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15 Truths Of Falling For A Straight Girl

Let’s face it: We’ve all had a crush on a straight girl at some point in our life. Sure, sometimes we convince ourselves that she’s not really straight, or that we’ll be the exception, or any number of things we tell ourselves so we feel just a little bit better.

But, to be clear, if she tells you she’s straight… Most likely, she does identify as such, and pushing her to give you a chance is a jerk move even if she is questioning. Trust me. If she wanted to question things right now, she’ll ask – but until then, respect her identity.

All disclaimers aside, let’s move onto the 15 truths of falling for a straight girl, as told through Tumblr posts.


Ugh.

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Cupid, can you just… Not?

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Straight girls, can you just not either?

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But, then again, we could be totally awesome together.

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But, she’s probably going to wait until it’s too late.

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And we’ll probably feel like this once we say it’s too late:

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Maybe we’ll just be friends.

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… or not.

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“I’m so gay for you!” … Yeah, right.

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It would be kinda funny, if it wasn’t also super sad.

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Most of us have Googled “how to get over a straight girl.”

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But this is what we end up doing instead:

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Rest assured, you’re far from alone.

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And it’s not really the straight girl’s fault (usually).

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All in all, though, it’s best to avoid it as much as you can.

But you can’t, because life is cruel. No Tumblr for this one, just some cold-hard truth!

Straight Women Explain Why They Love Watching Lesbian Porn

Despite the stereotype that men love lesbian porn (it’s the 6th most popular search on the site), women are actually the ones who are searching it out in droves.

In fact, they’re 132 percent more likely to search for lesbian porn than men are. While the data doesn’t differentiate between gay, straight or bisexual women who are searching these terms, the numbers are so overwhelmingly high that it’s clear many heterosexual women are looking at it, too.

In the latest video from popular lesbian YouTube vlogger Arielle Scarcella brings together a group of straight women to discuss why they enjoy watching lesbian porn.

So why is lesbian porn consumed by women who identify as straight?

According to Scarcella, it largely comes down to pleasure and the nature of sex between women.

It’s easier for women to imagine themselves receiving pleasure when it’s more focused on the women in it, and there being two of them,” Scarcella told The Huffington Post. “And it’s usually more sensual rather than ‘in and out’ and done with when the guy comes.”

Moments You’ll Understand If You Have A Queer BFF (Video)

Let me start by saying that I love my straight BFFs. Each and everyone of them has taught me something about myself and I value their friendship very much. They make me laugh when I’m about to cry and they are always down to party. What more can you ask for in your best friends?

But sometimes it can all get a bit tricky – watch and relate.

Daily Juice: Ruby Rose Responds To Claims She Turns Straight Women Gay, And Sadly The Rock Thinks He Used To Look Like A “Buff Lesbian”

Ruby Rose has dismissed claims she has the power to turning straight women gay, telling Galore magazine.

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I’m one of those people who feels that everybody is somewhere on the spectrum. I don’t think it needs to be labeled – love is about the person.

When people say to me that I turned them gay, I just laugh, because that’s not really even a possibility. It sounds like I did something against their will in the middle of the night, as if I crept into their brain and pushed the gay button, then did an evil laugh and left them to fend for themselves—newly gay and alone in the world.

I break it down like this: Did I find Channing Tatum in Magic Mike to be extremely hot? Yes! Could I now turn straight for him without having previously ever had a desire to be with a man? The answer is, nope. Haha.”

However, according to Elite Daily, straight girls can kiss women for fun, as long as they make sure no one gets hurt – hmmmmm

This weekend, at the MTV Music Awards Dwayne ‘The Rock’ Johnson shared an image of himself wearing a black turtleneck, necklace and man-purse.

He joked: “Those were the days of me being a buff lesbian.”

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This joke soon spiralled over social media, and even comic Seth Rogan tweeted his own image.

News media outlet, Slate was quick to pull Rock up on his comments.

 

Evan Rachel Wood has spoken to about Marie Claire her favourite scents and bisexuality.

Apparently there is a reason why your pubes are darker than the rest of the hair on your body.

Bryan Adams has joined the chorus of condemnation against anti-LGBTQ legislation by cancelling his concert this week in Mississippi.

And gay LGBTQ Nation are asking if LGBTQ people can ever forgive Christian evangelicals for their sins?

 

10 Thoughts You Have When Explaining Your Sexual Preference To A Straight Woman

Most of us have been there before: That one super curious straight girl. I’m not talking bi-curious here (well, at least not necessarily). I’m talking about the woman who seems to have ten million questions about what it means to be a lesbian.

“I think I’m going to become a lesbian,” she says, innocently enough.

“I can help you with that,” you tease back – stuck somewhere between hoping she really does like women, and hoping she realizes that sexuality isn’t exactly a game.

Realistically, there’s a thought process involved with explaining things to straight women. Not all of us go through every step, and I’m sure you have your own to add to this list, but here’s a bit of the internal monologue that happens when the questions start rolling in.


1.    You can’t just “turn lesbian”.

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Some people may have encountered an event that destroyed their attraction to men, but that doesn’t mean that any specific event is known to “cause lesbianism”. More likely, these women who “turned lesbian” were already bisexual, and something happened that made them reject the idea of being with men. That’s not the same thing as a magical lesbian spell (although sometimes we wish it was that easy!).


2.    Lesbians don’t want to sleep with every woman, ever.

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OK – maybe some do. But for most of us, we have our preferences, just like anyone else. For many of us, the other person’s sexuality may be a factor, too, even if it’s not entirely fair. So don’t worry straight girls – most of us aren’t going to try and “convert” you.


3.    If you have to ask “how lesbian sex works”, we feel really, really sorry for you.

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It never ceases to amaze me: The straight women who say they just “don’t get” lesbian sex. First, if you’re not having it, it’s not yours “to get”. And second, if the only kind of sex you’ve ever had involved a penis, you are so unfortunate – and the guys you date are really lame. (Really!)


4.    We can’t just stop being gay.

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Just like you can’t wake up one day and -poof- you’re gay, we can’t wake up one day and -poof- ourselves straight. Some of us may have even wished we could at some point in time. But we can’t fix ourselves – probably because there’s nothing wrong with us.


5.    There is no “secret”.

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I’ve had probably 30 girls in my life who’ve asked me “how to be gay”, or “if it’s better”. To which I always reply, “It’s better if you’re gay – but if you’re not gay, you’ll hate it.” And that’s true. Because your sexuality isn’t a choice, there’s nothing to be better or worse. It’s all a matter of who you are.


6.    If we do have sex with you, we probably don’t want your boyfriend to watch.

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And if he does watch, he’s going to get jealous. Maybe he doesn’t think he will, but when he sees how much more pleasure you get from another woman… Well, he’s going to feel a little inadequate. If you’re a bi-curious woman looking to experiment, go with another bi-curious woman. Trust me on this one.


7.    If you have to ask if we’re flirting with you, we’re not.

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Usually. Maybe the woman is really bad at flirting, and she’s trying really hard to seduce you – but generally, the bad flirters don’t flirt with straight girls. There are always exceptions, of course. Just assume we’re being nice unless we comment on your breasts and/or butt.


8.    We’re not doing this to be a rebel.

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Most women who identify as lesbians are not doing it just to rebel against their parents, or society, or anything like that. We identify as lesbians because we are attracted to other women – whether physically, emotionally, or both.


9.    We’re not doing it for the attention, either.

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Can we please leave the stereotype of “gay for the attention” in the past? No one has the right to determine that someone else’s sexual identity is born from a need for attention. Truthfully, it’s always been this way, but there for a while the stereotype of “it’s just a phase” got really, really powerful. Let’s not let it come back, ok?


10. If you have questions, ask – respectfully.

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Most lesbians (or anyone, really) doesn’t mind educating someone – as long as the person who needs educating is making a solid effort to show respect. For example, asking a stranger about their sex life is incredibly rude. Asking her if she’s ever been sexually assaulted is rude. But a simple question, like how did she realize she was gay… Usually OK, but pay attention to her body language when she replies – use common sense and try not to make her uncomfortable.

How to Get Over Your Straight Crush (According to WikiHow)

It’s one of the few lesbian stereotypes that actually does seem to affect most of us: The straight girl crush. Sigh. Maybe you’ve been best friends forever, or maybe you just met this girl and started planning your night (or maybe even your life together) just to hear her drop the dreaded B word:

Boyfriend.

Whoops. For most of us, that’s a deal breaker. And if your straight friend actually is straight, and not a bisexual girl you’re subconsciously erasing, it’s pretty much unlikely that she is going to leave her boyfriend and profess her love to you.

(Besides, even if she did, that wouldn’t really be the best way to start a new relationship.)

So, what do you do when you find yourself stuck in this situation? We found a WikiHow tutorial that helps explain your way out of this.


Step One: Think about your risks.


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Consider the risk of letting her know. Before you act hastily, this is a good question to think about. Think: if she doesn't already know or sense that you have feelings for her, telling her may make her feel your relationship is "unbalanced." She may feel a burden knowing that you feel something for her that she doesn't return. If she's uncomfortable knowing, it may make your friendship impossible. Another thing you should probably do, is check if she's homophobic, or uncomfortable with homosexuality. You should also take into account whether or not she knows your sexual orientation. So there's a risk involved in making your feelings known to her; consider carefully if you want to take that risk.

If you tell her, what are the chances that she’ll be weirded out and not want anything to do with you anymore? While it’s usually not the case, you’ll need to prepare yourself for the chance that it will happen. Are you willing to lose her as a friend if she’s creeped out by your confession?

If your friend already knows that you’re interested in other ladies, she may be less likely to have a homophobic response. It’s still possible, of course, that she will feel uncomfortable with the confession. It’s best if you either:

  • know her well enough to predict her reaction; or
  • don’t know her well enough to care if she never speaks to you again.

That seems like a broad generalization, and it is. There’s no real clear-cut list of risks – it’s different for everyone. Sometimes, it’s best not to tell her.


Step Two: Cover yourself.

670px-Get-over-Your-Lesbian-Crush-on-a-Straight-Best-Friend-Step-2Set boundaries. Making sure you have clear guidelines in place for avoiding "bittersweet moments" will be key to getting over your feelings for your bestie. Having lots of chats about her love life, her feelings, etc., can really melt your heart - you listen to her problems and sigh thinking, "If only she felt that way about me." Does it make you feel more protective of her? Probably. Is it a good idea to have lots of sleepovers while having those "sensitive chats"? Probably not. More contact, more time together, especially in more intimate settings, means more chances that you will not be able to control your feelings. If you lose control, you may lose your friend. Stay in control by setting those boundaries.

Make sure you have clearly defined boundaries, the Wiki suggests. I happen to think this is a good rule of thumb for most things in life. You need to understand that your feelings do not automatically justify making a move.

If you’re concerned that you’ll take things too far, be very specific with yourself about what you will allow yourself to do. For example, if you feel particularly attracted to her when she’s gone for a run, try to avoid seeing her when she’s been running. This can be applied to almost any situation, as long as you can tell when to predict it.

It can also be helpful to give yourself a “breather” when your feelings are getting to be too much for you. Don’t put her off indefinitely, but perhaps postpone. You’re not her girlfriend, you don’t have to give her a reason why you say no – just give yourself a little distance until you can calm down a little.

You also may need to remind yourself what is appropriate when you are with her, because unavoidable temptations will likely arise even if you practice every “precaution”. Make sure you don’t intentionally engage in activities that cause deeper feelings on your part. If sitting close to her is tempting to you, leave a little space between you. If she’s a hugger and that makes your heart pitter-patter, avoid situations where she might hug you.

If you have already told her your feelings, you can explain what you are doing, but too much explaining (whether you give her the real reasons or not) can be awkward if you haven’t. This will have to be factored in.


Step Three: Split your time with other people.

670px-Get-over-Your-Lesbian-Crush-on-a-Straight-Best-Friend-Step-3Spend time with other friends! It's hard to get over someone when she is the only person you ever hang out with! Spread your time among others - chances are you've neglected your other friends since you and your bestie have been spending so much (too much, maybe?) time together (and maybe you have some apologizing to do...).

We already touched on telling her “not this time”, but it’s important that you spend time with other people – not just by yourself. If she’s the majority of your social time, it’s understandable that you will be more attracted to her – she’s meeting all of your social needs, after all.

Get to know your other friends closer, and make a point to spend at least as much time with other people as you spend with her. Of course, you can spend time by yourself too – it can be helpful to focus your mind and get your thoughts in order.

It’s important that your “time apart” doesn’t really count as time apart if you’re messaging each other the whole time, though. In the age of SMS and IM, anyone we want to talk to is just at our fingertips, all the time. Don’t give into the temptation to give her your “apart” time, too.

Remember, this is for your own emotional health – falling for the straight girl is hard!


Step Four: Get a hobby.

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Try learning/doing something new. Pick something that you and your best friend haven't done together, and that she doesn't do by herself. Pick something completely untouched by her, and try to keep it that way. (But don't push her away from it if she asks... just don't invite her if she does!) It will be good for you to do something that doesn't remind you of her (most likely, everything else will). Maybe you want to try to listen to a new type of music or try out a new restaurant.

It’s a cliché, but it helps in most situations where your emotional health is in jeopardy. You should devote some time to a new hobby, learning a new skill, even reading a book. Do something that keeps your mind occupied and distracted from thoughts of your future with her. (Most likely, that future isn’t going to happen – let it go.)

Whatever hobby you decide on, make sure you don’t associate this hobby with her somehow, or it’ll just make it harder to move on. This shouldn’t be something that you’re doing to appear more attractive to her. It should be something that makes you feel good about yourself.

If you find that it’s hard to get her off your mind, fill up more time! Ask your other friends what things they enjoy, and give some of them a shot. This is you time – learn about what you like, what you want, and what you enjoy.


Step Five: Be true to yourself.

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The risks associated with trying new things can tempt you to lose sight of who you really are, but make sure you don’t fall for that trap. If you genuinely don’t like something, don’t stick with it. If you start to dislike yourself, your emotional health will suffer for it – and it’ll make your situation seem more hopeless.

Instead of changing yourself to fit the new things you’re trying, let go of any that don’t bring you joy. If you really like who you are changing into, that can be fine, too. Just make sure you stay genuine and you understand the things that influence you.

If it’s not having a positive impact on you, it’s not worth your time.


Step Six: Work on your self-confidence.

670px-Get-over-Your-Lesbian-Crush-on-a-Straight-Best-Friend-Step-7Boost your confidence! It can be a real ego-killer trying to subconsciously impress a girl that you know you can never be with. Go work out! Go after that goal of yours that has been on the back burner for so long! Volunteer at a local food bank or homeless shelter, or at Habitat for Humanity ! Feel good about yourself! Really, exercise will do you wonders! Not only will you look better, feel better, but you can finally fall asleep without spending hours of obsessing over your crush.

Any form of rejection is bound to hurt, even if it’s minor. Whether we want to think of it as a rejection or not, the realization that your “dream girl” isn’t into you can definitely affect you almost as much as if you had actually dated and broken up.

Consider taking the same steps you would take after a break-up (assuming, of course, that you handle your break-ups in a healthy way). Work on things that make you feel good, and things that you are good at. Don’t try to challenge yourself by “turning” the straight girl – this almost always ends in disaster. (If you have a situation where it didn’t, let me tell you, that girl wasn’t really straight.)

We have a number of articles on KitschMix dealing with self-care after a break-up; feel free to work through those templates in order to bring yourself to enlightenment on the subject.


Step Seven: Love her as a friend.

670px-Get-over-Your-Lesbian-Crush-on-a-Straight-Best-Friend-Step-8Love your best friend. Just because you are getting over your crush on her does NOT mean you should stop loving your best friend. Love comes in many forms. Remember that just because your best friend might not feel the same way about you romantically, it does not mean that she doesn't care for you at all! Not only is she your best friend, but you are hers. Cherish the fact and be glad for what you do have.

Just because you’re not allowing yourself to be attracted to her (as if that really works) doesn’t mean you can’t love her as a friend. It’s an important distinction between the two, and the lines can become blurred – so make sure you regularly evaluate the situation to make sure it’s working for you.

Chances are, this woman cares deeply about you, even if she doesn’t reflect your romantic and physical attraction. Love comes in many forms, and you need to find the form that works best for your friendship.

If you have already confessed your feelings for her, reassure her that you will not act on those feelings unless she initiates it. (Your exact wording should be tailored to suit the possibility of it actually happening – generally speaking, you can simply say that you won’t act on it, and it’ll imply that you’d be down if she came up with the idea.)

Be careful with this, though. There are some people who may use your affections against you. Of course we would hope that your friend won’t do this to you, but it would be naive to assume it never happens. Keep yourself on guard, and don’t let yourself get taken advantage of.


Step Eight: Keep your jealousy under control.

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Be happy for her. You will need to rejoice when she rejoices... even if that's upon her finding her true love. Resist the temptation to spend all your time with her moping because she's found someone to love. Don't try to sabotage or talk trash about him. These things will only drive a wedge between you If you need some space, simply take it by being less available. Don't say things like, "It's just too hard for me to see you with him." ... Awkward.

As her friend, it is your job to be happy for her when she is happy, and to be sad for her when she is sad. If she’s just been through a break-up, don’t try to swoop in and take advantage of the situation – just be there for her. If she’s just found her true love (even if you think he’s a dweeb), congratulate her on her new romance and leave it at that.

Don’t say that she’d be better with you – even if that’s the case.

Don’t let your jealousy control your opinions of her boyfriend. If he’s a good guy, give him credit.

Of course you should let her know if you notice that there is legitimately something about him that’s not good for her. If you catch him cheating, for example, you should let her know – but without your implications. Don’t give opinions unless she asks. And never try to trap him in situations to make him look bad.

This will just come across as you being jealous and petty, and it runs the risk of losing her as your friend. You’ve worked this hard to keep her comfortably in your life, why would you try to ruin it now?


Step Nine: Be willing to keep trying.

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Realize that this friendship is worth the effort. And also know that things get better in the end. Be grateful you have such an amazing best friend though! (Really though, SHE is awfully lucky, too - YOU ARE AMAZING for going through such hardship for her!)

All relationships require effort, and a friendship is no different. Understand that you will need to put a significant amount of effort into the friendship in order to ensure that it’s not going to be awkward. If you have shared the burden, it may be a little easier on your end, but realize that it could make it more difficult for her.

In some cases, when we share our feelings with someone who doesn’t feel the same way, she may feel pressured to accommodate you. As the one who developed feelings, you should do whatever you can to minimize the work on her part – after all, in most cases, it’s not her fault you fell for her.

It’s not exactly your fault, either, but the less awkward you can make it, the better the chances of keeping the friendship intact.


Step Ten: Give of yourself.

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Give. You know what the best thing is about forgetting about the girl you can never be with? It is YOU GIVING! Give of yourself - try to make someone else happy. Stop thinking so much about what you are (or aren't) getting, and think about what you can give. Go volunteer, get a pet, take care of something! Invest in something that needs you! There are so many causes/projects/people out there that need you - NEED you. Go find one!

No, not to her – to something that will make you feel better about yourself. Maybe this ties in with the hobby you’ve found, but if your hobby doesn’t give back, consider picking up another. Some good options include volunteering at a local shelter, or a soup kitchen, or even adopting a rescue pet. Find another type of love to help you get over your crush.

Not everyone is into volunteering, but it’s scientifically proven that helping others makes us happier. Think about the people you know who are selfish – don’t they seem miserable? The opportunities to volunteer in your local community vary widely, so there is bound to be something that actually complements your life.

It will take time, and in some cases money, to help others – but what you get in return is a feeling that can’t be matched.


Of course, the path toward getting over any unrequited crush can be a difficult road, but it’s important for your own sanity if you get over it before you’ve invested too much of your heart and soul into it. It might be difficult, but it won’t get easier if you wait longer – it’ll get harder.

You also need to make sure that you don’t get the idea that “getting it out there” will increase your chances with her. As mentioned previously, if she’s confident in her heterosexuality, nothing’s going to change her mind, and by pressuring her otherwise you are attempting to manipulate the situation in your favor – never a good idea with someone you care about (or even slightly respect).

Lastly, you should never beat yourself up over your friend not returning your feelings. We have no control over who we do and do not find attractive, and just as you are not able to stop yourself from wanting her, she can’t just force herself to want you, either. Don’t be upset – just focus on the positives of your friendship.


 

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21 Back-Handed Compliments That No Lesbian Wants To Hear

Back-handed compliments are much like a sweet little hug followed by a kick in the shin.

I actually find them to be quite funny. My normal response is just to laugh them off, but in my head there is a whole different story going on.


1. “You look so much like Tina from the L word! I couldn’t stand her.”

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2. “You were so fun last night. You really don’t care what people think, do you?”

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3. “Oh she’s your girlfriend? WOW fair play to you, you’ve done well.”

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4. “I wish I could feel as good in baggy clothes as you do!”

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5. “Your dancing is so original!”

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6. “Your shirt is just… so nice. If I wore that I would look like an absolute dyke.”

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7. “I’m just not curvy like you. I mean that as a compliment.”

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8. “She will definitely like you… she used to go out with this beast.”

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9. “I’d love to be as smart as you and care less about what I look like”

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10. “I cannot believeeeeee you’re working there. How the hell did you get that? Do you know someone who works there?”

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11. “[insert any lesbian character on TV] really reminds me of you.”

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12. “I did not expect you to do better than me in exams…congratulations!”

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13. “You’re moving abroad? With no job? God, I wish I had your guts! I’m just too much of a perfectionist”

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14. “Ohhhhhh, I didn’t know she had a girlfriend. She just seemed like the single type.”

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15. “You are looking really well these days you are almost becoming a threat”

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16. “The way you do things just cracks me up.”

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17. “It must be so nice to not have to worry about how you look everyday.”

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18. “You might be able to fit into this.”

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19. “She’s your girlfriend. I thought she was sister. You look so a like.”

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20. “Your hair looks way better (shorter, darker, longer, up, etc.).”

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21. “Wow you have a healthy appetite.”

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Why Ruby Rose’s Story on Gender Identity is the Right Conversation to Have With the Press

Ruby Rose has been very outspoken about her gender fluidity, noting that she doesn’t fully identify with one gender (male or female).

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The last couple of weeks, this story that has flooded mainstream media outlets, with many news outlets running with the headline of how she once wanted to be a boy.

Also read: 13 Women Who Dare To Challenge Gender Stereotypes in the Media

The model-DJ-actress went on to Access Hollywood to explain what it actually means to question your gender. Something many of us can identify with through those tough coming out years.

When I was younger, for sure I [thought about transitioning]. I had this jar that I would collect dollars, in fact, we were so poor, it would have been cents, so I probably had 19 cents to go towards this surgery that I really didn’t know a lot about. I think I’d seen like a daytime documentary, probably something on ‘Oprah,’ and I was like, ‘That’s what I’m going to do.’ So I started saving from probably the age of five. When I got to 15, [it was] when I kind of decided to get more into my body. I shaved my head and my mom was like, ‘I don’t know what’s going on right now, but if you are happy, then do it.'”

Rose said that shaving her head, altering her appearance, and changing the way she spoke made her see she didn’t actually want to transition.

I realised I didn’t want to transition, I just wanted to be more comfortable in my own skin.”

Which is actually something a lot of queer women struggle with – feeling comfortable in the way we look. We grow up seeing the ideals of a hetero-normative lifestyle, which we don’t truly fit into.

We haven’t grown up with many positive role models. Female gender and sexuality is perceived to be one way – the Disney princess, the Kim Kardashian.

What Rose is doing is saying actually there is something alternative out there and its ok. And she is doing it in a big way, and without fear.

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It took her years to conquer Hollywood, and 24 hours to become a massive success once season 3 of Orange is The New Black hit our screens.

Rose, who is launching a gender-fluid brand, goes on to say that gender is sometimes complicated.

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Gender fluidity is not really feeling like you’re at one end of the spectrum or the other. For the most part, I definitely don’t identify as any gender. I’m not a guy; I don’t really feel like a woman, but obviously I was born one. So, I’m somewhere in the middle, which — in my perfect imagination — is like having the best of both sexes. I have a lot of characteristics that would normally be

Watch Rose on Access Hollywood below:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YB-orSX0mWY

Ruby Rose Says She Had a Hard Time Making it in Hollywood (Video)

Lets face Ruby Rose is having a blast right now. Women around the world declaring their love for her, hanging out with Justin Bieber, and being heavily praised for her break-out performance in Orange Is the New Black.

But life wasn’t always so easy. Talking to The Today Show, Rose explained that she had a hard time finding an agent and making it in Hollywood.

Ruby Rose is Heading to ‘Dark Matters’

In recent article with InterviewRuby Rose has revealed she has new role in Dark Matter, alongside Zoie Palmer.

The greatest thing about having done Orange are the doors that have opened for me, and people have been able to see me, like the executives and the casting directors, also all of the fantastic directors and writers for independent films. There are definitely a lot of roles playing around that I think would be great for—female protagonists. I did a guest spot on a sci-fi movie [Dark Matter].

On her part she goes on to say…

I got to play with a toy gun and shoot people. That kind of thing has a lot of adrenaline and it’s very different from Orange. It’s really just action and I think that I would like to do that a little bit more—running around and driving fast cars and fighting people. It makes you want to be in an action film.

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In the same interview, Ruby talks about the Stella and Piper relationship.

They’re very different, but it works. I think that Stella is more of a tomboy; she has a “don’t really care” attitude and is a lot more sure of herself. I think that attraction is based off the tension between Piper’s interior and Stella really wanting to find out that interior for herself, and maybe sees a little bit of a challenge there. Stella might feel that she wants to know Piper, but wasn’t really expecting an attraction or what was Piper’s end game.

The manipulation [Piper] was doing within that time was much more self-serving then something that was going to be a long-term relationship or genuinely caring about Stella. It’s kind of sad. I feel a little bit bad for Stella.

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Read the full interview here

Do You Want to Look Like Ruby Rose? Well Now You Can (Video)

It’s official: the internet is obsessed with Ruby Rose. Can you blame us?

And it turns out, YouTube personality Kandee Johnson loves Litchfield’s newest inmate just as much as we do.

The makeup artist may already kind of look like Rose, but that clearly isn’t enough.

Armed with a makeup kit, Kandee transforms herself into Ruby Rose, and it’s shockingly accurate.

So if you’re not able to date Ruby Rose, you can at least paint your significant other to look exactly like her.

Here’s What Ruby Rose Says about all her ‘Newly Converted’ Lesbian Fans

Speaking to Huffington Post, Ruby Rose said she had not expected the attention, or the supposed ‘lesbian’ conversions.

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I was not expecting it, to say the least. My manager was like, ‘You’re like a viral sensation.’ And I’m like, ‘That sounds like an STD,’

The actress continued:

I have a couple of friends who don’t feel very warm towards it. They’re like, ‘Are you offended?’ They personally are offended by it saying like, ‘You can’t just choose to be gay. You should say something about all these women that are saying [they’re] turning gay or realizing [they’re] gay.’”

I think people are just saying that to be complimentary. I don’t think anyone’s doing it to be derogatory or to take away from what it really means to come out and identify as a different sexuality than what people will think you are.”

She added that people’s jokes showed that the world had moved on, observing:

I think people are just saying that to be complimentary. I don’t think anyone’s doing it to be derogatory or to take away from what it really means to come out and identify as a different sexuality than what people will think you are.

Maybe 10 years ago, people would watch someone onscreen that they would be attracted to, but they wouldn’t be able to make a funny meme and say, ‘Oh my God, I’m gay!’ because that would be so frowned upon.”

One of the main criticisms against the Rose crushes are that straight-identified women are simply trying to be “edgy,” as Madeleine Davies wrote for Jezebel. Rose, however, thinks that the so-called “trendy” nature of girl crushes are making society more accepting of LGBT people who are actually coming out.

I think it’s kind of brilliant because a lot of people can say it now who actually mean it and it not kind of be a big deal on them [to come out]. I, personally, think that the moments we try to nitpick who can and can’t say that they are genderqueer or gender-neutral or trans, or who’s gay or who’s bi — who are we to tell other people how they can live their lives and what they can tweet and what they can say? It’s really none of our business. I think we should let people go and say what they want to.”

Apparently, Ruby Rose is Turning all the Straight Girls Gay

In addition to acting and modelling, it would appear Ruby Rose is apparently practices sexual magic and sorcery in her spare time, and turning all the straight girls gay.

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Rose appears to have become the “lust object” of not only Alex and Piper but the entire internet in the wake of Orange Is The New Black season 3’s arrival on Netflix.

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Her androgynous good looks and playful performance as new inmate Stella has sent fans into paroxysms, with the actress trending within hours of the new season dropping.

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Lesbian Bush Confidence VS. Cockiness

Maybe it’s just me, but I think that women look better with a nice confident trimmed bush. Whatever the type you have it’s beautiful in all the different textures and colours.

Changing it up with different shapes can be fun (and a fun surprise for your partner) but don’t just assume that every lady prefers hard wood floors to soft cosy carpeting.

You can catch more videos from Arielle Scarcella on her YouTube channel – so good and so funny.

Lessons Every Straight Girl Could Learn from a Lesbian

It’s a scientific fact that lesbian women achieve  more frequently than straight women, so there must be a lot straight women can learn from lesbians – right?

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You can catch more videos from Arielle Scarcella on her YouTube channel – so good and so funny.

Straight Girls Explain Sleeping With Lesbians

Last week we discussed lesbians sleeping with straight girls. But with every tale like this, there is a flip side.

So, this week we’re looking at the straight girls who sleep with lesbians.

Why do they embark on encounters with other women?

Well, there are a number of women who fantasies about sleeping with a lesbian or bi woman, and there are a number of straight girls who go out there and sleep with other women.

Maybe it’s a one off, maybe they do it multiple times, but a lot of straight women are curious about girl-on-girl action.

And trust me, if you have straight women as friends, you’ll probably have fended off a few questions about your sex life – from pickup lines to techniques, and toys.

However, what I think is true, is women often feel safe to explore with other women.

Straight guys often freak out at the thought of have sex with another man, where as woman is less discriminating towards what they enjoy.

If they fancy women, they may explore that option. Female sexuality is consider a mental attraction, not down to what is on your chest or between your legs. Fantasy plays a part, and as boundaries breakdown.

Lesbians Explain Sleeping With Straight Girls

So as we all know women are hot and irresistible, which is why there are a lot of ladies out there curious about sleeping with another women; and even though many people may identify as straight, that doesn’t stop them from thinking about the same gender-loving.

So, here is where the lesbian and bisexual women come in to play – hello. 

We often become the experimental plaything; be it for a drunken kiss, a high school crush, a college romance or two-year relationship before she decides to settle down.

There are quite a few straight women out the seeking first-time lesbian sexual experience and on flip there are a lot of queer women who can’t object.

Lesbians Explain Sleeping With Straight Girls

Welcome to Addicted to Straight Girls Anonymous – Vegan Cookies, Texting and Flipping

For some lesbians, a straight girl isn’t just practical (OMG there are so many of them), it’s desirable.

It’s an ego boost to flip / bed a straight girl – but the straight girl attraction can be a rocky road. Yes, your ego is boosted by dating someone of a different sexuality. However, a straight-girl fling is usually a short-term thing.

Watch this funny video from the Gay Women Channel ‘Addicted to Straight Girls Anonymous’.