You and your girlfriend have been together for a while now. Things are going splendidly.
You’re head over heels in love and even contemplating taking that big step of getting married.
Marriage…otherwise known as a lifetime of commitment and devotion to each other. But before you decide to jump into the matrimonial bliss, first it’s time to take a step back from things and make sure your girlfriend truly is the one you want to marry.
Often times we can be blinded by lust. And while lusting can be quite fun, you also have to make sure your girl has the qualities you’re looking for in a future wife. So before you two tie that knot, let’s take a look at qualities to look for in each other.
Does your girlfriend…
Share Your Beliefs and Values?
This doesn’t mean she has to share the same religious beliefs (or lack thereof), but it does mean that she should have respect for your views.
It definitely does help to have some of the same moral and ethical beliefs though. Believing in the same things…like coffee as a morning necessity, for example, can make life a whole lot easier on the two of you.
Like to Learn New Things?
Spending your life together can get pretty boring if you aren’t learning from each other as well as trying new things. If your girlfriend is okay with the same old routine and isn’t one for changing things up, then you may have a problem down the road. (Unless you’re not a change sort of girl either, then it may work).
But your relationship will only grow and flourish with learning together. So make sure she’s up for trying something new…whether it’s traveling to an exotic destination or taking up a new hobby together, never stop trying new things.
Trust You (And is Trustworthy Herself)?
Trust is one of the most important things for a relationship to survive. If your girlfriend feels like she needs to check your cell phone 24/7 to see if you’ve been texting your ex or is always jealous of past relationships or even other women passing you by on the street, then you may have a problem.
Trusting each other is vital, and if she doesn’t trust you, or gives you any sort of reason not to trust her, its not likely things will change once you get married.
Willingly Make Compromises?
If your girlfriend is willing to forgo staying in to catch that next episode of her favorite TV show that she’s been dying to see all week in order to accompany you to your favorite artist’s concert (even if she isn’t really into the artist), then she’s probably a keeper for life.
Let’s face it; relationships are about compromise and not always getting your way. And if you’re both willing to compromise to make each other happy, then your relationship will stay healthy and happy as well.
Love Your Flaws?
And do you love hers? You’re not perfect, and neither is she, but does she embrace your flaws and imperfections, or does she always point them out and dwell on them? Your girl should find the beauty in your flaws.
It’s the beautiful quirks that make you who you are. If she doesn’t appreciate those quirks and thinks she can change who you are, then she’s not worth holding onto.
Have the Same (or Close to the Same) Sex Drive?
Being sexually compatible is always a plus when it comes to your relationship. If you and your girlfriend are completely off when it comes to each other’s sex drives…like you want to be constantly doing it like rabbits and she’s totally fine with making love once a week…then you have a problem.
And while sex isn’t the only thing you should base a future with her on, it’s still quite important. You should be with someone who has a similar interest in sex as you do.
Make You Happy? (…like you can’t stop smiling when you see her…happy?)
Okay, maybe you don’t have to be smiling every second of every day, but she should at least give you a feeling of true happiness.
Of course there are going to be bumps in the road along the way, but at the end of the day, do you look forward to being in her arms and feeling that genuine sense of pure content that comes with loving her?
If so then make sure you hold onto her tight and work together to keep that happiness vibe flowing!