini

Gemini women are highly adaptable, and do well with most friends, although they can occasionally be superficial. Gemini loves to talk, so her best friend will probably be someone who lets her. She may be nervous shy, so she needs a best friend who helps calm her and put her mind at ease.

Best Friends: Aquarius, Libra

Since Geminis like to talk and share ideas, they need a best friend who is friendly and easygoing. Fellow air sign Aquarius is known as the friendliest sign, so she will encourage her Gemini bestie to break out of her shyness. Libra women is known as the diplomatic sign, which means that she won’t hesitate to let Gemini know when she’s being unfair.

Good Friends: Leo, Aries

When Gemini starts to give into her pride, Leo will convince her that she really is the sh*t, which of course helps to set all her nervousness at ease. Aries will inspire her Gemini friend by just being bolder herself – Gemini loves to mirror the energy of others, and she can feed off of Aries’s confidence.


Cancer

Cancer women are the lovers of the zodiac – they fall in love easily, and deeply. They can be clingy and emotional, so they need a best friend who will help them to let go. Additionally, they need someone loyal – once they decide they like someone, they need to know that they’re going to stick around.

Best Friends: Pisces, Scorpio

Since Cancers are so emotional, they need a sensitive and understanding water sign to keep them calmed down. BFF Pisces is highly compassionate, which means she’ll be the first one at Cancer’s door with a tub of ice cream. Scorpio isn’t great at fixing problems, but she understands that painful, obsessive love just as well as you do, and will happily dish the dirt with you.

Good Friends: Taurus, Virgo

Patient, practical Taurus is the friend who will help Cancer get back on track after heart break. This is the friend who says “I know you’re hurting, but it’s time to move forward.” Analytical Virgo, on the other hand, is the one who will help Cancer find out what went wrong so it doesn’t happen with the next relationship, too.


Leo

Leo is a bold and creative woman who loves deeply. A natural born leader, almost to a fault, she may be unwilling to accommodate someone else’s authority. Her best friend should be someone who goes with the flow and lets her lead the way.

Best Friends: Aries, Sagittarius

Fire signs tend to gravitate toward other fire signs, so Leo has a strong connection with Aries and Sagittarius women. Aries, in particular, shares in Leo’s confidence, which allows them to take on new challenges together with ease. Sagittarius, on the other hand, is inclined to be optimistic and intelligent, which means that they will help improve Leo’s plans for even greater success.

Good Friends: Gemini, Libra

Gemini women, being easy-going, will often let Leo take the lead. They tend to be nervous, so they’re less likely to suggest an alternative, but they are adaptable and can easily find ways to improve Leo’s idea to make it better for everyone. Libra women appeal to Leo’s sense of control by easily being convinced to follow along with the plans already in place.


Virgo

Virgo women are shy, but highly intelligent. They can often analyze a problem to find the best possible solution. However, they tend to be perfectionists, which means they will need a best friend dedicated to the same level of perfection, or at the very least, one who is disciplined and careful.

Best Friends: Taurus, Capricorn

Earth sign Virgo needs another earth sign to help balance out her strengths. Practical Taurus reminds her when she’s being unreasonable, and careful Capricorn helps by letting her know when her demands are too high.

Good Friends: Cancer, Scorpio

Cancers, being emotional and cautious, can teach Virgo to be more sensitive when delivering criticism (although it might take some tears for the message to sink in). Scorpio women have very magnetic personalities and can help their Virgo besties to break out of their shells.


Libra

Libra is very charming and diplomatic. She often finds the perfect compromise between two situations, and she rarely fights – she has a deep insight into the other person’s point of view. Since she can also be gullible and indecisive, she will need a friend who can help her choose the smart decision, not just the one that looks the best.

Best Friends: Gemini, Aquarius

Libra is an air sign that needs to be friends with another earth sign. Her best friend Gemini can help her make a logical choice between two seemingly equal options, while Aquarius is loyal enough to support her in whatever she decides.

Good Friends: Leo, Sagittarius

In situations where Libra is completely stuck between two options, Leo’s just bossy enough to push her one way or the other. Sagittarius is honest and intelligent, so she has no problem letting Libra know if she’s making the wrong choice.


Scorpio

Scorpios are known for giving 110% into everything they do. They are the most passionate sign, and they always give their all, and they expect others to, as well. They may get a bit jealous and obsessive, and they can hold a grudge for a really long time – so friends who lack loyalty need not apply.

Best Friends: Cancer, Pisces

Scorpio, as a water sign, is most compatible with the Crab and the Fish. Cancer women are committed and loving, so her and Scorpio are going to be besties for life. Pisces is highly intuitive, so they know what stuff to not do to their Scorpio best friend – and if they do actually do something to hurt Scorpio, they’ll make sure she never finds out about it.

Good Friends: Virgo, Capricorn

Virgos are very reliable, so Scorpio knows she can count on her Virgo friends. She also knows that Capricorn will think everything through before she makes a move, so she isn’t likely to incur the dreaded Scorpio Grudge.


Sagittarius

Sagittarius is an honest, open woman who needs friends who can claim the same. They are very smart and friendly, although they may blindly follow their friends into dangerous or irresponsible situations. They need a friend who will not use their optimism against them or betray their trust.

Best Friends: Aries, Leo

Fire sign Sagittarius resonates well with fellow fire signs Aries and Leo. Confident Aries will make sure to lead Sagittarius in the right direction. Leo is very loving, and although she might be a bit brassy, it always comes from a good place.

Good Friends: Libra, Aquarius

Libra, being the fairest of the signs, would never intentionally bring harm to her Sagittarius friends. She knows that trust is one of the fundamental pieces of a great friendship, and being gullible herself, wouldn’t do that to her friends. Aquarius women are always loyal and honest, so they are reassuring for Sagittarius to be around.


Capricorn

Capricorns are disciplined and careful, calculating the risks before taking any action. They need a best friend who is patient and compassionate. She might be unwilling to change her ways, and she may also struggle with pessimism, so she needs a friend that shows her it’s not so bad.

Best Friends: Taurus, Virgo

Earth signs, by nature, are loyal and dependable, so naturally Capricorns get along well with both Taurus and Virgo. Taurus is more than happy waiting for Capricorn to finish sorting through the details in order to make a smart decision. Virgo will be right there next to Capricorn sorting through all the details a second and third time.

Good Friends: Scorpio, Pisces

Scorpio women are charismatic and known for jumping into things head first. As long as Capricorn doesn’t do anything to hurt Scorpio’s feelings, their friendship will last a lifetime. Pisces, on the other hand, is more forgiving of Capricorn’s flaws, due to her compassionate nature.


Aquarius

Aquarius women are highly creative and intelligent, relying on logic and imagination to help solve their problems. They are very independent and choose to keep friends who complement them, rather than just existing near them – in fact, they can often be a bit detached, so it’s best that they keep friends who can understand that.

Best Friends: Gemini, Libra

As an air sign, Aquarius is likely to be most compatible with fellow earth signs. Her Gemini best friend is adaptable, so they can go long periods without talking and still be best friends. Libra understands that Aquarius probably knows what’s best for herself, so she won’t step in to handle problems unless she’s invited.

Good Friends: Aries, Sagittarius

Aries is confident enough in her friendship with Aquarius that she doesn’t need to be constantly reassured that they’re still friends. Sagittarius can use her high intelligence to help Aquarius find another solution, when absolutely necessary.


Pisces

Pisces are sympathetic and optimistic, and they need friends who don’t take advantage of their trusting nature. They do best in environments that rely on their imagination, so Pisces is great at staying friends across long distance – she can vividly picture the events that go on in the conversation.

Best Friends: Cancer, Scorpio

Since Pisces is a water sign, she will get along best with other water signs. Cancer, in particular, is a lover, which means that she will share Pisces’s compassion – something that most people deny her. Scorpio women will be dedicated and bubbly, which inspires Pisces to exercise her creativity.

Good Friends: Taurus, Capricorn

Taurus might be a bit on the greedy side, but she helps to remind the self-sacrificing Pisces that she needs to think of herself, too. Capricorn will complement Pisces’s blind optimism with a glimpse into the negative side of things, and the two can help each other find balance

I Feel So Broken After Our Break-Up, And NOW She’s Dating a Close Friend

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Q: I Feel So Broken After Our Break-Up, And NOW She’s Dating a Close Friend

Hey KitschMix,

My girlfriend and me broke up about two months ago, and I was moving on really well until last night. We’re close friends, we still talk, but the night before she finally told me that she and a close friend of mine were dating now and had been for a while. They said they didn’t want to tell me because they were worried I’d be really upset, which I am, naturally.

She told me that she wasn’t ready for a relationship, especially a long distance one, and then she goes off and starts a new long distance relationship with the girl I was going to for help with my heartbreak.

But when I confronted her on this, she told me that she couldn’t have been in a relationship any longer with me anyways because she loved me, but wasn’t in love with me anymore.

I felt everything inside me die then and there and all my hope evaporated. I was and am completely shattered, feeling betrayed, and like I won’t ever be able to trust again. I’ve seriously considered suicide and was an inch away from committing it twice in the last week because the pain is completely destroying me. Every time I think about something sweet she said to me, or the things we did, or the conversations we had, then think about how she’s probably doing that with her new girlfriend, I feel like someone’s branding my heart with a white hot iron. It hurts so freaking badly to know she moved on so quickly when both parties in that relationship know I’m completely ruined.

I’ve accepted it and I want to move on, but I don’t know how to deal with this pain. She and I are still friends (she’s my best friend, actually,) but I get completely shattered really easily whenever she says “we” or something along those lines. I just want the pain to go away. I need help…and soon.

Yikes – your ex dating a close friend is a terrible thing to think about, but it seems to happen a lot in the lesbian community. I have actually had it a few times – and even one ex that seemed to “collect” my other exes to have sex with. It’s kinda gross if you think about it that way, but it’s just a part of life sometimes, particularly if the lesbian population in your area is pretty slim, or if either of them are incredibly shy.

I think one of the things that makes a difference here is whether there was sneakiness, or if anything went on while you two were still together. If there was any overlap whatsoever, or if this friend was talking smack about your girlfriend until you guys broke up, this is not as close of a friend as you thought, and you should probably remove her from your life ASAP.

Even if there isn’t any question of motives or anything like that, you might want to evaluate your friendship with this friend. You can’t really choose who you fall for, but the fact that you were laying your heart out to this person and she went behind your back to pick up your broken/lost pieces is sort of salty. Girl Code states that she should have at least asked for your blessing first. Any time someone says that they didn’t tell you something because they knew you’d be upset, that’s code for “I don’t really care about your feelings, but I feel guilty now and have to unburden myself.”

In this situation, it applies to both of them, because they both kept it a secret from you despite claiming to be friends. Real friends tell you the truth even if you’re not going to like it. Real friends aim to not hurt you if they can avoid it. Real friends are consistent between their words and their actions. Neither of these women sounds like a true friend to me.

I know you’re not going to be happy about this. Breaking up with a BFF can be just as hard as breaking up with a girlfriend – I know. (I made the mistake of dating my best friend once – shall we say ex-best-friend now?) But the best thing to do in your situation is to cut all ties with both of them, if you can. The pain will be there for a while, and you’ll need to take time to rebuild yourself, but neither of them deserves a place in your heart right now.

I know this pain is rough, but I believe that it’s your body’s way of telling you what your heart already knows: These people are not good for your life. It doesn’t mean they’re bad people, necessarily, but they are not right for you. It’s okay to make the decision to step away.


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My Girlfriend Doesn’t Know What She Wants

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Q: My Girlfriend Doesn’t Know What She Wants

Dear KitschMix,

To provide background: I am 23, graduating college in couple months, and she is 25. We’ve been together almost 3 years.

Just recently we split up, she cried and said she loved me, cared about me. But she said she wasn’t sure if she was ready to be committed longer and was very confused about everything. Wasn’t sure if she is even meant for a relationship, stuff like that.

We’ve been split up for two weeks now, and I’m not sure if it’s significant but all her social media still has me on it. I can feel she cares, but she says she can’t commit right now until she works through this.

So last my friends convinced me last night to text her and ask for a definite answer, she said she didn’t know and I asked again, she said “I guess no since you can’t understand I have no idea”. I then mistakenly posted something on my Twitter about people walking out and she texted me **** off. She said it’s not easy for her and she has to do this for her. I waited a little while and called her, that didn’t go too well. She just told me everything she already has, she’s confused, she doesn’t know, but loves me and misses. I apologized and told her I’d be there. I also sent a message this morning apologizing and telling her to do what she needs to do to be happy.

I’m pretty torn up, I can feel she really cares, but I’m confused about what she’s going through. My question is, does it sound like there is any hope of her realizing?

Hello reader, and thank you for writing in with this. Your lady seems like she is having a hard time understanding where she is in her life right now. Unfortunately, she is completely right – it’s something she needs to do for herself, and no amount of pushing on your part is going to make it any easier. In fact, I’m sure you’ve noticed by now that it’s making things so much worse.

I know you’re doing it from a place of love, but let me fill you in on the other side. I’ve had severe anxiety for most of my life, and every now and then I go through periods where I completely freak out about the point my life is in – whether I’m too far “ahead” or too far “behind”. (Both of those quantifiers are completely arbitrary most of the time.) I’m not saying that’s exactly what your girlfriend is going through right now, but it does seem obvious that she’s having some anxiety right now.

From the perspective of the one who does the freaking out, the best thing you can do to help her realize that you plan to stick around is to give her breathing room as she needs it. The fact that she’s keeping you up on your social media (and actually reaching out to you when you do something “wrong”) means that she wants to choose you – but she has to work through some stuff first. Please, for both your sakes, let her.

Be there for her as a friend right now, but don’t push the issue. Offer your assistance if she asks for it, and let her talk through her feelings with you if she wants to. For most people with anxiety, vocalizing the exact reason behind the problem is very difficult – and sometimes it can make the whole situation even more overwhelming. If you want her to stick around, it’s best if you don’t overwhelm her right now.

I do feel that the two of you can work past this, if you can be understanding about her situation. Anxiety of any sort can be agonizing, both for the one suffering and the people in their lives. If you don’t think you can handle waiting for her confusion to settle, it’s probably best if you walk away – it’s not fair to rush her through her self-exploration to make things more convenient for you. Be patient, and be there for her, and things will work out exactly how they’re supposed to.