If you find that your own lesbian relationship lies outside the ‘traditional monogamous couple’ model, you’re definitely not alone. Their are many multifaceted and multifarious love relationships to choose from.
Increasingly, people are opting out of the traditional structure of monogamous partnership or marriage, and choosing polyamory or open marriage/partnership as viable alternatives.
So what is a polyamorous relationship? There is a common misconception that a polyamorous relationship is really no different from an open-relationship agreement: one committed couple, with some lighthearted fun on the side. But the word “polyamory,” by definition, means loving more than one.
In an open-relationship, there is still a central, committed couple, who allow one another to engage in purely sexual (or at least quite casual) outside relationships. Generally, any discussion about the benefits of such practice revolves around how it strengthens and/or reinvigorates the central couples relationship. For those of us living in polyamorous families this is not the case. Most polyamorous units have deeply committed relationships with more than one partner, with no hierarchy among them and no core ‘couple’ at the heart of it all.