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Queer Muslim Couple Marry To Protect Their Family Rights And Send A Powerful Message Of Love To Trump

Laila Nur and Saba Taj decided to get married in North Carolina to send an important message of love to Donald Trump about sustaining equal rights.

Talking to Mic, Taj explained

We decided to get those papers in order to be able to be there for each other in the future, in order to ensure that we could both be legally recognised as parents if we decide to become parents again. So that we can have more options for health care in case the Affordable Care Act is overturned.

The reality of health care, reproductive rights and our civil rights being at risk really sunk in. Gay marriage has been legal in North Carolina for a very short time, and just like so many of us were caught off guard by Trump’s win, we didn’t want to be caught off guard again in case this right was stripped from us.”

The couple got married in a small ceremony of just four people at a courthouse in their home.

We got married in the courthouse of the city where we live, love, and resist. There’s something really beautiful to me about simplicity, and this experience was simple and beautiful.”

The two had previously debunked the idea of marriage because they viewed it as a “heteronormative practice rooted in a capitalist system.”

However, in light of a Republican dominated house the two decided they would secure their rights while they still could.

Nur added:

America is facing the demons in the closet. The right-wing is unifying around their vision of a New Confederacy, what are we bringing to the table to fight that?”

Free Services For Lesbians Hurrying to Get Married Before Trump’s Inauguration

The day after Trump was elected, what did you do? Some people protested. Some peopled headed straight to a bar.

Many gay people hurried to get married.

Trump told 60 Minutes that he was “fine” with same-sex marriage, and that the 2015 Supreme Court case Obergefell v. Hodges, which ruled that gay marriage is constitutional, means that the debate is “settled.” But that hasn’t stopped thousands of couples from rushing to tie the knot, according to The New York Times. Needless to say, Trump’s pro-conversion therapy Vice President and largely anti-gay cabinet have not soothed any nerves.

Concerned for LGBT couples, a woman named Mitzie Whelan started the website LoveTrumpsHate.com. The website lists bakeries, photographers, musicians, planners, officiants, florists and even henna artists willing to donate their services to LGBT couples in a hurry to get married before Inauguration Day.

The services are available in twenty-six states, approximately half of which voted Republican in 2016. The services include a floral designer in Alaska, a Wiccan minister in Colorado, a bakery called Hippie Chick in New Hampshire, an officiant offering free hugs, a gown donor in that will ship anywhere, and secular and religious officiants all over the country.

Not every provider on the list is a professional, look into their work before making firm arrangements. However, every provider on the list is offering their services completely free of charge for nothing in return. Due to high demand, contact providers as soon as possible if you’re interested.

Whelan says, on the official website:

In light of recent events, we understand that people are scared about our uncertain future as a country. We still believe that love will prevail, but things are looking a little bleak right now. With new leaders that have threatened to set the country back 50 years, we want to do everything we can to help anyone exercise their right to love, be themselves, and be free. Money shouldn’t get in the way of that, especially when so much could be at stake in so little time. This site was created to bring lovers of love together, and be a light to a lot of people who are only seeing darkness right now. 

If you and your girlfriend are hurrying to get married before January 2017, head over to LoveTrumpsHate.com and start planning! (Perhaps use the free planner in Minnesota.)

What Will Trump’s Election Mean For Students?

Because of the Trump election, I am worried about just about everyone, from women to LGBTQ people to people of color – but I’m especially worried about children.

Students are just figuring out their identities, looking to the media to figure out who they are and whom it’s okay to be. And if Trump and his cabinet carry out the policies they promised during election season, students are going to get the message that it’s not okay to be anything except straight, white and male.


It’s impossible to know for sure how Trump’s presidency will affect students, but educational professionals have some idea. And it doesn’t look good.

Public education funding will decrease.

A voucher program allows taxpayers to direct money to private schools instead of public schools. Yes, this is as elitist as it sounds. Low-income public schools lose the few precious funds that they have, while expensive private schools get to fatten their coffers. Worse, many private schools are beyond state and federal regulation, so the government can’t intervene to make sure LGBT students are treated equally.

Transgender rights will face a setback.

Title IX of the Constitution forbids discrimination based on sex. In the past few years, Democrats have interpreted this title to include gender identity, mandating that public schools and state colleges let transgender students use the bathrooms and locker rooms of their choice.

The Supreme Court is deliberating this issue. If Trump appoints a conservative justice, this Title IX interpretation will likely be shot down, and transgender students will have a harder time receiving fair treatment.

Research on LGBT students will be restricted.

Obama has directed funding toward researching the treatment and education that LGBT students receive in schools. This research is vital because it shows where the most work needs to be done.Although research has improved in this area, there’s still a lot of work to be done. A lot. Few longitudinal studies have been conducted on LGBT students to track their experiences over time, and most federal data sources include few if any questions about LGBT experiences. When Trump takes office, we can expect this crucial research to decrease.

Although research has improved in this area, there’s still a lot of work to be done. A lot. Few longitudinal studies have been conducted on LGBT students to track their experiences over time, and most federal data sources include few if any questions about LGBT experiences. When Trump takes office, we can expect funding for this crucial research to decrease.

When Trump takes office, we will have to vigilantly watch his economic, foreign and social policies. But we will have to keep a particular eye on our schools, where the most vulnerable young Americans may suffer the most.

Stop Saving the World: A Love Letter to Activists

Pop quiz.

Would you rather be:

  1. Dehumanized and brutalized for being black
  2. Sexualized and belittled for being a woman
  3. Ostracized and fetishized for being queer

Pick two.

I had to ask myself that question as I decided which activist sphere to commit to. I wanted to be a feminist, an LGBT rights activist and a Black Lives Matter organizer. Unfortunately, the problem with activism is that certain spheres are not open to certain identities.

The feminist movement is historically antiblack, and it remains pretty racist. The Black Lives Matter movement has silenced the voices of its queer, female founders Patrisse Cullors and Alicia Garza, in favor of straight males such as Shaun King and DeRay Mckesson. In the LGBT community, black people are often fetishisized or excluded. On a date, one girl proudly told me, “I’ve never slept with a black girl before,” as if I should be honored. I wasn’t.

Activism is more important than ever in a world where Trump is President-elect and, as a queer black woman, I am constantly forced to choose which identity to prioritize.  While I would love to dedicate myself to all three movements, I cannot perform the emotional labor necessary to give myself completely three times. And neither can you.

In a post-Trump world, you may feel pressured to throw yourself into activism as you never have before. Maybe you’re writing letters to your congressman about North Carolina’s HB-2 transgender bathroom bill. Maybe you’re passing out pamphlets about women’s rights and raising money for Flint, Michigan. Everywhere you turn, there’s another tragedy. You feel like you have to save the world this instant.

But you need to choose just one cause. If you do too much of everything, you’ll burn out. And burn-out leads to complacency. Millions of Americans who are protesting now will get tired soon, and they will stop fighting. They will tell themselves that things aren’t so bad. If you’re passionate about a cause, then the best thing you can do is to prioritze your spiritual wellbeing.

Of course, every cause needs intersectional leaders. We need disabled, chronically ill people at the forefront of the Black Lives Matter movement. We need undocumented immigrants also fighting for women’s rights. We need queer Muslim women protesting the Dakota pipeline. Recognize that your voice is vitally important, no matter what sphere you decide to operate in. But also recognize that you can’t lend your voice everywhere.

And don’t feel guilty about that.

Some people say that Trump’s presidency will finally unite all oppressed groups. Given that 54% of women and 30% of Latinos voted for Trump, this isn’t a given. Most of the change will happen at the local level, through individual organizations, after hours of hard work.

So pick your cause. For me, my blackness informs the way I am allowed to be a woman because my body is policed differently than a white women’s is. My blackness informs the way I am allowed to be queer because my masculine gender expression makes me a threat to heteronormative masculinity, and my black masculinity makes me a police target.

I have realized that I am most passionate about working within the Black Lives Matter movement to bring racial change, which will allow me the civic freedoms to express my womanhood and my queerness the way I want. The world needs more Patrisses to correct the DeRays.

Your cause will look different. That’s perfect. We need all types of people spearheading all types of movements.

So think deeply about what you are most passionate about, and throw yourself into that one thing. You – and the world – will be better off.

Broken But United: The LGBTQ Community In A Trump Presidency

I will remember that morning forever. I thought I was stuck in a dream when I woke up and anxiously checked my phone expecting a great celebration and sigh of relief when I saw Hillary was the new president.

As you are aware, this story doesn’t end with a celebration nor a sigh of relief, but rather a state of disbelief and denial.

How could the majority of American voters decide my rights as a queer immigrant woman do not matter?

As I reached out to my American friends, one sentence echoed higher than the outrage and anger, “I am here for ýou.”

Although we feel broken and defeated at this point, I can feel support and love pouring in our community. More than just protests, we are here for each other, supporting our brothers and sisters like never before.

And this sentiment transcends borders and sexual orientation. Throughout Europe, Latin America, Canada, and all around the globe, you can feel alliance and outreach not only between the queer community but also from our straight allies, parents and friends.

Although fear and doubt may cast a dark cloud on queer Americans, we will stand tall and proud once again.

We are the “nasty women”; the ones who fought for our rights and lost; the ones who will not let sexism, homophobia, and racism beat us. And most importantly, we are the ones here for you.

As I read that LGBTQ suicide hotlines blew up as the news of Trump’s election spread, I knew I needed to take action.

And although a simple post may seem frivolous, I knew I had to share my support with those in need.

Here are some helpful contacts for U.S. queer people in need:

Transgender suicide hotline: 877-565-8860;

Trevor Lifeline: 1-866-488-7386;

Suicide Lifelines per statehttp://www.suicide.org/suicide-hotlines.html;

The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline :1-800-273-8255

The GLBT National Help Center: Hotline: 1-888-843-4564; Youth Talkline: 1-800-246-7743

We’ll get through this together. We may be now feel broken, but we will always be united.



Queer Radical Books To Read If You’re Worried About The Trump Presidency

Queer (In)Justice: The Criminalization of LGBT People in the United States

Do you remember the villain “Him” from The Powerpuff Girls? Him was a genderbending “monster” who looked like the devil, had a male body and wore feminine clothing. Him’s main transgression was the unwillingness to conform to traditional gender roles, and yet people called Him “The Man Without a Name,” “The Evilest of Evils,” “The Cruelest of Cruel” and “King of Darkness.”

The media is constantly portraying gay, transgender and genderqueer people as villains who spread disease, corrupt children and erode society. This book asks, “Why?” By using true stories, human rights information and scientific data, the authors indict the United States for indicting the LGBT community.

Seeing as the Vice President-elect Mike Pence has a history of criminalizing gay people, this book is a must-read if you live in the United States.

Sister Outsider: Essays and Speeches

Black lesbian poet and feminist activist Audre Lorde is a prophet for intersectional lesbians. If you’re feeling marginalized on multiple sides – such as if you’re a person of color, if you’re an immigrant, if you’re poor – then Audre’s notions of being a “Sister Outsider” will ring true for you. Lorde tackles sexism, racism, ageism, homophobia, and class in this slim book.

This book is just as important today as when it was written in 1984, and it may help you get through the difficult four years ahead.

Sexuality and Socialism: History, Politics and Theory of LGBT Liberation

This intense book will have you highlighting every page and questioning society as you know it. Sexuality and Socialism discusses:

  • the roots of LGBT oppression
  • the construction of sexual and gender identities
  • the history of the gay movement
  • and “how to unite the oppressed and exploited to win sexual liberation for all.”

Unlike many books about sexuality and theory, Sexuality and Socialism is easy to read, because it was written for average LGBT people who just want to know why they keep facing oppression.

Reviewers compared the author, Sherry Wolf, to Lady Gaga, and said that this book was “surprisingly funny.”

The more powerful statement in the book: “What humans have constructed, they can tear down.”