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Jennifer Beals Explains The Decision To Bring Back ‘The L Word’

Last month, Entertainment Weekly reunited The L Word cast for a stunning cover and catch-up interview. At the time all all expressed an interest in returning for another season.

Now, that sequel is look to be a reality.

The L Word’s co-creator, Ilene Chaiken will be an executive producer of the series with a new writer/EP with ties to the lesbian community  brought in to run the production and once again chronicle the friendships and love lives of modern gay women.

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Jennifer Beals, Katherine Moenig, and Leisha Hailey are set to executive-produce as well as appear on the series. Other characters from the original series may also pop up and will be paired with a whole new cast of women.

Talking to EW, Beals explained why the moment is right for The L Word to return to television.

She also explained

Years ago, Kate and Leisha and I approached Ilene because we were shocked that nothing had taken its place. There was this renaissance, in a way, going on with marriage equality coming to the forefront. It was a different terrain and we thought you can start telling stories in a different way and there’s a whole new generation coming up that views sexuality in a different way. Ilene was in the middle of doing Empire and she was very excited about the idea but there are only so many hours in the day.

Then, the election happened. I remember I was in South Dakota watching the returns come in and I texted Ilene and I said, “We need to do something.” She said, “Let’s get together and talk about it.” So we were spitballing about what to do and I said our skillset is storytelling and I think we need to tell stories and certainly in an atmosphere of increasing hatred towards the LGBT community and frankly anyone who’s categorized as “other,” stories exploring the complexities of friendship and love are all that more crucial. Representation of everything. You can’t go backward. I would love to see the show continue to mine its original themes of friendship and love and community and additionally I’d like it to go a little further and challenge heteronormalcy.

At the reunion, Kate Moenig was adamant that season 6 be forgotten — which means Jenny Schecter lives – but Beals is not to sure.

You really got to hear the pitches of what they want to do. That person is taking on a huge load. They have the history of the show, the legacy of the show, and yet they have to make it better and they have to make it theirs. So to dictate too much at this point in time I think would be problematic. I want to hear what’s coming from them and what excites them and what stories they want to tell because that’s when it’s going to be good when you let somebody fully have their voice.

And on Bette and Tina’s future, well Beals was a little cagey

I don’t want to even say what I would like to see at this point because I think it’s more important for me to be open and listen to people’s ideas and not get stuck in my own desires. If somebody says I think she should be a cheerleader for the Dallas Cowboys. I’m gonna say, “Well I don’t think that’s such a great idea.” Can you imagine? That would be funny [Laughs].

New Documentary ‘Rebel Dykes of London’ Is On It’s Way

Before there were queer activists, before there were Riot Grrls, there were the Rebel Dykes of London. They were young, they were feminists, they were anarchists, they were punks, and they were the first generation of sex positive outlaw women, and nothing has been quite the same since.

You won’t find out much about them in the history books, but now a new feature length documentary is set to tell their story. Produced by Siobhan Fahey, an original rebel dyke, and co-directed by Sian Williams and Harri Shanahan, the trailer was released this week – and it looks fantastic.

Fahey explains

This documentary film is being made because the history of the London Rebel Dykes of the 1980s is in danger of being forgotten. Rebel dykes created their own world, made their own rules, and refused to be ignored. We can’t let history tidy them away.”

Described as a labour of love, the film has been made with no budget.

We are doing this in our own time on top of work and bands and lovers and life. It is being created in DIY style, with huge support from an online community of 200+ Rebel Dykes.”

Find out more here www.rebeldykes1980s.com


The Queer Muslim Movement Is Growing

In America, Muslims are often depicted as intolerant and bigoted. However, more and more Muslims are openly identifying as queer, and more and more mosques around the country are openly accepting queer people.

All over the United States and Canada, queer imams are reaching out to LGBT Muslims – instead of turning away from the faith, these Muslims are encouraged to reinterpret the Koran.

Unity mosque is one of the most open-minded mosques of its kind. Its pastor, El-Farouk Khaki, is an openly gay imam and human rights lawyer. His weekly services are populated by queer Muslims, many of whom have been cast out from the families and communities for their sexuality and gender identity.

While most religious leaders – Christian, Jewish and Muslim alike – are known for listing strict rules of “Do”s and “Don’t”s that supposedly come from God, Khaki takes a vastly different approach.

He often discusses self-care, which is very important for queer religious people who feel guilty because of their sexuality. He also discusses physical, spiritual and emotional healing.

His main goal is to encourage the members of his congregation to form a spiritual connection with God and find their own spiritual path. It’s not about being a good Muslim according to traditional Koranic interpretations. It’s about being a good Muslim according to one’s heart.

Khaki is unorthodox not only in his mosque’s beliefs but also in his mosque’s practices. He doesn’t want any of his congregants to follow rituals like reciting the Koran or praying five times a day without first investigating why they do them.

Although traditional mosques separate men and women, Khaki prefers that all of his congregants pray in one place as one.

At this mosque, you may find conservatively-dressed women in hijabs. But you may also find women who are tagged with tattoos and who reject head coverings altogether.

As Donald Trump takes office, the work of queer communities like this is becoming even more important. Not only are queer Muslims often ostracized from their families for being queer, but they’re also publically ridiculed or even attacked for being Muslim. Khaki’s mosque is a safe haven.

Learn more about North America’s growing queer Muslim movement here.

Anna Kendrick Wants Lesbian Love Scene With Brittany Snow In ‘Pitch Perfect 3’

Anna Kendrick will soon be seen reprising her role as Beca in Pitch Perfect 3, with fans of the movies speculating about what the plot will hold for Beca and Brittany Snow’s character Chloe.

The chemistry between Beca and Chloe is something that was noticed in the first film and capitalised upon in the sequel, so Kendrick is hopeful that this storyline will be explored further in the next instalment.


In an interview with The Advocate to promote her new book Scrappy Little Nobody, Kendrick said

I mean, our characters are pretty much in a lesbian relationship. As far as we’re concerned, they’re secretly in love. We’ve joked that there will be all-out passionate lovemaking in the third movie. Too bad we still need that PG-13 rating.”


If people didn’t think it was cute, we wouldn’t have pushed that chemistry even further in Pitch Perfect 2. The more we have fun with it, the more people seem to like it.”

Despite that, she admitted that she still finds it hard to believe that some people consider her a gay icon.

Oh, man. I’m such a straight, cis, Boringface McGee over here, so I love that that could be even a little true. The idea that I’m resonating with other people who have ever felt like outsiders is the coolest.”

Kendrick was also asked how susceptible she is to girl crushes, after publicly flirting with stars such as Emily Blunt on social media.

It’s funny, isn’t it? I can’t imagine how that manifests itself for straight men with guy crushes, but when girls have girl crushes, I feel like there’s this sort of puppy love that’s hard to explain. It’s not a grown-up attraction, but it’s not purely platonic admiration either.”

Anna also revealed she finds it more of a compliment if a woman admits a girl crush on her than if a man finds her appealing.

It’s flattering. If a guy wants to f**k you, it’s like, congratulations, you have a vagina and a pulse. So if a girl wants to f**k me, I can actually feel pretty good about that.”

Brazilian Women’s Rugby Star Receives Marriage Proposal From Girlfriend Following Finals At Rio 2016

After the medal ceremony following the first women’s rugby sevens final in Olympic history on Monday had ended, Marjorie Enya, a manager at Deodoro Stadium, asked her girlfriend, Isadora Cerullo to marry her.

Cerullo was a member of the Brazil squad that narrowly missed out on reaching the knockout rounds rugby sevens tornement.

Talking to the BBC, Enya said

As soon as I knew she was in the squad I thought I have to make this special. I know rugby people are amazing and they would embrace it.”

The couple had been together for two years.

She is the love of my life. The Olympic Games can look like closure but for me it’s starting a new life with someone. I wanted to show people that love wins.”

Cerullo grew up in North Carolina and holds dual citizenship of Brazil and the United States.

Though she had never lived in Brazil before, she moved with Enya to São Paulo to focus on making the women’s rugby sevens squad for the Games.

According to Outsports, there are at least 45 publicly out lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and intersex athletes at the Rio games, as well as three coaches.

Several out athletes are also taking part in the Paralympics.

It Is Now Illegal To Be A Lesbian Or Bi Woman In 44 Countries Around The World (And That Number Is Growing)

44 countries have criminalised sex between consenting adult women, and of these at least ten countries (which have previously only criminalised male relationships) have recently expanded their laws to include women.

Many of the laws were first instigated under British colonial rule and others are based on Sharia law.

The Trust warns that while many countries have historically only criminalised male homosexuality due to the legacy of British colonial penal codes, increased international criticism of the laws is having the counter-intuitive effect of laws being expanded to include women as states believe the legal basis is strengthened if they are gender neutral and therefore more ‘equal’.

Ironically, such amendments [to criminalise women] are often made on the inaccurate premise of ensuring non-discrimination in the State’s treatment of male and female homosexuals.

A Botswana court found that a gross indecency law that only applied to male homosexuals, and not female homosexuals, was discriminatory, but that the discrimination was rectified when the provision was made gender-neutral.

Similarly, a court in Solomon Islands found that the male gross indecency law was discriminatory since women were not criminalised, but found that this would be rectified by removing the word ‘male’.”

The report warns that while reports on LGBT criminalisation can often focus on gay and bisexual men, women experience criminalisation in specific and particularly damaging ways.

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Corrective rape is found to be common as a way of ‘curing’ women of same-sex attraction and forced marriages with men are also a continuing threat.

As social and economic structures are already designed to require women to be dependent on men, women can experience particular stigma and practical issues if seeking to live independently outside of a ‘traditional’ relationship or with another woman.


Another concern highlighted in the report is how restrictions on women’s movement in socially conservative countries can often mean it is forbidden for women to travel without a man, making it difficult for women to meet in private.

Women in general are disadvantaged economically in many societies, for example by inequality in family structures, labour markets and laws on property and inheritance, which in turn compound the human rights violations faced by lesbians and bisexual women as they are less able to live independently without male family members.

Women [pressured into sham ‘heterosexual’ marriages] are likely to have significantly less control over their own bodies than gay men who enter sham heterosexual marriages, and may have little control over their sexual and reproductive health choices.”


Science Proves That Homophobia Means You’re (Probably) Gay

According to a study in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, homophobes are “more likely to be gay”. (Which, of course, we already knew, but now we’ve got science to back it up.)

This study, conducted in 2012, tested the correlation between “autonomy-thwarting parents” and internalized self-loathing homophobia, and found that the two are pretty likely to intersect.

As someone who went through a homophobic stage for the few years preceding my eventual coming out, I can definitely understand what the study is trying to convey.

I was gay-shamed by one particular family member for a long time before I even realized I was into girls (read: pre-puberty). Of course, my parents weren’t (and still aren’t) exactly homophobic, but there was a rift in place that caused me to say some pretty terrible things to some friends and later-came-out-as-gay boyfriends.

(Yes, I’ve had a few gay boyfriends. It probably should have been a sign.)

What did this study find?

Homophobia may be a mask.

When someone identifies that they’re gay, but isn’t ready to confirm it to the rest of the world, it’s somewhat normal to defiantly reject the idea. We see it a lot in other contexts, so it makes sense that it applies to human sexuality too. (Does this mean that slut-shamers wish they could get a little more action? Maybe, but I haven’t seen any data on this yet.) Another example of this connection can be seen in bullies who have a difficult or abusive home life – we hurt others to hide our own pain. It’s not right, but it is human nature.

It’s important to realize that this isn’t the only reason for homophobia, though… Just that there’s a pretty high likelihood.

Homophobia based in homosexuality can be fixed.

Richard Ryan, who was one of the authors on the previously-mentioned study, suggests that the individuals struggling with their own homophobia should take a step back from their world of hate, and instead look at their own lives. If they’re insecure about their own desires, they’re going to lash out at others. The brain tells us that we can’t like the things we like. Then, it tells us that if we can’t, no one else should, either. And voila – homophobia is born.

Like with any other insecurity, though, fixing the problem will require a commitment from the person who’s suffering from the insecurities. If they’re not ready to accept that it’s an internal problem and not an external one, they’ll never be able to get past it.

They’re hating out of jealousy.

If someone has an extreme dislike of anything, it’s because it occupies a large portion of their thoughts. What does this really mean for us as the queer community? Well, probably not much, since we already covered above that they won’t change until they’re ready to change, and most people can’t handle having their insecurities thrown in their face. This means that a homophobic person will probably not have an epiphany just because you told them they’re really just secretly gay.

It does mean that there’s a strong connection to the amount of hatred compared to the likelihood of gay-ness. That person who casually makes off-handed remarks that come across as homophobic? Probably not gay. But the person who goes out and commits hate crimes, or petitions to keep lesbians out of the ladies’ room… Probably pretty gay.

Homophobia allows a disconnect.

Most homophobic people don’t hate the individual person that they’re shaming, attacking, or otherwise hating on. Rather, they hate the fact that they can see themselves in the person’s “lifestyle” – and they feel guilty about it. By doing hateful things toward this person, they’re consciously disconnecting themselves and allowing for “proof” that they can’t possibly be gay themselves. But the gay community knows better, and has for a long time.

Does that mean it’s right for closeted people to be bigots? No, not in the least. But it does make psychological sense.

It would be okay… If it wasn’t so hurtful.

The greatest things that keep us unique in this world are our different opinions and beliefs, and as much as we don’t want to believe it, homophobia is definitely a belief system. The problem isn’t necessarily the homophobic thoughts themselves, but how a person chooses to handle these thoughts. Contrary to what much of the gay community thinks, internalizing these thoughts isn’t the best course of action, as this can lead to suicide (if the thoughts are bad enough). But unleashing it as hate crimes and harassment isn’t good, either.

From a psychological standpoint, this situation is pretty similar to the cycle of abuse. Bullies are often abused at home, or have been previously bullied by someone else. Sexual predators are quite often child victims of sexual violence. And homophobes have probably been on the other side of the hatred before. This seems to happen a lot in super-conservative families, perpetuating the idea that homosexuality is a “liberal thing”.

It’s a natural fight-or-flight.

For many homophobes, the internal struggle with their own sexuality kicks off their fight-or-flight response. In this case, “flight” represents running away from home, or possibly committing suicide, whereas “fight” represents attacking non-closeted homosexuals. There are, of course, other options, too – but the brain doesn’t always recognize those other options when it’s already battling with itself.

As members of the gay community, we have a type of obligation to be accepting of those who aren’t accepting of us. I know, that goes against basic survival instincts – but hear me out. The person will need to confront their fears about what homosexuality really means, and this could potentially distance them from all of their family. Remember, most of these people will have had it ingrained in them that they’re not allowed to be gay. We need to help them understand that they are allowed to be who they are.

Understanding the problem is not enough.

Most likely, the person already knows they’re at least a little bit gay (please, no backlash from the bisexual community – you know what I’m getting at here), and that alone isn’t enough to fix the problem. They’ve probably been conditioned their entire lives to think that being gay is something to be ashamed of – and no matter how diligent they are in fixing things, that’s not going to happen overnight. Some gay people live their whole lives in the closet, and that is their right. Anti-discrimination laws can help, too, but as is often the case, there are going to be people who don’t care what the law says.

All the studies that have been done on the subject have only discovered a connection – not a plausible solution.

Blame the parents.

In almost all cases, the way the person was raised will dictate their attitudes towards homophobia versus acceptance. In every study yet conducted on the subject, the parents were really the ones being tested. This applies whether the person is actually gay or not. In my personal life, I see a connection: I came out to the parent who was supportive before I came out to the parent who shamed me. Like, a lot earlier – I don’t think I ever formally came out to Parent #2 here, but Parent #1 knew before I turned 16.

It seems like a stereotypical answer in the psychological community, but in many ways, the methods used for raising a child are primarily responsible for how the child turns out when they grow up. Even if we wipe out homophobia, it won’t really be gone for a few generations.

Support and affection play a huge role.

Parents who are truly nurturing, supportive, and affectionate with their kids raise kids who are nicer and more accepting of the differences in people. Their personality does play a part, too, but to a lesser extent. If a child doesn’t feel loved, appreciated, and welcomed as they are, they are more likely to develop a pattern of mean behavior in the future. And children who haven’t been shown a lot of affection at home are often less able to show affection outside of the home, as they grow up.

This sounds pretty doom-and-gloom, but just as a pattern of sexual abuse can end with one person taking a stand, so can the pattern of unsupportive parenting.

Homophobia is, essentially, the same as a temper tantrum.

When a child is frustrated and unhappy, they’re going to throw a tantrum. Closeted homosexuals are, by definition, frustrated and unhappy with their situation – so they lash out at those who they feel are freer to explore their sexual desires. It all goes back to the parents – whether the person was catered to as a child (and is, therefore, spoiled as an adult) or they were neglected as a child (and, therefore, feel undeserving of happiness).

The way they were raised can even help predict the way things will be in the future – although there are always cases where a person will go against what’s expected. For some, this may be their rebellious stage – questioning the values they were raised with. For others, it may be the time they realize that the way they were raised wasn’t right, and they actively seek out a way to make the world a more beautiful place. The third category – those who develop homophobic tendencies themselves – is pretty miserable inside and wants others to feel the same type of misery.

Homophobia is a belief that hatred is OK when it can be justified by pseudo-science.

This way of thinking really needs to end, because it’s not fair to anyone involved. The need to hate or compete with others is a virus, and it spreads quickly – sometimes even accidentally (such as the parent who isn’t gay, who makes off-handed homophobic remarks in front of their closeted gay child). Other times, it’s spread intentionally, and it lights up a fire within people. Some people get seriously angry about their right to be homophobic!

There is no single step to eradicate homophobia, but one of the biggest steps in the process is to do away with the idea that it’s okay to hate someone else. The only legitimate reason to judge someone else is if they have done something directly to you that wasn’t fair – and even in those cases, people can change. You shouldn’t trust that they’ve changed without seeing proof, but whenever possible, you need to let go of the past – for your own sanity.

We’ve come a long way – but there’s still so much further to go.

The vast majority of my generation is pretty accepting of others from different cultures and communities, which is a huge deal – and the effects have been seen drastically. Whereas the original assumption was that about 10% of people were gay, bisexual, or transgender, now those numbers seem to be a little closer to 50-50. Yes, straight people are still in the majority, which is almost a biological necessity. (Newly-discovered science dealing with same-sex procreation could make it to where that’s no longer a necessity, and there’s always the bisexual community that can theoretically procreate naturally… But that’s not the point here.)

If you want to make a difference, you can – and the help is always appreciated. Just remember that the person who’s being homophobic toward you is really hurting themselves – so proceed with care! Show them that there’s no shame in being unapologetically real, including being real about who you love. Hopefully, we’ll see a homophobia-free world within our lifetimes – let’s make that happen!

Amandla Stenberg Opens Up About Her Gender Identity

The 17-year-old, Hunger Games actor Amandla Stenberg has come out as non-binary.

Stenberg – who plays Rue in the adventure film franchise – says she feels like she’s not a ‘woman’ all the time, and non-binary is a term that she feels comfortable using to describe herself. (She is using female pronouns).

Writing on Tumblr, she said she is organizing a workshop on feminism, specifically how ‘mainstream feminist movements have continuously excluded women who are not white, thin, cisgender, able-bodied and neurotypical’.

Something we are struggling with is understanding the intersection of feminism and gender identity…

We’re both people who don’t feel like “women” all the time – but we claim feminism as our movement.

Basically, we’re trying to understand the duality of being a non-binary person and a feminist. How do you claim a movement for women when you don’t always feel like one?”


She heard from a variety of experiences, with one who said they feel the oppression of a gendered society even if they do not necessarily identify as a woman.


Even if you don’t feel 100% “female”, even if you never did feel 100% “female”, the world begins treating you as “female” from a very young age and that is always, no matter how you end up defining yourself, going to have shaped your life experience,’ one fan said.

Earlier this year, Stenberg came out as bisexual.

As someone who identifies as a black, bisexual woman I’ve been through it, and it hurts, and it’s awkward and it’s uncomfortable…but then I realized because of Solange and Ava DuVernay and Willow and all the black girls watching this right now, that there’s absolutely nothing to change.”

It May Be Soon Possible For Lesbian Couples To Have Children With Genes From Both Parents

According to new research, same-sex couples may one day be able to have children who are genetically related to both partners.

A new technique – yet to be tried on humans – would involve scientists collecting a specific type of cell (such as a muscle cell) and producing a stem cell. These stem cells would then be used to create gametes (sex cells) – including creating an egg from a man or a sperm cell from a woman.

Research published in the Journal of Law and the Biosciences investigates the potential of this new scientific technique, known as ‘in vitro gametogenesis’ (IVG).

This could include ‘multiplex parenting’ with children having groups of more than two parents, or children with just one biological parent.

Scientist Sonia Suter from George Washington University, USA, explains IVG may be preferable to other fertility treatments in some circumstances, but in others it could be ‘substantially more problematic’.

For single parents, where all of the baby’s genetic material would come from one person’s DNA, there are greater challenges, Suter says.

We have minimal knowledge about the implications. The only way to demonstrate the effectiveness and safety of these techniques in humans is to use in vitro gametes (sex cells) to try to produce viable offspring in controlled settings – when and if we deem it sufficiently safe to do so.”

Dr George Ndkwe, medical director of the Zita West fertility clinic, told Huffington Post this technique, while useful, could radically change the notion of parenthood in future.

This is wonderful science, but it’s going to raise questions. There are possible uses of it, which in my opinion can be useful. For instance, for somebody who has no sperm at all or a woman who has no egg, if you can use any of their cells to create sperm or eggs then they can have treatment, so to use it in that way specifically for treatment, in my opinion may have some benefits.”

He added:

It would completely challenge our notion of parenthood with very complex legal implications. That’s where it gets very scary.”

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Is ‘The L Word’ Set To Return? Here’s What Ilene Chaiken Had To Say

Ilene Chaiken, who created the ground breaking lesbian drama The L Word recently talked with Entertainment Weekly and had this to say:

I would love to revisit The L Word. We talk about it from time to time. I talk about it with some of my colleagues who were in the cast who would love to reboot it. I don’t know when.

I’m busy and most of them are too, but I do still think that it’s a viable world in which to tell stories, and those characters are still beloved as far as I can tell.”

While this is hardly a confirmation, it is exciting that Chaiken would be willing to revisit the show, and with such large fan base, a reboot would presumably be rather successful – right?!

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The L Word first premiered in 2004 on Showtime, and revolved around a group of queer women living in West Hollywood – the twists and turns of the show and their love, personal, and professional lives made for some captivating and truthful television viewing.

Held a trailblazing show, this was the easily the first show to revolve completely around Queer women, unlike male-dominated LBGT shows like Queer as Folk, and Will And Grace.

While the majority of the principle characters identified as lesbian, The L Word also contained bisexual, transgender and straight characters. Additionally, a major character came out at Transgender, and the show chronicled their transition.

While Ilene Chaiken and the team behind The L Word would like to bring a reboot to their audience, it would be quite the feat to actually accomplish it.

Many of the people who helped make The L Word so great have gone on to busy entertainment careers.

Chaiken is currently showrunner for Fox’s hit Empire. Katherine Moennig, who played everyone’s favourite Shane, is currently a main character in Showtime’s drama Ray DonovanJennifer Beals has her own show too.

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So the chances on anything happen soon are slim.

Catch follow the interview below:


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The 10 Best Things About Being a Lesbian That No One Tells You

1. Kissing a girl is totally amazing. Its so much softer, sexier and lovelier than kissing a guy.

2. You get to snuggle with someone who’s not covered in body hair.

3. Watching The L-word with your girlfriend

4. You don’t wake up to a boner sticking into your back.

5. Women smell a lot better than men.

6. Women have boobs, which you get to touch.

7. You never ever have to experience pregnancy scares.

8. Another woman knows exactly how to touch you and at what speed.

9. When you move in with your girlfriend, your wardrobe literally doubles.

10. The sex is better, which has actually been proven by science.

BONUS Thing. You get to break all societies patriarchal rules!

8 Weirdly Adorable Things Soft Butches Do That We Can’t Get Enough Of

Soft butches. My weakness. They’re a little awkward with their boyish looks, and hands in pocket stance.

Yes, they give off the queer masculinity front, bit deep-down, underneath that butch exterior, they’re a soft as a puppy.

In fact, some of the more adorable things about them are also simultaneously some of the weirdest.

Here are some of the strange things you do that we can’t help but find endearing:

1. When she zones out while she’s staring at you

Sometimes she does this thing where she’ll zone out completely while she’s staring at you, to the point where she doesn’t even notice that you’ve noticed she’s looking. After it takes a second for her to bounce back, you can’t help but smile at her. That was so cute.

2. When she accidentally drops a really impressive fact

Intelligence is undoubtedly sexy, but when it leaks out of her pores in a (seemingly) accidental moment, you’re sold. You hate pretentiousness, but what you don’t hate is her giving you a little lesson about some awesome historical moment or recent scientific discovery you hadn’t known about before.

3. When she geeks out over things

Am I the only person who finds it absolutely adorable when a woman obsesses over something, especially if the thing she is obsessing over is kind of weird? It shows she has passion and is unapologetically herself, and that is something you can’t get enough of.

4. When she’s flex in a picture “by accident”

We’re not stupid, we can tell when you’re flexing, even if it’s subtle. But it’s pretty damn cute when she’s try to pretend like you don’t notice. You may even jokingly comment about how “buff” she looks, which will probably make her flex even more.

5. When she can’t dance or sing, but try anyway

You know that butch at the party who’s hanging out in the corner and moving slightly out-of-tempo to the song blasting from the speakers? She’s teetering on the line between being confident and wanting to run out of the room, but she manages to stay anyway. She’s really trying, and it’s adorable.

6. When her humour is extremely deadpan

If her humour has the perfect amount of dryness and deadpan-ness, she’ll go far. Give me a good one-liner and I’m sold.

7. When she’s holding a baby

This is the greatest thing ever because, as per butch and femme stereotypes, it’s a slightly unnatural sight. Nothing makes our heads scream, “I want to have your babies!” like seeing her hold a baby.

8. When you’re feeling socially awkward

She’ll clutch you by the hand, looking you in the eyes and nervously utter how good you look tonight – oh it the key to our hearts.

Research Suggests Women Are Either Bisexual Or Gay But ‘Never Straight’

Researchers at the University of Essex have suggested Women who think they are heterosexual are actually bisexual or gay and “never straight”.

The research, led by Dr Gerulf Rieger in the Department of Psychology, involved a sample of 345 women who had their physical responses to sexual stimuli monitored, with experts concluding that most women are either lesbian or bisexual, with very few actually heterosexual.

Women were shown videos of “attractive” men and women while researchers noted subconscious responses including pupil dilation.

Participants who identified as exclusively heterosexual were aroused by both men and women, whereas those who identified as lesbian showed much stronger sexual responses to women in the clips shown than to men.

Dr Rieger explains:

Although some lesbians were more masculine in their sexual arousal, and others were more masculine in their behaviours, there was no indication that these were the same women.

This shows us that how women appear in public does not mean that we know anything about their sexual role preferences. Men are simple, but women’s sexual responses remain a mystery.”

The Difference Between ‘Having Sex’ & ‘Making Love’: 9 Intimate Positions ALL Lesbian Couples Should Try

These sex positions make the difference between “having sex” and “making love”!

There are a million articles out there that will tell you how to “wow” your partner with something new and exciting, but what if you and your partner already have passion and chemistry to woo you along?

Sometimes, we want an intimate way to show our partner that sex with them is more than just sex; sometimes it’s more important that we remind her that we really do love her and intend to keep her satisfied.

While intimate sex is definitely not for everyone, those who wish for a romantic sexual activity should give some of the following moves a try:

Fun and Games

Fun and Games

This position takes a bit of practice to get right, but once you have it down it’s definitely worth it. One partner will be in a semi-squatting position with her bum pushed to the rear. Her partner will be sitting or kneeling behind her for a bit of kissing.

It seems a bit awkward in the planning stages, but it’s sure to get the juices flowing and ready you for the next step in your sexual escapades.

A Room in Rome

A Room in Rome

One partner should be lying flat on her back, with her partner sitting over the top of her vagina. The partner on top should have her legs spread to allow the partner on bottom a perfect view, as well as the ability to rub her clit.

The partner on top can caress the breasts and sides of her lover, and then when the time is right you can easily roll over to finish the job.

Swan Dive

Swan Dive

In this position, one partner will be lying on her back, with her legs up slightly. The other partner will then lay on top of her – similar to a 69 position, but on her back, rather than her stomach.

She can then rest her head on the bottom partner’s legs while her lover teases and pleases her. It can be a bit difficult to master, but it’s definitely worth it once you get it right.



This is similar to the standard, missionary position, but with the partner underneath wearing a strap-on. You will then be able to ride the toy and have complete control over the pleasure you receive.

Wrapping your legs around each other can provide for increased intimacy and control.

Stand and Deliver

Stand and Deliver

If you’re interested in the idea of shower sex or sex up against a wall – this is the ultimate answer. The partner who will be receiving should stand up (against a firm surface will make it easier, but you can definitely do it in the middle of the room if you desire).

Then, the giver should position herself at a lower angle, licking and optionally penetrating. If you’ve never had sex standing up, this is likely the first position you’ll try, but it’s a classic that will never get old. Just be sure that the receiving partner doesn’t collapse from the pleasure!

Magic Touch

Magic Touch

If one partner prides herself on her skill with her hands, this can be a great position to demonstrate that. Straddle your partner (who is lying down) and use your hand to simultaneously pleasure both of you.

This has the potential to lead to simultaneous climax, as well as the possibility of the partner on bottom taking control and turning the tables. (There’s something incredibly sexy about being tossed around a bit during your play time!)

Forbidden Fruits

Forbidden Fruits

One partner should be seated, while the other partner kneels between her legs, facing her. The seated partner will have perfect access to lick and suck on her partner’s breasts as her lover uses her hands or a toy to provide her with pleasure.

If you get quite worked up, the seated partner will probably decide to use her hands as well – and the kneeling partner will be in a great position to be penetrated.

Sleeping Beauty

Sleeping Beauty

Both partners should be lying on their sides, facing each other, similar to the lateral 69 position.

However, instead of both partners pleasing each other, one will get comfortable on the hip/butt of their partner while receiving the ultimate oral pleasure.

Best Finger Forward

Best Finger Forward

Although the name of this position would suggest you use your fingers, it is ideal for play with toys, as one partner will have a wonderful angle for penetration.

Partner A should be lying down in a comfortable position while Partner B lies on top facing her feet. While it would seem that the partner on top is in control, that’s certainly not the case, as she cannot see when the partner on bottom will be alternating between penetration and oral pleasure – leading to infinite satisfaction.

Perhaps one of the most important parts of making love (as opposed to just having sex) is the reminder to your partner of what she really means to you.

For this reason, we at KitschMix encourage you to cuddle after sex and never let your partner forget that you love her for more than just her smoking hot body. (That’s just the icing on the cake!) Don’t forget to give her a kiss and tell her she’s beautiful, every day.

31 Beautiful Lesbian Wedding Photos That Prove Two Brides Are Better Than One

We’re feeling the love here at KitschMix HQ. These stunning photos celebrate the love and joy that partnership can bring. And as we all know recognition and acceptance are the fruits of a long and difficult struggle, and while there is still progress to be made, perceptions are changing for the better.

Do you have any LGBT wedding photos to share? If you are a photographer, a bride, or a bride-to-be, we would love to see your lesbian and queer wedding and engagement photos for our website then please drop us an email.

1. Ilina & Kristin // Photographs courtesy of JAG Studios.


2. April & Heather // Photos courtesy of Nicolle Moshiri.


3. Erica & Kasandra //Houston, Texas // Photos courtesy of Oryan Photography.


4. Anne & Allyson//Washington // Photos courtesy of Jonathan Steinberg.


5. Ariel & Michelle//Connecticut // Photos courtesy of Amanda from Boro Creative Visions.


6. Becca & Laura//Denver, Colorado // Photos courtesy of Andrea Flanagan.


7. Jillian & Emily // Provincetown, Massachusetts // Photos courtesy of Lisa Rigby


8. Jamie & Sam // Seattle, Washington // Photos courtesy of Jenny J.


9. Dawn & Jennifer//Provincetown, Massachusetts // Photos by Studio Gregg


10. Olivia & Nicole//Maryland // Photos courtesy of Maggie Winters


11. Mandy & Aleyna//California // Photos courtesy of Nicole Anderson


12. Meghan & Emily // Portland, Oregon // Photos courtesy of You Look Nice Today Photography


13. Ashley & Sherry//Massachusetts // Photos couresty of Solare Wedding Photography


14. Ali & Meenoo // Philadelphia, Pennsylvania // Photos courtesy of Tara Beth Photography


15. Chrystal & Rebecca // Colorado // Photo courtesy of Maria Alexandra


16. Sara & Megan // Seattle, Washington // Photos courtesy of Andrew Bueno and Tony Lau.


17. Desiree & Sara // Mexico // Photos courtesy of Bethany Moslen, BLM Photography


18. Lil & Nere // New Zealand // Photos courtesy of Larsson Photography



19. Jamie & Jesse//Chicago, Illinois // Photos courtesy of Carol DeAnda


20. Ashlee & Alyssa//Ontario, Canada // Photos courtesy of Miller Ellis Photography


21. Andrea & Julie // Chicago, Illinois // Photos courtesy of Arthur Mullen & Nako Okubo.


22. Natalie & Lauren // North Yorkshire // Video courtesy of Craig and his ironically named business


23. Lo & Kate//Mexico // Photos courtesy of Pink Palm Photography


24. Latrice & Maurita // New York City // Photo courtesy of De Nueva Photography


25. Holly & Mya // San Francisco, California // Photos courtesy of Blueberry Photography


26. Ellen & Amanda // New Hampshire // Photos courtesy of Rodeo & Co

lesbian-wedding-2727. Jess & Emet // California // Photos courtesy of Jennifer Emerling


28. Katrina & Nora // Massachusetts // Photos courtesy of Erica Camille.


29. Jaci & Kerry // Key West, Florida // Photos courtesy of Melissa Kelly


30. Katy & Emory // Jamaica Plain, Massachusetts // Photos courtesy of Michelle Davidson-Schapiro


31. Laura & Kathy//New Jersey // Photos courtesy of Peter Gebhardt.



Do We Actually Need ‘The L Word’ Reboot?

Can you believe it’s been ten long years since The L Word premiered, and only six years since it finished?

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Yet, since then television has yet to replace it with another show centred solely around a large group of lesbian or bisexual characters.

In the last 5 years, we have seen a slight increase in lesbian and bisexual characters in broadcast, cable, and streaming network programming.

And we now have some great queer characters scattered on some great shows.

There are the two loving lesbian parents in The Fosters, a clone or two in Orphan Black, one of the Pretty Little Liars, the couple formerly known as Calzona on Grey’s Anatomy, the bisexual succubus and her human doctor on Lost Girl, the not-actually-faking-it lesbian of Faking It, and about a third of the cellblock on Orange is the New Black.

So do we really need an L Word reboot at this time?


One could argue that our representation is better served with inclusion in more mainstream shows. Lesbian and bisexual characters play prominent roles in everything from freshman breakout Jane the Virgin to the complicated are-they, aren’t they Root/Shaw dance on Person of Interest and the transitioning nuclear families of Transparent.

And then there are the regular and recurring lesbian or bisexual female roles on Empire, The Walking Dead, Gotham, The 100, Marry Me, Arrow, Chasing Life, Heart of Dixie, Survivor’s Remorse, Black Sails, The Returned, Younger, and more I’m missing that you’ll no doubt tell me about in comments.

Plus, we haven’t even mentioned the recently and soon-to-be dearly departed lesbian and bisexual characters from shows like The Good Wife, Glee, Chicago Fire, and even the latter-day Two and a Half Men.


Yet, when it comes to a show primarily about queer women, we continue to falter.

The latest edition was the Liz Feldman and Ellen DeGeneres produced sitcom One Big Happy. A series with the first lesbian-led network comedy since Ellen back in 1998.

But the show did not do well, and was cancelled after one season.

The hype was not there, and the excited wave of lesbian and bisexual women actually watching One Big didn’t emerge.

Compare that to The L Word watching parties you had with friends or thrown by your friendly neighbourhood lesbian bars back in the day.

The urgency to see ourselves reflected on the TV screen isn’t as great because we’re already there – the diversity of lesbian and bisexual female characters has increased.

One of the biggest critiques about The L Word (besides everything and anything about Jenny Schecter) was its limited portrayal of queer women.

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They were mostly femme, largely white, overwhelmingly upwardly mobile, and so on and so forth.

The difficulty any show about an underrepresented minority faces, particularly trailblazing shows, is the desire to be all things for all people.

New hits like Black-ish and Fresh Off the Boat have successfully avoided that trap while still finding commercial and critical success.

Another L Word would need to straddle that world of specificity and commonalities. Still, perhaps the burden of being The Lesbian Show would be lessened because of the increased representation elsewhere.

23 Things Lesbians Love About Being in Long Term Relationships

1. Having a person who’s always there when you need them.

2. And having someone who actually understands you in a way no one else does

3. Actually being able to enjoy the lesbian bar scene without having to participate in it.

4. But staying in can be the best date night ever.

5. If you feel like cuddling, you can.

6. And if you want sex you can – no really you can!

7. Having someone on hand to feed your cats.

8. You don’t always have to wear a bra.

9. Not having to worry if you’re being too weird or silly because there’s no such thing when she’s around.

10. “Oh shit, I’m out of tampons” is something you haven’t said in months.

11. Having someone you can’t wait to come home to.

12. Having a date for every occasion.

13. Having someone on hand to stroke better when you feel unwell.

14. You can tell them if they look like shit, and it’s ok.

15. Not having to shave every inch of your body for a date night.

16. You get to see boobs all the time forever.

17. You no longer have to explain your sexual orientation to everyone.

18. You basically have two closets forever.

19. Every conversation you have is cloaked in an insider jokes.

20. You gossip about everyone you know.

21. You know every ticklish spot on her body.

22. You can watch TV shows about lesbian dating scenarios in the comfort of knowing that you are a safe distance away from being single yourself.

23. And you consider it very important to keep her up to date on the highlights of your favourite show, even though she doesn’t watch it.

25 Signs You’re Dating A Woman Who Truly Loves You

1. She considers it an accomplishment when she proves you wrong about something because in her mind you’re right 75% of the time or so, whether or not you actually are.

2. She pushes you, sometimes beyond your comfort zone, to pursue your dreams and ambitions, because she believes in you that much.

3. When she introduces you to friends and family, her brief description of who you are makes you blush because she tends to exaggerate your talents and/or greatest personality traits.

4. It turns her on to see you express a strong opinion, whether you’re chatting with people you’ve just met or with long-time friends at a group dinner.

You’ll probably catch her out of the corner of your eye, sitting back and smiling, as she watches you gesture like crazy to establish your point.

5. If she’s the expert in a given area, she’s not pompous about it. If anything, she takes great pride in sharing her knowledge and/or instructing you in some way.

6. She thinks it’s endearing – and not a sign of weakness – when you fuck up or struggle a little bit with something.

7. She defers to you on subjects you know more about and asks thoughtful questions about these topics because she genuinely enjoys learning from you.

8. On the rare occasion she doesn’t like something you’re wearing, she manages to tell you without being offensive. In fact, she’ll package an outfit critique as a compliment, such as: “That shirt doesn’t do your hot body justice.”

9. She’s not afraid of superlatives when complimenting you. You are “the most beautiful woman,” “the most perfect fit” for her, and “the smartest person” she’s ever been with.

10. Once in a while, she also says something grandiose like “you are everything to me,” or “you are my world.”

11. She’d rather study or do mundane chores with you rather than let you do these things alone, no matter how dull or unappealing the task.

12. She wants to know your opinion about everything: wardrobe, politics, current events, career moves, the merits of a stupid celebratory rumour, etc.

13. She’s not afraid to express her opinions, even when they differ from yours, because she knows you thrive during a healthy debate.

14. And while she wants to be heard, she never expects you to change your mind – unless that happens organically, in which case she’ll feel super satisfied because she truly values your mind.

15. She forwards you articles she knows you’ll find interesting – about things she never would have read before you started dating.

16. When you’re stressed out or upset, your down mood triggers a desire in her to be a better partner and to do her best to help you through the difficult stuff, although she recognises that your problems don’t hinge on her alone.

17. If you get nasty or say something extreme in the midst of a fight, she doesn’t let it impact her view of you because she knows she’s equally capable of saying something stupid in the heat of the moment.

18. When she hurts you, she takes your pain seriously and makes a heartfelt commitment to be more mindful of your feelings moving forward.

19. She leans on you when she’s sick, exhausted, sad, or in need of extra love and attention just because.

20. She is your number one fan and she considers you hers.

21. She’s committed to dividing your free time as a couple between your friend groups and she makes an effort to integrate the two whenever it makes sense.

22. She goes out of her way to invite you to social events and work related gatherings, even if she knows she’ll be the only women with a “plus one.”

23. If she does head somewhere without you, she’ll text saying that she wishes you were there – not just to flatter you, but because she really does have more fun when you’re around. Chances are, she’ll come home earlier than she would if you were with her.

24. She’s always as interested in making you orgasm as she is in getting herself off.

25. She has sexual goals focused on your pleasure, like getting you to climax multiple times, or trying out a new position she’s researched that supposedly feels great for women.

Growing Pains: 25 Problems Only Butch Women Will Understand

25 Problems Only Butch Women Will Understand

1. When people assume because you’re look butch, you’re butch in every way – “Just because I’m wearing a flannel doesn’t mean I own a drill.”


2. When you enter an all female changing room, you’re instantly aware of your lesbian appearance; which causes you not to make eye contact with anyone – awkward.

… hmmmm, or maybe not!


3. When you go into a women’s bathroom, and hear “Excuse me, sir, you’re in the wrong room”.


4. When you want to wear a suit, but are not able to find one that fits.


5. When the shop assistant calls you sir.


6. When your boobs refuse to fit into any shirt.


7. When you try on men’s jeans, and have to deal with the fact you have hips.


8. When you have to buy a new bra.


9. When kids stare and ask you questions like “Are you a girl or a boy?”


10. When old people stare, and then tut disapprovingly. You know their trying figure out if you’re a man or a woman.


11. When you go to a new hairdresser and have to explain how you want your haircut short “like a boys”. Then coming away with haircut that’s more femme than you wanted.


12. When people expect you to always carry the heavy bags.


13. When people expect you to fix things, even tough you have no technical abilities.


14. When your girlfriend teases you for not being able to open jars.


15. When you start to cry and get told “But you’re butch. NO FEELINGS ALLOWED.”


16. When relatives buy you femme clothes, and ask you to at least try them on.


17. When people ask you to wear something a little less “manly”, just to make it easier for others


18. And when you do, people telling you look “good as a girl.”


19. When people expect you to date only femme women.


20. When straight guys assume you want to ogle women with them.


21. When you like something that’s considered “girly” and people are really confused.


22. When gay guys hit on you.


23. When straight women hit on you.


24. When straight guys hit on you.


25. When people assume you’re “the man in the relationship”


13 Facts About Kissing Women You Definitely Need To Know

The word “kiss” needs no introduction. An neither does it need any description. But I am pretty sure none of you know these crazy facts about kissing.

Read on to know some pretty awesome stuff:

1. One kiss requires the coordination of a total of 146 muscles

This includes 34 facial muscles and 112 postural muscles. That is quite a serious workout!

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2. Kissing burns 2 to 6 calories per minute

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3. It is possible for a woman to reach an orgasm through kissing

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4. It can boost your mood instantly

The levels of dopamine- one of the most important neurotransmitters, spike during kissing, leading to a rush of elation and craving and can also result in the obsessive thoughts that many of us experience with a new romance – almost like an addiction.

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5. Our love for kissing comes from… rats?

An ancient rat-like creature called Eomaia Scansoria, which lived sometime between 75 and 125 million years ago, is the common ancestor for both mice and humans. Kazushige Touhara and colleagues at the University of Tokyo believe that our affinity for kisses descends from this ancient rat. The science team theorizes that this creature would rub noses with a mate to sample his or her pheromones and signal desire.


6. Origin of the word “kiss”

The word “kiss” comes from the Old English word cyssan, which technically means “to kiss.” No one is completely positive where cyssan comes from, but it is thought that it represented the sound people make when they kiss.


7. You can have a career in kissing

The study of kissing is called Philematology, and someone who studies’ kissing is called an Osculologist.

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8. 10% of the world doesn’t kiss

Would you believe me if I told you that there existed people who did not know about kissing? Mangaia Island, which is about 18 million years old, is the oldest island in the Pacific Ocean. The people here had never heard of kissing until the English introduced them to the practice in the 1700s.

Although as of today, 90% of the world enjoys the art of kissing, the rest 10% does not do so. For example, certain areas in Sudan believe that the mouth is the window to the soul, and they fear that it can be stolen by mouth-to-mouth contact.

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9. On average, two-thirds of people tip their heads to the right when they pucker up.

A German researcher observed over 100 couples and noted that two-thirds of them tilted their heads to the right, too. Experts think this instinct originates from the womb when we naturally tilted our heads to the right.


10. In Nevada, it is illegal to kiss with a moustache

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11. Kissing is good for your health

Kissing has long been thought to be a way to pass along bugs and thus strengthen the body’s defenses. Scientific research also says that kissing increases the levels of oxytocin, the body’s natural calming chemical and also increases endorphins, the body’s feel-good chemicals.

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12. Lips are 100 times more sensitive than the tips of the fingers. Not even genitals have as much sensitivity as lips.

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13. Kissing is all about exchanging information

The exchange of saliva allows us to figure out information about our partner on a subconscious level. A kiss can convey the genetic compatibility of a mate, the condition of their immune system and how willing they are to raise children. Even if you’ve paired off with a perfect match from a shared interest dating site, you have lots in common and their kissing technique is good, on a subconscious level you may reject them because of how your body has responded to this exchange of information.

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10 Signs You’ve Found The Woman You Should Settle Down With

There’s one thing we’re all chasing after, and that is love.

Falling in love is like coming home. Your worries are quieted and you feel protected in your partner’s arms. And when you’re deep in love, it’s hard not to picture the rest of your life with that other person.

But how do we know for certain that it’s real forever and not just a fantasy?

Here are the ten signs you’ve found the woman you want to spend the rest of your life with:

1. You don’t need to pretend

Good days and bad days, you can totally be yourself — whatever mood you’re in — and she always thinks you shine. She understands who you are and doesn’t expect you to be anyone but yourself. There’s no pretending. You can lounge in stained sweatpants and not formulate sentences; she gets it because she’s right there with you.

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2. At the end of a really bad day, all you want is to be with her

No matter what kind of crummy mood you’re in, you’d rather be with her than be alone. She will always patiently listen to you, while you speak your mind and she won’t invalidate your concerns with her honest feedback. Her confidence and passion positively influence your own, which makes your relationship all the more exciting. You want to be near her, always.

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3. The attraction is more than just physical

Physically, emotionally and mentally, you two are compatible on all those levels. The chemistry between you both is powerful enough to block everything else out. Even doing the littlest things together, such as running to the grocery store, feel more special because she’s around. You can’t keep your hands off each other and you certainly aren’t holding back.

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4. You want to share every experience with her

When you envision your future, she has a major role in it (and vice versa). The idea of spending the rest of your life with her doesn’t scare you. Being by her side is where you feel most comfortable.

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5. She not only listens to you, but she also hears what you’re saying

She can read between the lines and anticipate your needs without you having to communicate them all the time. She knows what you are trying to say without having to always explain yourself. You help each other grow and become the people you want to be.

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6. You have the same idea of romance

Whatever your definition of romance is — intimate dinners, long road trips, cuddling in bed — she shares in it and will go the extra step to make that happen.

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7. You love more than you fight

It never feels good to fight because you care too much about her to hurt her. The compromise always seems like the best option because you both can be happy. But at the end of the day, you really can’t stay mad at each other for long.

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8. Your happiness is her happiness, and vice versa

You know she’s the one because she’s good to you in ways that you’ve never thought possible. She wants what’s best for you, even if it comes at a cost to her.
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9. She accepts you as you are

You’re messier, louder and maybe less funny, but she loves you for it. She makes you feel good about all those things you might dislike about yourself.

She knows everything about you — good and bad — and appreciates both because it’s all part of who you are.

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10. She lets the world know you’re her true love

She brags about you to her friends because she’s so proud to call you her own. You would brag more, except everyone already knows how enamoured you are.

You are hers, she is yours and suddenly it all feels comfortingly simple.

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Woman Kills Lesbian Lover For Wearing Sweatpants on a Date Night

A former Virginia Tech student – Jessica Michelle Ewing – was sentenced to 45 years in prison this week, for murdering her lover after she wore sweatpants on a date night.

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In court, Ewing gave a detailed testimony about the ‘date night’ that lead to the murder of 21-year-old biology student Samanata Shrestha.

Ewing said she who spent hours getting ready, but was disappointed when she turned up at Shrestha’s apartment, wearing a dress and carrying a bottle of wine and whipped cream, to find Shrestha in sweatpants and a T-shirt.

Shrestha eventually changed into a dress and they tried to lighten the mood by building a fort and having a whipped-cream fight.

They downed the bottle of wine and had sex, after which Ewing made a ‘poor teasing comment’ and called Shrestha a ‘spoiled bitch.’

Shrestha shot back that they were just ‘experimenting’ and she was ‘toying’ with Ewing.

I loved Sam — I couldn’t believe she would say that I was some experiment to her,’ Ewing said. ‘It hit me where I was most hurt.”

Ewing then ‘reached her arm around her neck and held it there,’ strangling Shrestha in a chokehold.

Ewing then tried to cover up the murder, but Shrestha’s body was discovered stuffed in a sleeping bag in the back seat of her abandoned Mercedes on 10 February 2014.

In February this year, Ewing entered an Alford plea to the first-degree murder of Shrestha. An Alford plea is where a defendant does not admit guilt but acknowledges the prosecution has enough evidence for a conviction.

Ewing was sentenced to 80 years for first-degree murder and five years for transporting and concealing a body. She must serve out 45 years of the sentence before the remainder is suspended.

31 First World Lesbian Problems

1. Other lesbians not thinking you’re gay

2. Having “that talk” with a member of your family


3. Being told “you’re going through a phase”


4. Being introduced as “my lesbian friend”


5. People insulting gay people without knowing you are one


6. Finding out the woman you like is straight, or are dating someone else


7. Straight women asking if your are a lesbian


8. The death of your favourite lesbian character in EVERY TV Show


9. And then the endless search for Lesbian subtext in EVERY new TV show that comes out


10. Being asked which is the “boy” in the relationship


11. Having to out yourself when you make a new friend


12. Online dating struggles


13. Shopping in the boy section, then having to use female changing room


14. Being mistaken for a man “excuse me sir, oh I mean…”


15. Straight men asking questions about your sex life


16. Gay man asking you questions about your sex life


17. Straight women asking you questions about your sex life


18. Presents from distant family members


19. Referring to your girlfriend as partner, to keep your sexuality neutral in your workplace


20. Becoming a lesbian stereotype


21. As a couple, being confused as friends or worse siblings


22. When your periods syncs with your girlfriends


23. Suffering through a bad movie in order to watch that three-minutes of lesbian romance


24. Having a straight girl crush


25. Being too afraid to ask a woman you fancy about her sexuality


26. Being a straight girls experiment


27. Bro-friendships and listening to their views on women


28. Over analysing your girlfriend’s motivations


29. Lock Jaw!


30.Being told lesbian sex is not real sex


31. The ending of The L Word


It’s out – ‘Orange is the New Black’ Season 3 Trailer is HERE

Oh how we have waited for this, but now it is here…

For fans of Orange Is the New Black it’s been a painful wait since the end of season two–and now we have a tantalising taste of the upcoming third season, to be released June 12.


There’s so much to love in the trailer, and there is no doubt that this season will be filled to the brim with amazing stories, new and beloved characters, laughter and tears.

Also read: Our Wish List For Season 3 of ‘Orange Is the New Black’

Alex is back, but she doesn’t look to happy with Piper.

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Researchers Discover It Is Biologically Possible To Make A Baby From Two Same-Sex Parents

A breakthrough by researchers from Cambridge University, has revealed that in just two years same-sex couples could have their own biological children by using stem cells of parents of the same sex.

The researchers have proven that human egg and sperm cells can be made from stem cells in the skin of two adults. They have stated that the technique could mean same-sex couples could have babies in just two years.

The scientists used stem cell lines from embryos as well as cells from the skin of five different adults. Ten different donor sources have been used so far and new germ-cell lines have been created from all of them.

The team, funded by The Wellcome Trust, compared the engineered stem cells with human cells from foetuses to make sure they had identical characteristics.

Azim Surani, leader of the project, told The Sunday Times:

We have succeeded in the first and most important step of this process, which is to show we can make these very early human stem cells in a dish. We have also discovered that one of the things that happens in these germ cells is that epigenetic mutations, the cell mistakes that occur with age, are wiped out.”

According to New Research, Lesbians Have Better Sex

It’s official, Lesbians have better sex – well thats according to researches at Indiana University. Women in lesbian relationships are more likely to reach orgasm during sex than straight or even bisexual women. They are also likely to have orgasms with more variety.

The study has found men reach orgasm an average 85% of the time when they have sex with a familiar partner, compared to 63% on average for straight women. That figure rose to 75% for lesbians but dropped to 58% for bisexual women.

Researchers have suggested same-sex female sex ‘lasts longer’. Gay women are also ‘more comfortable with the female body’.

‘One possible explanation is that…lesbian women are more comfortable and familiar with the female body and thus, on average, are better able to induce orgasm in their female partners,’ the Journal of Sexual Medicine study said.

Findings from this large dataset of US singles suggest that women, regardless of sexual orientation, have less predictable, more varied orgasm experiences than do men and that for women, but not men, the likelihood of orgasm varies with sexual orientation.

These findings demonstrate the need for further investigations into the comparative sexual experiences and sexual health outcomes of sexual minorities.’

Indiana University

More than 6,500 men and women between 21 years old and 65 years old in America took part in the study led by Indiana University.

Survival Guide: 10 Things That Happen In A Lesbian Relationship

A very funny article written by Mila Jaronie; a writer living and working in New York.

If you are new to the lesbian scene and curious about the future, here is a list of things you can expect to find yourself experiencing once you trap the lady love of your life.

Also read: 5 Common Misconceptions About Lesbian Relationships

Invincibility. When you’re in love, you’re invincible. Nothing can touch you; you share a heartbeat and that’s all that matters. There’s nothing to worry about anymore – you’re safe, you’re warm, you’re protected. You’ve made a home in each other’s arms and hearts and you’re facing the future fearlessly, together, head-on. That is, of course, until she finds an unread message with one too many smiley faces in your inbox from some hot girl. Suddenly, you’ve got a lot of explaining to do.

Olympic drinking. Prepare to be constantly tipsy. In your new relationship, you will feel joyously carefree and adopt a devil-may-care attitude, which will make every day with your girlfriend seem like a mini celebration. Going on an autumn walk? Wine in a traveling cup. She just got out of her linguistics final? Shots! You got off work at midnight instead of 2:00 a.m.? A house call with cheap vodka and champagne is in order. You’re so excited to be together you make every day a party, even if it’s a Tuesday afternoon and you have papers to write.

Olympic crying. Get ready for an onslaught of feelings, girls! You will find new and interesting reasons to be emotional, and therefore take crying to new levels. Cry because she’s the one. Cry because you’re not sure she’s the one. Cry because you’re drunk and her smile is so beautiful. Cry because she’s the only person who understands you. Cry because even after four months, she still doesn’t fully understand you. Cry because she’s fucking you too hard but you don’t want to ruin the moment. Cry because she’s crying. Really, the possibilities are endless.

Severe REM loss. Face it – once you get into a serious lesbian relationship, you will never sleep again. The hours you used to spend sleeping will suddenly be filled with one or more of these: passionate sex, mechanical sex, drunk sex, half-assed sex, angry sex, or a screaming fight about not having sex, followed by pity sex and a faked orgasm (which you don’t normally do, but damn it, you’re really tired).

Expansion. Of the horizontal variety. In a relationship, it is almost guaranteed that you will get fat and happy. You will lie contentedly in her arms on your plush couch among your eclectic throw pillows and reflect on how lucky you are. You will order in and eat out. In a spirit of domestic goddess-osity, you will attempt to cook dinner from scratch, which will of course result in half the kitchen on fire and subsequent takeout from the Chinese bistro down the street. You won’t mind. You’re in love.

BBS (Broke Bitch Syndrome). Enjoy your savings now, because once you get a girlfriend, they will disappear. Bar tabs, vacations, birthday/Christmas/anniversary/Fourth of July presents, decadent seven-course dinners, her car payment, that $245 pair of jeans you impulsively bought because they looked cute on her and she needed cheering up, etc. will chew up and spit out your bank account. You will need to apply for a new credit card just to be able to afford Valentine’s Day.

DSAS (Different-Sized Arms Syndrome). Look, at some point you are going to have to finger-bang your girlfriend. And unless you’re perfectly ambidextrous (or at least ambi-competent), you’re going to be using your dominant hand. Hours of finger-banging will cause your tendons to become extremely flexible and your forearm to exhibit muscle tone you never thought possible. Plus, if she likes it rough, you’ll also develop quite an impressive bicep. Of course, after you break up you’ll start lifting regularly to even out your two different arms, but one will always be slightly larger. Damn it.

Mobile phone aerodynamics. It is also likely that, at some point, you will get out-of-proportion upset over a passive-aggressive text or short, stroppy phone call, and in a flash of rage you’ll decide you’re done with her shit and hurl the phone across the room, at the ceiling, or into moving traffic. You will later send her a Facebook message telling her that you lost your phone, you’re sorry for ignoring her calls, and you’ll be home for dinner.

Chronic worrying. Your laid-back nature will suddenly give way to irrational paranoia and gnawing self-doubt. You will begin to worry constantly, about everything: what she’s doing when she doesn’t answer your texts (even though youknow she’s in for the night), what she meant when she said “I really need to concentrate on my work right now,” and why it’s 2:30 a.m. and she isn’t back from that “talk” with her ex yet. You will question everything – yourself, your relationship, your life choices, whether you’re even gay – and freak out accordingly

Chronic apologizing. In addition to worrying about everything, you will start apologizing for everything. Or, alternately, you will never apologize, and be the one to stomp off in a huff in the middle of an argument even when you’re wrong.

Also read: The 10 Best Things About Being a Lesbian That No One Tells You

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