I think we’ve all known that one woman: The one who couldn’t care less whether you like her or not. She’s just so cool – in fact, it’s like she’s made of ice.
While many women try on this persona as teenagers, a select few hang onto it and wear it throughout their lives. Being emotionally detached definitely has its fair share of perks, too – just ask anyone who’s ever been burned.
But if you’re trying to date this woman, you should know that all those little red flags probably mean stop right there – and she’s probably putting them out on purpose.
1. She’s never going to be the girl who looks through your phone or secretly installs a GPS tracker in your car.
Because she doesn’t care what you’re doing when you’re not with her.
2. It’ll take a lot of screwing up before you break her heart.
But she probably won’t stick around long enough to let you – she’ll be gone as soon as you start slipping.
3. Emotionally unavailable women don’t fall in love often.
But when they do, they fall really hard.
4. Be careful with those three little words.
Emotionally unavailable women need a great deal of time to admit their feelings – wait until she says it, or prepare to be met with awkward silence.
5. Be patient with her.
Chances are, she’s emotionally unavailable because she’s been hurt before.
6. Don’t be clingy.
Emotionally unavailable women hate clingers, and they can spot them right out of the gate. Don’t get dumped for trying to get too close.
7. They show affection differently.
She might not be comfortable with the touchy-feely stuff or with the cutesy pet names. Just because you don’t think you see her love, it’s still there, if you know where to look.
8. Try not to get too attached.
Emotionally unavailable women are the masters of bailing without notice – so she could be gone before you know it.
9. Try not to rush things.
If you try to force a commitment, she may very well end up running away. See #6.
10. She does have a heart.
She might have a reputation as a player, but that’s not true. She’s just careful with her heart, and won’t settle until she’s comfortable.
11. She might be a bit cynical.
But it’s better to keep your expectations low than to be disappointed – so that’s what she does.
12. She’s not trying to let someone change her.
So if your goal is to get her to open up, don’t bother. She’ll do it when she’s ready, and not a moment sooner.
13. She is incredibly confident and capable.
She’s with you because she wants to be with you – not because she expects to get something out of it.
14. She’s not sentimental. At all.
She won’t understand why you care about half the things you care ab0ut, and if you expect her to cry when you two break up… Well, she probably won’t. (At least not where you can see.)
15. But she loves you a lot more than she’ll ever let you know.
Just because she doesn’t tell you (or even show you) how much she cares doesn’t mean she doesn’t care at all. She’s just afraid of having her heart broken – so she keeps it hidden. Rest assured, though – when you’re with an emotionally unavailable woman, you can take comfort in knowing that – if she didn’t want to be with you – she’d already be gone.
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