If you stay friends after a break-up, there are probably going to be a few benefits.
If you’ve been in a relationship for awhile, it’s likely that – at some point – you’re going to end up having sex after you break up. It’s not an exact science, of course, as there are obviously a number of factors involved, but we’d be remiss to say that it wasn’t possible.
There are certain things that make a “sexual relapse” even more possible – and maybe you can identify the triggers before your breakup!
1. She’s the best you’ve ever had. (Or, at least, she’s very good.)
If your ex was the best sexual partner you’ve ever had, or the only sexual partner you’ve ever had – chances are you’ll want that experience behind you to have sex. Since she’s already proven she knows how to handle your body, it’s tempting to let her, “for old time’s sake”.
2. You’re afraid to get back on the dating scene – but you’re horny!
Dating can be hard. Not only do you have to worry about looking nice, you’ve also got to pretend you’re not trying to jump in the sack. That’s especially true if you really are just trying to get some – you don’t want to come across as desperate! But if you’re having sex with an ex, they likely know they’re just a booty call.
3. You have a deep personal connection, and are possibly still in love with her.
It’s a scientific fact that sex is better with someone if you have an emotional bond with them. Unfortunately, this can cause some confusion if you’re not interested in dating her further – but that doesn’t mean it won’t feel good to play around.
4. You don’t have to tell her what you like, because she already knows.
As fun as exploring a new partner’s body can be, sometimes it’s nice to not have to try so hard. Your ex already knows what gets you off – so she can get to it without being told!
5. You know how to push the right buttons to tease each other.
Sometimes, women try to use this to their advantage in an effort to win their partner back. We don’t personally advise this tactic, as it’s a bit manipulative and unfair if they still have feelings for you, but if it’s agreed that all you’re looking for is sex, it’s bound to be satisfying.
6. Angry sex is FABULOUS.
Sometimes you just want to grab a handful of hair, leave some teeth marks, and get some bruises. You can definitely have these things and NOT be angry, but… Come on, have you ever tried angry sex? Definitely worth the fighting.
7. It’s been awhile since you got lucky, and you can’t stop thinking about her talents.
If you’ve been sexually neglected lately, memories from the past can trigger imaginative fantasies. If you remind your ex of the memories you’re thinking of, she might be able to reenact them for the ultimate pleasure.
8. You don’t have to impress her – because you don’t care what she thinks of you anymore.
You’re not trying to get her to fall for you, so you don’t have to get dressed up and shave your legs. You’ve got one thing on your mind, and that means it doesn’t matter what you look like.
9. You’re worried you won’t be able to find someone who can satisfy you like she does.
Especially if she was your first, it can be scary to try and find someone else who can meet your needs as well as she can, so it’s easy to long for what she has to offer. If you’re not trying to go back down that road, it’s important you stand your ground and wait for the next train – you don’t have to rush into anything until you’re ready.