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10 Signs Your Girlfriend Is The One

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In a world filled with dating game shows, hugely popular love songs, and more romantic comedies than you can shake a stick at, it seems like people love looking for “the one.” Yet, somehow, most people have a hard time figuring out who their “one” really is.

It’s a little sad, actually – whether you believe in the idea of “soul mates” or not, you’ve probably looked for yours. In fact, I think most people who don’t believe in soul mates are just guarding themselves from the possibility that they might not find that person.

This is just my opinion, of course, and I’m the type of person who believes that you can have multiple soul mates, at different points in your lives. What do I know, anyway?

Regardless of how you feel about the search for “the one,” here are 10 surefire signs that you’ve found her. Now, marry that woman (if same-sex marriage is legal in your area and you believe in marriage, of course), pronto!

1. You don’t have to hide who you are.

Sure, a good girlfriend is going to compliment you when you look nice, or when you’ve accomplished something. But “the one” is on another level. She doesn’t care what you look like, or how long it’s been since you’ve showered (but she might give you a gentle reminder if it’s been more than a couple of days). You’re comfortable together, because she loves you through all of your imperfections.

2. You have similar goals.

Do you and your girlfriend have a basic plan for what you want out of life? Most people have at least some idea, at least for the big things. Do you want to get married? Do you want to have kids? Do you have compatible political views? These things are so much bigger than where you want to travel or what job you want to have in 10 years.

3. You don’t “fight” – you talk things out.

Technically, talking through things is still fighting, but it’s fighting fair, and that’s what’s important. You take comfort in knowing that you can calmly work through things, and a minor disagreement isn’t going to be the end of the relationship. (Besides, you still get to have the make-up sex anyway.)

4. You feel lucky to have each other.

If you both feel like you’re the luckiest person on the planet, you sort of are. Your partner should totally support, respect, and appreciate you, and you should be able to offer her the same in return. You freely share gratitude towards each other, which makes you feel even luckier. You know that, at the end of the day, you get to come home to your best friend… And that’s something special.

5. You’re both committed to making the relationship work.

You aren’t going to see eye to eye on everything, but “the one” is going to be right there next to you trying to picture things from your perspective. The effort that’s needed to maintain the relationship doesn’t feel so much like “work” as it does like “an investment,” and you know that she’s going to help you get through whatever you’ve got going on.

6. The only thing you need for “a great date” is her.

It doesn’t matter if you’re going to a 5-star hotel or a 2-star lesbian bar: Being with her is exciting. And it’s not because she finds all the hidden gems, it’s because she is the hidden gem. You’d be just as happy to sit in your living room floor with a bottle of wine, because her company is the greatest attraction of all.

7. Your friends and family like seeing you together.

Some people have friends and family who are happy when they’re dating anyone – regardless of whether or not the person is good for you. Other friends and family members might automatically hate anyone who takes the attention away from them. But if the people closest to you, whose opinions you trust and value, think she’s good for you… She probably is.

8. Yes, she loves you, but she does so much more than that.

Don’t get me wrong – love is super important. But it’s not the most important thing. When you find a partner who truly respects and supports you, someone who really makes you feel safe and confident, you know she’s something special. She should compliment your life in all the best ways, and thankfully, she does.

9. Your intuition says she’s the one.

If you think she’s the one, there’s probably a good reason for it. Most people are much better judges of character than we’d like to believe (even if we ignore those judgments sometimes). If your heart and your gut say she’s the one, your mind is probably telling you that, too.

10. She brings out the best in you.

It’s not about changing who you are – it’s about pushing you to be the best version of yourself. A good partner will accept you as you are, while a great partner will help remind you of what you can be. But again, it’s not about changing you – it’s about inspiring you to see the person you can become, and motivating you to become that person.

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Barbara is a 26-year-old lesbian living in California with her partner (and their “fur babies” - an adorably chubby puppy named Porkchop and a ball python named Ru). In the spare time she pretends to have, she enjoys horror movies, music of all varieties, reading, and complaining about the weather.

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