1. “Stop being so dramatic.”
Oh, I’m sorry for having emotions.
2. “Why are you crying?”
Because you’re making me cry!
3. “I don’t understand why you’re so mad. It’s not a big deal.”
It may not be big to you, but it’s a big deal to me. If you were listening to what I was saying, you would understand.”
4. “Can you calm down?”
Really? Are you trying to piss me off even more?
5. “You’re overreacting.”
No, I’m not. You’re just being too dense and unresponsive.
6. “Let’s just kiss and make up, okay?”
No, it’s not that simple. Let’s talk about this like adults.
7. “Why are you so cranky?”
Why can’t you take a hint?
8. “Here we go again.”
Don’t give me that shit.
9. “It could be worse.”
10. “You’re so quiet. Say something!”
I’m quiet. I don’t want to say anything. Leave me alone.
11. “Oh, whatever!”
Immediately dismissive, and it infuriates me.
12. “What do you want me to do about it?”
Quiet a lot actually, but I know you’re not prepared to do anything because you don’t care. You’re so unreasonable.
13. “What’s Your Problem?”
My problem? Seriously, like you don’t know!
14. “Grow Up!”
Are you calling me an idiot?
15. “But”
No “buts”. Like I need to hear your side of thing.
So, stay calm. Keep looking her in the eyes with a calm expression and a disarming tone AND you can keep your “but” out of harms way, you can effectively cool her down when things get hot.